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July
The Healing Power of Love, Some Unexpected
Surprises
For the past 23 years we have been experimenting
with and refining the art of "focused unconditional
love". Our application has been centered around
healing the emotional wounds of the past and
accelerating personal and spiritual evolution. The
results have been profound, dazzling and
transformational. Yet, there are some unexpected
difficulties that many people are unprepared
for.
Most people yearn for a state of ongoing
unconditional love and acceptance from others.
Unfortunately, most people experience this for
brief periods of time - if ever. As people clear
their consciousness and heal the wounds of the
heart they expand their capacity for love and they
start to attract people with an expanded capacity
for love. The kind of loving that they have yearned
for and worked so hard to prepare for has finally
arrived. And are they in for a big surprise!
After awhile, they start to experience the
limits to their ability to receive the love they
have always wanted. Rarely do they recognize that
this is happening. Many people have unconscious
ways of deflecting love. If you aren't aware of
this dynamic you can sabotage your "dream come
true."
The thing to remember about love is that it is
the Great Healer. It purifies anything unlike
itself. In practical everyday relating that looks
like love brings up anything unlike itself. That
means in the presence of pure unconditional love
any remaining issues of undeservingness, fear or
limitation will resurface to your conscious level
of awareness. For most people that means - YIKES!,
some uncomfortable feelings. What is actually
happening is the love energy is igniting
"transformational tremors" that are moving through
your entire body/mind system. In a very real way it
is shaking you to your core.
The problem with it is - it just doesn't look
cool. I mean, here you are finally receiving the
love you have always wanted and then - you start to
feel weird. It's a drag. You wish that you could
stop it and make the feelings go away - but the
only way to do that is to resist the love that has
activated the transformational tremors. What a
dilemma! Oh, what to do, what to do!?
Well, there is only one smart thing to do. Seize
the healing opportunity. Surrender to the moment.
Blow your cool! If the love is real it's certainly
strong enough to handle your feelings. In fact, the
love energy itself is asking you to let go. Let it
wash away the remaining fears, hurts, guilts and
angers. Let love do its job. Let it take you to a
higher level of healing. So, you keep letting go.
Love is a balm that soothes and heals all the
wounds of the heart. By letting it in you discover
at an even deeper level your True Self. You will
feel cleansed and refreshed. You will have expanded
your capacity to give and receive love another
notch. You will feel even closer to your loved
ones. You will feel safe and more deeply
understood. You will experience greater trust in
yourself and others. You will be happier. You will
be healed.
So, the trick here is to discover what are your
"automatic, unconscious" ways of deflecting love?
When people are giving you more love than you can
comfortably receive, what do you do? Change the
subject? Become the giver? Smoke, drink, eat? Pick
a fight? Go numb? Start spending more time at the
office? Judging the person who's loving you? We all
have our "favorite" ways of deflecting love when it
feels like it's just too much, and it is very
important to know what those ways are and vow to
stop them.
In a new book called The HeartMath Solution, the
authors take a provocative look at the heart and
its alliance with the mind, body and spirit. They
discovered that:
When we love,
the electromagnetic energy generated by the
heart (it generates about 2.5 watts of power per
heartbeat) changes from a state of chaos, into an
ordered, harmonic pattern of waves.
When we love,
this ordered pattern, like a radio wave, effects
every cell in our body. Also, the autonomic nervous
system that runs the unconscious functions of the
body changes from a state of conflict and imbalance
into an ordered, efficient, balanced state.
When we love,
many systems in our bodies that were operating
independently of each other begin to function
together in a state of order and harmony called
"entrainment." Entrainment is highly efficient and,
except for loving, is usually only found during
deep sleep.
And, when we love,
a new form of intelligence, "heart
intelligence", is evidenced in our physiological,
psychological and intellectual functioning. We are
wiser.
We can open to our enlightenment and quicken our
evolutionary process by continuing to expand our
capacity to comfortably give and receive more and
more love. It's the smart thing to do.
©2008, Paul
& Layne Cutright
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Lovers know what they want, but not what they
need. - Publilius Syrus
Paul
and Layne Cutright are marriage and business
partners who have been teaching principles and
practices for successful relationships since 1976.
They are the founders of The Center for Enlightened
Partnership (www.enlightenedpartners.com),
an online learning and resource center providing
e-learning products, teleclasses and coaching. They
are authors of the Amazon Best Seller,
You’re
Never Upset for the Reason You
Think and
Straight
From the Heart. They
publish a free monthly e-zine filled with
inspiration and practical tools for all your valued
relationships (www.enlightenedpartners.com/newsletter.html).
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