The world of forensic science brings us
the Consent Condom. Intended as an anti-date-rape
device, the spaceage sheath works like
this: The woman tears open the package and
removes the inner sleeve, which records her
fingerprints, signaling her consent. Next, she
documents the date by tearing through the numbers
that run down its sides. Effective? Yes. But
is it a mood killer?" "Science may not be
sexy, but then again, neither are accusations,"
says inventor David Morrow.
to Use a Consent Condoms
for using a Consent Condom
How to Use a Consent
How to use a consent condom & a typical
sexual scenario and HOW TO AVOID
1) When you're out on a first date or out with
friends you talk to someone you are attracted to
and find that after a while you are getting along
2) Having enjoyed your night out you both head
home feeling happy, positive and at ease with each
3) You enjoy a stimulating conversation and get
to know each other better over a glass of wine and
begin to feel like you don't want the night to
4) Your attraction turns into a kiss and already
your sexual excitement is high, your emotions
heightened by the situation.
5) As a mature adult you or your partner produce
the product and sensibly raise the issue of consent
and condom use. This also opens up a window for you
both to consider whether you are ready and willing
to have sex. It is a time when you can rationalize
and clarify your position. YES/NO
6) If YES the woman then opens the packet and
removes the inner sleeve which is laminated to
retain finger and thumb prints (this packet is only
for the woman to open)
7) The woman then unfolds the inner sleeve and
hands the condom to her partner
8) To ensure that she has consented this time,
and only this time, she tears the date, month and
9) The woman then places the insert back into
the outer packet and gives the whole thing back to
10) Private and Confidential!!!
Relevance to Men
- "It has often been pointed out that the
primary difference between the act of rape and
lawful sexual intercourse is lack of
- When a woman says NO she means it and you
had better listen - if you do rape her you
deserve to be punished.
- If she says YES then she will be willing to
use this product but you must always wear the
- Don't let the contents of your trousers rule
your head and please don't be ambiguous - Be
- No matter how good a lover you are Rape is
Rape and the consequences will reflect the
seriousness of the crime.
- This product helps to prove the case of
explicit consent to sexual relations.
- It shows a great maturity within a new
relationship and that you are respectful of her
- The introduction of the product shows you
are being an adult about the situation and it
gives you both time to think about your
- Make a start right now and read the section
on 'Relevance to Women' it will help to give you
a more balanced view and gain a female
perspective on the issues raised.
Relevance to Women
- If you mean NO say NO - Be Adult, you are
under absolutely no obligation.
- If you are saying YES be prepared to use a
Consent Condom but only open the product if he
agrees to wear the condom.
- Using a Consent Condom will reduce your
sexual partner's anxiety and should lead to an
improved stress free performance as well as
giving you peace of mind that he will wear a
- If you were raped report it. Don't become a
victim and don't let him get away with it.
Support and counseling are readily available and
can help you to cope and control the situation
by giving you help and advice.
- If it was just 'a bad experience' but you
consented try and learn from it - Seek help -
and move on
- The Consent Condom gives you more power and
sets off the mechanism of thought, 'Do I really
want to sleep with this man?'
- The product highlights the user as a
Responsible Adult through using or even
producing the product, bringing immediate ground
rules to a relationship.
- Never make a false accusation as I'm sure
you are aware of the potential consequences for
both you and your sexual partner.
- Helps resolve the problem of the 'C'
Reasons for using a Consent
1. Avoiding Pregnancy and Abortion. Women are
frequently faced with the problem of unwanted
pregnancy and there are approximately 510 abortions
in the UK every day. In the case of a 'one-nighter'
an illicit, temporary or going nowhere relationship
a baby is the last thing either party wants to have
to deal with. Abortions can be both physically and
mentally scarring and can effect the future
fertility of the women as well as her peace of mind
2. New Relationship. Although an exciting and
emotionally charged time, introducing a condom in
the early stages of a new relationship shows a
responsible and respectful attitude towards your
partner. Obviously unaware of each other's sexual
history it is always better to prevent than to
cure. It also shows a degree of integrity and
maturity. If he won't use the product then he's not
as mature as you may think and if she won't use it,
neither is she.
3. STI (Sexually transmitted Infection). These
infections can have both immediate and long-term
effects. What is particularly worrying is that they
are often undetectable until they manifest
themselves in a serious, often untreatable way.
Many other infections cause irritation and painful
complaints and can be easily transmitted through
sexual contact but using a condom will
significantly lower the risk of ever catching
4. HIV / AIDS. 'Human Immunodefieciency Virus'
and 'Acquired Immune Deficiency
Syndrome'Complicated names for complicated
diseases. Perhaps the most well known and
definitely the most severe and life threatening
infections. They can be treated yet despite many
years of intensive research they cannot be
5. Just in Case. In the regrettable case of a
false accusation of sexual malpractice the product
helps to raise the issues of consent and is
admissible in court. It is hoped that it can be
seen and used as an important protective device for
both parties by bringing mutual consent into the
sexual arena and removing the element of
6. Final Thought. When the emotions are highly
charged as in a sexual encounter the consent condom
allows for a moment of clarity. Before foreplay it
gives you time to rationalise and allows for a
period in which you can make the decision as to
whether you want to continue. Are you in control of
both your emotions and the situation?
Having considered the above it is clear that
with this product there should be no
misunderstanding between two consenting adults. You
are both acting responsibly and maturely, he is
using a condom and she cares enough to show she
A win-win scenario. Be safe - Be responsible -
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