The Menstuff® library lists pertinent books concerning various feelings including anger,assertiveness, depression, fear, forgiveness, general, grief, joy, loneliness and shame, which are listed separately. See also issues, books anger, assertiveness, depression, fear, forgiveness, grief, joy, lonliness, shame.
Allen, Marvin, In the Company of Men: A new approach
to healing for husbands, fathers & friends. This book
throws out a challenge to all thinking and feeling men - a
challenge to redefine their masculinity. The author has met this
challenge in his own life - as a son, husband, and father who
confronted his own wounds; as a nationally known therapist
specializing in men's problems; as the leader of acclaimed men's
gatherings. Now, with this book, the author outlines a new
breakthrough approach to male healing that all men can use to
fulfill themselves in love relationships, with their families, and
at the workplace. He arrived at his insights into the male psyche
the hard way: by living them. The son of an abusive father and a
controlling mother, he got trapped in a loveless marriage and a
round-the-clock work schedule. Eventually, the stress became so
intense that he had no alternative but therapy, but he discovered,
as so many men do, that traditional "talk therapy" failed to tap
the grief and rage pent up inside him. It wasn't until he became a
therapist himself and saw many male clients struggle with the same
problems he had that he hit on his radical new techniques for
treating men - techniques that encourage men not simply to discuss
their emotions but to release them in the healing company of other
men. This book takes the readers inside his dynamic group-therapy
sessions and Wildman Gatherings and dramatizes exactly how this
new male therapy works. Drawing on the true stories of scores of
men, he identifies key categories of dysfunctional parents and
shows how each category creates a different type of psychological
trap for men. He explores how the media, cultural institutions,
work pressures and peer groups reinforce male gender conditioning
in their relationships with women, destroy themselves at work, and
abuse their minds and bodies with drugs and alcohol. Random House,
1993 ISBN 0-679-42287-0 Buy
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Brody, Leslie, Gender, Emotion and the
Family. Do women express their feelings more than
men? Popular stereotypes say they do, but in this
provocative book, the author breaks with conventional wisdom.
Integrating a wealth of perspectives and research, biological,
sociocultural, developmental, her work explores the nature and
extent of gender differences in emotional expression, as well as
the endlessly complex question of how such differences come about.
Nurture, far more than nature, emerges here as the stronger force
in fashioning gender differences in emotional expression. The
author shows that whether and how men and womn express their
feelings varies widely from situation to situation and from
culture to culture, and depends on a number of particular
characteristics including age, ethnicity, cultural background,
power and status. Especially pertinent is the oragnization of the
family, in which boys and girls elicit and absorb different
emotional strategies. The author also examines the important of
gender roles, whether in the family, the peer group, or the
culture at large, and the various patterns of emotional expression
used to adapt to power and status imbalances. Lucid and
level-headed, this book offers an unusually rich and nuanced
pictures of the great range of male and female emotional styles,
and the variety of the human character. Harvard University Press
www.hup.harvard.edu 1999
ISBN 0-674-341864 Buy
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Curtis, Jamie Lee, Today I Feel
Silly & Other Moods that Make My Day. Silly, cranky,
excited or sad - everyone has moods that can change each day. This
zany, touching verse, paried with whimsical and original
illustrations, helps kids explore, identify and even have fun with
their ever-changing moods. Previous best sellers by the author are
Tell me Again About the Night I was Born (for adopted
children) and When I Was
Little: A Four-Year-Old's Memoir of Her Youth.
Joanna Cotler Books 1998 Buy
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Ellis, Albert, Feeling Better, Getting
Better, Staying Better: Profound self-help therapy for your
emotions. Panic. Depression. Rage. Self-pity. How can you
function well and live happily under such heavy emotional
burdens? According to the author, a world-renouwned
psychologist, the first step to a healthier perspective is to
recognize that your own dogmatic beliefs and behavior fuel your
upsets. The author calls the process of turning adversitites into
intolerable situations catastrophizing. When you irrationally
exacerbate your misfortunes, you seek ways of feeling better fast.
Maybe you try relaxation techniques. Maybe you keep yourself busy,
socialize more, exercise, or even indulge in alcohol or drugs. Too
often, these "quick fixes" only work temporarily, distracting you
without actually helping you get better. Wouldn't you rather be
permanently less depressable, even when very strong adversities
occur in your life? In this book, he draws on his 50 years of
experiences as a psychotherapist to offer sensible, inspiring
advice for lasting self-improvement. Long acclaimed for his
development of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), he
encourages a proactive approach to life's setbacks. In this book
is offered detailed examples, practical exercises, and warm wisdom
for gaining and maintaining emotional well-being. Impact
Publishers, www.impactpublishers.com
2001 ISBN 1-886230-35-8 Buy
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Exley, Helen, The Love Between Fathers
and Daughters. "I know I have my father wrapped around my
little finger, but he has me wrapped around his," says Holly, the
daughter of Charlton Heston. This beautiful collection celebrates
the magical bond between fathers and their daughters. It's the
perfect gift from one to the other. Exley Publications, 1995
ISBN 1-85015-643-3 Buy
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Frey, Chris, Men at Work: An action guide to masculine
healing, Islewest, 1997 mjgraham@carcomm.com
Kindlon, Dan & Michael Thompson,
Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional life of
boys. Two the the nation's leading psychologists share what
they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined
expeirnece working with boys and their families. They reveal a
nationa of boys who are hurting - sad, afraid, angry and silent.
