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A Woman’s G-Spot…Her Most Sexual Hot Spot!
Do Penis Enlargement Supplements Work?
Fire In The Hole!
14 Kinds Of Kisses That Will Make Her Horny. … Well, Hopefully!
Go Down On Her Like This....
How Do You Know If You Want Her For Her, Not Because You Can’t Have Her?
How To Have A Perfect Threesome
Moving Smoothly From Cunnilingus To Intercourse
Premature Ejaculation…How To Last Longer
Spicing Up The Missionary Position
The “Spoon Position”…The, Almost, Perfect Sex Position!
What Is “Sex Appeal”?
Where To Find A Sex Buddy…And How To Ask Her To Be One!
Why Do So Many Women Fake Orgasms?

Premature Ejaculation…How To Last Longer


Too many men, especially the younger ones, take this issue way too seriously. Just because they ejaculate in around five minutes, they think they suffer from premature ejaculation. The average ejaculation time for men between teenage years and 40-years old is within 8 minutes. With nearly every man out there who thinks he has a problem wit premature ejaculation, it simply is not the case.

Yes, there are many men who can't hold themselves from ejaculating too quickly, but nearly all men can prevent this from happening, without having to seek medical attention. They simply over exaggerate it.

In 2004, the American Medical Association published a journal that was based on data from the 2003 National Health and Social Life Survey, a collection of interviews with 1,749 women and 1,410 men aged 18 to 59.

One-third of men said they had recurring problems with climaxing too early, 14 percent said they had no interest in sex.

One-third of the men said that they had recurring problems with climaxing too early??? Were they even asked how much time elapsed before they ejaculated. It was more than likely the average time, but these guys thought that they should have lasted longer.

14 percent said that they had no interest in sex?! This study wasn't looking at the whole picture. Many of these guys that made up that 14 percent said that because they don't think about sex, because they can't find that right woman to settle down with, and / or they aren't very good with women, so, they just stop thinking about sex. Many men have admitted to this very real fact. So, that 14% of men did not have a real medical problem.

I’m not going to get into the medical reasons, because, quite frankly that is what a Urologist is for. This article is about men who CAN hold off their ejaculation for at least fifteen minutes, but they don't know how. It's rather simple, after you get done reading about it.

However, I need to include the following:

Testosterone Boosters And Over-The Counter Medicines Can Contribute To Premature Ejaculation

Poor climax control is commonly reported in males taking "natural testosterone boosters" and in those using "Anabolic Steroids". Supplements that contain testosterone precursors such as androstenedione, androstenediol, and their many derivatives, including DHEA have the ability to increase free testosterone levels. Additionally, most "Anabolic Steroids" can have the same effect. While increased testosterone levels is a principal reason these supplements are so popular, one of the results of increasing free testosterone levels is that it also increases dopamine levels (a neurotransmitter) in the brain and spinal cord. Elevated dopamine levels in males are directly related to a decrease in ejaculatory control, often resulting in early climax.

Certain over-the-counter medicines can also be the blame. Stimulant medicines, for example, such as pseudoephedrine and ephedrine are common components in cough & cold, allergy and sinus, weight loss products and "party-drug" stimulants. These products all stimulate the brain. Use of these products within 6-12 hours prior to sex can cause many males to ejaculate more quickly. If you have a GENUINE problem, consult a Urologist.

To prevent themselves from coming too fast, many men think about other things, like baseball or their old teacher, who they hated. This is NOT what you should be doing. To make your sex life more pleasurable, your mind should be solely on her.

Men, who have a genuine problem, have tried anesthetic based creams and sprays, and they have found that it numbs their penis, along with their partner's clitoris and vagina. So, these half-ass products are not the answer. Because of those drawbacks, few males try those products more than once or twice. Women don't like their partner to use those products because it significantly detracts from their sexual pleasure. Genuine Urologists, who know what they are talking about do not recommend these alternatives.

Speaking of which, you will find thousands of snake-oil salespeople on the Internet peddling their garbage. Did you read our article, "Do Penis Enlargement Alternatives Work?"? Not only are there con artists who peddle pills that supposedly enlarge your penis, there are others, or the same ones who peddle pills that supposedly stops premature ejaculation. Their typical sales pitch is that there are herbs that help the body from ejaculating too early. It's the exact same pitch that you read in enlarging the penis. These must be some powerful herbs!

Many of these sites that peddle pills that supposedly enlarge your penis, and helps premature ejaculating are almost identical, right down to the con artists dressed in doctor coats. If these work, why aren't, GENUINE, Urologists recommending them? Why aren't these products in the pharmacies?

Why It's Not Necessary To Last Longer Than The Average Eight Minutes

As mentioned in the beginning of the article, too many men, especially the younger ones, take this issue way too seriously. Just because they ejaculate in around five minutes, they think they suffer from premature ejaculation. The average ejaculation time for men between teenage years and 40-years old is no more than eight minutes. That's normal.

Perhaps you are thinking: “Eight minutes?!” I can't even last that long! Actually, you can. You just aren't trying hard enough. But, before we go into the technique for lasting much longer than that, let us tell you why you don't even need to last longer that the average eight minutes.

1. First of all, the average time for a woman to come to orgasm is within the same eight minutes. Many can come within just a few minutes. Like you can also.

2. A good lover will always satisfy the woman first. Give her her first orgasm, and then it will be your turn. Shortly after you have ejaculated and lied there with her in your arms, cuddling, the both of you will be able to go at it again. You can get another erection shortly after ejaculating anyway, so why worry about lasting longer??? When you two are ready for round two, your body will be up to the task again.

3. A woman's vagina can take so much penetrating before it gets sore. Her body can produce just enough lubrication for less than fifteen minutes of constant penetration. So, again, why would you want to last longer, if she can't take any more to begin with? Between each love-making session, your body will be recuperating, so you can get another erection, while her body will be recuperating, so it can produce more lubrication. This doesn't take very long at all.

4. It's a common belief among too many men that women want a man to stay hard. If he goes limp, then the night is over. You've seen it in the movies, where she has this disappointed look on her face, or, she yells out: "Don't come yet!" This is just bull. Why? Because nearly all women can only come to orgasm through clit stimulation, and your penis cannot do this properly, because of the angle. They would prefer you to satisfy them with passionate kissing and either you going down on her or using a vibrator to stimulate her clit. In addition to that, they prefer cuddling after their first orgasm. You know how women are.

This is why it isn't necessary to last longer than the usual eight minutes. Most women can't hold their orgasms longer than that,

Now, let's get into a very simple, yet effective technique for lasting longer. Masters & Johnson, the famous sex therapists, first came up with this for their patients, which they later put in their best selling book at that time.

This is very simple. When you feel yourself coming, stop what you are doing, and don't move until the feeling goes away. Once it does, slowly go back to the motion. Once you feel yourself coming again, stop, and remain still until it goes away. Do this several times, every time you are making love to a woman or masturbating. In fact, you can get in plenty of practice from masturbating. No joke intended.

What you are doing is plainly obvious. You are training your body and brain to hold off the orgasm for just a few seconds more. As time goes by, with you training yourself, you will find that you can last up to fifteen minutes of constant thrusting if you want. Although she wouldn't want it, because, again, most women's bodies can't produce enough fluid to keep their vaginas from drying out for that long. So you may not even want to shoot for fifteen minutes. It's not really necessary.

When doing this technique with your lover, be in your most favorite position. You may have read from other sources that instruct you to do the opposite, because when you are in your favorite position, it will only make you come faster. Well, you want to be in your favorite position, because you WANT to train your brain and body. Why stay away from your favorite position?!

If you are VERY sensitive to being inside of a woman, to where you come to orgasm with juts a few minutes, you may want to buy a "Pocket Pussy." This may sound strange to many of you, but a pocket pussy fells almost like the real thing. Using this sex toy to practice with works wonders. Don't laugh. It works.

Start doing this training right now. In just a few weeks, maybe longer, you will find that you can hold your orgasms from happening longer. It's a surprisingly effective technique.

There is another technique (not from Masters and Johnson), where you pinch the base of your penis for thirty seconds when you feel yourself about to come. But what woman wants to have you pinching your penis for thirty seconds while you are straddling her? It’s not a very stimulating sight for her. Have you ever thought of that? So, we won't even discuss that so-called "technique."

Do Penis Enlargement Supplements Work?


Now there’s a question asked by God knows how many men!

There use to be this typical ridiculous commercial on television that was from a snake-oil sales outfit called "Longitude." They claimed that by taking their pills, your penis will enlarge by one inch in 30 days. This commercial had the typical very attractive woman in a bikini telling the male viewers that women want a man with a huge penis; that it is very important to them. Her name was Amy Lynn, a Penthouse pet. WOW! Impressive! Hardly. She said: "Hey, guys. Have you ever wondered what women secretly say behind their lover’s back? In a recent study, 67% said that they were unhappy with the size of their male partner. Turns out size does matter to us after all." It's the typical sales pitch.

