Dear
Daddy
Menstuff® has information on protecting a
daughter.
A girl narrates a letter to her dad as she grows up,
and it makes rape culture obvious.
Would he have acted differently if he knew it would hurt his
own daughter?
TRIGGER
WARNING: This video contains images and explicit
language related to rape, domestic violence, and
self-blame.
A joke is just a joke, right?
And gosh, why does everyone try so hard to be
politically correct? Can't anyone take a joke anymore, or
say thank you to a compliment?
Those are the kinds of things you might be hearing a lot
lately. But pushing back against certain types of jokes is
so important because rhetoric, including jokes against
women, helps form people's threshold for what's normal and
acceptable. That rhetorical normalcy in targeting women can
cause the most disturbed among us to think it's OK to prey
on them.
Who can make that point to ordinary men better than
their own daughters?
CARE Norway created a powerful video to get that point
across. In a spoken letter to her father, a girl tells her
dad what her life is going to be like because of misogyny.
She knows how protective he is of her. He won't even
let her mom eat sushi.
But his daughter has to break the bad news to him.
"By the time Im 14, the boys in my class
will have called me a whore, a bitch, a cunt, and many
other things. Its just for fun, of course. "
She continues, showing how what she thought were
seemingly innocuous cultural norms can translate into
painful situations.
"Still, some of the people wont get the
joke. ... So by the time I turn 16, a couple of the boys
will have snuck their hands down my pants while Im
so drunk I cant even stand straight. And although I
say no, they just laugh. Its funny, right? If you
saw me, Daddy, you would be so ashamed ... because
Im wasted. No wonder Im raped when Im
21."
She goes on to detail more of the kinds of dire
situations that will arise in her life because of a society
that thinks it's funny to degrade women. So she asks her
father a huge favor: to be one of the people who stands up
against misogyny when he sees it and hears it.
And be forewarned that she makes statements blaming
herself for the things that happen to her in order to
make a point about how women so often blame themselves
instead of the factors really at play.
The video gives a visceral, chilling vision of how the
world is not safe for women.
This video is not safe to
watch at work.
5:00
A new society that is as safe for women as it is for men
is possible. But everyone has to work together to make it
happen. Dads everywhere need to see this. Daughters
everywhere need to see this. But so do sons and mothers.
Make sure they do.
Source: www.upworthy.com/a-girl-narrates-a-letter-to-her-dad-as-she-grows-up-and-it-makes-rape-culture-obvious?c=upw1&u=07fa0e7f2d23f338b4a3b29d16b2a71a4c4e496b
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