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A
Woman’s G-Spot…Her Most Sexual Hot
Spot!
Do
Penis Enlargement Supplements
Work?
Fire
In The
Hole!
14
Kinds Of Kisses That Will Make Her Horny. …
Well,
Hopefully!
Go
Down On Her Like
This....
How
Do You Know If You Want Her For Her, Not Because
You Can’t Have
Her?
How
To Have A Perfect
Threesome
Moving
Smoothly From Cunnilingus To
Intercourse
Premature
Ejaculation…How To Last
Longer
Spicing
Up The Missionary
Position
The
“Spoon Position”…The, Almost,
Perfect Sex
Position!
What
Is “Sex
Appeal”?
Where
To Find A Sex Buddy…And How To Ask Her To Be
One!
Why
Do So Many Women Fake
Orgasms?
Premature Ejaculation…How
To Last Longer
Too many men, especially the younger ones, take
this issue way too seriously. Just because they
ejaculate in around five minutes, they think they
suffer from premature ejaculation. The average
ejaculation time for men between teenage years and
40-years old is within 8 minutes. With nearly every
man out there who thinks he has a problem wit
premature ejaculation, it simply is not the
case.
Yes, there are many men who can't hold
themselves from ejaculating too quickly, but nearly
all men can prevent this from happening, without
having to seek medical attention. They simply over
exaggerate it.
In 2004, the American Medical Association
published a journal that was based on data from the
2003 National Health and Social Life Survey, a
collection of interviews with 1,749 women and 1,410
men aged 18 to 59.
One-third of men said they had recurring
problems with climaxing too early, 14 percent said
they had no interest in sex.
One-third of the men said that they had
recurring problems with climaxing too early??? Were
they even asked how much time elapsed before they
ejaculated. It was more than likely the average
time, but these guys thought that they should have
lasted longer.
14 percent said that they had no interest in
sex?! This study wasn't looking at the whole
picture. Many of these guys that made up that 14
percent said that because they don't think about
sex, because they can't find that right woman to
settle down with, and / or they aren't very good
with women, so, they just stop thinking about sex.
Many men have admitted to this very real fact. So,
that 14% of men did not have a real medical
problem.
I’m not going to get into the medical
reasons, because, quite frankly that is what a
Urologist is for. This article is about men who CAN
hold off their ejaculation for at least fifteen
minutes, but they don't know how. It's rather
simple, after you get done reading about it.
However, I need to include the following:
Testosterone Boosters And Over-The Counter
Medicines Can Contribute To Premature
Ejaculation
Poor climax control is commonly reported in
males taking "natural testosterone boosters" and in
those using "Anabolic Steroids". Supplements that
contain testosterone precursors such as
androstenedione, androstenediol, and their many
derivatives, including DHEA have the ability to
increase free testosterone levels. Additionally,
most "Anabolic Steroids" can have the same effect.
While increased testosterone levels is a principal
reason these supplements are so popular, one of the
results of increasing free testosterone levels is
that it also increases dopamine levels (a
neurotransmitter) in the brain and spinal cord.
Elevated dopamine levels in males are directly
related to a decrease in ejaculatory control, often
resulting in early climax.
Certain over-the-counter medicines can also be
the blame. Stimulant medicines, for example, such
as pseudoephedrine and ephedrine are common
components in cough & cold, allergy and sinus,
weight loss products and "party-drug" stimulants.
These products all stimulate the brain. Use of
these products within 6-12 hours prior to sex can
cause many males to ejaculate more quickly. If you
have a GENUINE problem, consult a Urologist.
To prevent themselves from coming too fast, many
men think about other things, like baseball or
their old teacher, who they hated. This is NOT what
you should be doing. To make your sex life more
pleasurable, your mind should be solely on her.
Men, who have a genuine problem, have tried
anesthetic based creams and sprays, and they have
found that it numbs their penis, along with their
partner's clitoris and vagina. So, these half-ass
products are not the answer. Because of those
drawbacks, few males try those products more than
once or twice. Women don't like their partner to
use those products because it significantly
detracts from their sexual pleasure. Genuine
Urologists, who know what they are talking about do
not recommend these alternatives.
Speaking of which, you will find thousands of
snake-oil salespeople on the Internet peddling
their garbage. Did you read our article, "Do Penis
Enlargement Alternatives Work?"? Not only are there
con artists who peddle pills that supposedly
enlarge your penis, there are others, or the same
ones who peddle pills that supposedly stops
premature ejaculation. Their typical sales pitch is
that there are herbs that help the body from
ejaculating too early. It's the exact same pitch
that you read in enlarging the penis. These must be
some powerful herbs!
Many of these sites that peddle pills that
supposedly enlarge your penis, and helps premature
ejaculating are almost identical, right down to the
con artists dressed in doctor coats. If these work,
why aren't, GENUINE, Urologists recommending them?
Why aren't these products in the pharmacies?
Why It's Not Necessary To Last Longer Than
The Average Eight Minutes
As mentioned in the beginning of the article,
too many men, especially the younger ones, take
this issue way too seriously. Just because they
ejaculate in around five minutes, they think they
suffer from premature ejaculation. The average
ejaculation time for men between teenage years and
40-years old is no more than eight minutes. That's
normal.
Perhaps you are thinking: “Eight
minutes?!” I can't even last that long!
Actually, you can. You just aren't trying hard
enough. But, before we go into the technique for
lasting much longer than that, let us tell you why
you don't even need to last longer that the average
eight minutes.
1. First of all, the average time for a woman to
come to orgasm is within the same eight minutes.
Many can come within just a few minutes. Like you
can also.
2. A good lover will always satisfy the woman
first. Give her her first orgasm, and then it will
be your turn. Shortly after you have ejaculated and
lied there with her in your arms, cuddling, the
both of you will be able to go at it again. You can
get another erection shortly after ejaculating
anyway, so why worry about lasting longer??? When
you two are ready for round two, your body will be
up to the task again.
3. A woman's vagina can take so much penetrating
before it gets sore. Her body can produce just
enough lubrication for less than fifteen minutes of
constant penetration. So, again, why would you want
to last longer, if she can't take any more to begin
with? Between each love-making session, your body
will be recuperating, so you can get another
erection, while her body will be recuperating, so
it can produce more lubrication. This doesn't take
very long at all.
4. It's a common belief among too many men that
women want a man to stay hard. If he goes limp,
then the night is over. You've seen it in the
movies, where she has this disappointed look on her
face, or, she yells out: "Don't come yet!" This is
just bull. Why? Because nearly all women can only
come to orgasm through clit stimulation, and your
penis cannot do this properly, because of the
angle. They would prefer you to satisfy them with
passionate kissing and either you going down on her
or using a vibrator to stimulate her clit. In
addition to that, they prefer cuddling after their
first orgasm. You know how women are.
This is why it isn't necessary to last longer
than the usual eight minutes. Most women can't hold
their orgasms longer than that,
Now, let's get into a very simple, yet effective
technique for lasting longer. Masters &
Johnson, the famous sex therapists, first came up
with this for their patients, which they later put
in their best selling book at that time.
This is very simple. When you feel yourself
coming, stop what you are doing, and don't move
until the feeling goes away. Once it does, slowly
go back to the motion. Once you feel yourself
coming again, stop, and remain still until it goes
away. Do this several times, every time you are
making love to a woman or masturbating. In fact,
you can get in plenty of practice from
masturbating. No joke intended.
What you are doing is plainly obvious. You are
training your body and brain to hold off the orgasm
for just a few seconds more. As time goes by, with
you training yourself, you will find that you can
last up to fifteen minutes of constant thrusting if
you want. Although she wouldn't want it, because,
again, most women's bodies can't produce enough
fluid to keep their vaginas from drying out for
that long. So you may not even want to shoot for
fifteen minutes. It's not really necessary.
When doing this technique with your lover, be in
your most favorite position. You may have read from
other sources that instruct you to do the opposite,
because when you are in your favorite position, it
will only make you come faster. Well, you want to
be in your favorite position, because you WANT to
train your brain and body. Why stay away from your
favorite position?!
If you are VERY sensitive to being inside of a
woman, to where you come to orgasm with juts a few
minutes, you may want to buy a "Pocket Pussy." This
may sound strange to many of you, but a pocket
pussy fells almost like the real thing. Using this
sex toy to practice with works wonders. Don't
laugh. It works.
Start doing this training right now. In just a
few weeks, maybe longer, you will find that you can
hold your orgasms from happening longer. It's a
surprisingly effective technique.
There is another technique (not from Masters and
Johnson), where you pinch the base of your penis
for thirty seconds when you feel yourself about to
come. But what woman wants to have you pinching
your penis for thirty seconds while you are
straddling her? It’s not a very stimulating
sight for her. Have you ever thought of that? So,
we won't even discuss that so-called
"technique."
Do Penis Enlargement
Supplements Work?
Now there’s a question asked by God knows how
many men!
There use to be this typical ridiculous
commercial on television that was from a snake-oil
sales outfit called "Longitude." They claimed that
by taking their pills, your penis will enlarge by
one inch in 30 days. This commercial had the
typical very attractive woman in a bikini telling
the male viewers that women want a man with a huge
penis; that it is very important to them. Her name
was Amy Lynn, a Penthouse pet. WOW! Impressive!