"Recent study," huh? Yeah, okay. There’s a study we all can believe in. She went on by saying that Longitude has documented success in male girth up to 3 full inches, and that results are evident in 3 short weeks. She ends it by saying: "So take it from me, a Penthouse pet, muscles, money and looks matter, but women really want a bigger man." Typical.

Longitude was shut down in 2000 by the F.D.A. (Food and Drug Administration the F.C.C. (Federal communications Corp.) for lying about what is inside their pills, and for other dealings. Since then, they more than likely started back up another name.

Okay, now it is time for you to use your common sense. First of all, no ingredient can do such a thing, because your penis is made of muscle, and the only way to enlarge any kind of muscle is to work out with weights, and you can't increase the size of that particular muscle for the obvious reason. Even if there was a way, the girth would enlarge, not the length. Just like every other muscle in your body. That’s the way muscle works.

And here's another thing, and think for one second: If these pills really do work, why aren’t pharmacies carrying them, like they carry Viagra?

The following are legitimate herbs that do help the blood circulate, among other health benefits, but snake-oil outfits that peddle their garbage make it out more than it really is. They say that these are the kinds of herbs that are in their capsules, and that it can enlarge the penis, because it increases more than the usual blood flow to that region.

  • Ginkgo Biloba
  • Zinc Nettle Leaf
  • Yohimbe Cayenne
  • Maca Pumpkin Seed
  • Catuaba Sarsaparilla
  • Muira Pauma Licorice Root
  • Oyster meat Astragalus
  • I-Arginne Tribulus
  • OatStraw Ginseng
  • Maca Root
  • Yohimbe Bark
  • Cuscuta Seed

Again, these herbs does help increase the blood circulation throughout the whole body, among other things, but, it takes A LOT to do it. So much that man-made medicines had to be created. Herbs do help out with our health, but they still have little effect. If they did legitimate doctors would be carrying them.

Viagra doesn't carry one herb, because such herbs simply do not work to the point of increasing blood circulation to the penis area.

How These People Protect Themselves From Being Shut Down And/Or Prosecuted And From Being Sued By You, The Consumer

During the past few years, these con artists have gotten smart. They know that they can easily be shut down or prosecuted by the authorities, like the Attorney General's office. Which, by the way, many have already been shut down. So, these people now play it much smarter. To protect themselves, they say that "it is used for men who can't get a full erection, due to poor blood circulation. For men who can get get their penis to only half its size, the herbs contained, could, increase the blood flow in that area, thus giving them a full erection." This covers their butt for when they say that their product can add 2-3 inches to a penis. They also say that "results can vary." It's a smart way of covering their butts. Lawyers must have helped them out.

From the beginning, some con artist, maybe not from Longitude, came up with a brilliant idea to make some fast money by making these herbs out to be more than they can actually do, which isn’t much to begin with. (Besides, more than likely there isn't that many herbs, if any at all, in these pills.) Since then, there are now thousands of others who have jumped on the bandwagon with similar exclaims, and similar ingredients.

Just take a look at the Internet! You see some sites that have words like:

"Give your woman what she wants."

"Dedicated team of researchers...."

"Medically proven...."

"Doctor Approved,"

"Clinically tested...."

"A recent clinical study has validated it's potency."

And so on, and so on. Then you get pictures of these shysters dressed in a doctor's coat. Some have a stethoscope around their neck. Oh, they go all out to rip you off.

A good example of such a snake-oil sales outfit is albionmedical.com With this particular site, they may or may not be doctors, but just keep in mind that if there are doctors involved in this scam, it means they have no ethics.

Remember these two things:

1. If these work so well, why aren't pharmacies carrying them?

2. There were thousands of, legitimate, labs from around the world when trying to find the cure to male impotence before one came up with Viagra. Yet there is nothing about these other pills you see advertised on the Internet, or in ridiculous commercials. It's a worldwide scam that works only on men who don't use their common sense.

Basically all of these snake-oil people say the same thing: The more blood that goes into the penis, the larger it becomes. One Internet site states:

An erection occurs when the penis fills with blood. A small amount of blood enters the Corpus Spongiosum, which is the chamber used primarily for urination and ejaculation. The remainder of the blood enters the Corpus Cavernosum, which is a sponge-like tissue that acts as the main blood-holding chamber of the penis. Penis size is limited in terms of length and girth by the capacity of the Corpus Cavernosum. It would be impossible for your penis to grow larger in itself, since, when a full erection occurs, the blood, which enters the penis is already expanding the Corpus Cavernosum to its maximum capacity. As a result, the only true method of penis enlargement is to expand the actual blood-holding capacity of the Corpus Cavernosum. By forcing more blood into that canal, it will, overtime, become larger and larger, then, in turn, your penis will become larger and larger.

That’s basically all of these shyster’s selling point. Yes, there are many such legitimate herbs that have been known to increase blood flow throughout the body, not just in the penis region, and it has been proven to do just that, such as the ones listed, but it doesn’t give you a larger penis by the method you just read. It is physically impossible, because…the blood flow still wouldn’t be strong enough to stretch the CORPUS CAVERNOSUM. Again, use your common sense.

When they were in business, the peddlers of Longitude said that their pills had many of these herbs. This was proven not to be true, which was one of the reasons why they were pulled from the airwaves. Many shysters now have the herbs, but, here's the catch: How much is in each capsule? It is more than likely just a trace of each ingredient.

There was another company with the same claims, but they didn’t list the ingredients. You take two pills a day, and voila, you have grown several inches to your penis. We had the pills analyzed, and the lab told us that it was made mostly of sugar and flour, with only small traces of Ginseng, Nettle leaf, Catuaba and Cayenne. ... VERY small traces.

If you want to know more about these herbs, read TODAY’S HERBAL HEALTH, by Louise Tenney, M.H. It lists many of them that does increases blood flow, but not as much as one may expect. It would take a lot. Just keep in mind that the blood flow is not strong enough to add inches to the penis. It’s quite an imaginative idea for ripping people off.

With some of these snake-oil sales outfits, they state in their web sites that they have 24-hour support from "trained specialists." Yeah, right. I called a several of these numbers, and it went straight to an answering machine. What a surprise. There are no "trained specialists" or a "trained medical staff."

You may think: “What the hell. Why not? It’s backed by a 100% guarantee.”

Well, let’s take a closer look at this 100% guarantee. Did you know that with some of these outfits they will still rip you off? Say you finish half the bottle, and you see no results. You return it, asking for your money back, but they come back saying that all the pills have to be used to receive the desired results. And then when you do finish the rest of the pills, they don’t bother returning your calls. What are you going to do, sue them, for what, $50.00, the price for the pills? The filing fee will cost you at $30.00. Then you have to take a day off from work. It isn’t worth it. This is how many of these shysters get away with it. Ignore such guarantees on ANY product. (With anything you buy, if it can’t be bought through the store, don’t buy it.) Besides, many of them have an escape clause. On the bottle it may read: Results may vary. It’s a play of words. So much for those guarantees.

Also, on a couple of these sites, we found where they stated that it has been "clinically analyzed." So what? We had one product clinically analyzed, and it showed it to be nothing but worthless crap. If they are stating that is has been clinically analyzed, why aren’t the results shown? Which they didn't.

There is yet another one web site, massivemember.com that states that their program has been rated #1 by MEN’S FITNESS. We called MEN’S FITNESS and asked about it. It was news to the person we spoke with. The representative has have never heard of this site. This site has testimonials from past customers (supposedly), but there isn’t one from MEN’S FITNESS??? Well now, isn’t that strange.

They also claim to be able to enlarge your penis up to 4 full inches, but they don’t tell you how it is done. Surprise!

Like we mentioned before, if these supplements work so great, why aren’t pharmacies carrying them, like they do with Viagra??? Now there’s a product that works. For years medical / drug labs throughout the entire world have been trying to come up with a drug to prevent impotency in men. You don’t think all these labs, which probably run into the thousands, haven’t already tested the herbs you just read? So it’s pretty obvious these "amazing natural remedies" aren’t much help.

Do you know that there is not one herb in Viagra? Now there’s a clue for you. To know more about this product, how it works, and its ingredients, call 1-800-438-1985, or, visit viagra.com

Penis Pumps

Here is another gimmick that has made makers millions of dollars. Penis pumps. As long as there are dumb men out there, these things will sell. There are hundreds of different styles, and with that are probably hundreds of different claims!

Here is a typical sales pitch that you may have read on the Internet:

All penis enlargement pumps operate on essentially the same premise. If you increase blow flow to the shaft and tip of the penis and maintain continuous flow to the area for a period of time each session, you will build up the size and width of the penis. By keeping the penis in a heightened state of arousal and pulling blood into the shaft, the muscles of the penis are enlarged and strengthened. The muscle tissue expands to the maximum, breaks down, and then rebuilds into larger and stronger muscles, similar to body-building.

