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Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, nicotine) or engages in an activity (e.g., gambling, sex, shopping) that can be pleasurable but the continuation of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary responsibilities and concerns, such as work, relationships, or health. People who have developed an addiction may not be aware that their behavior is out of control and causing problems for themselves and others. The word addiction is used in several different ways. One definition describes physical addiction. This is a biological state in which the body adapts to the presence of a drug so that drug no longer has the same effect, otherwise known as a tolerance. Another form of physical addiction is the phenomenon of overreaction by the brain to drugs (or to cues associated with the drugs). An alcoholic walking into a bar, for instance, will feel an extra pull to have a drink because of these cues. However, most addictive behavior is not related to either physical tolerance or exposure to cues. People commonly use drugs, gamble, or shop compulsively in reaction to being stressed, whether or not they have a physical addiction. Since these psychologically based addictions are not based on drug or brain effects, they can account for why people frequently switch addictive actions from one drug to a completely different kind of drug, or even to a non-drug behavior. The focus of the addiction isn't what matters; it's the need to take action under certain kinds of stress. Treating this kind of addiction requires an understanding of how it works psychologically. When referring to any kind of addiction, it is important to recognize that its cause is not simply a search for pleasure and that addiction has nothing to do with one's morality or strength of character. Experts debate whether addiction is a "disease" or a true mental illness, whether drug dependence and addiction mean the same thing, and many other aspects of addiction. Such debates are not likely to be resolved soon. But the lack of resolution does not preclude effective treatment. Source: www.psychologytoday.com/basics/addiction All About the Teen Years Ninety percent of addictions begin during the teens years. Learn why, and learn how you can take a more active role in prevention. Brain Development, Teen Behavior and Preventing Drug Use There’s a reason that teenagers act the way they do. Understanding the brain science behind teenage behavior can help parents better prepare their kids to avoid drugs and alcohol. Why Do Teens Act The Way They Do? Have you ever looked at your teenager child and wondered: “Why do you do that?” From mood swings to risk taking, “normal teenage behavior” can appear to be anything but normal to parents and other adults. However, research reveals that patterns of brain development during these formative years play a significant role in shaping your teen’s personality and actions. In other words, there’s a biological reason teens act the way they do. Scientists have learned that it takes a brain about 25 years to fully develop. To some degree, you can consider the teen brain still on “training wheels” – it’s not yet able to perform at optimal adult levels. A huge burst of development happens during adolescence, and that burst can explain a lot of unpredictable – and sometimes risky – teen behavior. The Adolescent Brain and the Behavior it Causes From early adolescence through the mid-20s, the brain develops somewhat unevenly, from back to front. This may help explain teens’ endearingly quirky behavior, but it also makes them prone to risk-taking. Parts of the brain drive different behaviors.Brains develop back to front. So what? (Here's what.)And how do we know that? (Brain imaging technology.) Developing brains may be more prone to damage. The parts of the adolescent brain that develop first are those that control physical activity, emotion and motivation, in the back of the brain in the cerebellum, amygdala, and nucleus accumbens respectively. However, the part of the brain that controls reasoning and impulses – known as the prefrontal cortex – is near the front of the brain and, therefore, develops last. This part of the brain does not fully mature until the age of 25. The staggered development of certain parts of the brain can have noticeable effects on adolescent behavior. You may have noticed some of these in your teen: Difficulty holding back or controlling emotions A preference for high-excitement and low-effort activities (this is where the classic mantra of “sex, drugs and rock ‘n’ roll” comes from) Poor planning and judgment (such as rarely thinking of negative consequences) More risky, impulsive behaviors (including experimenting with drugs and alcohol) The development of the adolescent brain and behavior are closely linked. The prefrontal cortex, which could be called the ‘voice of reason’ in the teen brain, isn’t as influential as those parts that place a higher emphasis on emotion, excitement and short-term reward. In an instant, hormones can shift your teen’s emotions into overdrive, leading to unpredictable – and sometimes risky – actions. Unfortunately, developing brains are generally more prone to damage. This means that experimentation with drugs and alcohol can have lasting, harmful effects on your teen’s health. The Effects of Drugs on the Teen Brain Finding ways to satisfy needs and desires is part of life. It’s one of the many skills being fine-tuned during the teen years. When a teen takes drugs in order to feel good, it interferes with the body’s natural ability to do so. Here’s how drugs affect the brain: The brain is made up of billions of nerve cells. Nerves control everything from when the heart beats to what your teen feels, thinks and does. They do this by sending electrical signals throughout the body. The signals get passed from nerve to nerve by chemical messengers called neurotransmitters. For example, some of the signals that neurotransmitters send cause a feeling of satisfaction or pleasure. These natural rewards are the body’s way of making sure we look for more of what makes us feel good. (For instance, when we eat something tasty, neurotransmitters tell us we feel good. Seeking more of this pleasure helps to ensure we don’t starve.) The main neurotransmitter of the “feel-good” message is called dopamine. Drugs overload the body with dopamine — in other words, they cause the reward system to send too many “feel-good” signals. In response, the body’s brain systems try to right the balance by letting fewer of the “feel-good” signals through. As time goes on, the body needs more of the drug to feel the same high as before. This effect is known as tolerance, and it can be especially dangerous in the cases of drugs like heroin and cocaine. The effects of drugs on the brain don’t just end when the drug wears off. When a person stops taking a drug, dopamine levels remain low for some time. He or she may feel down, or flat, and unable to feel regular pleasures in life. The brain will eventually restore the dopamine balance by itself, but it takes time — anywhere from hours, to days, or even months, depending on the drug, the length and amount of use, and the person. Because teenagers have an over-active impulse to seek pleasure and less ability to consider the consequences, they are especially vulnerable when it comes to the temptations of drugs and alcohol. And because the internal reward systems are still being developed, a teen’s ability to bounce back to normal after using drugs may be compromised due to how drugs affect the brain. Source: drugfree.org/article/brain-development-teen-behavior/ Preventing Teen Drug Use: Risk Factors & Why Teens Use Ninety percent of addictions start in the teen years. Don’t ignore risk factors and assume your child will be okay, or simply ignore a problem because you think it’s just a passing stage of development. If something appears wrong, start taking action. Common Risk Factors Unfortunately, when it comes to kids and alcohol, parents can’t just gaze into a crystal ball to find out whether their kids will face problems with drinking or drug use in their teenage years. But there are biological and environmental factors you can watch out for to help you figure out if your child may be at a greater risk for addiction. It is important to keep in mind that risk factors do not determine a child’s destiny — instead, they provide a general gauge as to the likelihood of drug or alcohol use. But it is safe to say that addressing risk factors early and paying careful attention to children at higher risk can reduce that child’s likelihood of a future problem with drugs or alcohol. Understanding risk factors is also very important when a child with more risk has already experimented with substances or has a problem. Family History Family history of drug or alcohol problems can place a child at increased risk for developing a problem. While there is a stronger biological risk if a child’s parents have addiction problems, he or she is still at an elevated risk if an aunt, uncle, grandparent or cousin has an addiction or is in recovery. Of course, inheriting the gene does not mean the child will automatically become dependent on alcohol — no single risk factor determines a child’s destiny. If there is a history of a dependence or addiction in your family, you should let your child know since he or she is at a higher risk for developing a drug or alcohol problem. These conversations should take place no later than the pre-teen or early teen years. Discuss it in the same way you would if you had a disease like diabetes. Not sure what to say? Try changing the following script to fit the needs of your situation and family: “Your grandfather had a disease called alcoholism. It means he wasn’t able to drink alcohol, and when he did drink and wasn’t watching out for his health, it really hurt me and other people he loved. Yes, drinking is legal but some people can handle it and some people can’t. This disease can run in families so it’s something you need to watch out for — and I’m going to help you do that.” Mental Health or Behavioral Issues If your child has a psychiatric condition like depression, anxiety or Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), he or she is at more risk for a drug or alcohol problem. Although not all teenagers with these disorders will develop a substance abuse problem, the chances are higher when they have difficulty regulating their thoughts and emotions. Therefore, parents with children with psychiatric conditions should be vigilant about the possibility of their teen using drugs or alcohol. It is also a good idea to talk with your health care providers about the connection between psychiatric conditions and substance use. Managing and treating underlying psychiatric conditions, or understanding how emotional and behavioral problems can trigger or escalate a substance use problem, is important for reducing risk and preventing co-occurring disorders. Trauma Children who have had a history of traumatic events (such as witnessing a car accident, experiencing a natural disaster, being a victim of physical or sexual abuse, etc.) have been shown to be more at risk for substance use problems later in life. Therefore, it is important for parents to recognize the possible impact of trauma on their child and get help for their child to address the issue. Impulse Control Problems Children who frequently take risks or have difficulty controlling impulses are more at risk for substance use problems. While most teens understand the dangers of taking risks, some have particular difficulty resisting impulses to engage in risky behavior — especially as teenagers. Why Teens Use Drugs & Alcohol It’s important to try and understand where interest in drug and alcohol use might come from. Beyond risk factors, teens have their own reasons for using drugs or alcohol. Below are some of the key factors that influence their decisions to do so. Other People Teenagers see their parents and other adults drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes and, sometimes, trying other substances. Sometimes friends urge one another to have a drink or smoke pot, but it’s just as common for teens to start trying a substance because it’s readily available and they see all their friends enjoying it. Popular Culture Forty-five percent of teens agree with the statement “Movies and TV shows make drugs seem like an okay thing to do.” (PATS 2012) So be aware of the media that your son or daughter is consuming and talk to them about it. Escape and Self-Medication When teens are unhappy and can’t find a healthy outlet for their frustration or a trusted confidant, they may turn to chemicals for solace. The often rough teenage years can take an emotional toll on children, sometimes even causing depression, so when teens are given a chance to take something to make them feel better, many can’t resist. Boredom Teens who can’t tolerate being alone, have trouble keeping themselves occupied or crave excitement are prime candidates for substance use. Not only do alcohol and marijuana give them something to do, but those substances help fill the internal void they feel. Rebellion Alcohol is the drug of choice for the angry teenager because it frees him to behave aggressively. Methamphetamine, or meth, also encourages aggressive, violent behavior, and can be far more dangerous and potent than alcohol. Marijuana, on the other hand, often seems to reduce aggression and is more of an avoidance drug. The reasons for teenage drug-use are as complex as teenagers themselves. Instant Gratification Drugs and alcohol work quickly. The initial effects feel really good. Teenagers turn to drug use because they see it as a short-term shortcut to happiness. Lack of Confidence Many shy teenagers who lack confidence report that they’ll do things under the influence of alcohol or drugs that they might not otherwise. Not only do you have something in common with the other people around you, but there’s the mentality that if you do anything or say anything stupid, everyone will just think you had too many drinks or smoked too much weed. Misinformation Perhaps the most avoidable cause of substance use is inaccurate information about drugs and alcohol. Nearly every teenager has friends who claim to be experts on various recreational substances, and they’re happy to assure her that the risks