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Highly sensitive people: Remember these 10 things when you feel anxious.
Men diagnosed with anxiety at a higher risk of dying from cancer
Zoloft Cleared for Another Use
Sniper Stress is Not Just a Local Issue

Highly sensitive people: Remember these 10 things when you feel anxious.

We’ve all felt anxious at some point in our lives. Anxiety is that jittery feeling you get before something big happens, like a first date, a job interview, or moving to a new house. Your palms sweat, your heart beats fast, and you feel like there’s a ball of lead in your gut.

But then, you might have a hard time falling asleep, relaxing, or concentrating because your thoughts are racing. Your stomach might be too upset to eat, or you might eat too much. You might cry more or have an overwhelming desire to seek reassurance from someone.

For highly sensitive people, we tend to be creative and have active minds. However, the downside is this means we’re more vulnerable to anxiety. Our minds can easily conjure up all kinds of negative fantasies that fuel our anxiety and make it worse.

Because of a biological difference in our nervous system, we absorb more stimulation from our environment — like noise, small details that others miss, and even other people’s emotions — which can lead us to feel overwhelmed.

Remember these 10 things when you feel anxious:

1. Your anxiety is just one part of the package. Being highly sensitive is a package deal — you get the bad with the good. Don’t get down on yourself for being who you are. Think about all the good things that come with being sensitive: You may be more creative and considerate, have more empathy for others, notice things that others miss, and learn new things quickly.

2. Like the weather, feelings change. The way you feel right now will not be the way you feel in five minutes, five hours, five days, or five years from now. Feelings are only temporary, and like today’s forecast, they change quickly. Like all things eventually do, those scared, anxious, lead-in-your-gut feelings will pass. "Nothing is permanent in this wicked world — not even our troubles," said actor and filmmaker Charlie Chaplin.

3. Talk to someone. Anxiety can be a lonely feeling, and loneliness increases anxiety — what a terrible cycle! Talk to someone you trust about the feelings or situation you’re dealing with. Just getting the feelings out might make you feel better, plus having to explain your fears to someone else might help you examine if they’re realistic or not.

4. Set clearer boundaries in your relationships. If your relationships are making you anxious, get rid of the source of your anxiety by setting firmer boundaries or even letting some relationships go. Do it, and don’t feel bad about it.

5. Don’t run away from what’s scaring you. Avoiding the situation or person who's causing your anxiety will only make your anxiety worse in the long run. Gather your courage to face the problem head-on. Remind yourself it’s only fear, and you will get through it.

6. You can’t control what happens in life, but you can control (or learn tools to control) how you react. Dr. Hans Selye, a physician who is considered the "father" of the field of stress research, writes, "It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it."

7. Your anxiety doesn’t actually accomplish anything. It wastes time and doesn’t get you any closer to your life’s goals. "Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far," writes author Jodi Picoult.

8. Try relaxation techniques. This magical button delivers Upworthy stories to you on Facebook:

Inhale deeply, hold your breath for a few seconds, then exhale. Brew a cup of chamomile tea. Exercise vigorously — anxiety floods your body with adrenaline, and aerobic exercise burns off adrenaline. Take a warm bath, listen to relaxing music, and schedule a massage for later. Distract yourself by reading, surfing the internet, or watching Netflix.

9. Keep things in perspective. Avoid the temptation to make the situation bigger in your mind than it really is. Dr. Steve Maraboli, author and behavioral science academic, writes, "I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety and fear."

10. It’s really going to be OK. Author and motivational speaker Danielle LaPorte writes, "P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be OK. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be OK. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it."

Men diagnosed with anxiety at a higher risk of dying from cancer

Men over the age of 40 with generalized anxiety disorder are reportedly two times more likely to die from cancer than men without the condition.

That's the result of new research from the European College of Neuropsychopharmacology's Congress in Vienna.

According to the Los Angeles Times, the study of nearly 16,000 British participants took place over the course of 15 years. Researchers found 1.8 percent of the male participants in the study had been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder.

Taking age, alcohol consumption, smoking and other factors into the risk assessment, their chances of dying from cancer were 2.15 times higher if they had that diagnosis.

Despite the study's findings, the connection between anxiety and cancer remains unclear.

Global Impact of Anxiety Disorders by Sex Over a Lifetime

Years of healthy life lost are the sum of years of life lost due to premature mortality and years of life lived with disability (adjusted for the severity of the disability).

Annual Years of Healthy Life Lost (per 100,000 people)

Zoloft Cleared for Another Use

Long-Term Social Anxiety Disorder

Sniper Stress is Not Just a Local Issue

The Washington-area sniper has everyone worried, and ever since his message that he would target schools became public, those who may be the least prepared to deal with the threat are those most threatened -- children.

Whether you live in the direct area of the sniper or anywhere else in the country, how can you help your children -- and yourself -- get through this national trauma?

First, be aware of how you act. Psychologist Patricia Farrell, PhD, WebMD's anxiety and fear specialist and author of the book How to Be Your Own Therapist says when it comes to anxiety there is a component of "contagion."

She says it's a well-known fact in psychology that "anxiety can be spread from one person to another and we see this particularly in children who look to those in authority before they respond emotionally to a situation."

Parents and adults who are entrusted with the care of children, therefore, "have to be doubly aware of their own physical reactions to these very disturbing sniper news stories. Even if you feel somewhat rattled by it, this is the time you have to help your kids by containing your reactions to the news," Farrell says.

In addition, here are 10 things Farrell says you can do to cope with the situation:

1. Keep your life as normal as possible and continue with your daily routines. It's important to remain busy.
2. If you plan on staying close to home, plan activities that are interesting and fun. Ideas to keep the kids busy in the home can be found on the Internet where you can download puzzles, games, and interesting project ideas. "If there were ever a time that the Internet can be an invaluable help," says Farrell, "it's now. There are many sites where you can find educational or just plain fun things. You can even find games that help your children with hand-eye coordination or problem-solving skills. It's a good-from-bad situation, if you choose to see it that way."
3. Understand that anyone can regress during these times and somewhat child-like behavior may emerge.
4. If the kids or you feel better with a light on while you sleep, there's nothing wrong with this.
5. Consider limiting the amount of TV news you watch.
6. Take the opportunity to talk to each other about things that may be of concern.
7. Offer reassurance and comfort to each other.
8. Expect some increased irritability.
9. Be prepared for sudden bouts of "school phobia" where your child suddenly develops morning stomachaches or cries when it's time for school.
10. Consider developing a loosely coordinated neighborhood watch where children who may come home alone have a place to stay until a parent or some other adult returns home. "This is a good thing to do in any situation, but now it may be more important than ever that your child feel an adult is there for them," says Farrell.

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