On the surface it would make sense, but if you think about it, and use your common sense, you will see it as a cleverly-designed sales pitch from snake-oil salespeople. The muscle tissue does not get broken down, like what is done through working out with weights, because there is not enough force from the blood flow to do this. And just like the pills, if this works, why aren't doctors, who specialize in men's impotency, recommending them? Why aren't they in pharmacies? The only places that it can be found are in Adult toy stores, the back of men's magazines and from the Internet. What does that tell you?

Penis pumps can't even bring the blood to the penis to the point of making it erect, because the only thing that can do that is your...HEART! Here's a crude, but experiment to try. Do you have a vacuum cleaner? It does the same thing as a pump does. It sucks the air in from around your penis. It's a crude thing to say, but it is basically the same thing.

Our blood can't be pumped by any means, other than our heart, because it is inside of our bodies. There has to be air in order to do this, like siphoning gas from your gas tank, and there is no air in our bodies. Again, use your common sense.

To make it out that it is possible to bring the blood to the penis, snake-oils salespeople of these pumps say that once the blood is in the penis, you use a clamp, which is at the base of the pump that you use to clamp your penis, so the blood stays in. They make it out that the pump works. After all, why would they have a clamp, and have instructions on how to use the clamp? Yeah, okay.

We have read articles from Internet magazines that were about penis enlargement alternatives. The writers talked about the dangers of penis pumps, that it can rupture the blood vessels if not used properly. That by itself told us that these so-called writers just made up their articles.

And what about hanging weights? Yes, they can stretch the penis muscle, like any other muscle, but...do you really want to stretch a muscle that you rely on to give you an erection?! It's risky. Besides, the muscle can stretch, at the very most, an inch. It then constricts back to its original size within a couple of days, if not sooner.

The Only Way To Enlarge Your Penis Is With Surgery

Hundreds, perhaps thousands of successful surgeries are done every single day. It is a very common and simple procedure. There is a separate muscle inside your body that attaches to the penis. The bottom of your stomach has to be opened in order to cut that muscle, which in turn releases about ¾ to one inch. It’s sort of like one rope holding on to another rope, taking up the second rope’s slack. Why our sexual organ is made like this, only God knows. After a few weeks of healing time, a small weight is attached to the penis to keep it from constricting during the healing process. The final result is maybe an inch in added length. It's not much, but that is the REALITY of it. Fat is then injected for wider girth. The maximum girth size is maybe an inch.

That’s the ONLY way to enlarge your penis. Even then it still won’t gain you no more than an inch. Maybe the medical profession can do better later on down the road, like they have with breasts implants, but for now that’s all you are going to get.

You may have read articles on this subject that this isn't recommended, because, they state, some studies have shown that suspensory ligament cutting in order to enlarge the penis actually causes a "shortening" of the penis to take place, due to scar formation in the void of the ligament.

Yes, that's true. IF, you chose a doctor who doesn't know what he is doing! It's a little detail that is left out in these articles. Also, con artists who push their herb pills quite often state this. They list all the negatives of penis enlargement alternatives (surgery, stretching, penis pumps), and then they turn around and give you the positives of their pills. It's a typical sales ploy.

Surgery is the only way to enlarge your penis. It's safe, and VERY effective. Look through your yellow pages for such a procedure. If you are considering on doing it, make damn sure you get a good doctor. How long has he been doing this procedure? Are there any complaints logged against him? Check him out! And don’t go by his references. Of course he will have such a list. That doesn’t tell you what kind of a doctor he is, because all doctors have a reference list.

drwhitehead.com is a site run by a Doctor E. Douglas Whitehead, where he gives an overview, with pictures of the procedure. We can't recommend him because we do not know his background. It's better to consult with a doctor in your area, rather from the Internet. For the obvious reason!

Why Do So Many Women Fake Orgasms?


Why do so many women fake an orgasm? On the surface it wouldn't make a bit of sense. But, nevertheless they do. Here are their reasons why, and what you can do to get your lover to be more open with you.

First off, women fake it because they want to get it over with. She is not going to be properly lubricated for your hard, dry penis if she is not properly stimulated, or not in the mood.

When she is in the mood, her body can only secrete enough of her body fluids (vaginal lubricant) for about ten to fifteen-minutes of intercourse. Now if she isn’t in the mood, there will, of course, be much less lubrication. It will start to feel uncomfortable for her after just so long of penetration. By her faking it, she wants you to now satisfy yourself before she goes dry and it starts to feel uncomfortable.

So why doesn’t she just use KY jelly (lubricant)? Well, what if she is tired and she doesn’t want it in her vagina because she then has to go to the bathroom to wash it out? It’s not really being selfish or lazy on her part. She could be just tired, and she wants to get to sleep. Another reason why so many fake it is because they may not want to hurt the feelings of their man. This poor guy is trying to satisfy her, and what is she going to tell him? … “No dear, I still can’t feel anything.” Ummm, ouch!

So instead of saying that and bruising his ego, she will fake it. These two reasons, in a nutshell, are why women fake orgasms.

You have heard that women prefer to just cuddle and hug. Well this isn’t entirely true. Many women like sex. It’s just that too many men don’t know how to properly satisfy them. With a lot of women, men give them a wham, bam, thank you ma'am. The average guy will give her a few kisses, a couple of sucks on her nipples and he’s in her faster than she knows what’s going on. She has probably been vaccinated slower than that.

It shouldn’t be a mystery on why so many women aren’t into sex as much as men are. For such a seemingly simple thing, there certainly is a lot to be learned when it comes to making love to a woman and satisfying her. Once you do know what she likes, then your lovemaking with her will be the most satisfying and exciting experience you will have ever had with a woman. Because of the way you made her feel she will then want it more often. Not as much as you, but she will be more responsive and aggressive than before.

The way to get her to stop faking is to first stop going through the same ol’ boring routine of a few kisses here and there, with just a couple of sucks on her nipples, and then taking the plunge, how about taking your time on her and really making her feel good? Men’s hormones are totally different from a woman’s. Men think about sex a lot more than women do. Men get a hard on from just the wind blowing. Women get turned on from the caressing and kissing. They like to be touched a lot more than men do.

At least 80% of a woman’s body is sensitive to the touch, while a man’s is less than 20%. The most sensitive parts on a man is his buttocks and around his groin. For the women, it’s her stomach, all of her legs and most of her backside. So that should tell you that she needs much more touching to put her more in the mood. Before you enter her, take your time and give her the feeling her body wants. Her body is built for that. Treat it as such. (Many of them, NOT ALL, even get turned on from watching and / or reading love stories.) A lot of touching and patience is the main thing to keep in mind if you want to be the best lover she has ever had.

Another thing you can do is to let her know that you don't expect her to come to orgasm all the time. Tell her that you understand that there are times when you aren't in the mood.

Communication, putting yourself in her position, and knowing how to make love to her are the keys to getting her to stop faking orgasms.

This may not make sense to some of you, but you have to be a good friend who listens, and one who is also a good lover.

And, once she does stop faking orgasms, you know you've done your job as a good lover for her! It's as simple as that. Not many men get that.

14 Kinds Of Kisses That Will Make Her Horny. … Well, Hopefully!


Ok, these kisses are what women have told me, so pay attention.

Women love to kiss and hug, so part of satisfying her and being a good lover is to know how to be a good kisser. And believe it or not, long sessions of kissing, lasting at least twenty minutes, can actually have some women come to an orgasm. Kissing for her is very sensuous for them.

But, nearly all men think that kissing means she wants sex. It doesn’t! There’s a time for just kissing, and, a time for kissing and sex. Don’t mix the two up. Most women like to just kiss and kiss and kiss, so don’t spoil it for her by grabbing her breasts. She will let you know, or you both will know just by the look in each other’s eyes when it’s time. Until then, hands off! Give her your trust so she knows that the both of you can kiss without the sex being involved. She may have had bad experiences with guys in the past who went too fast, too soon.

Also, on those first dates, don’t French kiss her, opening the mouth and/or sticking your tongue in her mouth, unless she initiates it, since this is more sexual.

Men dive right into it. Show her that you are different by starting with simple kisses only. The following are tips to make you more appealing and to get her hormones going before you lend her your lips:

1. Always have fresh breath. Floss and brush your teeth at least twice a day. Brush your tongue because that’s the main area you want to keep clean. Use A LOT of breath mints. Nothing can spoil the mood faster than bad breath!

2. Use a flavored lipgloss if you have chapped lips. Better yet, use it even if you don’t have chapped lips. She’ll love the taste. Don’t use some bad-tasting Vaseline or anything she may not like. Now if you don’t like her lipstick, don’t be afraid to tell her so. Maybe she has a flavored brand you may enjoy.

