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Here are 5 things you may regret at the end of your
life, from a nurse who works with the dying.
If you had a crystal ball to see what you'd regret as you were dying, would you make changes now?
You might think watching people die would depress a person. It actually taught her how to live.
Bronnie Ware spent years as a palliative care nurse, helping patients be as comfortable as possible in the time just before their deaths. She compiled their stories and the most repeated regrets she heard them utter in their final days.
Shared originally on her blog, " Inspiration and Chai," here are the top five regrets, with quotes from her blog as she recorded them.
Regret #1: I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
Look at yourself in the mirror. Are you living your best life right now? What's stopping you?
"This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it." Bronnie Ware
Regret #2: I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
Your office desk looks like instant stress before the workday has even started. (Editor: The way I've heard it is 'I wish I had played more." This is probably number one on men's list. Working hard to provide so that I can live a more leisure life when I retire caries a lot of regret, if I live long enough to retire. Health issues and having less money than I thought I would have interrupt a lot of those "want to do" things on your bucket list. Travel, sports, you name it. And part of that drive 'to have things' - that new boat, all those toys that sit in the garage, the latest trick skies, another gun or hunting bow. A garage, basement and attic filled with stuff you haven't used in years, and maybe never actually used more than once. And someone is going to have to go through it all when you die. If you're reading this, it's not to late to change. Do it.)
Regret #3: I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
What if getting the words out is essential to your growth as a human?
Feelings aren't just useless emotions. Expressing them can be the first step to self-actuating and becoming a newer version of yourself.
"Many people (Editor: Especially men. The number 1 cause of die is heart desiease. The number 1 cause of heart disease is stress. The number one cause of stress is represed anger. Expressing if safely is an important beehavior to learn.) suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming." Bronnie Ware
Regret #4: I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Is there someone you treasure who you haven't spoken with in much too long?
They're so important to us and somehow we think that "life" getting in the way is a good enough reason to go without seeing them.
"Everyone misses their friends when they are dying." Bronnie Ware
Regret #5: I wish that I had let myself be happier.
If you didn't wake up joyful today, why not? What can you do to change that?
Who was the last person you belly-laughed with? Call them. Right now.
"This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again." Bronnie Ware
Were there any regrets on this list that felt familiar to you? Others that you didn't see listed?
These are five universal wake-up calls we all need to be
reminded of. There's no shame in tagging all the friends you
need to call when you share this.
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