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like daing a babe.
What its like dating a babe
And thats when my love life became a rollercoaster ride. I never expected the highs and lows that go along with dating a hot girl, but read on as I spell them out. Hopefully, theyll help you be prepared if its your turn to date an incredibly gorgeous woman.
The good: Pretty things are fun to show off
Remember getting an awesome toy for Christmas and feeling desperate to bring it to school to show it off? Dating a stunner isnt much different. I think Ive introduced Lisa to more friends than I knew I had. And lo, the whispers of Shes beautiful from the ladies and Nice job, my man, from the boys have rained down like songs from the angels. My only disappointment? Not having a high-school reunion scheduled for years.
The bad: Pretty things arent so fun to show off to strangers
On the other hand, that positive attention is painful when I dont trust the person er, guy whos giving it. Going out with Lisa is like carrying a thick t-bone, and there are wolves in button-down shirts everywhere, ready to pounce. Just as I convince myself Im being paranoid, some Drakkar-scented predator slinks out of the shadows and starts putting the moves on her. An arm around her waist and a kiss on her cheek usually gets rid of him, but by then, all I want to do is whisk her away to the safety of my apartment. I never thought of myself as jealous, but Lisa has brought out my heretofore latent protective sidewhich isnt always so pretty.
The good: Snagging a beauty breeds confidence
Never underestimate the ego boost that comes from having a lovely lady on your arm. Just knowing Lisa was my girlfriend made me feel more powerful. I attacked projects at work with more gusto, had more energy during my pickup basketball games, and even started using pen on the Sunday New York Times crossword. Seriously.
The bad: Relationship doubts are even more severe than usual
Self-doubt can crop up when youre dating anyone, right? Well, that sentiment becomes even harder to fend off when you feel like the person youre dating is somehow better than you. With girls before, Id wondered, Why is she really going out with me? but with Lisa, I asked myself for the first time, Why would a woman as beautiful as Lisa want to be with me at all? Id perceived an imbalance in the relationship that messed with my emotions.
The good: Shes the key to the town
Really, what cant a beautiful woman get? A coy smile from her in the right direction and suddenly Im through the velvet ropes, sitting at the best table in the restaurant, or in one prime example of how beauty can tame a beast escaping legal persecution. On our first romantic getaway, I was pulled over for speeding. Somehow Lisa, all batting eyes and cooing voice in her Australian lilt (sigh), convinced the cop who was lecturing me that my infraction was her fault and that she was truly, deeply sorry. In the end, the officer gave me a warning and told me to consider myself lucky. I do, and not just for getting out of the ticket.
The bad: You start to forget that youre great, too
The perks, the attention, the self-gratificationI started wondering how I could have been happy in a relationship without them... or if I was worth any of it on my own. But then I introduced Lisa to a friend who wistfully recounted dating a gorgeous girl in college for a long time. Too long, he explained. They werent a good match, but he didnt end the relationship because he figured hed never date another perfect ten. It was a cautionary tale that made me wonder: Was I suffering from Ill Never Do Better syndrome? A few times, when fights were brewing, I considered staying silentshes so darn good-looking that I was tempted to overlook anything. I had to have confidence in our relationship before I realized that if we were really going to be together, wed have to talk as equals. And thats not always so easy to do in the moment.
The good: You realize looks arent what matter
Ive been with Lisa for over a year now, and I can honestly say that Im with her because shes the right person for menot because she fulfills a fantasy. After all, shes pretty, but its not like shes curing cancer, you know? Just kidding: She actually has a Ph.D. in genetic research and is working for a leukemia specialist (true story). And thats my pointnow Im confident that Im with her for all the right reasons, like our shared sense of humor, her astounding intelligence, her beautiful laugh.
It wasnt easy, but I took her down from the mental perch Id placed her on. That restored equilibrium to the relationship, and now I feel confident that she wants to be with me. I still hate to see guys try to hit on her, but I cant blame them. If I were single and met this drop-dead perfect specimen, Id do the same thing all over again.
Source: Jon Wilde is an editor at Maxim. msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=5710&TrackingID=516311&BannerID=544657&menuid=6>1=7569
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