3. Have a clean-shaven face. Most, not all, women prefer this. They like to kiss a face that’s baby soft. Some women like stubble, but most don’t.

4. Don’t forget to wear one of the women’s favorite colognes. It’s much better when you smell great for her while you are kissing her.

Now you are ready for some kissing and gentle biting that she probably very rarely receives from a man. Just remember, just like making love to her, you have to be slow and passionate. That is one of the things most (NOT ALL) women think makes a man a good lover.

1. Shy Kiss: This is the kind of kiss you should start off with, whether it’s a first date or not. Start off by giving her that look. You know, the kind of look a person gives when they want to kiss you. Look kind of sexy towards her, looking at her lips and deep into her eyes. Give her a devilish, child-like smile. Move your face towards hers slowly, still looking at her lips and eyes. Look for any reaction from her while doing this. Does she want you to kiss her or is it a definite no? Move in closer until you are about two inches from her lips. Now stop for a brief moment and look into her eyes, and then at her lips. Then give her a light kiss on her lips. Move away a couple of inches, no more, and see how she reacts to this? Of course this is the best on those first dates.

2. Passionate Kiss: Start off slowly by giving her small, little kisses at the corner of the mouth, and then switching to the other side of the corner, going back and forth, all the while moving closer to the center of her lips. Move slowly and passionately until you are at the center of her lips. Then run your fingertip across her lips and then pucker up and lay one on her, holding her face with both of your hands on the last kiss. The kiss on the center of her lips should last at least thirty seconds. Use your lips to tug on hers and slightly bite on her lips at the same time.

Two other variations to this is to hold the back of the head with just one hand, while using your other hand to hold her cheek. The second variation is to hold her head with both hands so you can massage and scratch her head gently, and to gently pull on her hair, while kissing her. Women love this last variation. Massaging, slow scratching, and especially gently pulling her hair as you are kissing her is something women don’t get from men. Also, rub your cheek up against hers a few times, while still holding her other cheek or the back of her head. This is a must! Try it!

3. Static Kiss: Without touching one another, stand face to face on a rug, and start rubbing your feet across the carpet. Then lean forward and kiss her. I read one lame book on this subject that stated you should do it in the dark, because that way you can see the spark. You can’t see it because of the position your face is in. Pass on that not-thought-out idea.

4. Open-Mouth Kiss: This is a combination of French kissing and opening both of your mouths, pressing them together, and then closing them and puckering at the same time. It’s sort of like closing your mouth around an ice-cream cone and then puckering your lips as you are completing the sucking of the ice cream. But, let her initiate it first, because she may not want to go that far.

5. Combination Bite & Kiss: Bite her neck, jawbone and ears, while kissing at the same time. Use your teeth to gently pinch her skin, breathing softly on her skin and ears at the same time, especially her ears. Biting can be very sensuous for her, so make sure you do a lot of this.

6. Tease Her Kiss: Start by using the tip of your index finger and slightly run it across her lips and cheeks. Then put your face a couple of inches from hers and just stare into her eyes, gazing around her hair and face for about 10 seconds. Talk with your eyes. Then slightly kiss her on the lips. Repeat the step. This time give her two small kisses. Then grab her face, cup it in your hands and lay a big one on her for about 30 seconds, without moving your lips. Just remain motionless.

7. Eye Kiss: Give her a kiss on her eye, and then slowly kiss the other. This will give her a warm feeling. Yet another kiss men don’t do. So she will love this also.

8. Eskimo Kiss: Kiss like an Eskimo by kissing with a lot of small pecks all over her face, at the same time rubbing your nose up against hers, going side to side and up and down.

9. Ear Kiss: Kiss and slightly nibble her ears, breathing on them slightly at the same time. Use your tongue to trace around her ear. Suck on her ear lobes, because she especially loves that! Tell her that you love her ears. Make sure your breath hits her ear as you are saying this. As for the tongue in her ear...well, since most women don’t like it, it’s best to stay away from doing that one.

10. Body Kiss: This is where you use a combination of biting, kissing and licking all the way down her body to her toes. Have her just lay there, naked, with her eyes closed.

11. Swoon Kiss: Tilt her head slightly to the side and cradle her face in one of your hands, while you hold the back of her head with the other.

12. The Rocking Kiss: As both you and your partner’s lips are still touching, rock your heads from side to side, letting your noses rub against each other. You rock your head to the left, as she rocks hers to the right, going from side to side.

13: Upside-down Kiss: This is a totally different kind of kiss because it confuses our brain. Our brain isn’t use to the position our heads are in when kissing. Try it, and you will see what I mean. It’s something totally new, and something she may not have experienced before.

14: French Kiss: According to some women, many of their past dates/boyfriends didn’t know how to properly French kiss. Never mind the kissing. French kissing is not supposed to be sloppy, done fast or putting your whole tongue in her mouth. It should give that person a feeling of ecstasy and excitement.

Women, over men love to French kiss, so be prepared to do it properly.

  • Start off by giving her all the other kinds of kisses just discussed before doing the French kiss. Don’t jump right into it. Move slowly to it.
  • Gently slide your tongue across her upper lip. She should take the hint and open her mouth. Now gently slide just the tip of your tongue into her mouth. Just the tip of your tongue should pass beyond her teeth, and that’s it! She should meet you halfway. From there you will begin this kiss.
  • Use your tongue to explore her mouth, as she does the same to you. Move your tongue along her teeth, wrestle with her tongue, twist yours around hers and gently suck on her tongue.
  • Don’t let it be just about French kissing. Add a variety of different kinds of kisses also. To give more pleasure, suck on a mouthful of candy mints before you start kissing her. Give her that taste to enhance the kissing. Mmmm, a candy flavored mouth! But, make sure she doesn’t mind the taste of mint, or any candy you will be using. Know this beforehand.
  • And finally, a lot of women have commented on how guys tend to think that this kind of kissing means she is ready for sex. So, he starts to grope her and tries to undress her. You should never, never do this. This is where the communication breaks down. She wants to kiss for a while and he wants to...well, you know. Keep in mind that many women love to kiss and hug, and that’s it. She may not even want to go that far.

Don’t be afraid to talk a little while kissing her. Tell her how good she tastes and how good she feels in your arms. If she thinks you are funny, by all means joke around with her at the same time. But don’t joke too much! Brush her hair with your fingers, trace her ear with your fingertips and run them lightly across her cheeks every once in a while. Cup her face in your hands while you are kissing her. Caress the back of her neck and stroke her arms and hands.

Touch her, touch her and touch her some more. This can never be said enough! A kiss doesn’t have to be perfect. It’s all on how you look into her eyes and how you use your hands. Read Passionate Kiss again.

Remember, kissing a woman the right way makes you a good lover in her eyes, so do it right!

The “Spoon Position”…The, Almost, Perfect Sex Position!


If you haven’t already found out, there is more to the spoon position than you think. And this sex position is good for guys who aren’t well endowed, also!

You know that women love to cuddle, and you also know that women can come to an orgasm much stronger if her clit is being stimulated. You do know that…right??? Hello???

With this in mind, the spoon position is a great sex position. I mean, look at what you can do to her:

While inside of her in the spoon position, you can caress her stomach and legs with one hand (use your fingertips and lightly run them across her body) while using her vibrator on her clit and kissing and biting her neck and ears…all at the same time!

Are you that coordinated? … Hmmmm….

If she doesn’t already have a vibrator, buy her one! Buy the “clit stimulator.” This is specifically designed to stimulate her clit. Get the model that has various speeds.

Talk about giving her one hell of a strong orgasm!

And when you both have come to your orgasms, you can still stay inside of her, while cuddling.

Perfect!

Where To Find A Sex Buddy…And How To Ask Her To Be One!


Ok, so you don’t want a girlfriend, but it would be nice to have a woman friend, with sex thrown in, right?

But where can you find such a woman? A bar? Yeah, possibly, but you want a friend too, not some bar fly. Ok, ok, they aren’t all like that, but you know what I mean.

Actually, it’s easier than you think in finding such a friend. In fact, the answer is right at your fingertips.

Yup, Internet dating sites. And there are many sites that “hook up” such singles.

And even many women want a sex buddy. Gee, imagine that!

You can advertise on Match, AOL, or any site for a sex buddy. Just be frank and tasteful in your ad. You can come across as just a nice guy who doesn’t want a relationship but would like a sex buddy without sounding like a sleaze.

Your ad could possibly read something like this:

“Hi.

My name is Bill. I’m 6 feet, at 180 pounds. I’m considered nice looking and fun to be with by my past dates, so, perhaps you will too.

Right now, though, I don’t want to be in a relationship, but I would love to have you as a friend. Someone I can do things with, go out with, and talk to on the phone now and then. You know, like friends do.