are minimal. Educate your teenagers about drug use, so they get the real facts about the dangers of drug use. Source: drugfree.org/article/risk-factors-why-teens-use/ Preventing Teen Drug Use: How to Spot the Early Warning Signs Once you’ve familiarized yourself with common warning signs, a few simple guidelines can go a long way toward spotting issues with drug use earlier rather than later. It’s also a good idea to explore our Drug Guide for substance-specific information for Alcohol, Marijuana, Adderall, Prescription stimulants, Ritalin, Prescription Pain Relievfers (Opioids),OxyContin, Morpine, Fentanyl & Other Synthetic Opioids, LSD, Heroin, E-Cigarettes/Vaping, Cocaine/Crack, Prescription Sedatives and Tranquilizers, Xanax, Ecstasy (MDMA), PCP, Mushrooms, Ketamine, K2/Spice (synthetic marijuana), Herbal Ecstasy, Hashish, Methamphetamine (Meth), Methamphetamine Pills, Kraton, Khat, Peyote/Mescaline, PMA, Propofol/Diprivan, Pseudoephedrine, Rohypnol, Salvia, Steroids, Tobacco/Nicotine, Anorectic Drugs, Bath Salts, Caffeine. DMT, DOM/DOB/MDA, DXM, Flakka (Alpha-PVP), GHB, Inhalants, 2C-B/2C-T-7, Methcathinone, Opium, Ambien. Even if you don’t find direct evidence, it’s important to always trust your gut — take action by talking with your child and seeking help if necessary. How to Find Out if Your Child is Using Drugs or Alcohol Use Your Nose. Have a real, face-to-face conversation when your son or daughter comes home after socializing with friends. If there has been drinking or smoking, the smell will be on their breath, on clothing and in their hair. Look Them in the Eyes. When your child gets home after going out with her friends, take a close look. Pay attention to his or her eyes. Eyes will be red and heavy-lidded, with constricted pupils if they’ve used marijuana. Pupils will be dilated, and he or she may have difficulty focusing if they’ve been drinking. In addition, red, flushed color to the face and cheeks can also be a sign of drinking. Watch for Mood Changes. How does your teen act after a night out with friends? Are they loud and obnoxious, or laughing hysterically at nothing? Unusually clumsy to the point of stumbling into furniture and walls, tripping over their own feet and knocking things over? Sullen, withdrawn, and unusually tired and slack-eyed for the hour of night? Do they look queasy and stumble into the bathroom? These are all signs that they could have been drinking, using marijuana or other drugs. Monitor Driving and the Car. Your teen’s car and driving habits can offer clues as well. Is driving more reckless when he or she’s coming home after being with friends? Are there new, unexplained dents? If you’re suspicious, examine the inside of the car too. Does it smell like smoke or alcohol fumes? Are there any bottles, pipes, bongs, or other drug paraphernalia rolling around on the floor or hidden in the glove box? If you find evidence of drug use, be sure to prepare for the conversation ahead. Keep an eye out for deceit or secretiveness. Are their weekend plans starting to sound fishy? Are they being vague about where they’re going? Can they describe the movie they supposedly just saw? They say parents will be at the party they’re attending, but can’t give you a phone number and come home acting intoxicated? They get in way past curfew or estimated time with an endless string of excuses? When excuses fail, do they respond to your inquiries and concern by telling you that it’s none of your business? If these ring true, something is wrong and it’s time to take action. Should You Search Their Room? The limits you set with your child do not stop at their bedroom door. If you notice concerning changes in behavior, unusual odors wafting from their room (like marijuana or cigarette smoke), smells to mask other smells like incense or air fresheners, or other warning signs, it’s important to find out what’s going on behind that “KEEP OUT” sign. One note of caution, however. Be prepared to explain your reasons for a search, whether or not you decide to tell them about it beforehand. You can let them know it’s out of concern for their health and safety. If you discover that your kid is not drinking or doing drugs, this could be a good time to find out if there’s something else that may need to addressed. Kids come up with some crafty places to conceal alcohol, drugs, and drug paraphernalia. Some possible hiding spots include: Dresser drawers beneath or between clothes Desk drawers CD/DVD/Tape/Video cases Small boxes – jewelry, pencil, etc. Backpacks/duffle bags Under a bed In a plant, buried in the dirt In between books on a bookshelf Inside books with pages cut out Makeup cases – inside fake lipstick tubes or compacts Under a loose plank in floor boards Inside over-the-counter medicine containers (Tylenol, Advil, etc.) Inside empty candy bags such as M&Ms or Skittles Don’t overlook your teen’s cell phone or other digital devices. Do you recognize their frequent contacts? Do recent messages or social media posts hint at drug use or contradict what they’ve told you? If your search turns up evidence of drug use, prepare for the conversation ahead and do not be deterred by the argument of invaded privacy. Stand by your decision to search and the limits you’ve set. Source: drugfree.org/article/spotting-drug-use/ Look for Warning Signs Figuring out if your child is using drugs or alcohol can be challenging. Many of the signs and symptoms are, at times, typical teen or young adult behavior. Many are also symptoms of mental health issues, including depression or anxiety disorders. Explore our parent Drug Guide for even more substance-specific warning signs. If you’ve noticed any of the described changes or behaviors in your child, don’t be afraid to err on the side of caution. Prepare to take action and have a conversation during which you can ask direct questions like “Have you been drinking or using drugs?” While no parent wants to hear “yes,” being prepared for how you would respond can be the starting point for a more positive outcome. "The signs were vividly present yet camouflaged with aspects of what appeared to be just teenage behaviors. Looking back I realized, with great anguish, how my stepdaughter’s disease of addiction manifested right before our very eyes." - Linda Quirk, mother/stepmother of 3 Of course, not every child is inclined to confess and a “no” could also mean they’re in need of help for other reasons, including a mental health issue. In either case, experts strongly recommend that you consider getting a professional assessment with your child’s primary care doctor or a clinical psychologist to find out what’s going on. Behavioral Changes Has changed relationships with family members or friends Uses chewing gum or mints to cover up breath Often uses over-the-counter preparations to reduce eye reddening or nasal irritation Frequently breaks curfew Has cash flow problems Drives recklessly, and has car accidents or unexplained dents in the car Avoids eye contact Locks doors Goes out every night Makes secretive phone calls Makes endless excuses Has the “munchies” or sudden appetite Exhibits uncharacteristically loud, obnoxious behavior Laughs at nothing Has become unusually clumsy: stumbling, lacking coordination, poor balance Disappears for long periods of time Has periods of sleeplessness or high energy, followed by long periods of “catch up” sleep Mood & Personality Shifts Exhibits mood changes or emotional instability Sullen, withdrawn, depressed Shows loss of inhibitions Silent, uncommunicative Hostile, angry, uncooperative Deceitful or secretive Less motivated Unable to focus Hyperactive Unusually elated Hygiene & Appearance Problems Smell of smoke or other unusual smells on breath or on clothes Messy appearance Poor hygiene Red, flushed cheeks or face Track marks on arms or legs (or long sleeves in warm weather to hide marks) Burns or soot on fingers or lips (from “joints” or “roaches” burning down) Health Issues Unusually tired Lethargic movement Unable to speak intelligibly, slurred speech, or rapid-fire speech Nosebleeds Runny nose, not caused by allergies or a cold Frequent sickness Sores, spots around mouth Seizures Vomiting Wetting lips or excessive thirst (known as “cotton mouth”) Sudden or dramatic weight loss or gain Skin abrasions/bruises Accidents or injuries Depression Headaches Sweatiness School and Work Concerns Absenteeism or loss of interest Loss of interest in extracurricular activities, hobbies or sports Failure to fulfill responsibilities at school or work Complaints from teachers or supervisors Reports of intoxication at school or work At Home and in the Car Disappearance of prescription or over-the-counter pills Missing alcohol or cigarettes Disappearance of money or valuables Receiving unusual packages in the mail Smell in the car or bottles, pipes or bongs on floor or in glove box Appearance of unusual containers or wrappers, or seeds left on surfaces used to clean marijuana Appearance of unusual drug apparatuses, including pipes, rolling papers, small medicine bottles, eye drops, butane lighters, or makeshift smoking devices, like bongs made out of toilet paper rolls and aluminum foil Hidden stashes of alcohol You can never be too safe or speak up too soon. Even if you think they’re just “experimenting.” Download our Intervention eBook (12 page PDF) and begin taking the first steps toward helping your child with his or her substance use. Source: drugfree.org/article/look-for-warning-signs/ Prepare to Take Action if You Suspect Teen or Young Adult Drug Use “What do I do if my kid is using drugs?” If you’ve just discovered or have reason to believe your child is using drugs, the first thing to do is sit down and take a deep breath. We know it’s a scary time, but you’re in the right place. Before you intervene, take time to prepare yourself for the important conversation ahead, and to lay the foundation for more positive outcomes. Talk With Your Spouse or Partner We’re all familiar with the trick of turning to one parent when the other says no. It’s best if you and your spouse come to a common stance on drug and alcohol use before raising the subject with your child. Remind each other that nobody is to blame. Come to an agreement on the position you’ll take. Even if you disagree, commit to presenting a united front. Pledge not to undermine or bad-talk each other. Remind each other to come from a place of love when talking to your son or daughter. Prepare to be Called a Hypocrite You’re likely to be asked whether or not you’ve done drugs, and there are ways to answer honestly that keep the emphasis less on you, and more on what you want for your son or daughter. You could explain that you tried drugs in order to fit in, only to discover that’s never a good reason to do anything. Or you can focus on the fact that drugs affect everyone differently, and just because your life wasn’t harmed by drug use, you’ve seen it happen to too many others. Don’t let your response become a justification for your child’s drug use. Focus on the issue at hand – that you don’t want your son or daughter drinking or using drugs. Be honest – but be sure they know you don’t want them using. If you use tobacco and your child calls you on this, mention that you are an adult, and yes, you can do this since it’s legal – but you understand that you shouldn’t and it’s not healthy. Underscore how hard it is to stop as an adult and that you want to help your child to avoid making the same mistakes. If you’re in recovery, think of your past experiences as a gift you can use to impact your child. Tell your child, “I did these things but I made wrong choices, and I want you to learn the lessons from my mistakes.” How to Talk to Your Kids About Drugs if You Did Drugs You can do this, and we can help. You may even be able to use past experience to your advantage. DOWNLOAD THE QUICK GUIDE NOW Gather Any Evidence It’s understandable to have some reservations about snooping in your child’s room or through their belongings, but remember, your primary responsibility is to their well-being. As you gather evidence, try to anticipate different ways they might deny using, like the excuse “I’m holding it for someone else.” Even if you don’t have an airtight case, you’ll be better prepared for the important conversation to come. Common hiding places include: Dresser drawers, beneath or between clothes Desk drawers Small boxes – jewelry, pencil, etc. Backpacks/duffle bags Under a bed In a plant, buried in the dirt Between books on a bookshelf In books with pages cut out Makeup cases – inside fake lipstick tubes or compacts Under a loose plank in floor boards In fake soda bottles with false bottoms Inside over–the–counter medicine containers (Tylenol, Advil, etc) Inside empty candy bags such as M&Ms or Skittles Expect anger, and resolve to remain calm If you think the conversation will be uncomfortable for you, imagine how uncomfortable it will make your son or daughter. Be prepared for them to say things to shock you, deny even the most convincing evidence, accuse you of distrust, and worse. Think about how you’ll handle an angry or resentful reaction from your child. Resolve to remain calm, no matter what your child says. Try not to be baited into responding with anger of your own. If the conversation gets heated, end it and bring it up later. If you find the discussion is too emotional and not productive, figure out what you need to do to keep things calm before restarting the conversation. If you’re struggling, talk to a counselor to help you find de-escalation techniques that are effective and work naturally for you. Don’t forget to tell your child that you love him or her, and this is why you’re concerned. Set a Realistic Goal Things will go more smoothly if you have a desired outcome in mind. It’s OK – and probably for the best – to keep expectations low. It may be unrealistic to expect your child to admit to use and pledge to stop. A more reasonable objective, like simply expressing that you don’t want him or her to use, can be a win. Try not to have unrealistic expectation, especially if this is your first conversation. Keep in mind that your child will probably not admit to using drugs or alcohol right off the bat. Set a small goal and move toward it, one step at a time. Spell Out Rules and Consequences Before the conversation starts, think through which rules you would like to put in place, and what the consequences of breaking them will be. This