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Stanley Popovich. He is the author of "A
Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology,
Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - which
presents a general overview of techniques that are
effective in managing persistent fears and
anxieties. E-Mail.
Photo: "Disappointed Man" by Konrad
Baranski
Alcohol and Substance
Abuse will not take Away Your Fears
A Review of Techniques in
Managing Your Depression
Facing the Fear and
Anxiety of the Unknown
Fame, Money and Success will
not Take Away Your Fears
Finding the Answers in
Managing Your Fears and Anxieties
Getting the Help for Your
Fear, Bipolar and Anxiety Problems
Getting Through the Day
when Your Anxieties are Out of
Control
Giving up in Dealing with
Your Fears is Not an Option
Living with Obsessive
Compulsive Disorder and Your Fearful
Thoughts
Managing the Fear of
Loneliness
Managing the Fear of
Rejection in Today's World
Managing Your
Anxieties, Self Esteem and Self
Confidence
Managing Your Every Day
Stresses and Anxieties
Managing Your Persistent
Fears and Anxieties
Managing Your Specific
Phobias and Panic Attacks
When Your Fears and
Depressoin have the Best of You
A Review of Techniques
in Managing Your Depression
Some people have a difficult time in managing their
depression. Sometimes, their depression and fears
can get best of them. As a result, here is a short
list of techniques that a person can use to help
manage their depression.
I was told by a counselor that one of the ways
to manage depression is to challenge your negative
thinking with positive statements and realistic
thinking. When encountering thoughts that make your
fearful or depressed, challenge those thoughts by
asking yourself questions that will maintain
objectivity and common sense. For example, your
afraid that if you do not get that job promotion
then you will be stuck at your job forever. This
depresses you, however your thinking in this
situation is unrealistic. The fact of the matter is
that there all are kinds of jobs available and just
because you don’t get this job promotion
doesn’t mean that you will never get one. In
addition, people change jobs all the time, and you
always have that option of going elsewhere if you
are unhappy at your present location.
Some people get depressed and have a difficult
time getting out of bed in the mornings. When this
happens, a person should take a deep breathe and
try to find something to do to get their mind off
of the problem. A person could take a walk, listen
to some music, read the newspaper or do an activity
that will give them a fresh perspective on things.
Doing something will get your mind off of the
problem and give you confidence to do other
things.
Sometimes, we can get depressed over a task that
we will have to perform in the near future. When
this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in
your mind. For instance, you and your team have to
play in the championship volleyball game in front
of a large group of people in the next few days.
Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing
the game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in
front of a large audience. By playing the game in
your mind, you will be better prepared to perform
for real when the time comes. Self Visualization is
a great way to reduce the fear and stress of a
coming situation.
Another technique that is very helpful is to
have a small notebook of positive statements that
make us feel good. Whenever you come across an
affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down
in a small notebook that you can carry around with
you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed,
open up your small notebook and read those
statements.
As a Layman and author of an anxiety book, I
have done many interviews with various counselors
in how to manage fear, anxiety and depression. The
techniques that I have just covered are some basic
ways to manage your depression, however your best
bet is to get some help from a professional.
When Your Fears and
Depressoin have the Best of You
What do you do when your fears and depression are
stronger than what you can handle? There are times
that no matter what you do, your fears have the
best of you. Here is a list of techniques and
suggestions on what to do when this happens.
The first step is to learn to take it one day at
a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get
through the rest of the week, try to focus on
today. Each day can provide us with different
opportunities to learn new things and that includes
learning how to deal with your problems. You never
know when the answers you are looking for will come
to your doorstep. We may be ninety-nine percent
correct in predicting the future, but all it takes
is for that one percent to make a world of
difference.
When a person is feeling depressed, he or she
should take a few minutes to write down all of the
things that he is thankful for in his life. This
list could include past accomplishments and all the
things that that they take for granted. The next
time you feel depressed, review your list and think
about the good things that you have in your
life.