Hardly. She said: "Hey, guys. Have you ever
wondered what women secretly say behind their
lover’s back? In a recent study, 67% said that
they were unhappy with the size of their male
partner. Turns out size does matter to us after
all." It's the typical sales pitch.
"Recent study," huh? Yeah, okay. There’s a
study we all can believe in. She went on by saying
that Longitude has documented success in male girth
up to 3 full inches, and that results are evident
in 3 short weeks. She ends it by saying: "So take
it from me, a Penthouse pet, muscles, money and
looks matter, but women really want a bigger man."
Typical.
Longitude was shut down in 2000 by the F.D.A.
(Food and Drug Administration the F.C.C. (Federal
communications Corp.) for lying about what is
inside their pills, and for other dealings. Since
then, they more than likely started back up another
name.
Okay, now it is time for you to use your common
sense. First of all, no ingredient can do such a
thing, because your penis is made of muscle, and
the only way to enlarge any kind of muscle is to
work out with weights, and you can't increase the
size of that particular muscle for the obvious
reason. Even if there was a way, the girth would
enlarge, not the length. Just like every other
muscle in your body. That’s the way muscle
works.
And here's another thing, and think for one
second: If these pills really do work, why
aren’t pharmacies carrying them, like they
carry Viagra?
The following are legitimate herbs that do help
the blood circulate, among other health benefits,
but snake-oil outfits that peddle their garbage
make it out more than it really is. They say that
these are the kinds of herbs that are in their
capsules, and that it can enlarge the penis,
because it increases more than the usual blood flow
to that region.
- Ginkgo Biloba
- Zinc Nettle Leaf
- Yohimbe Cayenne
- Maca Pumpkin Seed
- Catuaba Sarsaparilla
- Muira Pauma Licorice Root
- Oyster meat Astragalus
- I-Arginne Tribulus
- OatStraw Ginseng
- Maca Root
- Yohimbe Bark
- Cuscuta Seed
Again, these herbs does help increase the blood
circulation throughout the whole body, among other
things, but, it takes A LOT to do it. So much that
man-made medicines had to be created. Herbs do help
out with our health, but they still have little
effect. If they did legitimate doctors would be
carrying them.
Viagra doesn't carry one herb, because such
herbs simply do not work to the point of increasing
blood circulation to the penis area.
How These People Protect Themselves From
Being Shut Down And/Or Prosecuted And From Being
Sued By You, The Consumer
During the past few years, these con artists
have gotten smart. They know that they can easily
be shut down or prosecuted by the authorities, like
the Attorney General's office. Which, by the way,
many have already been shut down. So, these people
now play it much smarter. To protect themselves,
they say that "it is used for men who can't get a
full erection, due to poor blood circulation. For
men who can get get their penis to only half its
size, the herbs contained, could, increase the
blood flow in that area, thus giving them a full
erection." This covers their butt for when they say
that their product can add 2-3 inches to a penis.
They also say that "results can vary." It's a smart
way of covering their butts. Lawyers must have
helped them out.
From the beginning, some con artist, maybe not
from Longitude, came up with a brilliant idea to
make some fast money by making these herbs out to
be more than they can actually do, which isn’t
much to begin with. (Besides, more than likely
there isn't that many herbs, if any at all, in
these pills.) Since then, there are now thousands
of others who have jumped on the bandwagon with
similar exclaims, and similar ingredients.
Just take a look at the Internet! You see some
sites that have words like:
"Give your woman what she wants."
"Dedicated team of researchers...."
"Medically proven...."
"Doctor Approved,"
"Clinically tested...."
"A recent clinical study has validated it's
potency."
And so on, and so on. Then you get pictures of
these shysters dressed in a doctor's coat. Some
have a stethoscope around their neck. Oh, they go
all out to rip you off.
A good example of such a snake-oil sales outfit
is albionmedical.com With this particular site,
they may or may not be doctors, but just keep in
mind that if there are doctors involved in this
scam, it means they have no ethics.
Remember these two things:
1. If these work so well, why aren't pharmacies
carrying them?
2. There were thousands of, legitimate, labs
from around the world when trying to find the cure
to male impotence before one came up with Viagra.
Yet there is nothing about these other pills you
see advertised on the Internet, or in ridiculous
commercials. It's a worldwide scam that works only
on men who don't use their common sense.
Basically all of these snake-oil people say the
same thing: The more blood that goes into the
penis, the larger it becomes. One Internet site
states:
An erection occurs when the penis fills with
blood. A small amount of blood enters the Corpus
Spongiosum, which is the chamber used primarily for
urination and ejaculation. The remainder of the
blood enters the Corpus Cavernosum, which is a
sponge-like tissue that acts as the main
blood-holding chamber of the penis. Penis size is
limited in terms of length and girth by the
capacity of the Corpus Cavernosum. It would be
impossible for your penis to grow larger in itself,
since, when a full erection occurs, the blood,
which enters the penis is already expanding the
Corpus Cavernosum to its maximum capacity. As a
result, the only true method of penis enlargement
is to expand the actual blood-holding capacity of
the Corpus Cavernosum. By forcing more blood into
that canal, it will, overtime, become larger and
larger, then, in turn, your penis will become
larger and larger.
That’s basically all of these
shyster’s selling point. Yes, there are many
such legitimate herbs that have been known to
increase blood flow throughout the body, not just
in the penis region, and it has been proven to do
just that, such as the ones listed, but it
doesn’t give you a larger penis by the method
you just read. It is physically impossible,
because…the blood flow still wouldn’t be
strong enough to stretch the CORPUS CAVERNOSUM.
Again, use your common sense.
When they were in business, the peddlers of
Longitude said that their pills had many of these
herbs. This was proven not to be true, which was
one of the reasons why they were pulled from the
airwaves. Many shysters now have the herbs, but,
here's the catch: How much is in each capsule? It
is more than likely just a trace of each
ingredient.
There was another company with the same claims,
but they didn’t list the ingredients. You take
two pills a day, and voila, you have grown several
inches to your penis. We had the pills analyzed,
and the lab told us that it was made mostly of
sugar and flour, with only small traces of Ginseng,
Nettle leaf, Catuaba and Cayenne. ... VERY small
traces.
If you want to know more about these herbs, read
TODAY’S HERBAL HEALTH, by Louise Tenney, M.H.
It lists many of them that does increases blood
flow, but not as much as one may expect. It would
take a lot. Just keep in mind that the blood flow
is not strong enough to add inches to the penis.
It’s quite an imaginative idea for ripping
people off.
With some of these snake-oil sales outfits, they
state in their web sites that they have 24-hour
support from "trained specialists." Yeah, right. I
called a several of these numbers, and it went
straight to an answering machine. What a surprise.
There are no "trained specialists" or a "trained
medical staff."
You may think: “What the hell. Why not?
It’s backed by a 100% guarantee.”
Well, let’s take a closer look at this 100%
guarantee. Did you know that with some of these
outfits they will still rip you off? Say you finish
half the bottle, and you see no results. You return
it, asking for your money back, but they come back
saying that all the pills have to be used to
receive the desired results. And then when you do
finish the rest of the pills, they don’t
bother returning your calls. What are you going to
do, sue them, for what, $50.00, the price for the
pills? The filing fee will cost you at $30.00. Then
you have to take a day off from work. It isn’t
worth it. This is how many of these shysters get
away with it. Ignore such guarantees on ANY
product. (With anything you buy, if it can’t
be bought through the store, don’t buy it.)
Besides, many of them have an escape clause. On the
bottle it may read: Results may vary. It’s a
play of words. So much for those guarantees.
Also, on a couple of these sites, we found where
they stated that it has been "clinically analyzed."
So what? We had one product clinically analyzed,
and it showed it to be nothing but worthless crap.
If they are stating that is has been clinically
analyzed, why aren’t the results shown? Which
they didn't.
There is yet another one web site,
massivemember.com that states that their program
has been rated #1 by MEN’S FITNESS. We called
MEN’S FITNESS and asked about it. It was news
to the person we spoke with. The representative has
have never heard of this site. This site has
testimonials from past customers (supposedly), but
there isn’t one from MEN’S FITNESS???
Well now, isn’t that strange.
They also claim to be able to enlarge your penis
up to 4 full inches, but they don’t tell you
how it is done. Surprise!
Like we mentioned before, if these supplements
work so great, why aren’t pharmacies carrying
them, like they do with Viagra??? Now there’s
a product that works. For years medical / drug labs
throughout the entire world have been trying to
come up with a drug to prevent impotency in men.
You don’t think all these labs, which probably
run into the thousands, haven’t already tested
the herbs you just read? So it’s pretty
obvious these "amazing natural remedies"
aren’t much help.
Do you know that there is not one herb in
Viagra? Now there’s a clue for you. To know
more about this product, how it works, and its
ingredients, call 1-800-438-1985, or, visit
viagra.com
Penis Pumps
Here is another gimmick that has made makers
millions of dollars. Penis pumps. As long as there
are dumb men out there, these things will sell.
There are hundreds of different styles, and with
that are probably hundreds of different claims!
Here is a typical sales pitch that you may have
read on the Internet:
All penis enlargement pumps operate on
essentially the same premise. If you increase blow
flow to the shaft and tip of the penis and maintain
continuous flow to the area for a period of time
each session, you will build up the size and width
of the penis. By keeping the penis in a heightened
state of arousal and pulling blood into the shaft,
the muscles of the penis are enlarged and
strengthened. The muscle tissue expands to the
maximum, breaks down, and then rebuilds into larger
and stronger muscles, similar to body-building.