can help clarify the goal of your conversation, and help you set a clear next step. For more tips, see advice on setting limits. Have an idea of the rules and consequences you’d like to set going in. Listen to your teen’s feedback and let him help negotiate rules and consequences. Be sure your spouse knows about and is prepared to enforce these rules. Don’t set rules you will have no way of enforcing. Recognize Any Addiction in the Family Don’t deny addiction in your family. Use it as a way to talk to your child and regularly remind him or her of their elevated risk. Drug and alcohol dependence can happen to anyone. But if there is a history of addiction – cocaine, alcohol, nicotine, etc. – in your family, your child has a much greater risk of developing an addiction. Explain that while they may be tempted to try drugs, the odds aren’t in their favor. Their genes make them more vulnerable to developing a dependence or addiction. Download your free guide to speaking up You can never be too safe or speak up too soon – even if you think they’re just “experimenting.” Download the Intervention eBook, our comprehensive guide to taking the first important steps to address your child’s drinking or drug use. GET THE FREE EBOOK NOW - 12 page PDF Source: drugfree.org/article/prepare-to-take-action/ When You Discover Teen or Young Adult Drug Use: Start Talking Discovering that your son or daughter could be using drugs stirs up a lot of emotion. The best way to find out what’s going on, and to begin helping, is to start talking. Learn how to have a conversation instead of another confrontation. Set the Stage Take a deep breath and set yourself up for success by creating a safe, open and comfortable space for to start talking with your son or daughter. Hold off until she is not under the influence. Do not start a conversation when your child is drunk or high. Get on his level, literally. If your child is sitting you want to be sitting as well. Turn off all smartphones and don’t allow any interruptions while you’re talking. Set some goals. What do you want your child to take away from the conversation? Try writing down your thoughts to review later. Try to put any panic or anger aside. If you’re anxious, find a way calm yourself (take a walk, meditate) beforehand, like taking a walk or speaking with a friend for emotional support. Establish a Good Connection As angry or frustrated as you feel, keep reminding yourself to speak and listen from a place of love, support and concern. Stay calm. Try to stay as relaxed as possible throughout the conversation. Keep focused. Try your best not to overreact to what has already happened. Instead, focus on what you want for your child in the future. Watch your voice. You may want to scream and yell, but it’s important to maintain the calm and avoid pushing your child away. Body language counts. Be careful of finger-pointing and crossed arms – try a relaxed, open posture instead. Listen as much as you talk. Be sure it’s a back-and-forth, not a lecture. Try not to be defensive. Don’t take criticism personally. Let it be an opportunity for further discussion. Focus completely on your child. Try to see things from his point of view. This will help you better sympathize. Put yourself in your child’s shoes. How you would like to be addressed when speaking about a difficult topic? Keep an open mind. If your child is feeling judged or condemned, she is less likely to be receptive to your message. Recognize when you don’t have the energy to be a good listener and agree to restart the conversation (as long as it isn’t dire) at a later, better time. How to Have a Conversation not a Confrontation Learn how to best approach your son or daughter about his or her drug use, how to remain calm and make it a productive conversation. DOWNLOAD THE QUICK GUIDE NOW Now You’re Talking You’ve collected your thoughts and steeled your nerves, but how do you actually start talking? And more importantly, get your child to talk too? Express how much you care. Explain that the reason you’re talking and asking questions is because you want her to be healthy and happy. Let your child know you value his honesty and are willing to listen without making judgments. Ask open-ended questions. These are questions that elicit more than just “yes” or “no.” Let your child know you hear her. Reflect back on what you’re hearing by rephrasing and asking for input – “Did I get everything? – or with nonverbal cues like nodding and smiling. Offer empathy and compassion. Demonstrate understanding and show your child you get it. Show your concern. Tell your child that you’re worried about her (example, “You haven’t been yourself lately”). Clearly state any evidence you’ve found. Example: “You’re not showering, your grades have dropped, and I found empty beer cans in your car.” Give lots of praise and positive feedback. Teens and young need to know you can still see beyond the things they’ve done wrong. Find the positives in a situation, no matter how hard it may seem. Remind your child of your support. Reassure her that you can always be counted on for support and that she can confide in or seek advice from you whenever it’s needed. Show your love. Physical connection is important. Put a hand on your child’s shoulder or give him a hug when it feels right. Consider sharing your memories. Share a story of when you were a teen or young adult and the mistakes you made. Listen to your child vent. Sometimes she just needs to complain and get things off her chest. Be aware that your child could be hiding his true feelings out of fear, embarrassment, or something else. Be careful to not just take what he says at face value. Listen between the words. Pay attention to body language, facial expressions and difficulty finding the right words to use. Thank your child for talking with you. Even if the conversation didn’t go exactly as planned, your gratitude will make your child feel good and shows it was important to you. Break Through Barriers It can be difficult to get past a flat-out denial of drug or alcohol use from your son or daughter. Some kids can’t bear to take responsibility for their behavior and want to look good at all costs. Be firm and loving. Don’t yell. Remain calm. It’s harder to fight with – or storm off from – a calm person than it is from somebody who is yelling at you. Focus on the behavior and why it worries you. Don’t make it sound like you think your child is a bad person because he has tried drugs or alcohol. If you’re child is preoccupied with framing the discussion around trust, keep emphasizing your concerns for her health and safety. Insist on the value of truth telling. Explain that people trust you more when you are honest; that honesty is a highly-respected trait that requires courage and independent thought; and usually liars get caught in their lies. Think beforehand about how you could verify her claims and bring them up – for example, if your daughter says she spent the day at a friend’s house, tell her you may need to call her friend’s mom to check on the story. If you have objective proof that your teen or young adult is lying, bring it up – but try not to make it a triumph or contest. It’s not about winning the argument or proving he or she lied to you, it’s about keeping your child safe. Try to find out why he lied instead of going straight to reprimanding him for it. Keep talking and let your child know that you will get to the truth no matter how many conversations it takes and that you will do everything available to keep him/her safe and away from drugs. Set clear consequences so your child knows what will happen if he repeats problematic behavior in the future, whether it’s actual drug use or overstepping other limits related to drug or alcohol use. Consider granting immunity. Some young people get caught in a web of lies and can’t get out. You can sometimes help by offering a chance to clear the record. Tell her that if she tells the truth there will be no immediate consequences but she’ll have to conduct herself differently in the future. And if she doesn’t, she’ll be held accountable. Reward honesty in the future. If your daughter opens up to you and tells you the truth about something that perhaps isn’t so easy for her – be sure to tell her that you’re proud of her for doing so. Keep the Conversation Going Have you succeeded in having a productive conversation? Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back, but don’t stop there. Keep talking and keep the dialogue open. Review your goals to see which ones were met (and if they were met effectively) and which will be saved for a later date. Reflect on what went right and what went wrong during each conversation so that you can make improvements for next time. Make a list and tackle any follow-up items (ex: understanding more about your child’s anxiety and finding ways to help her.) Set up and use family meetings to full advantage. Get input from each person on rules, curfews and on the consequences of breaking rules. Get Expert Advice on Talking with Your Teen or Young Adult Child Therapists and parenting experts share advice on preparing for and engaging in more productive conversations with your child. Source: drugfree.org/article/start-talking/ When You Discover Teen or Young Adult Drug Use: Set Limits & Monitor Teens and young adults want freedom. You don’t want to be a nag. But when you’ve discovered drug or alcohol use, all bets are off. Establish Rules & Consequences Rules provide a concrete way to let your child understand what’s expected of him or her and to learn self-control. Don’t just assume they “know” you don’t want them to drink or do drugs. Teens and young adults don’t deal well with gray areas, so when they’re offered alcohol or drugs, you don’t want any confusion in their minds. If you’re a parent who feels bad about setting limits, remember that deep down, your child actually wants them. Rules mean that you care about your child and his or her safety. And consequences actually help – not hurt them. A firm consequence, such as getting grounded or having to give up a fun privilege, will remind your child what not to do in the future. When you lay out rules and consequences, make sure you’re clear – and that your child understands the limits you’ve set before there’s opportunity to do something wrong. One great way to do this is to actually write out the things you expect from one another (being home before curfew, getting a ride home from a party if things get out of hand), and jointly sign off on them, in effect, creating a contract. Write a Contract with Your Child Put it writing with a simple contract establishing clear rules and consequences. Use our template to get started. DOWNLOAD TEMPLATE NOW Write a Contract with Your Kids Monitor How will you know that your son or daughter is following the rules? By keeping a close eye on him or her and communicating regularly about their whereabouts, friends, activities, and more. Ways to keep closer tabs on your child: Finding subtle ways to “drop in” while his or her friends are at your house. Ask questions before he or she leaves. Find out where they’re going, who will be there and what they’ll be doing. Check in while they’re out. Call to say hello and include a reminder that you expect rules to be followed. Ask questions when he or she gets home. Make eye contact, smell his or her hair and ask about the night to gauge sobriety and truthfulness. Reach out to other parents in your community. This way you can all keep an eye on one another’s kids. Keep Track & Take Notes When drug use is suspected, and even once it’s confirmed, it’s useful to keep records of everything that concerns you over time – the date, time, where it occurred, what was found, and changes over time. Your child will likely work hard to convince you that things didn’t happen the way you remember, or that the things you found are not what you think they are. In addition, all of this information will be invaluable should it become necessary to seek outside help. Helpful Things to Note: When did drug use start? How did it start? / How did they get it? Did it progress to other drugs? Who are your child’s friends? And their parents? Who is in your child’s online social networks? Who is in their cell phone address book? If you cannot look on his or her phone, look at the monthly bill and note unfamiliar numbers. Note occasions when they come home late and who they’re hanging out with. Track the number of prescription pills in your home. Anything suspicious found in their room or among their belongings? Any drug–related terms or slang in text messages or other communications (ex: “Mary Jane” for marijuana, “Vitamin R” for Ritalin or “OCs” for OxyContin)? BOTTOM LINE Just because your child agrees to something during an initial intervention, it doesn’t mean their drug use or related behavior will actually stop. You need to set limits and firm consequences. No one wants to be a mean parent, but setting rules is ultimately about keeping kids safe. Download your free guide to speaking up GET THE FREE EBOOK You can never be too safe or speak up too soon. Download the Intervention eBook, our comprehensive guide to taking the first important steps to address your teen or young adult’s substance use. Source: drugfree.org/article/set-limits-monitor/ What are the Treatment Options? For most people, “treatment” for substance use conjures images of detox or a residential rehab facility. In reality, detox (detoxification) is not treatment, and a residential program is just one of a variety of options. Treatment for teens and young adults struggling with substance us or addiction can take place in different forms, settings and for different lengths of time — and the type you don’t know about could end up being the best one for your child. Before you make any decisions, take time to understand the options. Understand What’s Available Approaches to treating addiction are generally similar regardless of substance. However, treatment is typically individualized to some degree based on the characteristics of the patient — treatment programs usually address an individual’s physical, psychological, emotional, and social issues in addition to his or her alcohol or other drug use — as well as the type of substance itself, as in the case of medication-assisted treatment for opioids. Review the overview of different types of programs below. And if you haven’t already done so, be sure to review