"Not now, I'm on the phone"
Is it just me, or is anyone else terribly annoyed
with cell phones? Actually not the phones, but the
use of them. Everywhere, people are talking or
texting to someone. On the treadmills at the gym,
the grocery store, in restaurants, and while
driving (even though it's against the law).
Why not enjoy that workout time as your own? Or
decide for yourself if you should buy brown or
white rice? What freaks me out is knowing all these
phones have cameras, especially when I'm changing
clothes at the gym. You never know. What happened
to the joy of solitude? Or being available to say
hello to someone you meet in person, without a
phone call in progress? People talking on phones
don't say hi or make eye contact in person.
The phones themselves are pretty awesome. They
do just about everything, including ghost hunting.
It's just that it concerns me when people seem to
be afraid to listen to the thoughts in their own
I like music and conversation; but I also enjoy
quiet. When I drive, I listen for engine or tire
sounds (first sign of trouble usually) or sirens,
or cars honking or people cursing from their
windows. When walking, I prefer to hear if a person
or animal is walking up behind me. I'm not
paranoid... just being aware of surroundings.
But back to cell phones. I have one, which I
mostly use for emergency.
The other day my shopping cart was run into by
another cart. The woman was on her phone and said
"I can't talk while I'm 'driving' this thing" into
her phone... yet didn't even look at me, much less
But the following experience just blew me away
(and inspired me to write this):
It was Halloween, and I was handing out candy to
the little monsters, movie stars and fairies. They
would walk up to the porch and shout "trick or
treat" and almost all of them said "thank you" when
I gave them a handful of sweets. But there was one
girl who walked up to the porch and held out her
bag, while continuing to blab on her cell phone. Oh
come on.. Get off the danged phone or don't come
begging for candy. She never said "trick or treat"
or "thank you". Just held open the bag without
even making eye contact with me. Must have been a
terribly important call... the red shoes or the
black ones.. oh my God isn't that new boy at school
cute... I got my nails done at Fifi's...
Will kids visiting Santa this year ignore him
while texting "I'm @ Santa" to a friend?
When people are talking or texting with someone
else, or listening to earphones, it says to me,
"I'm not really present so leave me alone."
Bye, got 2 go. C U L8R PPL U R Gr8
-----Sent from my iPhone-----
©2011, Mary Lou
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Mary Lou St.
Lucas is a former stay-at-home mom who has
participated in custody and divorce-related support
groups. She often speaks out through impassioned
letters to local newspapers regarding issues
affecting quality of life for children and
families. She has experienced divorce, including
the heartbreaking decision to give up daily contact
with her two sons for what she believed was their
best interest at that time, as well as the societal
stigma attached to being a non-custodial mother.
She emphasizes the importance of kids having BOTH
parents in their lives on a regular basis, even if
the parents cannot or will not be married anymore.
She hopes other parents will see that there may be
alternatives to the standard custody arrangements,
depending on the individual situation. She writes
from her perspective of today instead of revisiting
and dwelling on the painful emotions of her past.
She strives to live a full life in spite of a
recent diagnosis of fibromyalgia, and believes a
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