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This Queer Christian Activist Has A
Message For Her Trolls
Fred Phelps - Westboro Baptist Church, Wikipedia God removed him from his ministry on March 19, 2014
History shows that people can do terrible things when they feel like God is on their side and they have the moral upper hand.
Since coming out publicly in 2014, Vicky Beeching has worked hard to create spaces for queer Christians online and in the church.
Beeching, a Christian singer and activist based in London, says she often uses social media to reach out to young queer Christians. She views using platforms like Facebook and Twitter as part of her ministry.
But in the course of her advocacy, she has often received hateful messages from anti-queer trolls. About 90 percent of the vitriol she gets online and offline comes from other self-identified Christians.
It was all par for the course until this Wednesday, when she realized a meme featuring a photo of her had gone viral. After seeing that image, Beeching decided that she had to take a break from social media.
The post that pushed her over the edge featured homophobic rhetoric and weaponized an often misunderstood verse from the Bible to question Beechings Christianity.
She posted a screenshot of the meme on her Twitter feed on Wednesday.
When anti-gay material with your face on it gets shared almost 20,000 times, you know society still has a long way to go towards equality.
To date, the post has been shared close to 20,000 times ? a number that caught Beeching off guard.
Beeching said she also got a seven page handwritten letter telling her to repent from the sin of lesbianism.
"I mean, who has time to hand-write SEVEN pages?! They contain "prayers of repentance" for me to "pray daily" to "save myself from hell". ??"
Beeching said that its saddened her that much of the criticism shes gotten has come from inside the church.
The sad thing is that these Christians believe they are acting out of love - that they are defending what the Bible teaches. So they genuinely dont think theyre doing anything wrong. They dont see it as hatred or homophobia ? they see it as standing up for Gods truth, Beeching wrote in an email to The Huffington Post. And history shows that people can do terrible things when they feel like God is on their side and they have the moral upper hand.
After clicking through a few of the Facebook profiles of people who shared the meme, Beeching decided it was time to practice self care and take a break from social media.
"Made the mistake of going on too many Facebook profiles who shared that 20,000 x meme. Wish I could un-read many things they said about me."
"I think a little break from social media will be the best thing for me. This vitriol's gone on since 2014 & occasionally it just gets to me."
Beeching told HuffPost that she is a big believer in the power of social media. Shes been active on both Twitter and Facebook for years, and has never stepped away before.
She doesnt plan to stay away for too long, however ? one month, at the most.
Theres a lot of people online who reach out to me for support - LGBT people who feel very isolated and need help - so I dont want to miss the chance to be able to help them. I dont want the trolls to feel like they have won, she said.
Beeching added that shes received messages of kindness and support that have helped balance out the negativity. She hopes coming forward with her story can help the church see how damaging homophobia can be, both online and offline.
My main concern are the young LGBT people who are told they cant be gay and Christian, Beeching wrote.
Im resilient enough to cope with this kind of
nastiness, but many of them arent. So for their sake,
I hope the church hears a wake up call to act.
Fred Phelps and his tiny, no-account, insignificant Westboro Baptist Church perfected it in the field of religious bigotry. But attracting attention when youre a nobody to the rest of the world is now an established strategy.
Its fueled and enabled by the mainstream media since they changed to make everything they follow provide moneymaking entertainment. There are no more money-losing news bureaus maintained for the public good. Instead, 24-hour cable news channels compete for public attention so they can deliver eyeballs to their advertisers.
Theyve made a perfect publicity manipulating enemy of ISIS and the perfect politician of a talentless businessman/entertainer named Trump. The Donalds TV ego and its outrageousness, which hes displaying in his joyride of a presidential race reality show, are branded in the entertainment catchphrase: Youre fired.
And media have created a presidential race ideal for Newt Gingrichs advice: If you want to sell books, run for president. Add: if you want to become a media commentator or an overpaid blowhard on the lecture circuit for suckers, particularly religious ones.
Getting this level of attention when little else is notable in ones life requires an extraordinary outrageousness that raises someone above the crowd. It also means that if theyre going to continue getting media attention, people regularly must ramp up the offensiveness of the outrageousness.