our information on Navigating the Treatment System. "I've heard from countless young people that the reason they got into recovery was because of a parent who fought for them when they couldn’t figure out how to help themselves." - Pat A. Treatment Program Types OUTPATIENT Low to Medium Intensity Clients typically attend no more than nine hours of treatment a week (slightly less for teens) at a specialty facility while continuing to live at home. Many programs make services available in the evenings and on weekends so individuals can remain in school or continue to work. INTENSIVE OUTPATIENT Medium to High Intensity Clients attend 10-20 hours of treatment a week (slightly less for teens) at a specialty facility while continuing to live at home. Many programs make services available in the evenings and on weekends so individuals can continue to work or stay in school. A better option for individuals who need multiple services, have accompanying medical or psychological illnesses or have not been successful in outpatient treatment. DAY TREATMENT / PARTIAL HOSPITALIZATION Medium to High Intensity Clients attends four to eight hours of treatment a day (20 or more a week) while continuing to live at home. Most families use these types of programs when their child needs an intensive and structured experience. Day treatment can be appropriate for individuals with co-occurring mental illness. RESIDENTIAL Medium to High Intensity These programs provide treatment in a residential settings and can last from one month to a year. Typically, residents go through different phases as they progress through the program. During certain phases, contact with your child may be limited. Ask questions about the program’s policies and procedures, and any additional services like education or vocational training. INPATIENT High Intensity Treatment provided in specialty units of hospitals or medical clinics offering both detox and rehabilitation services. Typically used for people with serious medical conditions or mental disorders. MEDICATION-ASSISTED TREATMENT For individuals with a physical dependency on certain drugs, primarily heroin and other opioids, medication is provided in a specialized outpatient setting in combination with counseling and other treatment services. Learn more about Medication-Assisted Treatment for Opioids >> Services Offered Most treatment programs offer a combination of the services listed below. It’s important for individuals struggling with substance use to receive a comprehensive range of services. If a service is not offered at your child’s program, the staff there should be able to help your family find it elsewhere. INDIVIDUAL COUNSELING One-on-one counseling to explore personal problems that an individual may not be comfortable discussing in a group setting. GROUP COUNSELING Usually consists of six to ten people with one or two counselors facilitating a discussion of their struggles, experiences and problems. HOME BASED SERVICES Substance use and mental health treatment services provided in-home. Examples include Adolescent Portable Therapy (APT) and Multidimensional Family Therapy (MDFT). EDUCATIONAL SERVICES Grade-appropriate classes (or GED classes) for teens still in school, or those who may have dropped out, to help reduce disruptions to their schooling. VOCATIONAL SERVICES Services to help determine an individual’s vocational aptitudes and interests, along with job skills, resume development and other work readiness skills. LIFE SKILLS Focuses on behavioral tools designed to help a teen or young adult cope with the stresses and challenges of daily life and develop greater self-esteem in order to better manage their recovery. TREATMENT FOR MENTAL ILLNESS Individuals diagnosed with co-occurring mental illness need treatment for their substance use in addition to the mental illness, ideally in an integrated fashion. Treating the substance use alone will not help resolve underlying mental illness, and treating a depressive disorder alone will not resolve the substance use or dependence. FAMILY SERVICES In most cases, family involvement is an important element in treating teens and young adults. It helps family members understand addiction as a chronic illness, helps the family have realistic expectations and goals for treatment, and helps improve communication and overall family functioning. CONTINUING CARE Sometimes labeled After Care or Follow-up Care, this includes treatment prescribed after completion of a formal structured program in any type of setting. It is a necessary support plan for ensuring that the tools learned in treatment can be applied successfully in the real world. Learn more about Continuing Care >> Recovery Supports and Services Recovery from addiction or a substance use disorder is more than abstinence. Recovery is about improving one’s quality of life, being emotionally and physically healthy, succeeding in school or work, having healthy relationships, having a healthy social life and living drug-free. For most people, maintaining recovery requires supports and services after formal treatment is completed. Common recovery supports and services include the following; RECOVERY OR SOBER HOUSE These are transitional residences for adults 18 years and older in recovery. Homes usually have a small number residents, a small professional staff, clear and enforced rules about abstinence and a significant level of structure. Potential residents should be able to make a three- to six-month commitment to living in a group situation where a major focus is remaining sober. SOBER DORMS For teens and young adults entering or already in college, you can ask the university if there are any dorms set aside for students in recovery from alcohol or other drug addiction. If not, you can ask about the procedure for establishing a sober dorm on campus; as requests increase, more universities are likely to create them for young people in recovery. RECOVERY HIGH SCHOOLS High schools that combine a state-approved curriculum (make sure the school meets requirements for granting diplomas) with recovery supports and services. For a list of recovery high schools as well as universities with sober dorms, visit www.recoveryschools.org. ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS (AA) and NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS (NA) 12-Step groups of men and women that come together to share their experiences, provide support and stay sober. It’s important to find a group your child is comfortable with such as a meeting with other young people in recovery. Source: drugfree.org/article/what-are-the-treatment-options/ How to Navigate the Addiction Treatment System Realizing that your teen or young adult child needs help for his or her substance use can be scary and overwhelming, and chances are you have no idea where to begin. There is no one-size-fits-all answer so it can take a fair amount of research to figure out what type of help your child needs, and how to get it. No matter where you are emotionally, mentally or physically, we’re here to help. What is Treatment? For most people, “treatment” for substance use conjures images of detox or a residential rehab facility. In reality, detox (detoxification) is not treatment, and a residential program is just one of a variety of options. Treatment can take place in different forms, settings and for different lengths of time. The approach to treating addiction is generally similar regardless of substance. However, treatment is typically individualized to some degree based on the characteristics of the patient — programs usually address an individual’s physical, psychological, emotional and social issues in addition to his or her alcohol or drug use — as well as the type of substance itself, as in the case of medication-assisted treatment for opioids. Unfortunately, when it comes to addiction and substance use disorders, just as with other health conditions, there are no guarantees for the perfect treatment, and it can be difficult to access quality care. Addiction is a manageable but chronic disease, just like diabetes or asthma. Because it is a chronic, relapsing disease, treatment should not be approached as a way to “cure” your loved one. It is a first step in helping your child learn how to manage his or her addiction. How to Find the Right Treatment Getting the right treatment for your child is a process, and navigating the current systems in place requires due diligence and perseverance. There are services that may offer to find a treatment program for you at no charge; be careful as there are unscrupulous people out there who will pretend to have your best interests at heart, but are more interested in their own financial benefit (see our note on referral services). We are a nonprofit, and our parent services are made available for the sole purpose of helping you find the best solutions for your child and your family. EDUCATE YOURSELF One of the most important things you can do to help your child is to educate yourself about substance use disorders, what quality treatment consists of, and the types of programs available. Using the various resources offered here on this site is a great start. GET A SCREENING ASSESSMENT In order to determine the severity of the issue and an appropriate level of care, you may wish to have a substance use counselor take an assessment. It should include a thorough look at the extent of your child’s drug and alcohol use, your child’s mental and physical health as well as personal, medical and family history. NETWORK Talk to the people around you. You may feel like keeping your child’s drug or alcohol problem a secret, but you shouldn’t. Addiction is a chronic disease, not a moral failing on your part or your child’s part. The people you’re hiding from may be the same people who could connect you to needed help, offer support or a shoulder to cry on. UNDERSTAND THE OPTIONS There are many types of treatment services available, in a variety of settings, including outpatient, inpatient, and residential. And none of it is one-size-fits-all. Before you make any decisions, know the options. CONSIDER LOCATION Family involvement is a critical element of adolescent and young adult treatment, making location an important factor. If you live in an area that doesn’t have the level of care your child needs, and you choose remote care, discuss with the program how your family will be involved (e.g. phone or video calls, emails, family visits, etc.). MAKE CALLS, ASK QUESTIONS You can’t be sure if a program is the best fit for your child unless you get to talk to the people there and ask the right questions. It will be time-consuming — but worth it. Health Insurance and Paying for Treatment Unfortunately, the current reality is that treatment programs can be shockingly expensive. But there are options available that can help your family handle the financial burden of paying for needed treatment. We know it is not easy, but the more information you have the better able you will be to make good decisions for your child and family. There are several options when it comes to paying for substance abuse treatment for your child. One of the most common is through private health insurance, but additional options to explore include Medicaid, Veterans Administration benefits (if you’re a military family), Employee Assistance Programs (EAP), student health services, clinical trials, financial aid, payment plans and a sliding fee scale. Under the Affordable Care Act, many health insurance plans are required to include mental health and substance use disorder coverage; however coverage varies state by state and plan by plan. Earlier legislation also requires that those plans that include mental health coverage provide the same level of coverage as they do for other physical illnesses. It’s important to understand what your insurance will cover. For example, your plan may say that it covers 30 days of residential treatment, but they may decline allowing you to use this benefit if they believe an outpatient program is sufficient. In such instances you can ask for an emergency appeal, which in most cases is done within 24 hours. It may also help to investigate whether they will cover an outpatient program with a boarding component. In the treatment world, this is often referred to as the “Florida Model.” These are facilities that will provide treatment five days a week with activities scheduled for the weekend, coupled with boarding. And of course there’s the issue of how your coverage may be structured. Do you have a deductible (an amount you have to pay before insurance kicks in)? What is your co-pay (usually expressed as a percentage of covered costs)? Is coverage in-network only? You don’t want to be blindsided by hidden or unexpected costs. Getting Your Child Into Treatment Understandably, you may have concerns about actually getting your child to begin treatment. Many good treatment programs know how to engage teens and young adults in treatment and to help them recognize the importance of it. You can always seek help from the program you have selected. This is a good opportunity to talk to your child about your concerns for his or her life, health, and safety, and about how entering treatment may be a little scary but it’s a step toward a healthier life. Depending on the state you live in, your child may have to agree to treatment. Some programs won’t accept children if they don’t agree to attend, even if they are under 18. You may have legal options available to you but it depends on the specific laws in your state. Although the registration process can vary from program to program, the following are few things to look out and be prepared for: MOST PROGRAMS REQUIRE A PRE-SCREENING. You or your child may be interviewed over the phone, but that doesn’t mean your child will (or should) end up in that program. If it isn’t a good fit, the provider should refer you to another program that can better meet your child’s needs. THERE IS A LOT OF PAPERWORK. You may feel overwhelmed by it, but it is important that you read the paperwork carefully and not just sign at the dotted line. Be sure to ask your son or daughter to sign a release allowing you to speak with personnel at the treatment facility. Absent such consent, the facility becomes bound by HIPPA protocol, and they’ll be unable to share information with you. THERE WILL BE A FULL INTAKE PROCESS. This should include questions about your