Remember that there is one power that is
stronger than your fears and depression and that is
the power of God. A person does not have to be
religious to use the power of God. When the going
gets tough, talk to God about your problems as if
you were talking to a friend. Review the Bible and
pray hard. Be persistent and be open in the avenues
that God may provide to you in solving your
problem. It is not always easy, however God is in
control and he will help you if you ask him.
If you decide to use the services of a
professional, get into the habit of reviewing with
your counselor what techniques work for you and
which ones don’t. Dealing with your fears
takes practice so use this situation as a learning
experience in improving your skill sets. In every
anxiety-related situation you experience, begin to
learn what works and what doesn’t work in
managing your fears and anxieties.
As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal
with all of our fears, however there are all kinds
of help available. The key is to be patient and not
to give up. In time, you will be able to find those
resources that will help you with your
problems.
Managing Your Specific
Phobias and Panic Attacks
Overcoming your phobias can sometimes be difficult.
One of the ways to manage your particular phobia is
to find out what exactly is your fear. If you have
trouble finding out what that fear may be, then try
to talk to a professional who can help you figure
out what the fear may be. Once you know what the
fear is, then the next step is to find the ways to
deal with that fear.
For instance, one of the ways to manage your
fear is to challenge your negative thinking with
positive statements and realistic thinking. When
encountering thoughts that make your fearful or
anxious, challenge those thoughts by asking
yourself questions that will maintain objectivity
and common sense. For example, your afraid that if
you do not get that job promotion then you will be
stuck at your job forever. This depresses you,
however your thinking in this situation is
unrealistic. The fact of the matter is that there
all are kinds of jobs available and just because
you don’t get this job promotion doesn’t
mean that you will never get one. In addition,
people change jobs all the time, and you always
have that option of going elsewhere if you are
unhappy at your present location. Changing your
thinking can help you manage your fears.
Sometimes, we may be nervous doing a certain
task that may be scary. When this happens,
visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For
instance, you and your team have to play in the
championship hockey game in front of a large group
of people in the next few days. Before the big day
comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your
mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large
audience. By playing the game in your mind, you
will be better prepared to perform for real when
the time comes. Self Visualization is a great way
to reduce the fear and stress of a coming
situation.
When facing a current or upcoming task that
overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, divide the
task into a series of smaller steps and then
complete each of the smaller tasks one at a time.
Completing these smaller tasks will make the stress
more manageable and increases your chances of
success.
As a layman, I realize it is not easy to
overcome our phobias. Remember that sometimes our
worrying and fears can make the problem even worse.
Take things in stride and try not focus too much on
the problem. In time, you will find the ways to
overcome your phobia. If you have trouble, talk to
a professional who can give you additional insights
on your situation.
Getting the Help for Your
Fear, Bipolar and Anxiety Problems
It is not easy to deal with your fears, bipolar, or
anxiety problems. The first step is that you should
talk to a professional who can get you started in
the right path of getting better. Getting help from
a counselor or other professional is very important
and can provide you much help and insights in
dealing with your current problem. In addition,
here are some techniques a person can use to help
manage their fears, bipolar, and anxieties.
Learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of
worrying about how you will get through the rest of
the week or coming month, try to focus on today.
Each day can provide us with different
opportunities to learn new things and that includes
learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on
the present and stop trying to predict what may
happen next week. Next week will take care of
itself.
A good way to manage your fear is to challenge
your negative thinking with positive statements and
realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that
make your fearful or anxious, challenge those
thoughts by asking yourself questions that will
maintain objectivity and common sense.
Sometimes, we may be nervous doing a certain
task that may be scary. When this happens,
visualize yourself doing the task in your mind. For
instance, you and your team have to play in the
championship hockey game in front of a large group
of people in the next few days. Before the big day
comes, imagine yourself playing the game in your
mind. Imagine that your playing in front of a large
audience. By playing the game in your mind, you
will be better prepared to perform for real when
the time comes. Self Visualization is a great way
to reduce the fear and stress of a coming
situation.
