Books
on Death & Dying
The Men At Risk™ library lists
pertinent books on Death & Dying. See also books on
Depression,
Grief,
Stress,
and Suicide.
Also, Issues. Updated 9/19/01.
- Becker, Ernest, Denial of Death, MacMillan, 1973
- Chethik, Neil, Fatherloss: How
sons of all ages come to terms with the deaths of their dads.
Sigmund Freud called it "the most poignant loss" of his life.
Actor Sean Connery termed it "a shattering blow." Writer
Norman Mailer likened it to "having a hole in your tooth. It's a
pain that can never be filled." The experience of losing a father
- no matter when or how it occurs - tests the strength and
resilience of a son. In the worst of circumstances, the loss can
propel a son toward despondency; in the best, it can inspire in
him a new appreciation for his life and loves, and move him with
urgency to make the most of his remaining years. Based on a
landmark national survey of more than 300 men, and in-depth
interviews with 70 others, this book is a rich and nuanced
exploration of one of the most common and least studied events in
men's lives. The book offers a fresh view of the male grieving
process and practical advice to help guide sons through the loss
of their fathers, no matter what stage of life the son is in when
the death occurs. The author original research is fascinating and
often surprising. His study finds, for example, that a man's
relationship with his spouse or partner is twice as likely to get
better than worse after the death of his father. The book also
offers portraits of John F. Kennedy, Jr., Michael Jordan, Ernest
Hemingway, and other well-known men, focusing on how they came to
terms with the deaths of their fathers. And in the closing
chapter, the author, the father of a seven-year-old son, shares
what he learned about being a father during his three years of
research. Compelling and compassionate, this is an extraordinary
resource for anyone facing the death of a father, or still
adjusting to such a loss that occurred years or even decades ago.
See another review at www.kentuckyconnect.com/health/stories/men/0109father_loss.htm
Hyperion, www.HyperionBooks.com
2001 ISBN 0-7868-6532-6 Buy
This Book!
- Colgrove, Melba, How to Survive the Loss of a
Love: A different kind of guide to overcoming all
your emotional hurts, Bantam, 1988
- Colgrove, Melba, Surviving, Healing
& Growing: The workbook on how to survive the
loss of a love, Prelude, 1991
- Di Giulio, Robert, After Loss: Survival lessons
from an author who learned, WRS, 1993
- Feinstein, David, Rituals for iving
& Dying: How we can turn loss & the fear
of death into an affirmation of life, Harper, 1990
- Foos-Graber, Anya, Deathing: An intelligent
alternative for the final moments of life, Nicolas Hays,
1989
- Kubler-Ross, Elisabeth, On Children & Death,
Collier, 1983
- Levine-Stephen, Healing into Life & Death,
Doubleday, 1984
- Levine, Stephen, Who Dies? An investigation of
conscious living and conscious dying, Doubleday, 1982
- O'Nana, Stewart, A Prayer for the
Dying. Dark, poetic and chilling, this book asks if it's
possible to be a good man in a time of madness. Set in leafy
Friendship, Wisconsin, just after the Civil War, it opens
harmlessly on a languid summer day; only slowly do events reveal
themselves as sinister, bloom gentley into a shared nightmare, as
one nieghbor after another succumbs to a creeping, always fatal
disease. Our sole witness to this epidemic is Jacob Hansen,
Friendhip's sheriff, undertaker and pastor, a man with a large
heart and conscience. As the disease engulfs his town, breeding
hysteria, Jacob must find a humane way to save those he loves,
short of calling a full quarantine and boarding up the sick in
their houses. And what of the tramps slipping nightly through the
tinderdry woods, and the spiritualists from the city camped on the
edge of town with their charismatic leader, Chase? Who
will bury the dead properly, if not Jacob? This is a rare and
scary book and the author's most astounding achievement yet, a
sunlit Gothic painted in shimmering prose that darkens and
disturbs your complacency the further you go into it, until - as
in the best Poe and Flannery O'Connor - there is no turning back.
Henry Holt www.henryholt.com
1999 ISBN 0-8050-6147-9 Buy
this book!
- Pinkson, Tom, Do They Celebrate Christmas in Heaven?,
Wakan
- Staidacjer. Carp;. Beyond Grief: A Guide
for Recovering from the Death of a Loved One, New Harbinger,
1994
- Weltner, Peter,
The Risk of His Music. "Weltner portrays vividly his
characters: gay vets of Vietnam, Southern hayseeds sprouted in all
the wrong hometown settings, and perhaps most interestingly, male
lovers who've lived and aged together long enough to witness the
general decline of things in the middle America where they've
chosen to live, and who must then finally, as do any 'married
couples', see each other through to burial at the bitter end."
Edmund White. A book that is profoundly gay yet universally valid.
Graywolf, 1996
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Approximately 125 male fetuses are conceived for every 100 females.
105 baby boys are born for every 100 girl babies. 33% more boys than
girls die in the first year. At 18, it's 100/100 boys to girls. At 65
its 68/100, and at 85 its 44/100 men to women.
The rapid pace of life is nothing to worry about - the abrupt stop at
the end is.
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