child’s drug use, your family, your child’s medical history, educational history and mental health. YOUR CHILD AND HIS OR HER BELONGINGS MAY BE SEARCHED. It is not uncommon for patients to try to sneak drugs or alcohol into a residential treatment center. So be aware that they may take your son or daughter into a private room and search clothes and belongings. For some this can feel like an invasion of privacy, but it is necessary and important to ensure a substance-free environment. AFTERCARE SHOULD BE A PART OF THE TREATMENT PLAN. Treatment is not over after discharge; rather that is when much of the hard work is really just beginning. Families need a successful discharge plan that can be realistically implemented. Explore the topic of Continuing Care to learn more. WAITLISTS EXIST. In some areas there are extensive waitlists for treatment services. We understand the frustration and added challenges this creates. If you find yourself in this situation, consider calling your state’s Department of Human Services and your state’s Department of Mental Health & Addiction Services (or equivalent agencies) to see if they can direct you to available treatment programs. Recovery centers, Angel Programs connected to law enforcement and word-of-mouth at 12-step and support group meetings are also great resources for learning where or how to get treatment more quickly. In some cases, simply being persistent and calling a facility on a daily basis can help your loved one move up on the list. Taking Care of Yourself Although you are probably not thinking about yourself right now, one of the smartest things you can do for your child in trouble and your family is to take care of yourself so that you remain strong, healthy, and sane. Many parents with a sick child forget about their own emotional and physical health. But remember, just as your child needs to get healthy and learn life without drugs and alcohol, you and your family also need to get healthy and stay healthy. Seeking professional counseling for yourself is just as important as getting help for your addicted child. While your child is battling an alcohol or other drug problem, you’re also likely struggling with some overwhelming feelings of fear, anger, resentment, guilt or shame, among others. Physical symptoms like migraine headaches, insomnia and upset stomach or indigestion are not uncommon. Embracing the notion of self-care at a time when it feels like your world is crumbling will be more of challenge for some than for others. But the need for self-care, and its benefits to not just yourself, but your entire family, can’t be overlooked or overstated. Learn more about taking care of your own needs and why self-care isn’t just for yourself. A NOTE ON REFERRAL SERVICES: If you’ve searched online for help or treatment for your loved one, you’ve likely encountered what are advertised as free treatment referral services. These services are frequently affiliated with private, for-profit treatment providers. Those providers may indeed offer reputable treatment, but it’s important to be well informed before engaging with a service that could be putting someone else’s bottom line above the best interests of your family Source: drugfree.org/article/navigating-the-treatment-system/ How to Find an Addiction Treatment Provider Finding a treatment provider for your teen or young adult struggling with substance use can be overwhelming. We’re here to help. Find a Treatment Provider The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) maintains and manages the most comprehensive searchable database of treatment providers across the country. Before using this tool it’s helpful to have already done your homework on the types of treatment available — like intensive outpatient or residential care — so that you can target your search most effectively. The SAMHSA treatment locator is a robust tool with a variety of filtering options such as type of care provided, treatment setting, payment types accepted, languages spoken, etc. in order to focus in on your family’s specific needs. It can be overwhelming, however. There is a great video tutorial available to help walk you through it. Once you have a list of potential treatment or rehab providers, it’s important to call and ask the right questions to determine who can best meet your family’s needs. For example, you may need a rehabilitation program that in addition to substance use also addresses trauma, self-harm behaviors or other mental health needs. There are lots of important questions to ask with regard to insurance and payment options as well. A treatment or rehab facility may state that they take private insurance, but you’ll need to verify that your insurance company will authorize use of your benefits for the type of services selected. You may also find working with a certified addictions professional helpful to sorting through the available treatment options and determining the best rehab programs to consider in light of your child’s needs and other important factors like location and financial accessibility. Source: drugfree.org/article/finding-a-treatment-provider/ Skills to Help Your Child and Family Heal Lecturing often falls on deaf ears. Trying to yell and punish your child may work in the short term but likely won’t have a lasting impact. Others will advise you to use “tough love” or to detach completely and let consequences pile up so that your child will hit “rock bottom.” But there’s another way. What is CRAFT? 3:47 If your teen or young adult child is experimenting with alcohol and drugs or has a full-blown substance use disorder, you likely feel frustrated, overwhelmed and helpless. Community Reinforcement and Family Training, or CRAFT, is a scientifically proven approach to help parents change their child’s substance use by staying involved in a positive, ongoing way. CRAFT, created by Dr. Robert Meyers and expanded upon by the psychologists at the Center for Motivation & Change, is an approach to help family members change the way they have been interacting with their child to influence choices around substance use. CRAFT provides families like yours with tools to better understand your child’s reasons for substance use, ways to improve communication and to reward non-using behaviors while discouraging substance use. Equally important are the tools around self-care to handle negative emotions like anger, guilt and depression, and to address feelings of isolation. Principles of CRAFT Our CRAFT video series helps bring these principles to life via real families that have been there just like yours, and for whom the skills and practices of CRAFT were a game changer. Learn Skills to Help Your Family Heal 3:48 0:50 1:04 0:52 1:01 How to help your child struggling with substance abuse? Positive Reinforcement Natural Consequences Listening Behavisors make sense   Behaviors Make Sense It’s helpful for family members to ask themselves what is driving their loved one’s behaviors around substance use. It could be anything from boredom and a lack of purpose, to feeling left out and insecure, to curiosity and thrill seeking. Understanding the “why” behind your child’s drug and alcohol use can foster empathy for your child and also help you think about ways to encourage healthier behaviors that compete with his or her substance use. Active Listening When a child is using substances, lecturing, blaming, criticizing, yelling and the silent treatment are common. The response on the child’s part is to get defensive or to deny that there is any problem, as trust within the family evaporates. CRAFT offers numerous communication tools to improve the way families interact and to create opportunities for a more open dialogue. Active listening can help you better understand what your child is experiencing, so that you can respond in a way that will encourage change for the better. Learn how to have a conversation instead of another confrontation > > Positive Reinforcement It’s easy to focus on everything your child is doing wrong when substance use is in the picture, but to motivate behavior change, it’s helpful to look for and reward what a child is doing that is healthy and productive. Helping a sibling, finding work, getting chores done, coming home on time, attending a family function sober and going to the gym are examples of behaviors families typically want to see more of, and positive reinforcement is the key to making that happen. Reinforcers can be as simple as a hug, a compliment, or a loving text message. Or they can be more substantial like a restaurant gift card, a round of miniature golf, a pedicure, a favorite meal or a full tank of gas. The important thing to keep in mind is to link the non-using behavior to the reward and choose rewards that the child likes. Learn more about Positive Reinforcement > > Natural Consequences It’s natural to want to protect your child from the consequences of their behaviors or diminish the impact, but life can be a great teacher if you let your child learn directly from their experiences. For example, a child might be hungover and ask a parent to call in sick at work for them. If the parent does this, the child may be able to keep the job, but it reinforces their drug use. It would be better if the child had to face the consequences of explaining the absence directly to the employer. CRAFT helps parents step back and allow others, like teachers, employers, law enforcement, non-using friends and romantic interests, to provide boundaries around substance use. Self-Care It’s likely that your child’s substance use has taken its toll on you, whether in the form of excessive worry, or not attending to your own needs to be healthy and happy. CRAFT offers the opportunity to examine your own emotional triggers to develop a more effective response. Taking time to nurture and renew yourself, and remembering that your worry for your child is not a proxy for your love, are at the heart of self-care. It’s also a way to model behaviors for your child so that they see how a healthy adult manages life’s ups and downs. Learn more about Self-Care > > Research studies show that CRAFT has helped two-thirds of people with a substance use problem elect to engage in formal treatment. 1 The studies also show an improvement in the caregivers’ well-being, feeling less depressed and anxious. It takes time and practice, but relationships can get better and loved ones can get healthy. For more information on CRAFT, please call our free Parent Helpline at 1-855-DRUGFREE to speak to a trained and caring parent specialist. Learn More About Using CRAFT to Stay Involved in Positive, Loving Ways CRAFT principles come to life in this short series of videos focused on positive reinforcement, natural consequences, active listening and behaviors making sense. WATCH NOW 3:47 Source: drugfree.org/article/skills-to-help-your-child-and-family-heal/ Teen or Young Adult Drug Use: Using Positive Reinforcement to Help Change Behavior Positive reinforcement means providing some kind of reward or benefit to increase the chances that a behavior will be repeated. And it is central to changing the way your son or daughter acts. Positive Reinforcement: A Powerful Tool to Change Your Child’s Behavior Positive reinforcement is a motivating factor in all our lives, from a toddler who feels encouraged by her parents’ cheering to take her first steps, to an adult who collects a bonus or a tip for a job well done. We are more likely to repeat a behavior when it makes us feel good. Substance use can also be reinforcing. For example, drugs or alcohol may help a person feel less anxious, alleviate boredom, encourage social interactions, help with insomnia, provide energy or help with weight management. In other words, because they “solve a problem” – although in an unhealthy way – the person is more likely to repeat the behavior of using drugs and alcohol. As a parent or caregiver, you can use the same strategy to reinforce healthy, pro-social behaviors you want to see more of in your child. The following are some examples of positive behaviors you can reinforce or praise in your child. looking for a job being home on time helping with household chores speaking in a respectful way doing homework going to therapy appointments attending a support group meeting assisting another family member or friend with a problem returning phone calls/text messages promptly You may be thinking, “Wait — these are things my child should do anyway, without any kind of reward.” But by rewarding your child’s good behavior, you are helping to link a behavior you want to encourage with a positive outcome. Doing this repeatedly will help your child recognize that there is value in acting this way. Over time, he or she will learn that there are other ways to “feel good” besides using substances, which can lead to less substance use or even abstinence. Your kindness and compassion will inspire a positive and warm feeling within your child and reinforce their belief that they are capable of feeling good from means other than using substances. Examples of rewards or reinforcers that are free: a hug a smile a shoulder rub a thoughtful text message a kind word/compliment or praise. time spent together in a favorite activity like watching a movie, going fishing or playing chess. assisting with your child’s laundry or another chore teaching a skill like how to drive making a favorite breakfast, snack, dinner or dessert Examples of rewards or reinforcers that cost money: gift cards for a coffee shop, clothing store or restaurant small items like nail polish, makeup, hair product, socks or protein bars helping with healthcare costs (like the dentist and vision care/glasses), paying for a college class or textbooks or helping with credit standing concert or sports tickets Watch our skills video on Positive Reinforcement Positive Reinforcement is wonderful skill to use to help your family heal. Click the button below to watch a video about it, created for our CRAFT skill video series. WATCH NOW - 0:49 Four tips for using positive reinforcement: 1. Think about your child and what motivates him or her. Often parents will come up with a reward that they personally find reinforcing, but their child could care less. It helps to take the time to develop a list of reinforcers that you think would be appealing, and if you are unsure, ask your child. 