Remember that there is one power that is
stronger than your fears and that is the power of
God. A person does not have to be religious to use
the power of God. When the going gets tough, talk
to God about your problems as if you were talking
to a friend. Review the Bible and pray hard. Be
persistent and be open in the avenues that God may
provide to you in solving your problem. It is not
always easy, however God is in control and he will
help you if you ask him.
As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal
with all of our fears, however there are all kinds
of help available. The key is to be patient and not
to give up. In time, you will be able to find those
resources that will help you with your
problems.
Living with Obsessive
Compulsive Disorder and Your Fearful
Thoughts
Living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and
having to deal with your fearful thoughts can be
extremely difficult. It can be tough for people
with OCD to have to experience obsessive thoughts
that are intrusive, scary, and difficult to manage.
As a result, here is a short list of techniques
that a person can use to help manage their OCD and
their obsessive thoughts
The first thing a person must do is not to dwell
or focus on the fear provoking thought when it
comes. The more a person tries to reason out the
thought or focus on the fear behind the thought,
the stronger the thought becomes. The next time you
encounter an obsessive thought, get into the
practice of not dwelling on it.
From my interviews with various psychologists, I
was told that a person should visualize a red stop
sign in their mind when they encounter a fear
provoking thought. When the negative thought comes,
a person should think of a red stop sign which
serves as a reminder to stop focusing on that
thought and to think of something else. A person
can then try to think of something positive to
replace the negative thought.
A person should keep a small notebook of
positive statements that makes them feel good.
Whenever they come across a positive and uplifting
verse that makes them feel good, write it down in a
small notebook. A person can then carry this
notebook around in their pocket and whenever they
feel anxious, they can read their notebook.
Sometimes, a person may encounter a lot of scary
thoughts coming at them all at once. Instead of
getting upset, remember that these thoughts are
exaggerated and are not based on reality. From my
interviews with various professionals, I’ve
learned that usually it is the fear behind the
thoughts that gets us worked up. Ignore the fear
behind these obsessive thoughts, regardless how the
strong the fear may be. If you ignore the fear
behind these thoughts, then the thoughts become
easier to manage.
Another thing to remember is that no one can
predict the future with 100 Percent certainty. Even
if your fearful thoughts tell you otherwise, the
fact is that there are circumstances and factors in
every situation that can not be anticipated. We may
be ninety-nine percent in predicting the future but
all it takes is for that one percent to make the
biggest difference.
Although I am a Layman and not a professional, I
have interviewed many counselors and I learned that
there are many ways to deal with these kinds of
thoughts. It is also important to seek professional
help if you have OCD. There are ways to deal with
your obsessive thoughts and with the proper
treatment, people with OCD can live a productive
life.
Managing the Fear of
Rejection in Today's World
We have all gotten turned down from a job
interview, sports team try out, or even a date. It
can sometimes be difficult to overcome the feelings
of rejection and to try again. As a result, here is
a list of techniques a person can use to help get
over the feelings of not making it on the first or
second try.
When getting turned down, the key is to learn
from your mistakes and to give it another try.
Doing anything in life requires practice and
persistence. For example, remember the time when
you first learned to ride a bike. The first few
times, you kept following off the bike. With some
practice and some time, you were able to ride your
bike with no problem. Everything we do is a
learning experience so do not get discouraged if
you don’t make it on the first or second
time.
Sometimes, our negative thoughts will get the
best of us when we fail to get what we want. A
technique that is very helpful is to have a small
notebook of positive statements that make us feel
good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that
makes you feel good, write it down in a small
notebook that you can carry around with you in your
pocket. Whenever you feel discouraged, open up your
small notebook and read those statements.