Statistics point to an alarming number of young boys at high risk
for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness. The
crucial question: What do boys need that they're not
getting? They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys,
teaching them to believe that "cool" equals macho strength and
stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother blame",
"boy biology" and "testosterone", they shed light on the
destructive emotional training our boys receive - the emotional
miseducation of boys. They paint a portrait of boys systematically
steered away from their eomotional lives by adults and the peer
("culture of cruelty") boys, who receive little encouragement to
develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. The
good news is that this doesn't have to happen. They identify the
social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and
show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and
empathy - giving them the vital connections and support they need
to navigate the social pressures of youth (and eliminate the No
Fear culture - ed.) Ballantine Books www.randomhouse.com/BB/
1999 ISBN 0-345-42457-2 Buy
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Kundtz, David,
Managing Feelings: An owner's manual for men.
This booklet is for men. It's about feelings. And, that's it. If
you are male and you are reading these words, you could be doing
something that will greatly improve the quality of your life. Not
because the information contained is new or revolutionary. No. It
is because this information rarely gets into the hands of men. It
comes from the author's thought that we men are at a great
disadvantage in achieving happiness in life because our culture
has formed a conspiracy to keep us from the successful use of our
feelings. The conspiracy, though not intentional, has hurt not
only us, but also the women, children and other men in our lives.
We have been told lies, often by those from whom we least expected
lies (and most often without evil intent). To survive,
we've had to take on roles and lifestyles which, while they may
have led to some adventure, also led us far from the expressions
of our male souls. The results have been devastating - to our
relationships, to our self-knowledge, to our productivity and to
our self-esteem. This booklet is designed to help you better
understand what feelings are, the way feelings work - and don't
work - and why. One thing is sure: when you finish this booklet,
chances are excellent that you'll be able to get more of what you
want in life because you can improve your capacity to feel, to
feel strongly, to feel as a man, and to be comfortable and
satisfied with the way you express your feelings. Self-published.
(Was originally published in 1991 by Health Communications. That
edition is OOP.) Inside Track, www.stopping.com
or dk@stopping.com, 1996
Kundtz, David, Nothing's Wrong: A
man's guide to managing his feelings. This is a book for men
who are ready to meet and shake hands with their other half -
their feeling half - in order to become whole, entire people with
healthy emotional lives. Once you meet, acknowledge, and allow
your feeling half to come alive and be heard by practicing the
author's three easy steps to emotional fitness - notice the
feeling and stay with it, name the feeling, and express the
feeling to the outside world - the response "nothing's wrong" will
no longer be an option! And watch the relationships in all aspects
of your life flourish, from your career to your personal life,
leading you to new and lasting success. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com
2004 ISBN 1-57324-915-7 
McLaren , Karla, Emotional
Genius: Discovering the deepest language of the soul. All
of your emotions - especially your strongest and most difficult
feelings - are storehouses of unlimited energy. For instance, your
rage can give you superhuman strength, your fear can save you from
certain death, and your shame and depression can bring you to a
complete (and often necessary) halt. Imagine what you could
accomplish if - instead of repressing your emotions and losing
your energy or expressing them haphazardly and losing your way -
you could marshal their energies and use them to increase your
awareness, heal your relationships, and address your deepest
wounds. In her groundbreaking new work, the author leads us on a
step-by-step journey out of emotional confusion and suffering, and
helps us discover our soul's deepest language and our own innate
Emotional Genius. Laughing Tree Press, www.emovere.com,
2001, ISBN 0-9656583-4-1 Buy
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Shields, Stephanie A., Speaking from
the Heart: Gender and the social meaning of emotion. Who
gets called "emotional?" And what does it mean when that
happens? What tells us that a person is "speaking from the
heart?" The prevailing stereotype is that she is emotional,
while he is not. In this book, the author draws on examples from
everyday life, contemporary culture, and the latest research, to
reveal how culturally shared beliefs about emotion shape our
identities as women and men. This fascinating exploration of
gender and emotion in a clear and engaging style takes up topics
as diverse as nineteenth-century ideals of womanhood, weeping
politicians, children's play, and the Superbowl. It is essential
reading for anyone interested in the way emotion affects our
everyday lives. Cambridge University Press, www.cambridge.org,
2002. ISBN 0-521-80297-0 Buy
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Smith, Rachel, Winnie the
Pooh: Feelings. With the help of his friends from the
Hundred-Acre Wood, Pooh explores feelings from happy to gloomy,
from excited to shy. Beautifully illustrated by Mark Marderosian.
Disney Books, www.DisneyBooks.com,
2000, ISBN 0-7364-1008-2 Buy
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