And like watching a train wreck, the more offensive and outrageous, the more the media cant resist and the more the pubic wont turn away. We tune in, repost, discuss, express surprise and unbelief, complain, get angry, and search for more.
Phelps learned early. When local news started ignoring his tiny family churchs protests, he doubled down, displayed more outrageous signs, traveled to higher-powered funerals, and targeted attacks on well-known people outside the LGBT community.
So, how many unimportant, nobody-cares-about-them, churches are out there whose leader would love to be known on a national stage? And how many of these leaders have a desperate need for more attention in their otherwise unnoteworthy routine of preaching the same old, same old to the same old, same old?
Remember how Terry Jones, pastor of a little nothing congregation he dubbed Dove World Outreach Center in Gainesville, Florida, became the center of worldwide attention hed never otherwise deserve? In 2010 he announced his plans to burn Qurans on the anniversary of the September 11th attacks.
Jones thereby found a shtick and the attention he needed to feel like a big shot. So, he followed that with similar attention-getting behavior in 2011, 2012, and 2013 because he learned how this manipulated the media to his benefit.
Now, another nobody-cares-about-him-otherwise minister suckered the media into validating him through his outrage over nothing more than the plainness of red holiday cups at Starbucks. Well, actually hes an Arizona no-church-pastor, a self-labeled evangelist named Joshua Feuerstein who describes himself appropriately as social media personality."
Of course this was manufactured outrage. Starbucks had never put explicitly Christian symbols on its cups while actually selling products mentioning Christmas such as its Christmas Blend coffee. But this made another Christian-nobody-cared-about the latest national hero in that annual right-wing and FOX outrage called the War on Christmas.
Right-wing religious leadership in particular draws people who are starved for attention. There are numerous reasons why theyre drawn to right-wing religion, including that it lures them in by agreeing that theyre worthless sinners.
Right-wing religious teachings are inherently abusive and thus it attracts those whove been brought up as abused children. It validates anyone with low self-worth with its teaching that all people rightly deserve hell, an eternal child abuse from their Heavenly Father.
Their kind of salvation is supposed to be the way out of this, but for most, born again feelings fade, so something more is needed. Maybe thats more church attendance, more praying, more Bible reading, more testifying to others.
Others attention needs propel their whole career into the church, thereby becoming professional Christians. That, they believe, should get some necessary attention particularly from their only Heavenly Father.
But attention from an invisible being is hard to measure or convincingly feel. So theyll need visible evidence.
Religious professionals arent supposed to admit these needs even to themselves, of course. But becoming pastor of a mega-church or televangelist can feel as if someones special to God with all those adoring, donating, self-sacrificing fans.
Even a lavish pastoral lifestyle can be taken as visible proof that Heavenly Daddy is paying special attention through all the faithful contributing to it. In a consumption-oriented society, material success is the goal of many seeking to feel theyre worth something.
Yet, realistically, when someone is emotionally starved for attention, nothing will ever feel as if its enough. Mega-church pastors wont be able to settle even for these.
Imagine the unfulfilled attention needs of the thousands of pastors of tiny, indistinguishable churches often in the middle of nowhere. How can they get the attention from God and humanity to fill their void?
The answer is: be like Donald Trump or Fred Phelps. Act outraged and be outrageous enough to get the attention you crave.
When we in turn give them attention of any sort, we collude with them because they dont care whether that attention is positive or negative. As the old quip goes: It doesnt matter what theyre saying about you as long as theyre talking about you.
To them persecution, after all, is real proof that theyre righteous. Mockery only sounds like what they believe Jesus received from sinners.
What we need to face is that these are needy grownup children whove been wounded in their upbringing and are victims of religious abuse and religious exploitation of their woundedness. They dont need our pity, but understanding that the real issue isnt a rational one solved by logical discussion.
This means that the most powerful thing we can do is to
say this and then treat them like the attention-needy
children they are down deep. Surely, lets not give
them attention for their outrageousness, but stand our
ground modeling the humanity-affirming and psychological
healthy alternative of our own lives.
Religion is as effectively destroyed by bigotry as by
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