2. Consider what a replacement behavior might be. For example, you may want your child to complete homework or look for a job instead of playing video games and getting high. What would be an incentive for them to do so, even if it was just for one day? Alternatively, you may tell your child that if he completes a certain number of assignments or applies for X number of jobs, he or she will get a tangible reward (e.g. a giftcard to Starbucks, two movie tickets, a small clothing item, etc.). 3. Reward the small steps along the way. Eventually they will add up to positive behavior change. So, if your child hasn’t done homework for weeks, but completes one assignment, reinforce it with a tangible reward or a kind comment. If your child hasn’t looked for a job in the past month, but looks on Craigslist and applies to two jobs, notice and praise the action. 4. Try a reinforcing a comment. Instead of saying, “It’s about time!”, try saying: “I know how hard it’s been for you to complete your homework and it’s really great that you were able to complete the assignment.” or “I’m really glad to see that you applied for a job.” BOTTOM LINE: Your child has probably heard a lot of complaints and negative feedback about his or her substance use. But the truth is, you don’t get someone to change by nagging. When people feel unacceptable as they are, they are often stuck and unable to change. Think about your own self. You are probably more encouraged by praise, not criticism. Kind words, compassion and rewards can go a long way in inspiring your child to work toward healthy behaviors – and away from negative ones. Give it a try – it may be a game changer for both of you. Source: drugfree.org/article/reinforce-the-positive/ Get One-on-One Help to Address Your Child’s Substance Use We have trained and caring master’s-level specialists ready to help any parent struggling with a child’s drug or alcohol use. They are here to listen, help you find answers and make an action plan. Call the Helpline, connect via live chat or email us to get help. All communications are free and confidential. Our services are made possible thanks to the generous support of donors. Call 1-855-378-4373 Our specialists will listen to your story — the challenges, setbacks, obstacles and myriad emotions that often go along with a child’s substance use. 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Coaching takes place on the phone – over the course of about five calls – during approximately a six-week period. Coaches are versed in the techniques of Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), an evidence-based approach shown to set the stage for positive outcomes. Parent coaches are there to listen, offer ideas and reaffirm that you aren’t alone in this struggle. Parent Coaching relies on volunteers who generously lend their time and emotional energy, so availability is limited. If you’re interested in receiving parent coaching, begin by calling our Helpline 855-378-4373. You can also browse questions most frequently encountered by parents like you, and read what our Parent Coaches have advised, or submit your own question to be answered. Get started under Ask a Parent Who’s Been There. "The experience was so great. I don't know if I could have made it without my parent coach. It's so different to hear from someone who's gone through it. Just an amazing relationship and an incredible experience." - Parent Coaching Participant A NOTE ON HELPLINES: If you’ve searched online for help or treatment for your loved one, you’ve likely encountered what are advertised as free treatment referral services. These services are frequently affiliated with private, for-profit treatment providers. Those providers may indeed offer reputable treatment, but it’s important to be well informed before engaging with a service that could be putting someone else’s bottom line above the best interests of your family. We are a nonprofit, and our services are made available for the sole purpose of helping you find the best solutions for your child and your family. Our Helpline is not a crisis hotline. If you are in need of immediate or emergency services, please call 911 or a 24-hour crisis hotline such as the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the National Domestic Violence hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Source: drugfree.org/article/get-one-on-one-help/ Suggesting Treatment to a Loved One You may have heard that your son or daughter needs to “hit bottom” or “has to want help,” in order to get better. And therefore any attempts to otherwise convince him or her to enter treatment is wasted breath. The fact of the matter is our loved ones are often interested in getting help — but we may not always know what to listen for. If your loved one expresses even a little willingness to engage with treatment — whether it’s a consultation, attending an AA or NA meeting, or going to more intensive programs — it can be all the invitation you need to begin the conversation. While the hope is that your loved one will readily and quickly agree to treatment, don’t despair if he or she says no or wants to think about it. There will inevitably be other opportunities to raise the subject again. Managing your expectations around engaging and staying in treatment are a part of good self-care. Note: It’s important to do your homework before suggesting treatment so that you know what programs are suitable, have openings and what means of payment will be accepted. Listen for “Change Talk” So, how does a willingness to get help reveal itself? It usually comes in the form of “change talk.” Change talk is any time your loved one voices a concern over the way things are, or expresses a desire to improve his or her life in some way. Do any of these examples of change talk sound familiar? “I’m really feeling depressed that I don’t have a decent job.” “I think I really upset Jack [a friend] last night when he thought I had one too many.” “I want to move out and have my own place.” “I wonder if I should go back to school.” When a loved one expresses change talk, take notice and help him or her connect the dots. Compassionately explain how their substance use is related to their concerns in the present and their hopes for a better future. Consider the following contrasting dialogues between a parent (P) and young adult (YA) who is struggling with substance use, can’t get a job and wants to be independent. YA: I really want to move out and have my own place. P: How many times have I heard that? You need to get a decent job. YA: Yeah, I know, but no one’s hiring. P: You mean no one is hiring that doesn’t want a drug screen. When are you going to figure out that employers don’t want stoners? If you’d only get your act together and stop smoking, your life would be so much better. You know, you really ought to go to rehab. YA: That’s ridiculous! It’s not that bad. P: Not that bad? You’re stoned right now. You’d better figure it out pretty soon because your father isn’t going to put up with you not contributing and you’re going to find yourself out on your ear. YA: I have to go. There’s no point in talking to you about anything. Now consider the following exchange which begins with very similar change talk. YA: I really want to move out and have my own place. P: I know you’ve wanted your own place for quite some time. What do you think is holding you back? YA: I can’t get a decent job that pays enough. P: What have employers told you when you’ve applied? YA: They all want drug screens. That’s BS in my opinion. I mean why should they care that I smoke some weed and do a little cocaine now and then. P: So, you want a good job and your goal is to move out, but your drug use is getting in the way. YA: Yeah, that about sums it up. P: What are your thoughts about getting a consultation to see what kind of help might be available to cut back, or quit for at least a while so that you can get a better job? YA: I don’t know… maybe. P: Why don’t you think about it and let’s talk about it again in a day or so. YA: Ok. What can we take away from these conversations? There are several key differences to note. The second exchange remains a respectful conversation without becoming confrontational by using techniques like open-ended questions that lead the young adult to reach his or her own conclusions. The parent likely knows that drug use is at the root of their child’s unemployment, but draws it out of him or her without belittling or judgment. And the timing of this kind of conversation is important. While it’s useful to let a loved one’s change talk open the door to this type of conversation, it’s counterproductive to do so when they’re under the influence, racing out the door, overly tired or might otherwise feel interrupted. Note that in the second conversation, the parent suggests “getting a consultation” rather than demanding, “You have to get treatment” or “You have to go to rehab.” Treatment comes in a range of options and it’s helpful for your loved one to have some degree of input and choice. This could be at the level of treatment (for example, your loved one may agree to attend an intensive outpatient program, but won’t agree to residential treatment) or within a treatment level (for example offering that a loved one could make a choice to attend ABC outpatient program or XYZ outpatient program.) In addition, even though abstinence may be the ultimate goal, it can also be effective to suggest that a loved one consider treatment in order to “cut back” on substance use. Once in treatment, they’ll have an opportunity to examine whether they can moderate and still meet personal goals. Incentives and Leverage Some parents choose to use incentives or leverage to get their teen or young adult into treatment. An incentive ties treatment to something a loved one wants. For instance, “If you complete treatment and remain abstinent, we will help you with a deposit for a halfway house or apartment.” Leverage usually involves taking something of value away. For example: “If you don’t go to treatment, we won’t cover any more of your expenses like tuition or rent.” Sometimes leverage takes the form of disclosing substance use to someone of significance including a probation officer, coach or significant other. Choosing to use leverage in this way should be done as a last resort and with caution, as often loved ones will react defiantly, and the situation could get worse. It helps to present any leverage in a loving way and to give your teen or young adult a week or two to think about it before going through with whatever you’ve decided. A conversation using leverage might begin as follows: “I continue to be concerned about your substance use and would like you to seek a consultation on how to manage your substance use (or go to counseling, an intensive outpatient program, residential treatment, etc…) I know this is something you’ve been opposed to in the past, but the current situation is difficult for all of us and I’d like you to reconsider. If you choose not to seek treatment, I will not pay for college this upcoming semester (or you will have to find alternate housing, lose privileges for the car, etc…) I’d like you to think about it and let me know what you decide by the end of next week.” This is in contrast to “I’m sick and tired of your substance use so either go to treatment or you won’t not see a nickel from me for college. What’s it going to be?” Interventions Intervening — that is, stepping in and speaking up — is a vital first step in taking action to address a loved one’s substance use. However, media and pop culture have popularized the notion of an intervention as a scenario in which family and friends gather around a loved one to share the impact of the loved one’s substance misuse, usually followed by an ultimatum: go to treatment or else. The “or else” can include cutting the loved one off financially, asking him or her to leave the home and cutting off all communication unless the loved one agrees to treatment. The success rate of this style of intervention is lower than using other evidence-based approaches like Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT), and claims to the contrary are generally limited to getting someone into treatment, with no measures related to the successful completion of treatment. MANDATED TREATMENT If there is a danger to self or others as defined by the courts, civil commitment laws can be invoked to mandate treatment. In the U.S., 38 states have laws that permit civil commitment to inpatient or outpatient substance-abuse treatment programs. An additional eight states have a form of involuntary treatment, such as emergency hospitalization due to substance-related concerns. The commitment process varies from state to state, so it’s important to look into what specifically is required for mandated treatment. Navigating the Treatment System Helping a loved one reach the point of being willing and ready to engage in treatment is an important milestone. Keep in mind there is no one-size-fits-all approach. Getting the right treatment for your child is a process, and navigating the current systems in place requires due diligence and perseverance. Source: drugfree.org/article/suggesting-treatment/ Medication-Assisted Treatment for Opioid Addiction Medication-assisted treatment can help your child overcome his or her opioid addiction. Learn more about what it is, how it works and if it could work for your family. Is your child addicted to opioids? Opioids include prescription painkillers like OxyContin, Percocet and Vicodin as well as the illicit drug heroin and synthetics like Fentanyl, and are a group of drugs known for high risks of dependence and addiction. Medication-assisted treatment is the use of anti-craving medicine such as naltrexone (Vivitrol), buprenorphine (Suboxone) or methadone — along with comprehensive therapy and support — to help address issues related to opioid dependence, including withdrawal, cravings and relapse prevention. Evidenced-based treatment approaches like this are often needed to successfully overcome addiction and maintain long-term recovery. “With a strong motivated family, a treatment system that sees to medication and psychiatric care and social supports, there is tremendous hope — no child has to be lost.” - Dr. John Knight, Director of the Center for Adolescent Substance Abuse Research at Boston Children’s Hospital Understanding Opioid Addiction Many teens and young adults first use opioids when they are prescribed them following an injury