On the surface it would make sense, but if you
think about it, and use your common sense, you will
see it as a cleverly-designed sales pitch from
snake-oil salespeople. The muscle tissue does not
get broken down, like what is done through working
out with weights, because there is not enough force
from the blood flow to do this. And just like the
pills, if this works, why aren't doctors, who
specialize in men's impotency, recommending them?
Why aren't they in pharmacies? The only places that
it can be found are in Adult toy stores, the back
of men's magazines and from the Internet. What does
that tell you?
Penis pumps can't even bring the blood to the
penis to the point of making it erect, because the
only thing that can do that is your...HEART! Here's
a crude, but experiment to try. Do you have a
vacuum cleaner? It does the same thing as a pump
does. It sucks the air in from around your penis.
It's a crude thing to say, but it is basically the
same thing.
Our blood can't be pumped by any means, other
than our heart, because it is inside of our bodies.
There has to be air in order to do this, like
siphoning gas from your gas tank, and there is no
air in our bodies. Again, use your common
sense.
To make it out that it is possible to bring the
blood to the penis, snake-oils salespeople of these
pumps say that once the blood is in the penis, you
use a clamp, which is at the base of the pump that
you use to clamp your penis, so the blood stays in.
They make it out that the pump works. After all,
why would they have a clamp, and have instructions
on how to use the clamp? Yeah, okay.
We have read articles from Internet magazines
that were about penis enlargement alternatives. The
writers talked about the dangers of penis pumps,
that it can rupture the blood vessels if not used
properly. That by itself told us that these
so-called writers just made up their articles.
And what about hanging weights? Yes, they can
stretch the penis muscle, like any other muscle,
but...do you really want to stretch a muscle that
you rely on to give you an erection?! It's risky.
Besides, the muscle can stretch, at the very most,
an inch. It then constricts back to its original
size within a couple of days, if not sooner.
The Only Way To Enlarge Your Penis Is With
Surgery
Hundreds, perhaps thousands of successful
surgeries are done every single day. It is a very
common and simple procedure. There is a separate
muscle inside your body that attaches to the penis.
The bottom of your stomach has to be opened in
order to cut that muscle, which in turn releases
about ¾ to one inch. It’s sort of like
one rope holding on to another rope, taking up the
second rope’s slack. Why our sexual organ is
made like this, only God knows. After a few weeks
of healing time, a small weight is attached to the
penis to keep it from constricting during the
healing process. The final result is maybe an inch
in added length. It's not much, but that is the
REALITY of it. Fat is then injected for wider
girth. The maximum girth size is maybe an inch.
That’s the ONLY way to enlarge your penis.
Even then it still won’t gain you no more than
an inch. Maybe the medical profession can do better
later on down the road, like they have with breasts
implants, but for now that’s all you are going
to get.
You may have read articles on this subject that
this isn't recommended, because, they state, some
studies have shown that suspensory ligament cutting
in order to enlarge the penis actually causes a
"shortening" of the penis to take place, due to
scar formation in the void of the ligament.
Yes, that's true. IF, you chose a doctor who
doesn't know what he is doing! It's a little detail
that is left out in these articles. Also, con
artists who push their herb pills quite often state
this. They list all the negatives of penis
enlargement alternatives (surgery, stretching,
penis pumps), and then they turn around and give
you the positives of their pills. It's a typical
sales ploy.
Surgery is the only way to enlarge your penis.
It's safe, and VERY effective. Look through your
yellow pages for such a procedure. If you are
considering on doing it, make damn sure you get a
good doctor. How long has he been doing this
procedure? Are there any complaints logged against
him? Check him out! And don’t go by his
references. Of course he will have such a list.
That doesn’t tell you what kind of a doctor he
is, because all doctors have a reference list.
drwhitehead.com
is a site run by a Doctor E. Douglas Whitehead,
where he gives an overview, with pictures of the
procedure. We can't recommend him because we do not
know his background. It's better to consult with a
doctor in your area, rather from the Internet. For
the obvious reason!
Why Do So Many Women Fake
Orgasms?
Why do so many women fake an orgasm? On the surface
it wouldn't make a bit of sense. But, nevertheless
they do. Here are their reasons why, and what you
can do to get your lover to be more open with
you.
First off, women fake it because they want to
get it over with. She is not going to be properly
lubricated for your hard, dry penis if she is not
properly stimulated, or not in the mood.
When she is in the mood, her body can only
secrete enough of her body fluids (vaginal
lubricant) for about ten to fifteen-minutes of
intercourse. Now if she isn’t in the mood,
there will, of course, be much less lubrication. It
will start to feel uncomfortable for her after just
so long of penetration. By her faking it, she wants
you to now satisfy yourself before she goes dry and
it starts to feel uncomfortable.
So why doesn’t she just use KY jelly
(lubricant)? Well, what if she is tired and she
doesn’t want it in her vagina because she then
has to go to the bathroom to wash it out? It’s
not really being selfish or lazy on her part. She
could be just tired, and she wants to get to sleep.
Another reason why so many fake it is because they
may not want to hurt the feelings of their man.
This poor guy is trying to satisfy her, and what is
she going to tell him? … “No dear, I
still can’t feel anything.” Ummm,
ouch!
So instead of saying that and bruising his ego,
she will fake it. These two reasons, in a nutshell,
are why women fake orgasms.
You have heard that women prefer to just cuddle
and hug. Well this isn’t entirely true. Many
women like sex. It’s just that too many men
don’t know how to properly satisfy them. With
a lot of women, men give them a wham, bam, thank
you ma'am. The average guy will give her a few
kisses, a couple of sucks on her nipples and
he’s in her faster than she knows what’s
going on. She has probably been vaccinated slower
than that.
It shouldn’t be a mystery on why so many
women aren’t into sex as much as men are. For
such a seemingly simple thing, there certainly is a
lot to be learned when it comes to making love to a
woman and satisfying her. Once you do know what she
likes, then your lovemaking with her will be the
most satisfying and exciting experience you will
have ever had with a woman. Because of the way you
made her feel she will then want it more often. Not
as much as you, but she will be more responsive and
aggressive than before.
The way to get her to stop faking is to first
stop going through the same ol’ boring routine
of a few kisses here and there, with just a couple
of sucks on her nipples, and then taking the
plunge, how about taking your time on her and
really making her feel good? Men’s hormones
are totally different from a woman’s. Men
think about sex a lot more than women do. Men get a
hard on from just the wind blowing. Women get
turned on from the caressing and kissing. They like
to be touched a lot more than men do.
At least 80% of a woman’s body is sensitive
to the touch, while a man’s is less than 20%.
The most sensitive parts on a man is his buttocks
and around his groin. For the women, it’s her
stomach, all of her legs and most of her backside.
So that should tell you that she needs much more
touching to put her more in the mood. Before you
enter her, take your time and give her the feeling
her body wants. Her body is built for that. Treat
it as such. (Many of them, NOT ALL, even get turned
on from watching and / or reading love stories.) A
lot of touching and patience is the main thing to
keep in mind if you want to be the best lover she
has ever had.
Another thing you can do is to let her know that
you don't expect her to come to orgasm all the
time. Tell her that you understand that there are
times when you aren't in the mood.
Communication, putting yourself in her position,
and knowing how to make love to her are the keys to
getting her to stop faking orgasms.
This may not make sense to some of you, but you
have to be a good friend who listens, and one who
is also a good lover.
And, once she does stop faking orgasms, you know
you've done your job as a good lover for her! It's
as simple as that. Not many men get that.
14 Kinds Of Kisses That Will
Make Her Horny. … Well, Hopefully!
Ok, these kisses are what women have told me, so
pay attention.
Women love to kiss and hug, so part of
satisfying her and being a good lover is to know
how to be a good kisser. And believe it or not,
long sessions of kissing, lasting at least twenty
minutes, can actually have some women come to an
orgasm. Kissing for her is very sensuous for
them.
But, nearly all men think that kissing means she
wants sex. It doesn’t! There’s a time for
just kissing, and, a time for kissing and sex.
Don’t mix the two up. Most women like to just
kiss and kiss and kiss, so don’t spoil it for
her by grabbing her breasts. She will let you know,
or you both will know just by the look in each
other’s eyes when it’s time. Until then,
hands off! Give her your trust so she knows that
the both of you can kiss without the sex being
involved. She may have had bad experiences with
guys in the past who went too fast, too soon.
Also, on those first dates, don’t French
kiss her, opening the mouth and/or sticking your
tongue in her mouth, unless she initiates it, since
this is more sexual.
Men dive right into it. Show her that you are
different by starting with simple kisses only. The
following are tips to make you more appealing and
to get her hormones going before you lend her your
lips:
1. Always have fresh breath. Floss and brush
your teeth at least twice a day. Brush your tongue
because that’s the main area you want to keep
clean. Use A LOT of breath mints. Nothing can spoil
the mood faster than bad breath!
2. Use a flavored lipgloss if you have chapped
lips. Better yet, use it even if you don’t
have chapped lips. She’ll love the taste.