If you have trouble accomplishing a certain
task, visualize yourself doing the task in your
mind. For instance, you and your team have to play
in the championship volleyball game in front of a
large group of people in the next few days. Before
the big day comes, imagine yourself playing the
game in your mind. Imagine that your playing in
front of a large audience. By playing the game in
your mind, you will be better prepared to perform
for real when the time comes. Use this same
technique in your situation. Visualize yourself
succeeding at your goal.
Asking for help can make a difference. Talking
to someone who has been there can give us insights
on how to overcome our current situation. A friend
can also provide encouragement and remind us that
we are not alone. Also remember to take it one day
at a time. Focus on the present and try not to
predict what may happen down the road.
As a Layman and author of an anxiety book, I
have gone through much adversity in dealing with
fear and anxiety. The key is not to give up and to
learn from your mistakes. In time, you will become
more knowledgeable and experienced and eventually
you will accomplish your goals.
Getting Through the Day
when Your Anxieties are Out of Control
What do you do when your fears and anxieties
overwhelms you as soon as you get up in the
mornings? Well the first thing you need to do is to
seek the services of a professional and/or
counselor who can teach you how to manage your
fears and give you the help that you need. Until
you can meet with someone, what can you do in the
meantime to cope with your fears?
The first step is to take a deep breathe and try
to find something to do to get your mind off of the
problem. A person could take a walk, listen to some
music, read the newspaper, watch TV, play on the
computer or do an activity that will give them a
fresh perspective on things. This will distract you
from your current problem. Most importantly, doing
something will give you the self confidence that
you can still function and that you can get through
the rest of the day.
Another thing to remind yourself is that things
change and events do not stay the same. For
instance, you may feel overwhelmed in the mornings
with your anxiety and feel that this is how you
will feel the rest of the day. This isn’t
correct. No one can predict the future with 100
Percent accuracy. Even if the thing that you feared
does happen there are circumstances and factors
that you can’t predict which can be used to
your advantage. You never know when the help and
answers you are looking for will come to you.
I was told by a counselor that your anxiety and
worry decrease over time. Your anxieties may seem
intense at the moment, but that won’t be like
that forever. Your worry will eventually decrease.
I asked a professional why does the worry and
anxiety decrease over time and she told me,
“Because it just does”.
In every anxiety related situation you
experience, begin to learn what works, what
doesn’t work, and what you need to improve on
in managing your fears and anxieties. For instance,
you have a lot of anxiety and you decide to play on
the computer to help you feel better. The next time
you feel anxious you can remind yourself that you
got through it the last time by playing on the
computer. This will give you the confidence to
manage your anxiety at the present time.
Don’t forget to Pray and ask God for help.
A person can only do so much. Asking God for help
can give us additional resources to help manage our
fears and anxieties. It is not always easy, however
God is in control and he will help you if you ask
him.
As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal
with all of our fears. When your fears and
anxieties have the best of you, seek help from a
professional. The key is to be patient, take it
slow, and not to give up. In time, you will be able
to find those resources that will help you with
your problems.
Alcohol and Substance
Abuse will not take Away Your Fears
It is not easy to deal with our fears and anxieties
however trying to avoid them through Alcohol or
other substances will not work. Avoiding your fears
and anxieties will not make them go away. Your
fears and anxieties will always be there. The best
way to deal with your fears is to find effective
ways to overcome them. As a result, here are some
techniques a person can use to help manage their
fears and anxieties.
The first step is to learn to take it one day at
a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get
through the rest of the week or coming month, try
to focus on today. Each day can provide us with
different opportunities to learn new things and
that includes learning how to deal with your
problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to
predict what may happen next week. Next week will
take care of itself.
Seek help from God. You might of heard this
before, however have you tried asking God for help?
Praying and talking to God about your problem can
be effective. Although the answers might not come
to you right away, you can’t go wrong on
relying on God. You never know how God will work in
ones life. All you can do is to do your best each
day, hope for the best, and take it in stride by
using the help of God. God will help us through our
problems if we ask him.