But…I’m looking for a female friend who I can also be intimate with. What’s that called…”a sex buddy?”

Are you still there? … You logged off, didn’t you? … UGH!

If you are looking for the same, let’s get together and see if we can be friends.”

Keep in mind that down the road you don’t want her falling in love with you, which is a good possibility, so don’t hold her hand, do prolong hugging, or anything that you wouldn’t do with a friend.

Treat the friend relationship as just that, a relationship with a friend.

And, of course, don’t you fall in love with her, if she doesn’t want a relationship!

It’s very easy to find a sex buddy, you just have to let women know, be frank, have good taste, be tactful, and one will come along sooner or later.

All you have to do is ask!

A Woman’s G-Spot…Her Most Sexual Hot Spot!


Knowing where her G-spot is and how to properly stimulate her with it is something most men don’t know. Even a lot of women don’t know where it’s at, or for that matter they don’t even know what it really is. Once you master it, she will come to you more often, instead of you going to her. She will be surprised by the most intensifying feeling she has ever experienced. And, you will be the first guy to give her that! Here is yet another way to be the best lover she has ever had.

The best way to find this mystery hot spot is for her to lay on her belly, her legs apart, with her hips slightly upward. Prop pillows under her hips. Insert two fingers in her vagina, palm down and start exploring the front, top wall of her vagina. Ask her to guide you by telling you what feels good. If she was lying on her back, your palm should be faced up, exploring the topside of her vagina. When properly stimulated, it should swell and feel like a small, rigid lump. It feels completely different from the rest of the surrounding tissue. It has ridges, like the roof of our mouth. Once you have found it, use a firm pressure and move your fingers in a come hither movement. It’s not like the clit, where you have to be gentle and have a soft touch. She will tell you how much pressure she likes.

Many women like it when you tap on it.

Many women have commented that they have a feeling of having to urinate when their G-spot is being stimulated. That’s when you know you found it! If she is new to this feeling, let her know that it will subside overtime. She will then no longer have to go to the bathroom every time you touch it.

It’s very hard to get to her G-spot while in the missionary position, unless your penis curves upward. The best positions are the spoon or with her on top. She can better position herself for your penis to hit that spot if she is on top. The point is to get into a position so your penis can best hit that area. You can also try the rear entry position. This seems to do it for a lot of women.

There are two other methods that are worth trying that will double the pleasure for her. 1.) Use a curved vibrator. Having something vibrate and rubbing up against her G-spot will open up new doors of excitement for her. 2.) And, lick her clit at the same time. You can stimulate her two most sensitive spots on her entire body.

I have heard from some sex therapists that the G-spot can still be stimulated while the man is in the missionary position. While thrusting, he pushes down firmly on her stomach, rolling his hand around, just below her belly button. This, supposedly, stimulates the G-spot. I don’t see how this is possible, since it isn’t being touched. Anyway, it’s something to experiment with. Who knows, maybe there is something to it.

Something similar to this is when she is sitting on top of you. Ask her to move her hips around in a circular motion, and then with the heel of your open hand (below the palm) or your fist, press on the area that is a few inches above her clitoris.

This isn’t full proof, of course, but by doing this, the head of your penis should make direct contact with her G-spot.

This isn’t a point of extreme pleasure for many (not all) women, but some women have a very mild sensitivity when their G-spot was being massaged, while others went absolutely wild over the feeling. So, this isn’t a guaranteed hot spot. Nevertheless, women love it when you at least try to satisfy them. That impresses and makes them feel good. It shows that you care, so you win either way!

Fire In The Hole!


When giving a woman cunnilingus, too many men don't do enough to give her that fire she wants. They either caress her thighs a few times and that's it, or they lay their hands off to the side, and lap her in a very boring manner. Yes, giving a woman cunnilingus can be boring for her if you don’t do it right. Gee, imagine that.

Since men have first discovered what more they can do with their tongue, women have been loving oral sex. Next to the vibrator, this is a feeling they love. This is an old survey, but it doesn’t matter, because it will hold true for years. Women love this as much as you love a good blow job. The main thing to keep in mind is to go at it with excitement; put your whole face into her vagina, like a kid does when he puts his whole face into a watermelon. Women love it!! More on this later.

From the very beginning of making love to her, suck on several strong mints. The purpose for this is to not only give you fresh breath, but to give her a tantalizing feeling when you go down on her. The mint will pass through the skin tissue of her vulva to her nerves. Keep in mind though that this doesn’t work on all women. Nevertheless, try it anyway. Make sure your mouth has that strong mint inside, so suck on one more strong mint while you are down by her legs, just before you move to her vulva.

Most of her sensitive nerves in the vulva are in the clit and in the outer edges of her inner lips…especially the part that surrounds her clit. Contrary to popular belief among so many men, there is very little feeling when further inside her. This means that many times she may want just the head of your penis inside her, rubbing in and out. The shape of our head is perfect for this, but men put it in deeper, where there is less feeling for her. Just inside her vulva also become the tightest part during intercourse because it swells with blood. Slow shallow fucking is something nearly all men don’t do.

For nearly all women (NOT ALL), the sensitivity on her clit and the lips that surround it is the same as underneath and the tip of our dick. The sensitivity of the outer lips of her vulva is the same as the bottom of our penises, near the stomach, would feel. The point past the outer edges of her inner lips, as little as one inch deeper inside her, are no more sensitive than our scrotum would feel, which is pretty low. That gives you a pretty good indicator on how sensitive each part of her vulva is.

So, for all you guys with short penises, you still wish for it to be longer??? When you hear so much about how some women want a man with a big penis, it’s because their fascination with it is exactly the same as men have with big-breasted women. That’s all! Some women may say they want a big man because it feels great all the way in, but these are the disillusioned ones. It is very hard for them to feel it to the point of “feeling great” because there aren’t enough nerves there…PERIOD!

Picking back up from the previous page, you next move from her inner thighs to her vulva, and then gently open her lips and start licking the inside lips, at the outer edges. Then, all of a sudden, just like the kid putting his whole face in a watermelon, you do the same with her vagina. Hands down, ALL women love it when you do this! Rub your whole face in her vagina with enthusiasm. Showing your enthusiasm like this adds to her pleasure. It makes a big difference! Make sure you are absolutely clean-shaven! Stubble will ruin the whole mood for her! Your face should be literally as smooth as a baby’s butt!

After a little bit of this, start licking her lips with the broad part of your tongue. She wants your whole tongue on that area. Also, don’t flick her clit. Most (not all) women don’t like it. They get no arousal from it. Men see this “flicking” on porno tapes, thinking this is some great technique to use on her. For most women, it’s not! Suck on her lips, drawing as much of her lips into your mouth as you can. Women love it when you put your mouth over her vulva and suck on it, inserting your tongue in and out of her at the same time.

Use what’s known as a “Hummer” on her. This is when you have your mouth over her vulva and / or her clit and then you hum. The vibrations from your wet and hot mouth is an erotic feeling for her. Do this while at the same time you have your face completely in her vagina, moving it all around. Another thing you can do is to give her a raspberry. You know how you put your lips against a woman’s neck and give her a raspberry? … You know, like a parent does to their baby’s stomach? Well, give her a raspberry on her lips. Give her many, many raspberries, until she comes! Learn to extend the vibrations from your lips to last at least 30 seconds on her vagina lips. With practice you can do it this long.

Next, give her clit a couple of kisses, and then start licking it like it’s an ice cream cone, with your tongue flat, not pointed, and with not so much pressure. She will tell you how much pressure to give her. Run your fingertips gently along the inside of her thighs and stomach while you gently use your tongue on her. Use both of your hands to give her your total attention.

A woman E-Mailed me this little tip. She says it feels great: While you are going down on a woman, VERY lightly (and only a few times), tap your fingers against her clit to really get the sensation heightened in that area...wait a few seconds and then resume tongue action.

If your tongue is getting tired, you can either give it a rest for a couple of minutes by using your nose to rub her clit and its surrounding lips, or keep your tongue stationary and move your head around. The one thing you have to keep in mind is to not let her know that you are getting tired. She shouldn’t feel that you feel that you have to stay down there until she comes. Let her know that you love licking her. Don’t sigh or ask if she is coming. NEVER ASK HER! Most women can’t come because of pressure, and it doesn’t take much for her to feel this. She should just lay back, relax and enjoy what you are doing to her. No pressure.

In addition to using your tongue, you should also use your lubricated fingertip to vigorously rub up and down her lips. Also, gently stretch and jiggle them. The stretching can be very stimulating for her. Don’t be afraid to grab a pinch of both of her lips and stretch it slightly, but, do it slow. Stretch it out, up and down and side to side. Do this while licking her. If she doesn’t come within, say, ten minutes, go back to another part of her body. Maybe go back to kissing her, to alleviate any slight pressure she maybe feeling. Maybe you can just lie there for a few minutes, letting her know that it’s okay, and that the both of you can try again. Hold her in your arms and just talk for a while. Sometimes you have to do things like these. She may want you to. It’s normal with women. It’s no one’s fault.

