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Staying Friends when She wants More
Q from a Male, Senior student at Cornell
University: There is a woman who likes me as
"more than a friend" who I would like to keep as
"just a friend." How can I tell her without hurting
her?
Dr. Caron's answer: You may not
be able to save her from hurt. She is responsible
for her feelings. If you are able to talk with her
directly, I might suggest starting by expressing
how important her friendship is to you. Emphasize
what you like about her and what makes her an
important friend. If she can hear that, she may be
able to hear you when you explain that you would
like to keep the friendship platonic. If you don't
talk to her about the situation, but instead choose
to let the tension continue, at some point she may
feel led on. Talking to her and being honest now
will save her (and you) a bigger hurt down the
road.
© 2007, Sandra L.
Caron
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It is not sex that gives the pleasure, but the
lover. - Marge Piercy
American teens have the worst of all
worlds...Our children are bombarded and confronted
with sexual messages, sexual exploitation, and all
manner of sexual criticism. But our society is by
and large sexually illiterate. Faye Westheimer
Dr. Sandra L.
Caron is a professor of human sexuality at the
University of Maine. To submit a question to Dr.
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