Who among us hasn't been bullied by a
woman? Pressured into a commitment, nagged
into submission, forced to give up an entire
bathroom shelf? Learn the ancient art of
relationship self-defense, thanks to this
black-belt course on how to toss aside nasty
obligations. (See the complete answer from the
- She asks, "Why didn't you call?" Blame work,
family, friends' crisis instead of commitment
phobia. Helping others when hey cannot help
themselves, anger cannot and will not
- She leaves a toothbrush in your bathroom.
Return the toothbrush casually at your next
meeting. Neglect its presence and tampons,
underwear, pajamas will surely follow.
- She wants you to stop drinking, smoking and
dressing like a slob. Instead, badmouth a
friend's significant other who tries to control
his life. She won't want to be a similarly
- She starts crying. Do not try to provide
solutions. Or you risk further tears and undue
annoyance directed at you.
- She wants to take you shopping. If this path
unwittingly circles back to a jewelry store, you
must create your own circle.
- She starts quizzing you about your past
girlfriends. Say something about being in
different places, then shift the focus to her
romantic past. What does she look for in
a relationship? What does she want out of
- She wants you to spend the night. Fish
cannot leave deep waters, and you cannot leave
her apartment without a plausible excuse, such
as "I have an early meeting" or "I left my
medication at home."
- She says "I love you" If nothing is
said, then all will be well. You would be wise
to respond with a long kiss and nothing
- She invites you to a wedding, where you'll
meet her family. Say you'd absolutely love to go
but that the date sounds "familiar." This
will buy you time.
- She wants to plan a vacation with you. Agree
with enthusiasm but make no concrete plans
saying "Let's wait till the off-peak season" may
buy you many months.
- She says, I think we should see other
people" This may merely be a ploy to draw you
closer. Call her bluff and agree with her. She
may nod and agree back, but she will probably
return to you.
No matter how skilled you are, someday you will
find an opponent more skillful than you. You may
lose your balance and be unable to regain it, or
your opponent may exploit a weakness in your
technique (suki). In such cases, the wisest action
is to separate yourself from your partner and flee
so that you may live to fight again.
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