Menstuff® has compiled the following information on infidelity
Infidelity Statistics Mean?
It's tough to get a handle on how many of us are having affairs,
given the inherent secrecy.
- 22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during
their married lives.
- 14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once
during their married lives.
- Younger people are more likely candidates; in fact, younger
women are as likely as younger men to be unfaithful.
- 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men did
not know of their spouses' extramarital activity.
- 5 percent of married men and 3 percent of married women
reported having sex with someone other than their spouse in the
- 22 percent of men and 14 percent of women admitted to having
sexual relations outside their marriage sometime in their
- 90 percent of Americans believe adultery is morally
- 50 percent of Americans say President Clinton's adultery makes
his moral standard "about the same as the average married man,''
according to a Time-CNN poll.
- 61 percent of Americans thought adultery should not be a crime
in the United states; 35 percent thought it should; 4 percent had
- 17 percent of divorces in the United States are caused by
- Source: Associated Press
- Up to 37% of men and 22% of women admit to having affairs.
Researchers think the vast majority of the millions of people who
visit chat rooms, have multiple "special friends. Dr. Bob
- Recent studies reveal that 45-55% of married women and 50-60%
of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another
during their relationship (Atwood & Schwartz, 2002 - Journal
of Couple & Relationship Therapy)
- Only 46% of men believe that online affairs are adultery.
- 80% think it's Ok to talk with a stranger identified as the
opposite sex. 75% thinks it's ok to visit an adult site.
- About 60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an
affair at some point in some marriage "Monogamy Myth", Therapist
- About 24 percent of men and 14 percent of women have had sex
outside their marriages, according to a Dec. 21, 1998 report in
USA Today on a national study by the University of
California, San Francisco.
- Affairs affect one of every 2.7 couples, according to
counselor Janis Abrahms Spring, author of After the
Affair,as reported by the Washington Post on March 30,
1999. Ten percent of extramarital affairs last one day, 10 percent
last more than one day but less than a month, 50 percent last more
than a month but less than a year, but 40 percent last two or more
years. Few extramarital affairs last more than four years.
- A lesser known fact is that those who divorce rarely marry the
person with whom they are having the affair. For example, Dr. Jan
Halpers study of successful men (executives, entrepreneurs,
professionals) found that very few men who have affairs divorce
their wife and marry their lovers. Only 3 percent of the 4,100
successful men surveyed eventually married their lovers.
- Frank Pittman has found that the divorce rate among those who
married their lovers was 75 percent. The reasons for the high
divorce rate include: intervention of reality, guilt,
expectations, a general distrust of marriage, and a distrust of
- One-third of divorce litigation is caused by online affairs.
This Is An Internet E-Mergency, The Fortino Group
- Approximately 70% of time on-line is spent in chat rooms or
sending e-mail; of these interactions, the vast majority are
romantic in nature. Dr. Michael Adamse, PhD., co-author of
Affairs of the Net: The Cybershrinks' Guide to Online
- Because of the anonymity, affordability, and accessibility of
Internet sexual resources, the computer can accelerate the
transition from "at risk" to "addicted," as well as the
progression of sex addiction in those with a history of prior
sexual compulsivity. Cooper et al Survey
- 8-10 percent of Internet users become hooked on cybersex. Dr.
Bob Lanier, askbob.com
- Spouses who get hooked on Internet porn are a growing
complaint among spouses filing for divorce, according to a survey
of 350 divorce attorneys. "If there's dissatisfaction in the
existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to
scratch the itch," said lawyer J. Lindsey Short, Jr., president of
the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers, which conducted the
- 57% of people have used the Internet to flirt.
- 38% of people have engaged in explicit online sexual
conversation and 50% of people have made phone contact with
someone they chatted with online.
- Evidence proves there is a high correlation between on-line
infidelity and subsequent real-time sexual affairs.
- Evidence supports the existence of disinhibition, accelerated
intimacy, and hyper-sexual online behavior that can easily lead to
- 31% of people have had an online conversation that has led to
- It is estimated that 53% of all people will have one or more
affairs during their lifetime.
- Look at the numbers from Playboy Magazine:
- -2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual
thoughts about co-workers.
- -86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with
the opposite sex.
- -75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people
they work with.
- The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature.
That means they cheat.
- Experts say that a gut instinct is the most powerful indicator
of a cheating lover. Adultery statistics state that 85% of woman
who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel
their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom
obvious. Typically, it's a "feeling" that something is
- Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of
married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will
cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to
36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their
husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to
recognize the telltale signs.
- According to Annette Lawson, author of Adultery,
published in 1989 by Basic Books. "The various researchers arrive
at a general consensus
suggesting that above one-quarter to
about one-half of married women have at least one lover after they
are married in any given marriage. Married men probably still
stray more often than married womenperhaps from 50 percent
to 65 percent by the age of forty." According to Maggie Scarf,
author of Intimate Partners, first published in 1987 by
Random House, re-issued in 1996 by Ballentine.
- "Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the
present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55
percent of wives become extramaritally involved by the age of 40
to be a relatively sound and reasonable one." According to Peggy
Vaughan, author of The Monogamy Myth, first published in
1989 by Newmarket Press (third edition published 2003).
- Conservative infidelity statistics estimate that 60
percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital
affair. These figures are even more significant when we consider
the total number of marriages involved, since it's unlikely that
all the men and women having affairs happen to be married to each
other. If even half of the women having affairs (or 20 percent)
are married to men not included in the 60 percent having affairs,
then at least one partner will have an affair in approximately 80
percent of all marriages. With this many marriages affected, it's
unreasonable to think affairs are due only to the failures and
shortcomings of individual husbands or wives."
Note that the above adultry statistics of the prevalence of
affairs were made more than a decade ago; so based on changes in
society during the intervening years, the current percentage of the
population who have had affairs is probably somewhat HIGHER. For
instance, the continuing increase of women in the workplace and the
increase of women having affairs on the Internet means that the
numbers for women having affairs is probably similar to those for
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