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A Condom Makes it Shrink
Q from a male, Sophomore student from URI: I
have a rather embarrassing problem. When I am with
my girlfriend we have no problems until I put on a
condom - then I lose my erection. I think it's the
tightness that causes this, but I'm quite sure I'm
not particularly large. I try not to make a big
deal out of it, and I am very lucky to have such an
understanding and loving girlfriend, but it's still
very frustrating. I was wondering if this is a
common problem, and what, if anything, I can do
about it. Thank you.
Dr. Caron's Answer: Your situation is not
uncommon. Please remember that condoms come in
different sizes. If tightness is a problem, how
about switching to a larger brand. That should
provide some relief. Many men - tight-fitting
condom or not - experience some loss of sensation.
Condoms take some getting used to. Rather than
putting the condom on within seconds before
intercourse, you may want to expand your sex play
to include putting on the condom a few minutes
before intercourse - so that you or your girlfriend
can stimulate you to the point of another erection
(think how much fun she'll have bringing it back
up!). I might also suggest switching methods - for
example, you might want to try using the female
condom. It might be a nice alternative - providing
protection from disease and pregnancy. You would
not wear the condom - she would "wear" it. You may
want to talk to someone about other alternatives
methods of protection.
© 2008, Sandra L.
Caron
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It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the
lover. - Marge Piercy
American teens have the worst of all
worlds...Our children are bombarded and confronted
with sexual messages, sexual exploitation, and all
manner of sexual criticism. But our society is by
and large sexually illiterate. Faye Westheimer
Dr. Sandra L.
Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the
University of Maine. To submit a question to Dr.
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