Don’t use some bad-tasting Vaseline or
anything she may not like. Now if you don’t
like her lipstick, don’t be afraid to tell her
so. Maybe she has a flavored brand you may
enjoy.
3. Have a clean-shaven face. Most, not all,
women prefer this. They like to kiss a face
that’s baby soft. Some women like stubble, but
most don’t.
4. Don’t forget to wear one of the
women’s favorite colognes. It’s much
better when you smell great for her while you are
kissing her.
Now you are ready for some kissing and gentle
biting that she probably very rarely receives from
a man. Just remember, just like making love to her,
you have to be slow and passionate. That is one of
the things most (NOT ALL) women think makes a man a
good lover.
1. Shy Kiss: This is the kind of kiss you
should start off with, whether it’s a first
date or not. Start off by giving her that look. You
know, the kind of look a person gives when they
want to kiss you. Look kind of sexy towards her,
looking at her lips and deep into her eyes. Give
her a devilish, child-like smile. Move your face
towards hers slowly, still looking at her lips and
eyes. Look for any reaction from her while doing
this. Does she want you to kiss her or is it a
definite no? Move in closer until you are about two
inches from her lips. Now stop for a brief moment
and look into her eyes, and then at her lips. Then
give her a light kiss on her lips. Move away a
couple of inches, no more, and see how she reacts
to this? Of course this is the best on those first
dates.
2. Passionate Kiss: Start
off slowly by giving her small, little kisses at
the corner of the mouth, and then switching to the
other side of the corner, going back and forth, all
the while moving closer to the center of her lips.
Move slowly and passionately until you are at the
center of her lips. Then run your fingertip across
her lips and then pucker up and lay one on her,
holding her face with both of your hands on the
last kiss. The kiss on the center of her lips
should last at least thirty seconds. Use your lips
to tug on hers and slightly bite on her lips at the
same time.
Two other variations to this is to hold the back
of the head with just one hand, while using your
other hand to hold her cheek. The second variation
is to hold her head with both hands so you can
massage and scratch her head gently, and to gently
pull on her hair, while kissing her. Women love
this last variation. Massaging, slow scratching,
and especially gently pulling her hair as you are
kissing her is something women don’t get from
men. Also, rub your cheek up against hers a few
times, while still holding her other cheek or the
back of her head. This is a must! Try it!
3. Static Kiss: Without touching one
another, stand face to face on a rug, and start
rubbing your feet across the carpet. Then lean
forward and kiss her. I read one lame book on this
subject that stated you should do it in the dark,
because that way you can see the spark. You
can’t see it because of the position your face
is in. Pass on that not-thought-out idea.
4. Open-Mouth Kiss: This is a combination
of French kissing and opening both of your mouths,
pressing them together, and then closing them and
puckering at the same time. It’s sort of like
closing your mouth around an ice-cream cone and
then puckering your lips as you are completing the
sucking of the ice cream. But, let her initiate it
first, because she may not want to go that far.
5. Combination Bite & Kiss: Bite
her neck, jawbone and ears, while kissing at the
same time. Use your teeth to gently pinch her skin,
breathing softly on her skin and ears at the same
time, especially her ears. Biting can be very
sensuous for her, so make sure you do a lot of
this.
6. Tease Her Kiss: Start by using the tip
of your index finger and slightly run it across her
lips and cheeks. Then put your face a couple of
inches from hers and just stare into her eyes,
gazing around her hair and face for about 10
seconds. Talk with your eyes. Then slightly kiss
her on the lips. Repeat the step. This time give
her two small kisses. Then grab her face, cup it in
your hands and lay a big one on her for about 30
seconds, without moving your lips. Just remain
motionless.
7. Eye Kiss: Give her a kiss on her eye,
and then slowly kiss the other. This will give her
a warm feeling. Yet another kiss men don’t do.
So she will love this also.
8. Eskimo Kiss: Kiss like an Eskimo by
kissing with a lot of small pecks all over her
face, at the same time rubbing your nose up against
hers, going side to side and up and down.
9. Ear Kiss: Kiss and slightly nibble her
ears, breathing on them slightly at the same time.
Use your tongue to trace around her ear. Suck on
her ear lobes, because she especially loves that!
Tell her that you love her ears. Make sure your
breath hits her ear as you are saying this. As for
the tongue in her ear...well, since most women
don’t like it, it’s best to stay away
from doing that one.
10. Body Kiss: This is where you use a
combination of biting, kissing and licking all the
way down her body to her toes. Have her just lay
there, naked, with her eyes closed.
11. Swoon Kiss: Tilt her head slightly to
the side and cradle her face in one of your hands,
while you hold the back of her head with the
other.
12. The Rocking Kiss: As both you and
your partner’s lips are still touching, rock
your heads from side to side, letting your noses
rub against each other. You rock your head to the
left, as she rocks hers to the right, going from
side to side.
13: Upside-down Kiss: This is a
totally different kind of kiss because it confuses
our brain. Our brain isn’t use to the position
our heads are in when kissing. Try it, and you will
see what I mean. It’s something totally new,
and something she may not have experienced
before.
14: French Kiss: According to some
women, many of their past dates/boyfriends
didn’t know how to properly French kiss. Never
mind the kissing. French kissing is not supposed to
be sloppy, done fast or putting your whole tongue
in her mouth. It should give that person a feeling
of ecstasy and excitement.
Women, over men love to French kiss, so be
prepared to do it properly.
- Start off by giving her all the other kinds
of kisses just discussed before doing the French
kiss. Don’t jump right into it. Move slowly
to it.
- Gently slide your tongue across her upper
lip. She should take the hint and open her
mouth. Now gently slide just the tip of your
tongue into her mouth. Just the tip of your
tongue should pass beyond her teeth, and
that’s it! She should meet you halfway.
From there you will begin this kiss.
- Use your tongue to explore her mouth, as she
does the same to you. Move your tongue along her
teeth, wrestle with her tongue, twist yours
around hers and gently suck on her tongue.
- Don’t let it be just about French
kissing. Add a variety of different kinds of
kisses also. To give more pleasure, suck on a
mouthful of candy mints before you start kissing
her. Give her that taste to enhance the kissing.
Mmmm, a candy flavored mouth! But, make sure she
doesn’t mind the taste of mint, or any
candy you will be using. Know this
beforehand.
- And finally, a lot of women have commented
on how guys tend to think that this kind of
kissing means she is ready for sex. So, he
starts to grope her and tries to undress her.
You should never, never do this. This is where
the communication breaks down. She wants to kiss
for a while and he wants to...well, you know.
Keep in mind that many women love to kiss and
hug, and that’s it. She may not even want
to go that far.
Don’t be afraid to talk a little while
kissing her. Tell her how good she tastes and how
good she feels in your arms. If she thinks you are
funny, by all means joke around with her at the
same time. But don’t joke too much! Brush her
hair with your fingers, trace her ear with your
fingertips and run them lightly across her cheeks
every once in a while. Cup her face in your hands
while you are kissing her. Caress the back of her
neck and stroke her arms and hands.
Touch her, touch her and touch her some more.
This can never be said enough! A kiss doesn’t
have to be perfect. It’s all on how you look
into her eyes and how you use your hands. Read
Passionate Kiss again.
Remember, kissing a woman the right way makes
you a good lover in her eyes, so do it
right!
The “Spoon
Position”…The, Almost, Perfect Sex
Position!
If you haven’t already found out, there is
more to the spoon position than you think. And this
sex position is good for guys who aren’t well
endowed, also!
You know that women love to cuddle, and you also
know that women can come to an orgasm much stronger
if her clit is being stimulated. You do know
that…right??? Hello???
With this in mind, the spoon position is a great
sex position. I mean, look at what you can do to
her:
While inside of her in the spoon position, you
can caress her stomach and legs with one hand (use
your fingertips and lightly run them across her
body) while using her vibrator on her clit and
kissing and biting her neck and ears…all at
the same time!
Are you that coordinated? …
Hmmmm….
If she doesn’t already have a vibrator, buy
her one! Buy the “clit stimulator.” This
is specifically designed to stimulate her clit. Get
the model that has various speeds.
Talk about giving her one hell of a strong
orgasm!
And when you both have come to your orgasms, you
can still stay inside of her, while cuddling.
Perfect!
Where To Find A Sex
Buddy…And How To Ask Her To Be One!
Ok, so you don’t want a girlfriend, but it
would be nice to have a woman friend, with sex
thrown in, right?
But where can you find such a woman? A bar?
Yeah, possibly, but you want a friend too, not some
bar fly. Ok, ok, they aren’t all like that,
but you know what I mean.
Actually, it’s easier than you think in
finding such a friend. In fact, the answer is right
at your fingertips.
Yup, Internet dating sites. And there are many
sites that “hook up” such singles.
And even many women want a sex buddy. Gee,
imagine that!
You can advertise on Match, AOL, or any site for
a sex buddy. Just be frank and tasteful in your ad.
You can come across as just a nice guy who
doesn’t want a relationship but would like a
sex buddy without sounding like a sleaze.
Your ad could possibly read something like
this:
“Hi.
My name is Bill. I’m 6 feet, at 180 pounds.
I’m considered nice looking and fun to be with
by my past dates, so, perhaps you will too.
Right now, though, I don’t want to be in a
relationship, but I would love to have you as a
friend. Someone I can do things with, go out with,
and talk to on the phone now and then. You know,
like friends do.