Remember that no one can predict the future with
100 Percent certainty. Even if the thing that you
feared does happen there are circumstances and
factors that you can’t predict which can be
used to your advantage. For instance, let’s
say at your place of work that you miss the
deadline for a project you have been working on for
the last few months. Everything you feared is
coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your
office and tells you that the deadline is extended
and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This
unknown factor changes everything. Remember: we may
be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the
future, but all it takes is for that one percent to
make a world of difference.
Another technique that is very helpful is to
have a small notebook of positive statements that
make you feel good. Whenever you come across an
affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down
in a small notebook that you can carry around with
you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed or
frustrated, open up your small notebook and read
those statements. This will help to manage your
negative thinking.
As a Layman, the important thing is to get the
proper help by seeing a professional. Avoiding your
problem through the use of alcohol or other
substances will do nothing in the long run in
fixing your problems. It will just make things
worse. Managing your fear and anxieties will take
some hard work. Be patience, persistent and stay
committed in trying to solve your problem.
Facing the Fear and
Anxiety of the Unknown
All most everybody worries about what will happen
in the future. The prospect of not knowing if
something good or bad will happen to you in the
near future can produce a lot of fear and anxiety.
As a result, here is a list of techniques and
suggestions on how to manage this fear of dealing
with the unknown.
The first step is to learn to take it one day at
a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get
through the rest of the week or coming month, try
to focus on today. Each day can provide us with
different opportunities to learn new things and
that includes learning how to deal with your
problems. When the time comes, hopefully you will
have learned the skills to deal with your
situation.
Another thing to remember is that no one can
predict the future with 100 Percent certainty. Even
if the thing that you feared does happen there are
circumstances and factors that you can’t
predict which can be used to your advantage. For
instance, let’s say at your place of work that
you miss the deadline for a project you have been
working on for the last few months. Everything you
feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to
your office and tells you that the deadline is
extended and that he forgot to tell you the day
before. This unknown factor changes everything.
Remember: we may be ninety-nine percent correct in
predicting the future, but all it takes is for that
one percent to make a world of difference.
Sometimes what we fear may happen can be over
exaggerated. A lot of times, our worrying can make
the problem even worse. For those of you who
believe in God, prayer can be very effective. In
the end, we have to leave it in the hands of God.
If God wants something to happen to us, it will
happen regardless. All the worrying in the world
will not change anything. All you can do is to do
your best each day, hope for the best, and when
something does happen, take it in stride by using
the help of God. God will help us through our
problems if we ask him.
As a Layman, I realize it is not easy to deal
with the fear of the unknown, however sometimes the
fear can be worse than the situation. If you have
trouble managing your anxiety of the future, then
talking to a counselor or clergyman can be of great
help. There are ways to help manage your fear and
all it takes is some effort to find those
answers.
Managing the Fear of
Loneliness
Sometime or another we will experience a time when
we are alone. Some people fear of being alone for
various reasons. The first step is to become
comfortable with yourself and having the
self-confidence that you will be able to manage
being alone. There is nothing wrong with being
alone. If being alone bothers you then seeing a
counselor can help you with these issues.
In the meantime, here is a short list of
techniques that a person can use so that the fear
of being alone doesn’t become a major issue in
their lives.
The first step is to find an activity that you
enjoy and where you can meet a lot of people. For
instance, joining a group activity such as a
volleyball group, women’s club, or making
Crafts can be a great way to meet people. Doing
something that you like to do will make you happy
and will increase your chances of making
friends.
Spending time with animals can be a great source
of companionship. Whether you have a dog or you go
to your local shelter, spending time with an animal
or pet can help us to feel better. Animals can be
of good company to all of us whether we are alone
or not.
Helping others through community service can be
of some help. There are many people out there who
could benefit from your time and talents. Helping
others can give you a source of pride and
accomplishment and also can lead to
friendships.
It isn’t fun being alone, but sometimes
there are worse things. For instance, imagine that
you are married or stuck in a relationship that you
can’t get out of and also makes you miserable.