ALL women agree on this: The key to giving her good cunnilingus is to stay on her clit once you are there. All the foreplay and all the kissing are now over. She now wants you to stay directly on her clit. DON’T MOVE ANYWHERE ELSE UNTIL SHE COMES! It’s just like when you want her to stay on your penis while she’s giving you a blow job. So, licking her clit should be the very last thing you do for her, even after stretching and rubbing her lips. Also, her starting to moan and saying “YES!” is not an indication for you to go faster. Many, many men make this mistake. Stay right at the same speed and position until she comes! This is very important! Also…USE HAND LOTION IF YOUR HANDS ARE ROUGH, AND TRIM THOSE FINGERNAILS! This was an issue with many women. It’s very soft and sensitive inside their vagina, so the last thing you want to do is scratch her. Trim your nails all the way down, and then file them smooth.

I’m going to sound like I am contradicting myself with this next paragraph, but a couple of women have told me about this, so, what the hell, here it is: Before you start licking her, tell her to let you know when she is about to come. Then when she tells you, stop licking, and then hold your tongue against her clit, motionless, and wait until her urge to come goes away. Then start licking her all over again. When she says she is about to come again, do the same process. Wait till her urge goes away, and then start in on her again. Do this only twice, because of the fact too many women can lose that mood. Her third urge to come to orgasm should lead to a fantastic feeling for her. If done right, that is. It’s like you would do with the vibrator, but with this you will be holding your tongue motionless against her clit. Heed warning, this may not work with most women.

Part of giving her cunnilingus is of course using your hands. Here is a little-known technique that women like from their lover: Place your hand over her whole vulva, with your fingers pointing down and the heel of your hand over her clit. Apply a medium pressure downward, with circular movements. This increases her arousal. You can also use your middle finger, making sure it’s lubricated, from the hand you are using to penetrate her at the same time. You could do this just before going down on her.

You’ve read on how her clit is one of the most sensitive parts of her body, but do you think it’s a magic hot button for you whenever you want her to come to orgasm? … Well, just like all the other men who are thinking the same thing, you would be wrong. It isn’t a full-proof way, because sometimes she just can’t come when you are stimulating it. She could be hot and horny, but for some odd reason there are going to be times when it isn’t going to happen. This is normal, and it’s no one’s fault. It happens. You have to give it a rest for about a half an hour, or maybe less time, and then go back to it. “Over stimulation” is a term many women are familiar with.

Here are a few additional things she wants you to do at the same time you are giving her cunnilingus:

  • "Don't just keep your face in one position, and JUST lick me. Bury your face DEEP inside me, and move your face around...."
  • "Suck my inner lips and clit, lick them, gently nibble on them, move your face around my vagina. Do it all!"
  • "Lightly run your fingertips on the back of my leg, directly behind my kneecap. I love it there!"
  • "While you are licking me, rub and gently scratch my thighs all over the place, especially the inner thighs, next to my pu**y."
  • "Ask me where my hot spots are below my hips, and work those areas also."
  • "For the first few minutes, go up and down between my vagina and toes, sucking, licking and kissing every square inch of area in between. Then stay on my clit until I come."

Well, ok then!

Spicing Up The Missionary Position


Getting a woman to come to a strong and satisfying orgasm while in the missionary position is something many, MANY men are on an ongoing search to find out how to do. And since the average woman would like to be face to face with her lover when she comes, she too would like to know how to achieve this.

Many couples who have been together for a while think of the missionary position as boring, and, not that stimulating for the woman. Of all the positions, the missionary is the least popular, and the most unimaginative. But, it doesn’t have to be. And, on top of that (excuse the pun), from that position, it's virtually impossible for most women to come to orgasm because their clitoris isn't being stimulated. Nearly all of a woman's most sensitive nerves are on their clit, while the less sensitive ones are on their inner lips, near the opening. A woman can of course still come from the stimulation of her inner lips, but it wouldn’t be as strong as she would like it to be.

The following is for the very few women out there who can still have a satisfying orgasm with your penis inside her, where her clit isn’t being stimulated. Both can come to orgasm, while he is inside her. Most women would prefer to come to a strong orgasm while her lover is on top because she is face to face with him. She is able to hold her arms around him, while he does the same to her.

There are 5 ways to spice up the boring missionary position. Let’s start off with the first one.

ONE: Start off by gently taking the tip of your penis and rubbing her clit and the surrounding lips. (Use one of your hands to separate her lips, while you use the other to rub your penis on her clit.) Go in circular motions and ask her if she can feel it. Do it slowly and gently, then fast and rough. You can also rub your penis across her nipples. This is an arousing sight for some women.

Next, whisper in her ear: "Are you ready?" (One woman commented that her boyfriend would always ask first if he can go inside. This was very special for her, since most men don’t do this. So, ask first. Can I go inside? It is something that is very nice, AND DIFFERENT, for her.) If she is ready, begin to slide just the head of your penis in her. Now pull it back out, and then put it back in, just at the tip. Do this for about a minute or two.

Now go in about a half-inch deeper, and do the same thing as before. Take it out slowly and put it back in her. … In and out, in and out. Do this for another minute. The reasoning for this is to tease her to the point of having that strong desire.

Now put it in her all the way, kissing, gently biting and hugging her at the same time. Kissing and sucking her ears are one of the most important things to do to her. Suck on her ear lobes. Lick her whole ear. Imitate the sound of a snore and slightly make that sound in her ear, at the same time slightly letting your warm breath touch it.

Another thing that works wonders is humming in her ear. Let the vibrations from your mouth touch her ear as you are humming. Rubbing your cheek up against hers and rubbing your nose in her ear are other things that make a big difference.

And, always remember to tell her how good she feels. Also, tell her she smells absolutely fantastic. Whisper things like that in her ear. It’s little, insignificant things like that that matter the most.

When you are in her all the way, whisper in her ear if she wants you to stay where you are at, or to keep penetrating. Some women like for you to stay inside her, motionless, while she squeezes her vagina muscles around your penis, while there are others who want you to keep penetrating. When she has that orgasm, it will be like a fantastic explosion in her. She will have that feeling of total satisfaction. This is the whole purpose…to create this wonderful feeling for her. A feeling that she should feel every time you make love to her.

Many men just thrust in and out, in and out, in and out at a continuous pace. Liven it up by going slow for a about a minute or two, and then fast and hard. You should also stop thrusting. Kiss and caress her cheeks while you are motionless inside her. Then start back up again. Break up the monotony.

TWO: Another technique you can use to give the missionary position an extra zip is to have her raise her right leg until her knee is even with your left shoulder. (Hold it up for her, while kissing and licking it.) She should leave her left leg flat on the bed. Then direct your thrusts towards her inner thigh of her raised leg. By her doing this, it stretches her vagina a little bit, allowing for tighter penetration and more pressure on her clit. Keep in mind that this technique isn’t full proof with all women. Nevertheless, experiment with it. At least she knows you like to experiment in bed, which many women find appealing in men.

THREE: When our head is upside down, we feel a rush as blood pours in and oxygen is depleted. For some women, combining this with physical pleasure could heighten her orgasm. This does have an affect with some women. Try this with the next woman you are with (She will love all of this experimenting!): Have her lie on her back across the bed, with her head and shoulders dangling over the edge. Make sure she keeps as much of her lower back on the mattress as possible. And, of course, stop if she becomes too light-headed.

This angle you have her at shouldn’t be reserved just for the missionary position. You should also go down on her and / or use her vibrator on her. Experiment with her when she is at this angle.

FOUR: If you don't know about this little toy already, the perfect toy for this position is a small vibrator that is held to her clit by a thong strap that goes around her hip. She will get both the sensation from that and from your penis inside of her! They come small enough to where they won't get in your way while you are thrusting inside of her. Be sure to ask the salesperson that it is indeed small enough so it won't be in the way. Here are a few good vibrators: Click

FIVE: And lastly, you can still hit her clit while at the same time you are showing her that you have some imagination for the missionary position. Get high up on her so your hips are above hers, and then enter her at a downward angle, very, very slowly, making sure you rub down her clit when penetrating her.

And don’t forget the pillow under her butt. Jacking up her hips adds even more spice to this position. With all this information at your fingertips, you are now able to show her that this position can be one of the most popular. You both can now have fun at the same time, where she can also come to orgasm. These techniques are also perfect for the less-endowed men!

How Do You Know If You Want Her For Her, Not Because You Can’t Have Her?