But…I’m looking for a female friend
who I can also be intimate with. What’s that
called…”a sex buddy?”
Are you still there? … You logged off,
didn’t you? … UGH!
If you are looking for the same, let’s get
together and see if we can be friends.”
Keep in mind that down the road you don’t
want her falling in love with you, which is a good
possibility, so don’t hold her hand, do
prolong hugging, or anything that you wouldn’t
do with a friend.
Treat the friend relationship as just that, a
relationship with a friend.
And, of course, don’t you fall in love with
her, if she doesn’t want a relationship!
It’s very easy to find a sex buddy, you
just have to let women know, be frank, have good
taste, be tactful, and one will come along sooner
or later.
All you have to do is ask!
A Woman’s
G-Spot…Her Most Sexual Hot Spot!
Knowing where her G-spot is and how to properly
stimulate her with it is something most men
don’t know. Even a lot of women don’t
know where it’s at, or for that matter they
don’t even know what it really is. Once you
master it, she will come to you more often, instead
of you going to her. She will be surprised by the
most intensifying feeling she has ever experienced.
And, you will be the first guy to give her that!
Here is yet another way to be the best lover she
has ever had.
The best way to find this mystery hot spot is
for her to lay on her belly, her legs apart, with
her hips slightly upward. Prop pillows under her
hips. Insert two fingers in her vagina, palm down
and start exploring the front, top wall of her
vagina. Ask her to guide you by telling you what
feels good. If she was lying on her back, your palm
should be faced up, exploring the topside of her
vagina. When properly stimulated, it should swell
and feel like a small, rigid lump. It feels
completely different from the rest of the
surrounding tissue. It has ridges, like the roof of
our mouth. Once you have found it, use a firm
pressure and move your fingers in a come hither
movement. It’s not like the clit, where you
have to be gentle and have a soft touch. She will
tell you how much pressure she likes.
Many women like it when you tap on it.
Many women have commented that they have a
feeling of having to urinate when their G-spot is
being stimulated. That’s when you know you
found it! If she is new to this feeling, let her
know that it will subside overtime. She will then
no longer have to go to the bathroom every time you
touch it.
It’s very hard to get to her G-spot while
in the missionary position, unless your penis
curves upward. The best positions are the spoon or
with her on top. She can better position herself
for your penis to hit that spot if she is on top.
The point is to get into a position so your penis
can best hit that area. You can also try the rear
entry position. This seems to do it for a lot of
women.
There are two other methods that are worth
trying that will double the pleasure for her. 1.)
Use a curved vibrator. Having something vibrate and
rubbing up against her G-spot will open up new
doors of excitement for her. 2.) And, lick her clit
at the same time. You can stimulate her two most
sensitive spots on her entire body.
I have heard from some sex therapists that the
G-spot can still be stimulated while the man is in
the missionary position. While thrusting, he pushes
down firmly on her stomach, rolling his hand
around, just below her belly button. This,
supposedly, stimulates the G-spot. I don’t see
how this is possible, since it isn’t being
touched. Anyway, it’s something to experiment
with. Who knows, maybe there is something to
it.
Something similar to this is when she is sitting
on top of you. Ask her to move her hips around in a
circular motion, and then with the heel of your
open hand (below the palm) or your fist, press on
the area that is a few inches above her
clitoris.
This isn’t full proof, of course, but by
doing this, the head of your penis should make
direct contact with her G-spot.
This isn’t a point of extreme pleasure for
many (not all) women, but some women have a very
mild sensitivity when their G-spot was being
massaged, while others went absolutely wild over
the feeling. So, this isn’t a guaranteed hot
spot. Nevertheless, women love it when you at least
try to satisfy them. That impresses and makes them
feel good. It shows that you care, so you win
either way!
Fire In The Hole!
When giving a woman cunnilingus, too many men don't
do enough to give her that fire she wants. They
either caress her thighs a few times and that's it,
or they lay their hands off to the side, and lap
her in a very boring manner. Yes, giving a woman
cunnilingus can be boring for her if you don’t
do it right. Gee, imagine that.
Since men have first discovered what more they
can do with their tongue, women have been loving
oral sex. Next to the vibrator, this is a feeling
they love. This is an old survey, but it
doesn’t matter, because it will hold true for
years. Women love this as much as you love a good
blow job. The main thing to keep in mind is to go
at it with excitement; put your whole face into her
vagina, like a kid does when he puts his whole face
into a watermelon. Women love it!! More on this
later.
From the very beginning of making love to her,
suck on several strong mints. The purpose for this
is to not only give you fresh breath, but to give
her a tantalizing feeling when you go down on her.
The mint will pass through the skin tissue of her
vulva to her nerves. Keep in mind though that this
doesn’t work on all women. Nevertheless, try
it anyway. Make sure your mouth has that strong
mint inside, so suck on one more strong mint while
you are down by her legs, just before you move to
her vulva.
Most of her sensitive nerves in the vulva are in
the clit and in the outer edges of her inner
lips…especially the part that surrounds her
clit. Contrary to popular belief among so many men,
there is very little feeling when further inside
her. This means that many times she may want just
the head of your penis inside her, rubbing in and
out. The shape of our head is perfect for this, but
men put it in deeper, where there is less feeling
for her. Just inside her vulva also become the
tightest part during intercourse because it swells
with blood. Slow shallow fucking is something
nearly all men don’t do.
For nearly all women (NOT ALL), the sensitivity
on her clit and the lips that surround it is the
same as underneath and the tip of our dick. The
sensitivity of the outer lips of her vulva is the
same as the bottom of our penises, near the
stomach, would feel. The point past the outer edges
of her inner lips, as little as one inch deeper
inside her, are no more sensitive than our scrotum
would feel, which is pretty low. That gives you a
pretty good indicator on how sensitive each part of
her vulva is.
So, for all you guys with short penises, you
still wish for it to be longer??? When you hear so
much about how some women want a man with a big
penis, it’s because their fascination with it
is exactly the same as men have with big-breasted
women. That’s all! Some women may say they
want a big man because it feels great all the way
in, but these are the disillusioned ones. It is
very hard for them to feel it to the point of
“feeling great” because there aren’t
enough nerves there…PERIOD!
Picking back up from the previous page, you next
move from her inner thighs to her vulva, and then
gently open her lips and start licking the inside
lips, at the outer edges. Then, all of a sudden,
just like the kid putting his whole face in a
watermelon, you do the same with her vagina. Hands
down, ALL women love it when you do this! Rub your
whole face in her vagina with enthusiasm. Showing
your enthusiasm like this adds to her pleasure. It
makes a big difference! Make sure you are
absolutely clean-shaven! Stubble will ruin the
whole mood for her! Your face should be literally
as smooth as a baby’s butt!
After a little bit of this, start licking her
lips with the broad part of your tongue. She wants
your whole tongue on that area. Also, don’t
flick her clit. Most (not all) women don’t
like it. They get no arousal from it. Men see this
“flicking” on porno tapes, thinking this
is some great technique to use on her. For most
women, it’s not! Suck on her lips, drawing as
much of her lips into your mouth as you can. Women
love it when you put your mouth over her vulva and
suck on it, inserting your tongue in and out of her
at the same time.
Use what’s known as a “Hummer” on
her. This is when you have your mouth over her
vulva and / or her clit and then you hum. The
vibrations from your wet and hot mouth is an erotic
feeling for her. Do this while at the same time you
have your face completely in her vagina, moving it
all around. Another thing you can do is to give her
a raspberry. You know how you put your lips against
a woman’s neck and give her a raspberry?
… You know, like a parent does to their
baby’s stomach? Well, give her a raspberry on
her lips. Give her many, many raspberries, until
she comes! Learn to extend the vibrations from your
lips to last at least 30 seconds on her vagina
lips. With practice you can do it this long.
Next, give her clit a couple of kisses, and then
start licking it like it’s an ice cream cone,
with your tongue flat, not pointed, and with not so
much pressure. She will tell you how much pressure
to give her. Run your fingertips gently along the
inside of her thighs and stomach while you gently
use your tongue on her. Use both of your hands to
give her your total attention.
A woman E-Mailed me this little tip. She says it
feels great: While you are going down on a woman,
VERY lightly (and only a few times), tap your
fingers against her clit to really get the
sensation heightened in that area...wait a few
seconds and then resume tongue action.
If your tongue is getting tired, you can either
give it a rest for a couple of minutes by using
your nose to rub her clit and its surrounding lips,
or keep your tongue stationary and move your head
around. The one thing you have to keep in mind is
to not let her know that you are getting tired. She
shouldn’t feel that you feel that you have to
stay down there until she comes. Let her know that
you love licking her. Don’t sigh or ask if she
is coming. NEVER ASK HER! Most women can’t
come because of pressure, and it doesn’t take
much for her to feel this. She should just lay
back, relax and enjoy what you are doing to her. No
pressure.
In addition to using your tongue, you should
also use your lubricated fingertip to vigorously
rub up and down her lips. Also, gently stretch and
jiggle them. The stretching can be very stimulating
for her. Don’t be afraid to grab a pinch of
both of her lips and stretch it slightly, but, do
it slow. Stretch it out, up and down and side to
side. Do this while licking her. If she
doesn’t come within, say, ten minutes, go back
to another part of her body. Maybe go back to
kissing her, to alleviate any slight pressure she
maybe feeling. Maybe you can just lie there for a
few minutes, letting her know that it’s okay,
and that the both of you can try again. Hold her in
your arms and just talk for a while. Sometimes you
have to do things like these. She may want you to.