Not only do you have to live with this person, but
there is no way to get out of the relationship
because of various financial or personal reasons.
As a result, you are stuck living with someone that
you can’t stand and makes you depressed every
single day of your life. With this viewpoint, being
alone doesn’t sound that bad.
For those of you who believe in God, spending
time with God and praying to him can help us in our
lonely situation. Spending time with God and asking
God for help in our time of loneliness can be of
great comfort. You never know how God will work in
ones life. Ask him for help and trust that he will
help you.
As a Layman, the important thing is to do
something constructive. Sitting around and doing
nothing will not make things any better whether its
dealing with the fear of being alone or something
else. Take it one day at a time and stay committed
in trying to solve your problem.
Giving up in Dealing with
Your Fears is Not an Option
Your fears, anxieties, and other problems have the
best of you and you don’t know where to turn
for help. At some point you feel totally helpless
as you struggle each day. What do you do?
As a layman and an author of a Managing Fear
book, there were times that my fears had the best
of me. Through these experiences, there is one
thing that I learned. You can’t hide or
runaway from your fears.
Taking drugs, drinking, or other addictions will
not take away your problems and fears. In the short
run, they will make you feel better but in the long
run these addictions will only make things
worse.
So what do you do to make your problems and
fears go away? Well, since you can’t runaway
from them, then the best solution is to tackle your
fears head on no matter how strong they may be. The
key is to be smart in how you try to manage these
fears. Here are some ways in how to manage your
persistent fears and anxieties.
Take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying
about how you will get through the rest of the week
or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day
can provide us with different opportunities to
learn new things and that includes learning how to
deal with your problems. Focus on the present and
stop trying to predict what may happen next week.
Next week will take care of itself.
Learn how to manage your fearful thoughts that
may be difficult to manage. When experiencing a
negative thought, read some positive statements and
affirmations that help lift your spirits and make
you feel better. Remember that your fearful
thoughts may be exaggerated so balance these
thoughts with realistic thinking and common
sense.
Take advantage of the help that is available
around you. If possible, talk to a professional who
can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They
will be able to provide you with additional advice
and insights on how to deal with your current
problem. By talking to a professional, a person
will be helping themselves in the long run because
they will become better able to deal with their
problems in the future. Managing your fears and
anxieties takes practice. The more you practice,
the better you will become.
When managing your fears and anxieties do not
try to tackle everything at once. The best solution
is to break your fears or problems into a series of
smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks one
at a time will make the stress more manageable and
increases your chances of success.
Managing your fears and anxieties will take some
hard work. Trying to avoid you problems will do
nothing in getting rid of your fears and anxieties.
Sooner or later, you will have to confront your
fears and anxieties. Remember that all you can do
is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and
take things in stride. Patience, persistence,
education, and being committed in trying to solve
your problem will go along way in fixing your
problems.
Managing Your
Anxieties, Self Esteem and Self Confidence
Some people have a difficult time in managing their
anxieties and fears. In addition, a person’s
self esteem and self-confidence can also suffer. As
a result, here is a list of techniques a person can
use to help manage their anxieties, fears, and self
esteem.
Remember that practice makes perfect. Whenever
it comes to dealing with your anxieties or any
other task; practice, patience, and persistence is
the name of the game. If you don’t get the
desired results the first time around, then keep
trying until you do get the results. Through
practice, you will become better at the task at
hand and your self-confidence will increase. This
also applies to managing your anxieties.
In every anxiety-related situation you
experience, begin to learn what works, what
doesn’t work, and what you need to improve on
in managing your fears and anxieties. For instance,
you have a lot of anxiety and you decide to take a
walk to help you feel better. The next time you
feel anxious you can remind yourself that you got
through it the last time by taking a walk. This
will give you the confidence to manage your anxiety
the next time around.
Sometimes, we can get anxious over a task that
we will have to perform in the near future. When
this happens, visualize yourself doing the task in
your mind. For instance, you and your team have to
play in the championship volleyball game in front
of a large group of people in the next few days.