Most people are like a little child wanting a toy. The more mommy says no, the more that child will want it. … Right? And when it comes to dating women, the more she denies you, the more you want her. Well, not all of us are like that, but a surprising larger number of guys are. They simply can’t let her go. There is just something about here that he has to have.

Perhaps you are a little like this?

Here’s a little technique you can try, to see if you really do want her for a relationship, or your brain slid down to your dick again:

Yup, you guessed what I am about to say: After you have had sex with one of your dates, you masturbated or if you aren’t in one of those horny moods that has you jumping on anything that moves, sit down and think about this woman you are interested in. … Are your thoughts and feelings for her as strong as they were before? Really think about it. If they aren’t, well, you pretty much got your answer.

Many, many guys, when thinking with their John Henrys, think about being in a relationship, but once they have sex with their date, or after they masturbate, they no longer think about being with a woman.

Ah yes, the power of hormones!

Now, if you still want to be with her, you have to know if she is indeed the right one for you, never mind trying to get a date with her. That will come later. What’s the sense of having all these thoughts about her if she could be a man’s worst nightmare? Once you start thinking with your brain (you know, the one between your ears?), instead of your little buddy, you’ll have much better luck with women.

Go Down On Her Like This....


A woman’s magazine, Redbook, did a survey in the early part of 2005 on what’s the best way a man can give a woman an orgasm. Of more than the 28,000 who responded, nearly all stated that oral sex was definitely the one. Since the beginning of time women love oral sex just as much as the men do.

Next to the vibrator, this is a feeling they love. This is an old survey, but it doesn’t matter, because it will hold true for years. Women love this as much as you love a good blow job. The main thing to keep in mind is to go at it with excitement; put your whole face into her vagina, like a kid does when he puts his whole face into a watermelon. Women love it! … More on this later.

From the very beginning of making love to her, suck on several strong mints. The purpose for this is to not only give you fresh breath, but to give her a tantalizing feeling when you go down on her. The mint will pass through the skin tissue of her vulva to her nerves. Keep in mind though that this doesn’t work on all women. Nevertheless, try it anyway. Make sure your mouth has that strong mint inside, so suck on one more strong mint while you are down by her legs, just before you move to her vulva.

Most of her sensitive nerves in the vulva are in the clit and in the outer edges of her inner lips…especially the part that surrounds her clit. Contrary to popular belief among so many men, there is very little feeling when further inside her. This means that many times she may want just the head of your penis inside her, rubbing in and out. The shape of our head is perfect for this, but men put it in deeper, where there is less feeling for her. Just inside her vulva also become the tightest part during intercourse because it swells with blood. Slow shallow fucking is something nearly all men don’t do.

For nearly all women (NOT ALL), the sensitivity on her clit and the lips that surround it is the same as underneath and the tip of our dick. The sensitivity of the outer lips of her vulva is the same as the bottom of our penises, near the stomach, would feel. The point past the outer edges of her inner lips, as little as one inch deeper inside her, are no more sensitive than our scrotum would feel, which is pretty low. That gives you a pretty good indicator on how sensitive each part of her vulva is.

So, for all you guys with short penises, you still wish for it to be longer??? When you hear so much about how some women want a man with a big penis, it’s because their fascination with it is exactly the same as men have with big-breasted women. That’s all! Some women may say they want a big man because it feels great all the way in, but these are the disillusioned ones. It is very hard for them to feel it to the point of “feeling great” because there aren’t enough nerves there…PERIOD!

Picking back up from the previous page, you next move from her inner thighs to her vulva, and then gently open her lips and start licking the inside lips, at the outer edges. Then, all of a sudden, just like the kid putting his whole face in a watermelon, you do the same with her vagina. Hands down, ALL women love it when you do this! Rub your whole face in her vagina with enthusiasm. Showing your enthusiasm like this adds to her pleasure. It makes a big difference! Make sure you are absolutely clean-shaven! Stubble will ruin the whole mood for her! Your face should be literally as smooth as a baby’s butt!

After a little bit of this, start licking her lips with the broad part of your tongue. She wants your whole tongue on that area. Also, don’t flick her clit. Most (not all) women don’t like it. They get no arousal from it. Men see this “flicking” on porno tapes, thinking this is some great technique to use on her. For most women, it’s not! Suck on her lips, drawing as much of her lips into your mouth as you can. Women love it when you put your mouth over her vulva and suck on it, inserting your tongue in and out of her at the same time.

Use what’s known as a “Hummer” on her. This is when you have your mouth over her vulva and/or her clit and then you hum. The vibrations from your wet and hot mouth is an erotic feeling for her. Do this while at the same time you have your face completely in her vagina, moving it all around. Another thing you can do is to give her a raspberry. You know how you put your lips against a woman’s neck and give her a raspberry? … You know, like a parent does to their baby’s stomach? Well, give her a raspberry on her lips. Give her many, many raspberries, until she comes! Learn to extend the vibrations from your lips to last at least 30 seconds on her vagina lips. With practice you can do it this long.

Next, give her clit a couple of kisses, and then start licking it like it’s an ice cream cone, with your tongue flat, not pointed, and with not so much pressure. She will tell you how much pressure to give her. Run your fingertips gently along the inside of her thighs and stomach while you gently use your tongue on her. Use both of your hands to give her your total attention.

A woman E-Mailed me this little tip. She says it feels great: While you are going down on a woman, VERY lightly (and only a few times), tap your fingers against her clit to really get the sensation heightened in that area...wait a few seconds and then resume tongue action.

If your tongue is getting tired, you can either give it a rest for a couple of minutes by using your nose to rub her clit and its surrounding lips, or keep your tongue stationary and move your head around. The one thing you have to keep in mind is to not let her know that you are getting tired. She shouldn’t feel that you feel that you have to stay down there until she comes. Let her know that you love licking her. Don’t sigh or ask if she is coming. NEVER ASK HER! Most women can’t come because of pressure, and it doesn’t take much for her to feel this. She should just lay back, relax and enjoy what you are doing to her. No pressure.

In addition to using your tongue, you should also use your lubricated fingertip to vigorously rub up and down her lips. Also, gently stretch and jiggle them. The stretching can be very stimulating for her. Don’t be afraid to grab a pinch of both of her lips and stretch it slightly, but, do it slow. Stretch it out, up and down and side to side. Do this while licking her. If she doesn’t come within, say, ten minutes, go back to another part of her body. Maybe go back to kissing her, to alleviate any slight pressure she maybe feeling. Maybe you can just lie there for a few minutes, letting her know that it’s okay, and that the both of you can try again. Hold her in your arms and just talk for a while. Sometimes you have to do things like these. She may want you to. It’s normal with women. It’s no one’s fault.

ALL women agree on this: The key to giving her good cunnilingus is to stay on her clit once you are there. All the foreplay and all the kissing are now over. She now wants you to stay directly on her clit. DON’T MOVE ANYWHERE ELSE UNTIL SHE COMES! It’s just like when you want her to stay on your penis while she’s giving you a blow job. So, licking her clit should be the very last thing you do for her, even after stretching and rubbing her lips. Also, her starting to moan and saying “YES!” is not an indication for you to go faster. Many, many men make this mistake. Stay right at the same speed and position until she comes! This is very important! Also…USE HAND LOTION IF YOUR HANDS ARE ROUGH, AND TRIM THOSE FINGERNAILS! This was an issue with many women. It’s very soft and sensitive inside their vagina, so the last thing you want to do is scratch her. Trim your nails all the way down, and then file them smooth.

Again, communicate with her. Tell her how good she tastes and that you love doing this for her. This is very important.

I’m going to sound like I am contradicting myself with this next paragraph, but a couple of women have told me about this, so, what the hell, here it is: Before you start licking her, tell her to let you know when she is about to come. Then when she tells you, stop licking, and then hold your tongue against her clit, motionless, and wait until her urge to come goes away. Then start licking her all over again. When she says she is about to come again, do the same process. Wait till her urge goes away, and then start in on her again. Do this only twice, because of the fact too many women can lose that mood. Her third urge to come to orgasm should lead to a fantastic feeling for her. If done right, that is. It’s like you would do with the vibrator, but with this you will be holding your tongue motionless against her clit. Heed warning, this may not work with most women.

Part of giving her cunnilingus is of course using your hands. Here is a little-known technique that women like from their lover: Place your hand over her whole vulva, with your fingers pointing down and the heel of your hand over her clit. Apply a medium pressure downward, with circular movements. This increases her arousal. You can also use your middle finger, making sure it’s lubricated, from the hand you are using to penetrate her at the same time. You could do this just before going down on her.

You’ve read on how her clit is one of the most sensitive parts of her body, but do you think it’s a magic hot button for you whenever you want her to come to orgasm? … Well, just like all the other men who are thinking the same thing, you would be wrong. It isn’t a full-proof way, because sometimes she just can’t come when you are stimulating it. She could be hot and horny, but for some odd reason there are going to be times when it isn’t going to happen. This is normal, and it’s no one’s fault. It happens. You have to give it a rest for about a half an hour, or maybe less time, and then go back to it. “Over stimulation” is a term many women are familiar with.