or routine procedure like the removal of wisdom teeth. Common prescription opioids include: Codeine: An ingredient in some prescription cough syrups and pain relievers (i.e. Tylenol with Codeine) Fentanyl: Duragesic Hydrocodone: Vicodin, Lortab or Lorcet Morphine: MSContin, MSIR, Avinza or Kadian Oxycodone: Percocet, OxyContin or Percodan For a variety of reasons — to party and get high, or to cope with stress — some teens and young adults intentionally misuse opioids. The vast majority of those misusing prescription drugs are getting them from the medicine cabinets of friends, family and acquaintances. Some young people start misusing prescription opioids and then switch to heroin as it becomes cheaper or easier to acquire. Visit our interactive infographic to further explore the Rx to heroin journey. Opioid use and misuse can create brain changes that lead to addiction. A person who is addicted develops an overpowering urge, or craving, for the drug. The person also experiences a loss of control, making it more difficult to refuse the drug, even when use becomes harmful. Most people who are addicted to opioids cannot taper off (use less of the drug over time) without help. How Medication-Assisted Treatment Can Help Opioid Addiction When people become dependent on opioids, they feel sick when there are no opioids in the body. This sickness is known as withdrawal. Along with intense cravings, withdrawal is a hallmark of opioid addiction, and the two combined can make recovery especially difficult. By helping to reduce cravings and withdrawal, medication-assisted treatment can help a person stop thinking constantly about the problem drug. This allows the person to focus on returning to a healthy lifestyle. In addition to tailoring medications to address cravings and withdrawal, a comprehensive treatment approach will also include therapy or counseling to address behavioral issues, support recovery and prevent relapse. Family therapy is especially effective for teens and young adults to address substance use along with other issues. Misunderstandings About Medication-Assisted Treatment Some people in treatment programs for addiction, or who are seeking help through a 12-step program, may be told that medication-assisted treatment is simply substituting one addictive drug for another. This is not true. Taking medication for opioid addiction is like taking medication for any other chronic disease, such as diabetes or asthma. When it is used according to the doctor’s instructions, the medication will not create a new addiction. As a parent, you are responsible for helping your child be healthy and safe, no matter what others think or say. You are your child’s biggest advocate, so never let embarrassment stand in the way of getting your teen or young adult the help they need and deserve. Listen to Physicians and Patients Discuss Treatment Options We sat down with a variety of medical professionals and those in recovery to learn more about medication-assisted treatment options including naltrexone (Vivitrol), buprenorphine (Suboxone) and methadone.  WATCH NOW 2:07 Source: drugfree.org/article/medication-assisted-treatment/ Staying on the Road to Recovery Following Treatment The end of substance use treatment is just the beginning of the road to recovery. Your child will need your help and support to get there. Keeping Your Child Healthy Following Treatment Many parents expect their child to be “fixed” following treatment, but addiction and substance use disorders can be a lifelong, relapsing disease that requires ongoing management. The initial completion of treatment is just the beginning of what may be a longer road to recovery. Your child will need help to manage his or recovery over time. "How many times have some of us tried to diet, exercise or quit smoking? It isn’t always one and done. Seldom is there one straight path out of the woods." - Paul Kusiak, parent Please visit our complete site on Continuing Care to discover all the ways you can support and encourage your child’s recovery. Learn ways to reinforce a message of drug-free and healthy living, and discover how to monitor and support your child so he or she can continue to progress. Substance use and addiction treatment isn’t over once your child is discharged from treatment; rather, that’s when much of the hard work is really just beginning. We’re here to guide you this portion of the journey, too. Source: drugfree.org/article/after-drug-treatment/ Self-Care Isn’t Just for Yourself It’s normal to feel consumed by your child’s substance-related problems. You may feel overwhelmed with fear, anger, resentment, shame and guilt. You may feel zapped of emotional and physical energy. And it’s not uncommon to develop physical symptoms like headaches, insomnia and stomach aches. You may feel helpless and hopeless. You may have stopped feeling happiness. So what can you do? Remember to take care of yourself. The Benefits of Self-Care The idea of self-care may make you roll your eyes and ask, “You want me to do something enjoyable for myself when my world is crumbling around me?!?” Yes. And we aren’t the only ones. According to Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, principal investigator of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of North Carolina, self-care increases positive emotions like joy, gratitude, hope and serenity: “When people increase their daily diets of positive emotions, they find more meaning and purpose in life. They also find that they receive more social support — or perhaps they just notice it more, because they’re more attuned to the give-and-take between people. They report fewer aches and pains, headaches, and other physical symptoms. They show mindful awareness of the present moment and increased positive relations with others. They feel more effective at what they do. They’re better able to savor the good things in life and can see more possible solutions to problems. And they sleep better.” When you feel better and more optimistic, you’re better able to handle things. You can think, plan and act more effectively. You’re able to use your best judgment and problem solve better — which is so important, because when you feel depleted from your child’s struggle, it’s easy to react and make snap decisions instead of taking time to think things through. In addition, self-care can make you more resilient, meaning you can adapt and roll with life’s ups and downs better, without falling into despair or getting angry when your child has a setback. "You need to take care of yourself too because you’ve got to stay strong; you’ve got to be stronger than your kid through this. Because if you don’t, how are you going to help your child?” - Carol Allen, parent Self-care allows you to model healthy behavior and coping skills for your son or daughter. For example, if you come home from work, tell your child that it was a really stressful day and then go for a walk or take a hot shower to relax, you are modeling a healthy way to deal with life’s challenges. Give it a try. Take a break from worrying. Try infusing your life with something positive on a daily basis for the next week. Treat yourself to a cup of coffee with a friend, buy some fresh flowers, light a candle, take a walk in nature, spend 10 minutes doing a puzzle, take a yoga class, listen to a podcast, get a haircut, read a book. Go for a run, cook your favorite meal, watch a funny movie or take a long, hot bath. BOTTOM LINE: Self-care can look different to everyone. Seek out whatever it is that you enjoy doing that will fortify your mind, body and soul. Living in panic mode isn’t healthy or helpful. You can’t afford not to take care of yourself. Take some time to nourish yourself and see how you feel. It will be a gift not only to yourself, but also for your loved ones around you. Source: drugfree.org/article/self-care-isnt-just-for-yourself/ Find a Support Group The experience of dealing with a child’s substance use can feel incredibly isolating, and yet so many families are affected by addiction in some way. No one needs to go through this alone. The Treatment Research Institute launched the Support Group Project to make it easier to find available in-person or online support groups. Use their site to quickly search support groups in your community, or register an existing group to help others in their own search for support. The Support Group Project You don’t need to deal with your child’s substance use issues all by yourself. Find a support group in your area today. VISIT THE SUPPORT GROUP Source: drugfree.org/article/find-a-support-group/ Addiction and Substance Use Disorders Addiction is a complex condition, a brain disease that is manifested by compulsive substance use despite harmful consequence. People with addiction (severe substance use disorder) have an intense focus on using a certain substance(s), such as alcohol or drugs, to the point that it takes over their life. They keep using alcohol or a drug even when they know it will causes problems. Yet a number of effective treatments are available and people can recover from addiction and lead normal, productive lives. People can develop an addiction to: Alcohol Marijuana PCP, LSD and other hallucinogens Inhalants, such as, paint thinners and glue Opioid pain killers, such as codeine and oxycodone, heroin Sedatives, hypnotics and anxiolytics (medicines for anxiety such as tranquilizers) Cocaine, methamphetamine and other stimulants Tobacco People with a substance use disorder have distorted thinking, behavior and body functions. Changes in the brain’s wiring are what cause people to have intense cravings for the drug and make it hard to stop using the drug. Brain imaging studies show changes in the areas of the brain that relate to judgment, decision making, learning, memory and behavior control. These substances can cause harmful changes in how the brain functions. These changes can last long after the immediate effects of the drug — the intoxication. Intoxication is the intense pleasure, calm, increased senses or a high caused by the drug. Intoxication symptoms are different for each substance. Over time people with addiction build up a tolerance, meaning they need larger amounts to feel the effects. According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse, people begin taking drugs for a variety of reasons, including: to feel good — feeling of pleasure, “high” to feel better — e.g., relieve stress to do better — improve performance curiosity and peer pressure People with addictive disorders may be aware of their problem, but be unable to stop it even if they want to. The addiction may cause health problems as well as problems at work and with family members and friends. The misuse of drugs and alcohol is the leading cause of preventable illnesses and premature death. Symptoms of substance use disorder are grouped into four categories: Impaired control: a craving or strong urge to use the substance; desire or failed attempts to cut down or control substance use Social problems: substance use causes failure to complete major tasks at work, school or home; social, work or leisure activities are given up or cut back because of substance use Risky use: substance is used in risky settings; continued use despite known problems Drug effects: tolerance (need for larger amounts to get the same effect); withdrawal symptoms (different for each substance) Many people experience both mental illness and addiction. The mental illness may be present before the addiction. Or the addiction may trigger or make a mental disorder worse. Treatment How Is Addiction Treated? Effective treatments for addiction are available. The first step on the road to recovery is recognition of the problem. The recovery process can be hindered when a person denies having a problem and lacks understanding about substance misuse and addiction. The intervention of concerned friends and family often prompts treatment. A health professional can conduct a formal assessment of symptoms to see if a substance use disorder exists. Even if the problem seems severe, most people with a substance use disorder can benefit from treatment. Unfortunately, many people who could benefit from treatment don’t receive help. Because addiction affects many aspects of a person’s life, multiple types of treatment are often required. For most, a combination of medication and individual or group therapy is most effective. Treatment approaches that address an individual’s situation and any co-occurring medical, psychiatric and social problems can lead to sustained recovery. Medications are used to control drug cravings and relieve severe symptoms of withdrawal. Therapy can help addicted individuals understand their behavior and motivations, develop higher self-esteem, cope with stress and address other mental health problems. Treatment may also include: Hospitalization Therapeutic communities (highly controlled, drug-free environments) or sober houses Outpatient programs Many people find self-help groups for individuals (Alcoholics Anonymous, Narcotics Anonymous) as well as their family members (Al-Anon or Nar-Anon Family Groups) useful. Prevention Drug addiction is preventable. Drug education and prevention efforts aimed at children and adolescents and involving families, schools, communities and media can be effective in reducing drug misuse. Risk and Protective Factors for Drug Misuse and Addiction Aggressive behavior in childhood/Good self-control Lack of parental supervision/Parental monitoring and support Poor social skills/Positive relationships Drug experimentation/Academic competence Availability of drugs at school/School anti-drug policies Community poverty/Neighborhood pride These 13 principles of effective drug addiction treatment were developed based on three decades of scientific research. Research shows that treatment can help drug-addicted individuals stop drug use, avoid relapse and successfully recover their lives. 1. Addiction is a complex, but treatable, disease that affects brain function and behavior. 2. No single treatment is appropriate for everyone. 3. Treatment needs to be readily available. 4. Effective treatment attends to multiple needs of the individual, not just his or her drug abuse. 5. Remaining in treatment for an adequate period of time is critical. 6. Counseling— individual and/or group —and other behavioral therapies are the most commonly used forms of drug abuse treatment. 