It’s normal with women. It’s no
one’s fault.
ALL women agree on this: The key to giving her
good cunnilingus is to stay on her clit once you
are there. All the foreplay and all the kissing are
now over. She now wants you to stay directly on her
clit. DON’T MOVE ANYWHERE ELSE UNTIL SHE
COMES! It’s just like when you want her to
stay on your penis while she’s giving you a
blow job. So, licking her clit should be the very
last thing you do for her, even after stretching
and rubbing her lips. Also, her starting to moan
and saying “YES!” is not an indication
for you to go faster. Many, many men make this
mistake. Stay right at the same speed and position
until she comes! This is very important!
Also…USE HAND LOTION IF YOUR HANDS ARE ROUGH,
AND TRIM THOSE FINGERNAILS! This was an issue with
many women. It’s very soft and sensitive
inside their vagina, so the last thing you want to
do is scratch her. Trim your nails all the way
down, and then file them smooth.
I’m going to sound like I am contradicting
myself with this next paragraph, but a couple of
women have told me about this, so, what the hell,
here it is: Before you start licking her, tell her
to let you know when she is about to come. Then
when she tells you, stop licking, and then hold
your tongue against her clit, motionless, and wait
until her urge to come goes away. Then start
licking her all over again. When she says she is
about to come again, do the same process. Wait till
her urge goes away, and then start in on her again.
Do this only twice, because of the fact too many
women can lose that mood. Her third urge to come to
orgasm should lead to a fantastic feeling for her.
If done right, that is. It’s like you would do
with the vibrator, but with this you will be
holding your tongue motionless against her clit.
Heed warning, this may not work with most
women.
Part of giving her cunnilingus is of course
using your hands. Here is a little-known technique
that women like from their lover: Place your hand
over her whole vulva, with your fingers pointing
down and the heel of your hand over her clit. Apply
a medium pressure downward, with circular
movements. This increases her arousal. You can also
use your middle finger, making sure it’s
lubricated, from the hand you are using to
penetrate her at the same time. You could do this
just before going down on her.
You’ve read on how her clit is one of the
most sensitive parts of her body, but do you think
it’s a magic hot button for you whenever you
want her to come to orgasm? … Well, just like
all the other men who are thinking the same thing,
you would be wrong. It isn’t a full-proof way,
because sometimes she just can’t come when you
are stimulating it. She could be hot and horny, but
for some odd reason there are going to be times
when it isn’t going to happen. This is normal,
and it’s no one’s fault. It happens. You
have to give it a rest for about a half an hour, or
maybe less time, and then go back to it. “Over
stimulation” is a term many women are familiar
with.
Here are a few additional things she wants you
to do at the same time you are giving her
cunnilingus:
- "Don't just keep your face in one position,
and JUST lick me. Bury your face DEEP inside me,
and move your face around...."
- "Suck my inner lips and clit, lick them,
gently nibble on them, move your face around my
vagina. Do it all!"
- "Lightly run your fingertips on the back of
my leg, directly behind my kneecap. I love it
there!"
- "While you are licking me, rub and gently
scratch my thighs all over the place, especially
the inner thighs, next to my pu**y."
- "Ask me where my hot spots are below my
hips, and work those areas also."
- "For the first few minutes, go up and down
between my vagina and toes, sucking, licking and
kissing every square inch of area in between.
Then stay on my clit until I come."
Well, ok then!
Spicing Up The Missionary
Position
Getting a woman to come to a strong and satisfying
orgasm while in the missionary position is
something many, MANY men are on an ongoing search
to find out how to do. And since the average woman
would like to be face to face with her lover when
she comes, she too would like to know how to
achieve this.
Many couples who have been together for a while
think of the missionary position as boring, and,
not that stimulating for the woman. Of all the
positions, the missionary is the least popular, and
the most unimaginative. But, it doesn’t have
to be. And, on top of that (excuse the pun), from
that position, it's virtually impossible for most
women to come to orgasm because their clitoris
isn't being stimulated. Nearly all of a woman's
most sensitive nerves are on their clit, while the
less sensitive ones are on their inner lips, near
the opening. A woman can of course still come from
the stimulation of her inner lips, but it
wouldn’t be as strong as she would like it to
be.
The following is for the very few women out
there who can still have a satisfying orgasm with
your penis inside her, where her clit isn’t
being stimulated. Both can come to orgasm, while he
is inside her. Most women would prefer to come to a
strong orgasm while her lover is on top because she
is face to face with him. She is able to hold her
arms around him, while he does the same to her.
There are 5 ways to spice up the boring
missionary position. Let’s start off with the
first one.
ONE: Start off by gently taking the tip
of your penis and rubbing her clit and the
surrounding lips. (Use one of your hands to
separate her lips, while you use the other to rub
your penis on her clit.) Go in circular motions and
ask her if she can feel it. Do it slowly and
gently, then fast and rough. You can also rub your
penis across her nipples. This is an arousing sight
for some women.
Next, whisper in her ear: "Are you ready?" (One
woman commented that her boyfriend would always ask
first if he can go inside. This was very special
for her, since most men don’t do this. So, ask
first. Can I go inside? It is something that is
very nice, AND DIFFERENT, for her.) If she is
ready, begin to slide just the head of your penis
in her. Now pull it back out, and then put it back
in, just at the tip. Do this for about a minute or
two.
Now go in about a half-inch deeper, and do the
same thing as before. Take it out slowly and put it
back in her. … In and out, in and out. Do this
for another minute. The reasoning for this is to
tease her to the point of having that strong
desire.
Now put it in her all the way, kissing, gently
biting and hugging her at the same time. Kissing
and sucking her ears are one of the most important
things to do to her. Suck on her ear lobes. Lick
her whole ear. Imitate the sound of a snore and
slightly make that sound in her ear, at the same
time slightly letting your warm breath touch
it.
Another thing that works wonders is humming in
her ear. Let the vibrations from your mouth touch
her ear as you are humming. Rubbing your cheek up
against hers and rubbing your nose in her ear are
other things that make a big difference.
And, always remember to tell her how good she
feels. Also, tell her she smells absolutely
fantastic. Whisper things like that in her ear.
It’s little, insignificant things like that
that matter the most.
When you are in her all the way, whisper in her
ear if she wants you to stay where you are at, or
to keep penetrating. Some women like for you to
stay inside her, motionless, while she squeezes her
vagina muscles around your penis, while there are
others who want you to keep penetrating. When she
has that orgasm, it will be like a fantastic
explosion in her. She will have that feeling of
total satisfaction. This is the whole
purpose…to create this wonderful feeling for
her. A feeling that she should feel every time you
make love to her.
Many men just thrust in and out, in and out, in
and out at a continuous pace. Liven it up by going
slow for a about a minute or two, and then fast and
hard. You should also stop thrusting. Kiss and
caress her cheeks while you are motionless inside
her. Then start back up again. Break up the
monotony.
TWO: Another technique you can use to
give the missionary position an extra zip is to
have her raise her right leg until her knee is even
with your left shoulder. (Hold it up for her, while
kissing and licking it.) She should leave her left
leg flat on the bed. Then direct your thrusts
towards her inner thigh of her raised leg. By her
doing this, it stretches her vagina a little bit,
allowing for tighter penetration and more pressure
on her clit. Keep in mind that this technique
isn’t full proof with all women. Nevertheless,
experiment with it. At least she knows you like to
experiment in bed, which many women find appealing
in men.
THREE: When our head is upside down, we
feel a rush as blood pours in and oxygen is
depleted. For some women, combining this with
physical pleasure could heighten her orgasm. This
does have an affect with some women. Try this with
the next woman you are with (She will love all of
this experimenting!): Have her lie on her back
across the bed, with her head and shoulders
dangling over the edge. Make sure she keeps as much
of her lower back on the mattress as possible. And,
of course, stop if she becomes too
light-headed.
This angle you have her at shouldn’t be
reserved just for the missionary position. You
should also go down on her and / or use her
vibrator on her. Experiment with her when she is at
this angle.
FOUR: If you don't know about this little
toy already, the perfect toy for this position is a
small vibrator that is held to her clit by a thong
strap that goes around her hip. She will get both
the sensation from that and from your penis inside
of her! They come small enough to where they won't
get in your way while you are thrusting inside of
her. Be sure to ask the salesperson that it is
indeed small enough so it won't be in the way. Here
are a few good vibrators: Click
FIVE: And lastly, you can still hit her
clit while at the same time you are showing her
that you have some imagination for the missionary
position. Get high up on her so your hips are above
hers, and then enter her at a downward angle, very,
very slowly, making sure you rub down her clit when
penetrating her.
And don’t forget the pillow under her butt.
Jacking up her hips adds even more spice to this
position. With all this information at your
fingertips, you are now able to show her that this
position can be one of the most popular. You both
can now have fun at the same time, where she can
also come to orgasm. These techniques are also
perfect for the less-endowed men!
How Do You Know If You Want
Her For Her, Not Because You Can’t Have
Her?
Most people are like a little child wanting a toy.