Before the big day comes, imagine yourself playing
the game in your mind. Imagine that you’re
playing in front of a large audience. By playing
the game in your mind, you will be better prepared
to perform for real when the time comes.
Self-Visualization is a great way to reduce the
fear and stress of a coming situation and increase
your self-confidence.
Don’t forget to Pray and ask God for help.
A person can only do so much. Asking God for help
can give us additional resources to help manage our
fears and self-confidence. It is not always easy,
however God is in control and he will help you if
you ask him.
Write down on a list everything that you are
thankful for. Do not take anything for granted. The
next time you feel down, take out your list and
review everything that you have listed. This is a
great way to remind us of what we have.
As a layman, I realize it can be difficult to
manage our anxieties and self-esteem. If you have
trouble then talk to a professional who can help
you manage your fears, anxieties, and self esteem.
They will be able to provide you with additional
advice and insights on how to deal with your
current problem. In the meantime, remember to take
it one day at a time.
Fame, Money and Success will
not Take Away Your Fears
Your fears, anxieties, and other problems have the
best of you and you don’t know where to turn
for help. At some point you feel totally helpless
as you struggle each day. As a layman and an author
of a Managing Fear book, there were times that my
fears had the best of me. One of the things that
I’ve learned is that you can have all the
money in the world and be well known by many
people, but when it comes down to it, none of it
matters when it comes to dealing with your
persistent fears and anxieties. Fame, money, and
success will not take away your fears.
The one source that a person should use as a
basis in managing their fears and anxieties is
using God/Jesus as a basis in dealing with their
fears. Why? The power of God is the one power that
is stronger than your fears and anxieties. Also,
God loves each one of us and he is the one person
who has the power to solve all of our problems. He
will help you if you ask him to.
The first step a person should do in dealing
with their fears is to start talking and praying to
God. A person can go to church or to a quiet place
during the day to tell God that they are having a
problem. They should tell God how they feel and ask
God for some of his help. A person could also
review the Bible and read some articles on trusting
in God and then apply these concepts in their life.
Each and every day, a person should make it up a
habit to talk to God and ask him for his help.
Some people think that the answers that God
provides must be religious in nature. That is not
always the case. God may provide the answers in a
way that might not be religious in nature. These
answers could involve basic psychology and
cognitive techniques that deals with how to manage
fear and anxiety. The point to remember is that
although a person may use these psychology methods,
its important to use God/Jesus as the center of
everything in your life and in your struggle.
If you have trouble, talk to a member of the
clergy or a professional counselor to help deal
with your fears and anxieties.
As a layman, I realize the most important thing
is to continue praying and talking to God. Talk to
God as if you were talking to a friend. Read the
Bible and pray hard. Be persistent and be open in
the avenues that God may provide to you in solving
your problem. It is not always easy, however God is
in control and he will help you if you ask him.
Managing Your Persistent
Fears and Anxieties
Everybody deals with fear and anxiety, however some
people have a hard time in managing it. As a
result, here is a brief list of techniques that a
person can use to help manage their most persistent
fears and anxieties.
When facing a current or upcoming task that
overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first
thing you can do is to divide the task into a
series of smaller steps. Completing these smaller
tasks one at a time will make the stress more
manageable and increases your chances of
success.
Sometimes we get stressed out when everything
happens all at once. When this happens, a person
should take a deep breathe and try to find
something to do for a few minutes to get their mind
off of the problem. A person could get some fresh
air, listen to some music, or do an activity that
will give them a fresh perspective on things.
At times, a person might encounter a fearful
thought that may be difficult to manage. A person
should visualize a red stop sign which can serve as
a reminder to stop thinking about that thought.
This technique is good in dealing with obsessive
and scary thoughts.
Sometimes we encounter a scary situation that
gets us all upset. When encountering these events,
always remember to get all of the facts of the
given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent us
from relying on exaggerated and fearful
assumptions. By focusing on the facts, a person can
rely on what is reality and what is not.
