When You Ask Me First chronicles a man’s difficulty with relinquishing control in the bedroom. Being on the receiving end of someone else’s passion can be a humbling and upsetting experience, but if someone wants to make love with us, we must be desireable, right? This song’s good for discussing expectations, control, and individual preferences.

When You Ask Me First

I love to do it Baby
But you only make it worse
I just don't get excited
When you go and ask me first

So don't touch me where I'm ticklish
And don't sit on my lap
And don't ask me politely Baby
It makes me feel trapped
Cause when you chase me, Darlin'
It really turns me off
I've tried so hard to tell you,
But I guess I'm getting soft,

So please, just sit and smile
With helpless soulful eyes
Admiring me while
I run my finger up your thighs
Then I kiss you,
And I breathe heavy in your ear
Then you should whisper "Take me! Take me!"
And could you make it sound sincere?


When I start to change positions
Like the pictures in the book
And use a couple mirrors
So I can see how neat we look
You start to change positions too,
In ways I've never seen!
And you kiss with your eyes open!
And you laugh, and yell, and scream!

You used to be more normal
You liked it face-to-face
But now you're going crazy
And you like it anyplace!
You said I could be on top,
You said you understood,
But all last night you wouldn't stop!
You busted it for good!


I love to do it Baby
When everything is right
But I think I feel my headache
Coming on again tonight.

Written by Peter Alsop, ©1977, Moose School Music (BMI)

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Peter Alsop is a nationally known singer-songwriter, educator and humorist with a Ph.D. in educational psychology. He graduated from Trinity College in Connecticut and did his doctoral work at Columbia University's Teachers' College and Columbia Pacific University. He worked as the Director of The Harbor Schools Residential Treatment Center for emotionally disturbed adolescents in Maine and as a New York City elementary school teacher in the South Bronx ghetto.

Peter has produced nineteen audio recordings and seven videos and dvd's for which he consistently wins "Best Children's" awards from Parents' Choice and the Association For Independent Music. His songs are used daily by thousands of parents, educators and human service professionals to help families discuss sensitive issues. His "Wake Up" video with John Ritter helps families prevent child abuse and abduction. He's acted on stage and on television, directed a feature film, and performs extensively at conferences, festivals and concerts throughout the United States, Canada as well as hosting an annual training workshops at his Otter Space conference center in Northern California. He lives in Topanga, California with his wife, actress/director Ellen Geer, and their two daughters Willow and Megan. Contact: Moose School Productions, Box 960, Topanga, CA 90290 or 310-455-2318 or E-Mail or


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