Harry Potter and the Magic of Words
You don't have to be a wizard or witch to work magical transformations with your words. Try these magic formulas, for example: You can transform a defeated, dispirited person into a happy, confident person by saying: "That was terrific! You did a great job!" in an enthusiastic, affectionate tone.
* You can transform a person with a poor self-image into a person who feels good about his/her looks by saying: "You look great/gorgeous today," in a tone of sincere admiration.
* You can transform a person who feels unloved and friendless into a person who feels valued and appreciated by saying: "How about getting together after school today? I'd really like to spend some time with you," in a genuinely friendly tone.
* You can magically heal a person's emotional wounds by pronouncing the magic formula: "I'm sorry for what I did. It was thoughtless and inconsiderate. I want to be friends with you." Don't forget the required tone: sincerely sorry.
Even before Harry arrived at Hogwarts, he experienced possibly the greatest magic in his life, from Hagrid the giant. Harry had spent his whole young life as the unwanted, unloved, powerless object of his Uncle Vernon's and Aunt Petunia's abuse and his cousin Dudley's bullying. When Hagrid burst into the hut on the rock and told Harry that he was a wizard--and a famous, powerful wizard at that--, who had defeated the world's greatest sorcerer Voldemort, Harry felt sure there had been a mistake. His low self-esteem could not accept this new, wondrous identity.
Hagrid, with "warmth and respect blazing in his eyes," looked at Harry and assured him that this marvelous identity really belonged to him. Then Hagrid uttered a statement of faith in Harry's future: "You wait, you'll be right famous at Hogwarts."
And Harry transformed from an introverted nerd with zero self-confidence into . . . the daring, brave hero the world adores. Can there be any greater magic than that?
Activity for Family and Classroom: Role-play the following situations:
1. Pat just failed a test - the second time in a row.
Pat: "I'm so dumb. I have air where my brain's supposed to be." What can you say to encourage and support Pat?
Possible response: "Don't worry, you'll do better next time. We'll study together. Maybe you're not studying the right stuff."
Hint: The important thing is not what you say, but that Pat feels that you care about and have faith in him/her.
2. Jamie tried out for the basketball team, but didn't make it. A few weeks later, Jamie tried out for the school play, but didn't get the part.
Jamie: "I'm such a loser. I'm not good at anything."
What can you say to Jamie to encourage and support?
Possible response: "That's not true. You're one of the best computer geniuses in the class. Remember the time my computer crashed before I could print out my final paper, and you managed to retrieve it? Not many kids would come over at 11:30 at night to help out a friend."
Hint: Everyone has a talent or strong point. A kid who gets bad grades may be creative with her hands. A kid with two left feet on the soccer field may have a knack with younger children. The best favor you can do for someone else is to help him/her to recognize his/her own strengths.
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