Sometimes, it helps to be able to talk to
someone about our stressful situations. Talking to
a trusted friend, counselor, or clergyman can not
only make us feel better, but they might be able to
give you additional advice and insights on how to
deal with your current problem.
Although I am a layman and not a professional I
have interviewed many psychologists and clergyman
and I have over fifteen years of experience in
dealing with fear. Dealing with our persistent
fears is not easy, however there are many helpful
resources available to us if you look hard
enough.
ManagingbYour Every Day
Stresses and Anxieties
Looking for all of the answers in how to manage
your persistent anxieties and stresses? As an
author of a managing fear book, I found it
difficult to find all of the answers in managing my
anxieties. Although I am a layman and not a
professional, I have interviewed many psychologists
and clergyman and I have over fifteen years of
experience in dealing with fear.
As a result, here is a brief list of techniques
that a person can use to help manage their every
day stresses and anxieties.
Sometimes, we get stressed when everything
happens all at once. When this happens, a person
should take a deep breathe and try to find
something to do for a few minutes to get their mind
off of the problem. A person could take a walk,
listen to some music, read the newspaper or do an
activity that will give them a fresh perspective on
things.
Another technique that is very helpful is to
have a small notebook of positive statements that
make us feel good. Whenever you come across an
affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down
in a small notebook that you can carry around with
you in your pocket. Whenever you feel anxious, open
up your small notebook and read those
statements.
When facing a current or upcoming task that
overwhelms you with a lot of anxiety, the first
thing you can do is to break the task into a series
of smaller steps. Completing these smaller tasks
one at a time will make the stress more manageable
and increases your chances of success.
In dealing with your anxieties, a person should
learn to take it one day at a time. Instead of
focusing on exaggerated assumptions that may or may
not happen, focus on the present and rely on the
facts of the present situation.
Our anxieties and stresses can sometimes get the
best of us, however there are many helpful
resources available to us. It might take some hard
work and persistence, but it is possible to find
those answers in managing your anxieties.
Finding the Answers in
Managing Your Fears and Anxieties
Looking for all of the answers in how to manage
your most persistent fears and anxieties? I deal
with fear on a personal level and I found it
difficult to find all of the answers in managing my
anxieties.
Let me explain the process of how I found those
answers.
I first went to my local bookstore to find those
books that dealt with fear and anxiety. I looked
for those books that reviewed the techniques in how
to manage certain fears and anxieties. As I read
these books, I started a notebook and every time I
found a technique that was useful in managing my
fears, I would write it down in my small
notebook.
Secondly, I interviewed various professionals in
the psychology and religious fields and they
provided me with additional information. Some of
the techniques that they talked about was learning
how to use positive self talk, using thought
stopping techniques, and gathering the facts of a
fearful situation.
For instance, a person should visualize a red
stop sign in their mind when they encounter a fear
provoking thought. The stop sign is a reminder to
stop focusing on that thought and to think of
something else. This technique is good in dealing
with obsessive and scary thoughts.
Sometimes a person might encounter a scary
situation that gets them all upset. When
encountering these events, always remember to get
all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering
the facts can prevent us from relying on
exaggerated and fearful assumptions.
I made it a point that every time I would
experience a fearful or anxiety related situation,
I would use the information in my notebook to help
me. In every anxiety related situation I
experienced, I began to learn what worked, what
didn't work, and what I needed to improve on in
managing my fears and anxieties. I did this for
fifteen years and gained a lot of valuable
information.
The main point of this article is that no matter
how difficult it is to manage your fear and
anxieties, the answers are out there if you look
hard enough. It might take some hard work and
persistence, but it is possible to find those
techniques that work for you.
© 2010, Stan
Popovich
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Stan Popovich is the author
of A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using
Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant
Methods" -which presents a general overview of
techniques that are effective in managing
persistent fears and anxieties.
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