The more mommy says no, the more that child will
want it. … Right? And when it comes to dating
women, the more she denies you, the more you want
her. Well, not all of us are like that, but a
surprising larger number of guys are. They simply
can’t let her go. There is just something
about here that he has to have.
Perhaps you are a little like this?
Here’s a little technique you can try, to
see if you really do want her for a relationship,
or your brain slid down to your dick again:
Yup, you guessed what I am about to say: After
you have had sex with one of your dates, you
masturbated or if you aren’t in one of those
horny moods that has you jumping on anything that
moves, sit down and think about this woman you are
interested in. … Are your thoughts and
feelings for her as strong as they were before?
Really think about it. If they aren’t, well,
you pretty much got your answer.
Many, many guys, when thinking with their John
Henrys, think about being in a relationship, but
once they have sex with their date, or after they
masturbate, they no longer think about being with a
woman.
Ah yes, the power of hormones!
Now, if you still want to be with her, you have
to know if she is indeed the right one for you,
never mind trying to get a date with her. That will
come later. What’s the sense of having all
these thoughts about her if she could be a
man’s worst nightmare? Once you start thinking
with your brain (you know, the one between your
ears?), instead of your little buddy, you’ll
have much better luck with women.
Go Down On Her Like
This....
A woman’s magazine, Redbook, did a survey in
the early part of 2005 on what’s the best way
a man can give a woman an orgasm. Of more than the
28,000 who responded, nearly all stated that oral
sex was definitely the one. Since the beginning of
time women love oral sex just as much as the men
do.
Next to the vibrator, this is a feeling they
love. This is an old survey, but it doesn’t
matter, because it will hold true for years. Women
love this as much as you love a good blow job. The
main thing to keep in mind is to go at it with
excitement; put your whole face into her vagina,
like a kid does when he puts his whole face into a
watermelon. Women love it! … More on this
later.
From the very beginning of making love to her,
suck on several strong mints. The purpose for this
is to not only give you fresh breath, but to give
her a tantalizing feeling when you go down on her.
The mint will pass through the skin tissue of her
vulva to her nerves. Keep in mind though that this
doesn’t work on all women. Nevertheless, try
it anyway. Make sure your mouth has that strong
mint inside, so suck on one more strong mint while
you are down by her legs, just before you move to
her vulva.
Most of her sensitive nerves in the vulva are in
the clit and in the outer edges of her inner
lips…especially the part that surrounds her
clit. Contrary to popular belief among so many men,
there is very little feeling when further inside
her. This means that many times she may want just
the head of your penis inside her, rubbing in and
out. The shape of our head is perfect for this, but
men put it in deeper, where there is less feeling
for her. Just inside her vulva also become the
tightest part during intercourse because it swells
with blood. Slow shallow fucking is something
nearly all men don’t do.
For nearly all women (NOT ALL), the sensitivity
on her clit and the lips that surround it is the
same as underneath and the tip of our dick. The
sensitivity of the outer lips of her vulva is the
same as the bottom of our penises, near the
stomach, would feel. The point past the outer edges
of her inner lips, as little as one inch deeper
inside her, are no more sensitive than our scrotum
would feel, which is pretty low. That gives you a
pretty good indicator on how sensitive each part of
her vulva is.
So, for all you guys with short penises, you
still wish for it to be longer??? When you hear so
much about how some women want a man with a big
penis, it’s because their fascination with it
is exactly the same as men have with big-breasted
women. That’s all! Some women may say they
want a big man because it feels great all the way
in, but these are the disillusioned ones. It is
very hard for them to feel it to the point of
“feeling great” because there aren’t
enough nerves there…PERIOD!
Picking back up from the previous page, you next
move from her inner thighs to her vulva, and then
gently open her lips and start licking the inside
lips, at the outer edges. Then, all of a sudden,
just like the kid putting his whole face in a
watermelon, you do the same with her vagina. Hands
down, ALL women love it when you do this! Rub your
whole face in her vagina with enthusiasm. Showing
your enthusiasm like this adds to her pleasure. It
makes a big difference! Make sure you are
absolutely clean-shaven! Stubble will ruin the
whole mood for her! Your face should be literally
as smooth as a baby’s butt!
After a little bit of this, start licking her
lips with the broad part of your tongue. She wants
your whole tongue on that area. Also, don’t
flick her clit. Most (not all) women don’t
like it. They get no arousal from it. Men see this
“flicking” on porno tapes, thinking this
is some great technique to use on her. For most
women, it’s not! Suck on her lips, drawing as
much of her lips into your mouth as you can. Women
love it when you put your mouth over her vulva and
suck on it, inserting your tongue in and out of her
at the same time.
Use what’s known as a “Hummer” on
her. This is when you have your mouth over her
vulva and/or her clit and then you hum. The
vibrations from your wet and hot mouth is an erotic
feeling for her. Do this while at the same time you
have your face completely in her vagina, moving it
all around. Another thing you can do is to give her
a raspberry. You know how you put your lips against
a woman’s neck and give her a raspberry?
… You know, like a parent does to their
baby’s stomach? Well, give her a raspberry on
her lips. Give her many, many raspberries, until
she comes! Learn to extend the vibrations from your
lips to last at least 30 seconds on her vagina
lips. With practice you can do it this long.
Next, give her clit a couple of kisses, and then
start licking it like it’s an ice cream cone,
with your tongue flat, not pointed, and with not so
much pressure. She will tell you how much pressure
to give her. Run your fingertips gently along the
inside of her thighs and stomach while you gently
use your tongue on her. Use both of your hands to
give her your total attention.
A woman E-Mailed me this little tip. She says it
feels great: While you are going down on a woman,
VERY lightly (and only a few times), tap your
fingers against her clit to really get the
sensation heightened in that area...wait a few
seconds and then resume tongue action.
If your tongue is getting tired, you can either
give it a rest for a couple of minutes by using
your nose to rub her clit and its surrounding lips,
or keep your tongue stationary and move your head
around. The one thing you have to keep in mind is
to not let her know that you are getting tired. She
shouldn’t feel that you feel that you have to
stay down there until she comes. Let her know that
you love licking her. Don’t sigh or ask if she
is coming. NEVER ASK HER! Most women can’t
come because of pressure, and it doesn’t take
much for her to feel this. She should just lay
back, relax and enjoy what you are doing to her. No
pressure.
In addition to using your tongue, you should
also use your lubricated fingertip to vigorously
rub up and down her lips. Also, gently stretch and
jiggle them. The stretching can be very stimulating
for her. Don’t be afraid to grab a pinch of
both of her lips and stretch it slightly, but, do
it slow. Stretch it out, up and down and side to
side. Do this while licking her. If she
doesn’t come within, say, ten minutes, go back
to another part of her body. Maybe go back to
kissing her, to alleviate any slight pressure she
maybe feeling. Maybe you can just lie there for a
few minutes, letting her know that it’s okay,
and that the both of you can try again. Hold her in
your arms and just talk for a while. Sometimes you
have to do things like these. She may want you to.
It’s normal with women. It’s no
one’s fault.
ALL women agree on this: The key to giving her
good cunnilingus is to stay on her clit once you
are there. All the foreplay and all the kissing are
now over. She now wants you to stay directly on her
clit. DON’T MOVE ANYWHERE ELSE UNTIL SHE
COMES! It’s just like when you want her to
stay on your penis while she’s giving you a
blow job. So, licking her clit should be the very
last thing you do for her, even after stretching
and rubbing her lips. Also, her starting to moan
and saying “YES!” is not an indication
for you to go faster. Many, many men make this
mistake. Stay right at the same speed and position
until she comes! This is very important!
Also…USE HAND LOTION IF YOUR HANDS ARE ROUGH,
AND TRIM THOSE FINGERNAILS! This was an issue with
many women. It’s very soft and sensitive
inside their vagina, so the last thing you want to
do is scratch her. Trim your nails all the way
down, and then file them smooth.
Again, communicate with her. Tell her how good
she tastes and that you love doing this for her.
This is very important.
I’m going to sound like I am contradicting
myself with this next paragraph, but a couple of
women have told me about this, so, what the hell,
here it is: Before you start licking her, tell her
to let you know when she is about to come. Then
when she tells you, stop licking, and then hold
your tongue against her clit, motionless, and wait
until her urge to come goes away. Then start
licking her all over again. When she says she is
about to come again, do the same process. Wait till
her urge goes away, and then start in on her again.
Do this only twice, because of the fact too many
women can lose that mood. Her third urge to come to
orgasm should lead to a fantastic feeling for her.
If done right, that is. It’s like you would do
with the vibrator, but with this you will be
holding your tongue motionless against her clit.
Heed warning, this may not work with most
women.
Part of giving her cunnilingus is of course
using your hands. Here is a little-known technique
that women like from their lover: Place your hand
over her whole vulva, with your fingers pointing
down and the heel of your hand over her clit. Apply
a medium pressure downward, with circular
movements. This increases her arousal. You can also
use your middle finger, making sure it’s
lubricated, from the hand you are using to
penetrate her at the same time. You could do this
just before going down on her.