Again, it doesn’t help if she feels pressured in any way. Tell her that it’s okay and the both of you will go back to it later, when she’s ready. Let her know that it’s no big deal.

Should you or should you not ask her to douche first? I personally will always ask her first. Only a couple of them gave me this look of being insulted. I keep myself clean, thank you!! Well, how do I know that? There is nothing wrong with asking her to douche first. Just say this: Why don’t you go to the bathroom and give yourself a hot shower and douche, so I can explore your whole body with my tongue. Or: I really love to give cunnilingus, so why don’t you get yourself fresh and ready for me. Just don’t come out and ask in a crude way. Clean yourself so I can lick it doesn’t sound appealing to her.

After you go down on her, the one thing you don’t want to do, which so many men do, is to immediately get up and gargle and / or brush your teeth. How insulting is that for her?! Hold her in your arms for a few minutes more and talk some more. Don’t just get up and go to the bathroom. This will really make her feel self-conscious. Also, don’t kiss her again after going down on her, for the obvious reason. Instead let her initiate it. Having her juice all over your face as you kiss her again can spoil the mood for many (not all) women. She may not care, but why take the chance? Just hold her in your arms.

Here’s another tip: Have a box of decorative tissues by your bedside for those lucky nights. Yes, it’s a feminine touch, but it is for her, not for you! She will appreciate that little thought. It’s one of those added little bonuses that make you a better lover in her eyes.

WARNING! Always remember about STD’s (Sexually Transmitted Diseases). There are minor diseases and infections from her vagina that you can easily catch through your mouth. She could just have a minor germ infection, but it can still be transmitted to your mouth. You take your chances when going down on a woman you barely know. The smart thing to do is to wait for about a month, or longer, to see if she is the kind of woman who takes care of herself. And if she feels insulted if you tell her that you would rather not go down on her because of this possibility? … Well, ask her if you can have intercourse with her without the rubber. Then wait for that look of horror from her face. If that doesn’t help her understand, nothing will. She is selfishly thinking one sided.

You should always try to get her to laugh in bed, so ask her if she knows the difference between sugar and Sweet & Low. Before she can answer you, kiss her on the lips, telling her that’s sugar, and then tell her this is Sweet & Low, as you go down on her. Here’s another one: While you are down by her calves, kissing them, ask her if she would like a “Happy Ending.” She may ask you what that means. Just ask her that same question, with a big smile. When she says yes, immediately put your whole face into her vagina. You don’t want to ask her that question when you are near her vagina, kissing her inner thighs, since she will probably guess what you mean, thus ruining it. Then again, she may already know what it means. This is an expression Oriental masseuses / prostitutes use, just after giving a guy his massage. I like it!

What Is “Sex Appeal”?


Do you think you have sex appeal? Have women told you that you have sex appeal? Do you even know what it is?

Ok, listen up, here are the top things women gave that makes a man have sex appeal:

1.) His physical looks, and / or his height. (No brainer there, huh?)

2.) Scent

3.) Cleanliness

4.) Dressing nice (Doesn't mean fancy at all, just have a little bit of style)

5.) Incredible, energetic smile; smiles a lot

6.) Charasmatic personality

7.) Piercing eyes.

8.) The way he looks at me when we're talking and / or when I walk into the room

9.) Sense of humor

10.) Intelligence

11.) Self confidence

12.) His kisses

13.) I like a man who is very charasmatic and outgoing, adventurous, a little on the edge (close with adventurous I guess), and he has the confidence to pull it off. I like a man who can say what he means, and then do it.

Sounds simple enough to have sex appeal, huh? Hmmmm….

Moving Smoothly From Cunnilingus, To Intercourse


I read this from a guy who had a hard time moving from licking his woman to intercourse (in part):

….so I've been down on her a couple of times, which I love to do, but she pretty much just lies there, and aside from heavy breathing when's she close, she is pretty much silent the rest of the time. Afterwards she doesn’t say anything about having intercourse. Maybe she is a virgin, I don’t know, but I'm having a hard time going to the next level, I've always been with aggressive girls in the past that pretty much told me when it was time for sex.

I don't think she is going to ask for sex...do you gracefully bring it up? Say something like, “Do you want me to put something on?” I'm just not sure. I feel like it's time, but who knows what she is feeling. I can't talk about it. I don’t know how to bring it up.

Does this sound familiar to some of you?

Here’s a smooth and quick way to move up to the next level, without saying a word about it:

Next time, wear nothing but a nice-looking robe, or nice-looking boxers. Choose a fabric that feels good on her skin while you are laying on her.

Keep a condom within reach. Make sure it is opened and halfway out.

After you have gone down on her, move your way back up to her face, kissing and gently biting her body along the way. You should be laying on her and in between her legs when you are back up to her face.

Kiss her for another minute or two before you start to rub up against her slowly. Kiss her at the same time while doing this for about a minute.

Then, while still kissing her, open up your robe, or take off your boxers. Rub the outside of her vagina with your penis for another minute or two. While doing this, reach over for the condom, which is ready to be taken out with ease. Put it on, and then slip it in. Continue kissing her.

You took it slowly and in steps, so there shouldn't be ANY misunderstandings.

How To Have A Perfect Threesome


With two women, that is! When doing a threesome, many men think that they have to divide their time up between the two women. Spend a couple of minutes kissing and caressing one woman, and then spending a couple of minutes with the other woman...back and forth, back and forth....

Doing a threesome like this is kind of ridiculous if you think about it. Most men don't like threesomes, and they think that it is over-hyped, and that most people don't do it.

It more than likely is. And it takes a rare woman to participate in a threesome, anyway. Lesbians are more prone to do this.

If you are lucky enough to get two women at the same time, my hat is off to you.

Now, if you haven't the faintist idea on how to satisfy them without looking like an idiot, below are a few positions you can try.

And don't worry if they brought up the idea, they already know what to do with you. Just make sure you're up to the task. Excuse the pun.

Here are a few tips to keep in mind first:

1. Rent videos on threesomes for some excellent ideas.

2. Start off with positions where you satisfy them first. It's bad enough you going limp too soon on one woman, but two at the same time?!

If they bring up the idea of a threesome, they more than likely have done it before, so they will probably put you in the kind of positions they want so you won't come too fast.

It should work like this:

After you give them their first orgasm, it will then be your turn. After that, choose different positions to give them their second orgasm. While you are doing that, hopefully enough time will pass so you can get a full erection for round two for you.

3. Some men keep a Strap On handy for emergencies, or, if the women want to keep going and going and going and going....

Be sure to use a condom on your Strap On.

"You're not using that on me! I don't know where that's been!"

You get the idea.

4. Mirror their paced movements. If they go fast, you go fast. If they go slow and loving, you go slow and loving.

5. Have a plate of fruit (grapes, cherries, apple, orange slices...) handy for them to munch on afterwards. You can't go wrong with fruit. Perhaps a bottle of wine, also? Keep it light and simple.

Ok, now here are some positions to get your imagination going.

First Position:

Lay on your back so one woman can sit on your penis, while the other sits on your face so you can lick her clit.

This is a favorite for lesbians, because they can caress each other's breasts and kiss, while their clits are being stimulated at the same time.

Straight women will not face one another (well, most of the time, that is), so it will be like two girls ridding a pony.

Giddy up!

Second Position:

One woman is on her back, while you straddle her face so she can give you a blow job. The second woman will be standing in front of the both of you where you can either use her favorite vibrator on her and/or lick her.

She can also be lying down. Can you picture that position???

After you satisfy the woman with your tongue and/or her vibrator, the women will switch positions.

Third Position:

Here is something that you may not enjoy, but then again....

Either standing, keeling or laying on top of one another, the first woman has on a Strap On, in which she is penetrating your butt, and you are second in line where you are doing the first woman doggie style.

Ok, so you may not like it!

Fourth Position:

The women will be on her hands and knees, facing away from you so you can use their vibrators on them from behind. They also can be lying down, of course.

Fifth Position:

The first woman is on her hands and knees so you can do her doggie style, while the second woman is sitting on her back facing you so the two of you can kiss, and you can gently pinch her nipples.

Sixth Position:

The first woman is lying on her back, the second woman is laying on her stomach, licking the first woman's clit, while you are doing her doggie style. Once the first woman has been satisfied, the women change positions.

Enjoy

See Perry's other weekly columns on Dating or Relationships.

Perry Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For Women About Men. & Women and Sex And Dating, For The Single Man published by Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from complete strangers, to finding that right person to be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men and women on what they like and want from one another. The findings were published in Women, Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site is bettersexbetterdating.com



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