Menstuff® has compiled the following information on Internet
Signs of abuse
Parents can help end teen dating
Advocates with the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline understand
that technology is constantly changing. Technology can be used to
monitor you where you go or track who you talk to online or what
websites you visit. For more information and help with internet
safety, please call us at 1-866-331-9474 or TTY 1-866-331-8453.
- Did you know that you can monitor someones computer use
without the user knowing?
- Did you know that a history cannot be completely
erased from a computer?
- Did you know that cell phone use can be monitored?
- Did you know that a global positioning system (GPS) can be
placed on your car, in your purse or in your cell phone?
- Did you know the some court systems are placing court records
online and that they may contain personal information?
- Did you know that e-mail is like a postcard and can be
- Did you know that you can find safe computers at
These are questions that Advocates can help answer. Technology is
a powerful tool for someone leaving an abusive relationship.
Advocates can help a caller - whether victim, friend or family member
- plan to use all aspects of technology safely. For more information
and support, please contact the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline
at 1-866-331-9474 or TTY 1-866-331-8453.
The Hotline serves as the only center in the nation with access to
more than 5,200 sources of help in the United States, Puerto Rico and
the U.S. Virgin Islands. NDVH and ndvh.org operates 24 hours each
day, 365 days every year, in over 150 different languages, with a TTY
line available for the Deaf, Deaf-Blind and Hard of Hearing. All
calls to NDVH are anonymous.
Signs of abuse:
- Embarrass you with put-downs or gossip about you?
- Look at you or act in ways that scare you?
- Control what you do, who you see, talk to, where you go, or
what you wear?
- Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?
- Make all of the decisions?
- Prevent you from working or attending school?
- Act like the abuse is no big deal, its your fault, or
even deny doing it?
- Force you to have sex?
- Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?
- Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?
- Threaten to kill you or harm themselves if you break up?
- Monitor your computer or phone use or text and IM you
Parents can help end teen dating abuse
Parents play a very important role in ending teen dating abuse. Teens
in abusive situations truly need the support of their parents. Even
in the rockiest parent-teen relationship, the advice of a parent can
make a dramatic difference in a teens life. For that reason,
its imperative that you familiarize yourself with the warning
signs of dating abuse and what you can do to help.
How do I recognize the signs?
An abusive person will do various things to control their partner.
A teen experiencing abuse may:
- make changes in their daily rituals
- retreat from school or activities
- experience isolation from friends
- make changes in clothing
- wear clothing inappropriate for the weather in order to hide
- have visible marks or bruises
- spend excessive amounts of time with the person theyre
Heres what you can do to help
- If you notice something has changed, consider talking to your
- Ask questions about your teens life
- Listen with an open mind
- Support your teen as they decide what to do
- Open up clear channels of communication
- Be calm and take positive action
What else can I do?
Communicate with one or our trained advocates. They can offer
advice on your teens situation and provide strategies on how
you can help. Call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at
1-866-331-9474 or TTY 1-866-331-8453.
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