You’ve read on how her clit is one of the
most sensitive parts of her body, but do you think
it’s a magic hot button for you whenever you
want her to come to orgasm? … Well, just like
all the other men who are thinking the same thing,
you would be wrong. It isn’t a full-proof way,
because sometimes she just can’t come when you
are stimulating it. She could be hot and horny, but
for some odd reason there are going to be times
when it isn’t going to happen. This is normal,
and it’s no one’s fault. It happens. You
have to give it a rest for about a half an hour, or
maybe less time, and then go back to it. “Over
stimulation” is a term many women are familiar
with.
Again, it doesn’t help if she feels
pressured in any way. Tell her that it’s okay
and the both of you will go back to it later, when
she’s ready. Let her know that it’s no
big deal.
Should you or should you not ask her to douche
first? I personally will always ask her first. Only
a couple of them gave me this look of being
insulted. I keep myself clean, thank you!! Well,
how do I know that? There is nothing wrong with
asking her to douche first. Just say this: Why
don’t you go to the bathroom and give yourself
a hot shower and douche, so I can explore your
whole body with my tongue. Or: I really love to
give cunnilingus, so why don’t you get
yourself fresh and ready for me. Just don’t
come out and ask in a crude way. Clean yourself so
I can lick it doesn’t sound appealing to
her.
After you go down on her, the one thing you
don’t want to do, which so many men do, is to
immediately get up and gargle and / or brush your
teeth. How insulting is that for her?! Hold her in
your arms for a few minutes more and talk some
more. Don’t just get up and go to the
bathroom. This will really make her feel
self-conscious. Also, don’t kiss her again
after going down on her, for the obvious reason.
Instead let her initiate it. Having her juice all
over your face as you kiss her again can spoil the
mood for many (not all) women. She may not care,
but why take the chance? Just hold her in your
arms.
Here’s another tip: Have a box of
decorative tissues by your bedside for those lucky
nights. Yes, it’s a feminine touch, but it is
for her, not for you! She will appreciate that
little thought. It’s one of those added little
bonuses that make you a better lover in her
eyes.
WARNING! Always remember about STD’s
(Sexually Transmitted Diseases). There are minor
diseases and infections from her vagina that you
can easily catch through your mouth. She could just
have a minor germ infection, but it can still be
transmitted to your mouth. You take your chances
when going down on a woman you barely know. The
smart thing to do is to wait for about a month, or
longer, to see if she is the kind of woman who
takes care of herself. And if she feels insulted if
you tell her that you would rather not go down on
her because of this possibility? … Well, ask
her if you can have intercourse with her without
the rubber. Then wait for that look of horror from
her face. If that doesn’t help her understand,
nothing will. She is selfishly thinking one
sided.
You should always try to get her to laugh in
bed, so ask her if she knows the difference between
sugar and Sweet & Low. Before she can answer
you, kiss her on the lips, telling her that’s
sugar, and then tell her this is Sweet & Low,
as you go down on her. Here’s another one:
While you are down by her calves, kissing them, ask
her if she would like a “Happy Ending.”
She may ask you what that means. Just ask her that
same question, with a big smile. When she says yes,
immediately put your whole face into her vagina.
You don’t want to ask her that question when
you are near her vagina, kissing her inner thighs,
since she will probably guess what you mean, thus
ruining it. Then again, she may already know what
it means. This is an expression Oriental masseuses
/ prostitutes use, just after giving a guy his
massage. I like it!
What Is “Sex
Appeal”?
Do you think you have sex appeal? Have women told
you that you have sex appeal? Do you even know what
it is?
Ok, listen up, here are the top things women
gave that makes a man have sex appeal:
1.) His physical looks, and / or his height. (No
brainer there, huh?)
2.) Scent
3.) Cleanliness
4.) Dressing nice (Doesn't mean fancy at all,
just have a little bit of style)
5.) Incredible, energetic smile; smiles a
lot
6.) Charasmatic personality
7.) Piercing eyes.
8.) The way he looks at me when we're talking
and / or when I walk into the room
9.) Sense of humor
10.) Intelligence
11.) Self confidence
12.) His kisses
13.) I like a man who is very charasmatic and
outgoing, adventurous, a little on the edge (close
with adventurous I guess), and he has the
confidence to pull it off. I like a man who can say
what he means, and then do it.
Sounds simple enough to have sex appeal, huh?
Hmmmm….
Moving Smoothly From
Cunnilingus, To Intercourse
I read this from a guy who had a hard time moving
from licking his woman to intercourse (in
part):
….so I've been down on her a couple of
times, which I love to do, but she pretty much just
lies there, and aside from heavy breathing when's
she close, she is pretty much silent the rest of
the time. Afterwards she doesn’t say anything
about having intercourse. Maybe she is a virgin, I
don’t know, but I'm having a hard time going
to the next level, I've always been with aggressive
girls in the past that pretty much told me when it
was time for sex.
I don't think she is going to ask for sex...do
you gracefully bring it up? Say something like,
“Do you want me to put something on?” I'm
just not sure. I feel like it's time, but who knows
what she is feeling. I can't talk about it. I
don’t know how to bring it up.
Does this sound familiar to some of you?
Here’s a smooth and quick way to move up to
the next level, without saying a word about it:
Next time, wear nothing but a nice-looking robe,
or nice-looking boxers. Choose a fabric that feels
good on her skin while you are laying on her.
Keep a condom within reach. Make sure it is
opened and halfway out.
After you have gone down on her, move your way
back up to her face, kissing and gently biting her
body along the way. You should be laying on her and
in between her legs when you are back up to her
face.
Kiss her for another minute or two before you
start to rub up against her slowly. Kiss her at the
same time while doing this for about a minute.
Then, while still kissing her, open up your
robe, or take off your boxers. Rub the outside of
her vagina with your penis for another minute or
two. While doing this, reach over for the condom,
which is ready to be taken out with ease. Put it
on, and then slip it in. Continue kissing her.
You took it slowly and in steps, so there
shouldn't be ANY misunderstandings.
How To Have A Perfect
Threesome
With two women, that is! When doing a threesome,
many men think that they have to divide their time
up between the two women. Spend a couple of minutes
kissing and caressing one woman, and then spending
a couple of minutes with the other woman...back and
forth, back and forth....
Doing a threesome like this is kind of
ridiculous if you think about it. Most men don't
like threesomes, and they think that it is
over-hyped, and that most people don't do it.
It more than likely is. And it takes a rare
woman to participate in a threesome, anyway.
Lesbians are more prone to do this.
If you are lucky enough to get two women at the
same time, my hat is off to you.
Now, if you haven't the faintist idea on how to
satisfy them without looking like an idiot, below
are a few positions you can try.
And don't worry if they brought up the idea,
they already know what to do with you. Just make
sure you're up to the task. Excuse the pun.
Here are a few tips to keep in mind first:
1. Rent videos on threesomes for some excellent
ideas.
2. Start off with positions where you satisfy
them first. It's bad enough you going limp too soon
on one woman, but two at the same time?!
If they bring up the idea of a threesome, they
more than likely have done it before, so they will
probably put you in the kind of positions they want
so you won't come too fast.
It should work like this:
After you give them their first orgasm, it will
then be your turn. After that, choose different
positions to give them their second orgasm. While
you are doing that, hopefully enough time will pass
so you can get a full erection for round two for
you.
3. Some men keep a Strap On handy for
emergencies, or, if the women want to keep going
and going and going and going....
Be sure to use a condom on your Strap On.
"You're not using that on me! I don't know where
that's been!"
You get the idea.
4. Mirror their paced movements. If they go
fast, you go fast. If they go slow and loving, you
go slow and loving.
5. Have a plate of fruit (grapes, cherries,
apple, orange slices...) handy for them to munch on
afterwards. You can't go wrong with fruit. Perhaps
a bottle of wine, also? Keep it light and
simple.
Ok, now here are some positions to get your
imagination going.
First Position:
Lay on your back so one woman can sit on your
penis, while the other sits on your face so you can
lick her clit.
This is a favorite for lesbians, because they
can caress each other's breasts and kiss, while
their clits are being stimulated at the same
time.
Straight women will not face one another (well,
most of the time, that is), so it will be like two
girls ridding a pony.
Giddy up!
Second Position:
One woman is on her back, while you straddle her
face so she can give you a blow job. The second
woman will be standing in front of the both of you
where you can either use her favorite vibrator on
her and/or lick her.
She can also be lying down. Can you picture that
position???
After you satisfy the woman with your tongue
and/or her vibrator, the women will switch
positions.
Third Position:
Here is something that you may not enjoy, but
then again....
Either standing, keeling or laying on top of one
another, the first woman has on a Strap On, in
which she is penetrating your butt, and you are
second in line where you are doing the first woman
doggie style.
Ok, so you may not like it!
Fourth Position:
The women will be on her hands and knees, facing
away from you so you can use their vibrators on
them from behind. They also can be lying down, of
course.
Fifth Position:
The first woman is on her hands and knees so you
can do her doggie style, while the second woman is
sitting on her back facing you so the two of you
can kiss, and you can gently pinch her nipples.
Sixth Position:
The first woman is lying on her back, the second
woman is laying on her stomach, licking the first
woman's clit, while you are doing her doggie style.
Once the first woman has been satisfied, the women
change positions.
Enjoy
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Perry
Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles
on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the
author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For
Women About Men. & Women and Sex And
Dating, For The Single Man published by
Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from
complete strangers, to finding that right person to
be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men
and women on what they like and want from one
another. The findings were published in Women,
Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site
is bettersexbetterdating.com
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