7. Medications are an important element of treatment for many patients, especially when combined with counseling and other behavioral therapies. 8. An individual’s treatment and services plan must be assessed continually and modified as necessary to ensure it meets his or her changing needs. 9. Many drug-addicted individuals also have other mental disorders. 10. Medically assisted detoxification is only the first stage of addiction treatment and by itself does little to change long-term drug abuse. 11.Treatment does not need to be voluntary to be effective. 12. Drug use during treatment must be monitored continuously, as lapses during treatment do occur. 13. Treatment programs should assess patients for the presence of HIV/AIDS, hepatitis B and C, tuberculosis and other infectious diseases, as well as provide targeted risk-reduction counseling to help patients modify or change behaviors that place them at risk of contracting or spreading infectious diseases. Source: National Institute on Drug Abuse. These principles are detailed in NIDA’s Principles of Drug Addiction Treatment: A Research-Based Guide. How to Help a Friend or Family Member Some suggestions to get started: Learn all you can about alcohol and drug misuse and addiction. Speak up and offer your support: talk to the person about your concerns, and offer your help and support, including your willingness to go with them and get help. Like other chronic diseases, the earlier addiction is treated, the better. Express love and concern: don’t wait for your loved one to “hit bottom.” You may be met with excuses, denial or anger. Be prepared to respond with specific examples of behavior that has you worried. Don’t expect the person to stop without help: you have heard it before - promises to cut down, stop - but, it doesn’t work. Treatment, support, and new coping skills are needed to overcome addiction to alcohol and drugs. Support recovery as an ongoing process: once your friend or family member is receiving treatment, or going to meetings, remain involved. Continue to show that you are concerned about his/her successful long-term recovery. Some things you don’t want to do: Don't preach: Don’t lecture, threaten, bribe, preach or moralize. Don't be a martyr: Avoid emotional appeals that may only increase feelings of guilt and the compulsion to drink or use other drugs. Don't cover up, lie or make excuses for his/her behavior. Don't assume their responsibilities: taking over their responsibilities protects them from the consequences of their behavior. Don't argue when using: avoid arguing with the person when they are using alcohol or drugs; at that point he/she can’t have a rational conversation. Don’t feel guilty or responsible for their behavior; it’s not your fault. Don't join them: don’t try to keep up with them by drinking or using. Adapted from: National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence Related Conditions In the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), gambling disorder is included in a new category on behavioral addictions. This reflects research findings that gambling disorder is similar to substance-related disorders in many ways. Recognizing these similarities will help people with gambling disorder get needed treatment and services, and may help others better understand the challenges. Internet gaming disorder is included in DSM-5 in the section of disorders requiring further research. This reflects the scientific literature showing that persistent and recurrent use of Internet games, and a preoccupation with them, can result in clinically significant impairment or distress. The condition criteria do not include general use of the Internet or social media. Caffeine Use Disorder Caffeine intoxication and caffeine withdrawal are included in DSM-5. Caffeine use disorder, however, is in the section of DSM-5 for conditions requiring further research. While there is evidence to support this as a disorder, experts conclude it is not yet clear to what extent it is a clinically significant disorder. 9 Facts About Addiction People Usually Get Wrong There’s a lot that people get wrong about substance use disorders, treatment and recovery. Don’t let social judgment or misinformation stand in the way of getting your child the help he or she needs and deserves. We’ve put together 9 facts about addiction so you can be better prepared to help your child. #1 Fact: Substance use changes the brain, which can make drug use compulsive An adolescent may start out doing drugs occasionally or may be prescribed medicine by a doctor. Over time, continued use rewires the brain to compulsively seek substances, despite negative consequences. With opioids, a person may initially like the euphoria, but soon, the drug is needed just to feel normal and not get sick from withdrawal. LEARN MORE: Addiction is a chronic medical disease of the brain. #2 Fact: Expect your child to "just quit" cold turkey is unrealistic Changing substance use behavior is a process. In the beginning your child may not think there is a problem. Next, she may realize it is a problem, but feel conflicted about addressing it. Then she needs to figure out how to deal with it and take steps in a healthier direction, including getting professional help, changing friends, learning drug refusal skills and more. LEARN MORE: Find out how you can best suggest treatment to your child. #3 Fact: Intervening early is more effective than waiting for "rock bottom". Because behavior change is a process, instead of letting your son or daughter hit their lowest point, it's important to help right away. And it is much easier to help when they are still engaged in school or work, have social supports and interested in sports or hobbies. In other words, they have structure, purpose and social connections—scaffolding needed for a good outcome. LEARN MORE: Get one-on-one help and support from our trained and caring master’s-level counselors. #4 Fact: Your child can be ambivalent about treatment and it can still be effective. While some welcome the opportunity for treatment, most will be conflicted about stopping their substance use. Studies show those who enter drug treatment programs as a result of loving pressure do comparatively better in treatment, regardless of the reason they sought treatment in the first place. LEARN MORE: Learn how you can address your child’s drug use. #5 Fact: Relapse is common and represents a learning opportunity. Relapse doesn't mean that treatment hasn't worked. As with all chronic diseases, many people have one or more relapses before achieving long-lasting recovery. Relapses happen both when the person is doing well or when struggling, and can serve as a learning opportunity to identify what triggered the relapse -- and to find ways to address it for the future. LEARN MORE: Read 5 Things You Need to Know About Relapse. #6 Fact: Positive behavior and communication skills are more effective than punishment. Addiction is a brain disease and needs family support as with any other chronic illness. Shaming, detaching or punishing often backfires, with kids spiraling further into risky substance use or isolation. What does work is reinforcing positive behaviors, finding healthy activities that compete with your child's use and letting him or her experience natural consequences. Coupled with empathy and compassion, this approach (known as CRAFT) is a scientifically-proven way to help parents change their child's substance use. LEARN MORE: Use CRAFT skills to help your family heal. #7 Fact: Finding an effective approach for treatment can mean investigating different doctors or programs before finding a good "match." The best programs give a screening and in-depth assessment of your child by a qualified professional versed in addiction and mental health. They will develop an individual treatment plan and combine methods tailored to address your child's specific needs. But don't be discouraged if the first program you investigate is not a good fit -- keep exploring other options. LEARN MORE: Find out more in our Treatment eBook. #8 Fact: Medication-assisted treatment, coupled with counseling, is the preferred treatment for heroin and other opioids Taking medication for an opioid addiction is like taking medication for any other chronic disease, like diabetes or asthma. Numerous studies have shown that medications can reduce cravings, relapses and overdoses when taken as prescribed. LEARN MORE: Medication-Assisted Treatment can help aid recovery. #9 Fact: Many people struggling with substance use require longer-term and/or repeated treatment. Because a drug problem can include relapses, going through treatment once may not be sufficient to keep your child drug free. Each treatment episode allows them to be abstinent for a period of time while learning new coping skills -- but it may take time. Know the treatment options available so that you can make the best choice for your child's path to recovery. LEARN MORE: Get help navigating the treatment system. Source: drugfree.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/9-Facts-About-Addiction-People-Usually-Get-Wrong.pdf Just Click No Some doctors, like Thomas Hodgkin, are celebrated for identifying a disease; others, like Jonas Salk for defeating one. But Dr. Ivan K. Goldberg may be the first in his field to gain notoriety for naming a disease that he says doesn't exist. Dr. Goldberg, a burly, bearded Upper East Side psychiatrist, allots two hours each day to browsing the bulletin boards of PsyCom.Net, a cyberclub for shrinks which he founded in 1986. Two years ago, he decided to play a little joke on the members by posting a parody of the Amerlcan Psychiatric Association's "Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders." To demonstrate thc handbook's complexity and rigidity, he conjured up something called "Internet addiction disorder" (I.A.D.), the symptoms of which included "important social or occupational activities that are given up or reduced because of Internet use," "fantasies or dreams about the Internet," and "voluntary or involuntary typing movements of the fingers." The criteria for I.A.D. as given in the original posting Much to Dr. Goldberg's surprise, several colleagues admitted to "netaholism" and E-mailed for help. Dr. Goldberg indulged his suffering peers, setting up the Internet Addiction Support Group on-line. Word of the group spread faster than a computer virus. Hundreds of self-described addicts--some claiming to surf the Net twelve hours a day posted their pain. "I did have a RL (real life) prior to this "electronic talce-over," one user bemoaned." My computer's keyboard has worn off after less than a year." Another confessed, "I've been thinking of getting a second home phone installed in order to be able to talk to my family once in a while. I currently subscribe to eighty-nine newsgroups." Concern about excessive Internet use began cropping up in other places. The University of Maryland at College Park offered a counselling group, called Caught in the Net, for students. McLean Hospital, the renowned mental-health facility in Belmont, Massachnsetts, established a new clinic for computer junkies. Dr. Kimberly Young, an assistant professor of psychology at the University of Pittsburgh at Bradford, announced the formation of a Center for On-Line Addiction to help corporations ferret out employees who point and click compulsively. In a recent article in the Times, Dr. Young was quoted as calling for the American Psychiatric Association to give official recognition to the disorder--an action that would pave the way for insurance companies to reimburse addicts for therapy. ("Unlikely," commented Dr. Patricia Isbell Ordorica, chairwoman of the A.P.A.'s council on addiction psychiatry.) In the past year, at least two more Internet-addiction support groups have sprung up. Meanwhile, the medical pioneer behind I.A.D. is alarmed by what he has, in part, wrought. Speaking the other day from a rocking chair in his Lexington Avenue office, where he specializes in the treatment of manic-depressives, Dr. Goldberg said that since last July he has redefined I.A.D. as "pathological Internet-use disorder." He explained, "I.A.D. is a very unfortunate term. It makes it sound as if one were dealing with heroin, a truly addicting substance that can alter almost eveny cell in the body. To medicalize every behavior by putting it into psychiatric nomenclature is ridiculous. If you expand the concept of addiction to include everything people can overdo, then you must talk about people being addicted to books, addicted to jogging, addicted to other people." Although Dr. Goldberg said, with a chuckle, that having an I.A.D. support group "makes about as much sense as having a support group for coughers," he remains a contributor to the Internet addicts' forum. Unconcerned that he might be regarded as an "enabler," he posts a message to members every six months or so. "I try to remind people that they need to look at why they are on-line," he said. "People should get themselves into Psychotherapy and work out why they hide behind a keyboard. But most people just tell me to buzz off." Source:  www.psycom.net/iasg.html Visit Depression Central Periodic Table of Drug Addiction Recovery Local has developed this comprehensive periodic table of drugs to help raise awareness of the addiction epidemic. It’s an interactive and informative table of 55 different substances. All information is taken directly from SAMHSA.gov , drugabuse.gov , and FDA.gov . We have organized drugs based on popularity, harm, and type. All Depressants Designers Drugs Hallucinogens Opiates Stimulants Check it out, share it. Source:  www.detoxlocal.com/resources/periodic-table-drug-addiction/ Resources Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Institute on Drug Abuse: Drugs, Brains, and Behavior – The Science of Addiction National Council on Alcoholism and Drug Dependence National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University Alcohol Abuse Amongst the Elderly: A Complete Guide (National Council for Aging Care)  Alcoholics Anonymous Narcotics Anonymous Source: projectsemicolon.com/addiction-and-substance-use-disorders/ Disclaimer - Information is designed for educational purposes only and is not engaged in rendering medical advice or professional services. Any medical decisions should be made in conjunction with your physician. 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