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Top 10 Ways To Make Her Approach
You By Shawn Croft
10. Do not be too friendly
So many men ask why their female friends choose to remain only friends. Well, if you discuss topics that friends discuss, then she will classify you as a friend. Yes, relationships should blossom into full-fledged partnerships, but this is not so at the beginning. And if this isn't enough, she will tell you sordid stories about all the other men she likes and is pursuing. Act chummy and that is what you become -- a chump.
9. Keep her guessing
Women like mystery. Now, I'm not implying that you should lie to them, nor am I saying that you should play games, but you should leave something hidden. Put your life story in a press release and send it to her, and I guarantee that you will be flying solo for a while.
Feed her a bit but always keep her curiosity growing, and her interest in you will do the same. If a woman thinks she has you figured out, she will get bored, but if she wishes to determine what else lies between your two extremes (this last word of wisdom comes from a special young woman, so take her word for it), she will look forward to seeing you again and again.
8. Do not make the first move
I usually think that in some situations, being straightforward is the only way to go, but you know what? Relationships are, for the most part, about games. And whether you wish to admit or deny it, you must agree that the second you find out someone is interested, your level of interest craters. It's almost like having already added another notch to your belt. Except of course, if this involves the one person that you feel you were destined to meet, in which case you just keep on smiling.
So show some interest -- this is the bait after all -- but keep your cards to your chest instead of slamming your two-of-a-kind on the table. Who knows? You may end up with a full house if you're patient.
7. Play hard to get
This one is an extension of the "do not make the first move" advice. The difference is simple; even if she knows you are interested, do not throw yourself at her disposal. If she knows that you would walk over water and swallow fire to be with her, then she will rain on your parade and pitch a lit match on your dreams, so let her know that you have places to go and people to see.
6. Be the best you can be
No, do not join the army, even though women like men in uniform. Rather, make sure you smell good, have fresh breath, are well-groomed, and look your best. Yes, some women do not care about looks, especially when your bank account swells to the 7-digits. But the same way that men demand their women be good-looking, women demand and deserve the same. You have been warned.
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5. Smile
It's very important to smile and present yourself in a positive manner. More importantly, make her laugh, make her friends crack up, and if you can, make her parents smile. That way, you'll be laughing to the altar (well, more like crying). Ask 9 out of 10 women, and they will tell you the importance of a sense of humor, so leave the Dylan McKay (from everyone's favorite zip code, Beverly Hills, 90210) look at home and crack a smile.
4. Make her the center of your universe
Okay, before the Men's Liberation movement gets upset, allow me to simply add this: make your woman think that all you like her for is the BLT (no, we do not mean bacon, lettuce and tomatoes), and she will not care to keep you around for long. But please her mind by showing an interest (a genuine one) in her family, friends, work, interests, hobbies, and dreams, and she will fall for you. But make sure you let her answer you instead of shooting off a session of 20 questions.
3. Live and let live
You may like her and want her to like you, but unless you give her space and do not crowd her, she will never be interested. You know the expression about absence making the heart grow fonder? Well, it's true. So let her wonder where you are, whom you're with and where you're going, and she will hope to cross paths with you more often than you think.
2. Do not prejudge her
This is key, even before you get to the dating stage. Men (and women too) are bad in one way: we meet a young woman we like and we attribute her with the qualities and traits of our dream woman. Then we wonder why we cannot do squat at work as we daydream of her.
Then when push comes to shove, we realize that she is a fraction of our image of her and that she is in fact nothing like what we believed her to be. This said, have absolutely no expectations of her character and she will not disappoint; she may even want you to get to know her better, at which point you can send me a thank-you note.
1. Manage her expectations
Making her come to you is the easy part, keeping her is the real challenge. When you meet your dream woman, be honest with yourself and her: do not portray yourself in a different light. Call it like it is and you will avoid headaches and misery down the road. Most importantly, she will see that you are being genuine, sincere and honest, and she will therefore want you by her side forever.
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Top 10 Signs You're Whipped, By Shawn
Croft
10. She does not stop trying to reach you
You gave her your phone number, now she calls you 5 times a day at work; pages you until you get wet; spams your inbox; and even tries to track you down at your folks' place. You can't run, you can't hide... but once you begin to carry your cell phone into the bathroom to avoid missing her call, the time has come for your friends to intervene.
9. You're not the same person
I know, people change when they are committed, some for the better. It's all about compromise after all, but then why is it that some dudes turn into a chameleon and totally change? Well, once you become a diluted version of your old self (i.e. you phase out the beer and chips and replace it with wine and cheese or you stop thinking with your penis), your buds know that you're anwering to someone else.
8. You don't go out with the boys anymore
Your friends... remember them? Well, they remember you. The old you, not the one who no longer speaks his mind, and answers "how high?" when the ball and chain yells "jump!" You never go out with your friends anymore and they hardly call you, since they know the outcome.
7. You use terms that should be barred
Terms like "smoochie", "angel", "buddy", "muffin", "bunny", and "pumpkin" suddenly sneak their way into your vocabulary. Colleagues and friends look forward to making fun of you when you use these words.
6. Your taste for the "arts" changes
Whether you're always listening to Sarah McLachlan or you're suddenly passing up the R-rated movies for the CF ones (Chick Flicks), your taste has begun its transformation process. Before you know it, you start to replace Ozzy concerts with trips to the opera
5. She has veto power
Any matters pertaining to scratching your head, going to see a movie, or buying something for your bachelor pad require her approval. Don't you miss the days when you could make a decision without having to call the wife? All of a sudden, your opinion never counts and you're nothing more than a messenger boy.
4. You have a curfew
You used to come home at sunrise, but now you must be tucked into bed by sunset. If you do go out with the boys, your curfew is suddenly 5 hours earlier and the 3rd degree awaits upon your return.
3. You're the houseman
Your mom is impressed with your sudden ability to wash dishes and do the laundry... and your girlfriend's mom is even more pleased. You "volunteer" to go lingerie shopping (and know the difference between Wonderbra and Victoria's Secret), shoe shopping, make-up shopping, and purse shopping with your girl.
2. Your girl friends are history
Once upon a time, you would stroll into bars with a harem of women and all the ladies would ask, "who is that guy?" But now, you're committed and the wife gives you the death stare whenever one of your old lady friends calls.
1. You don't deliver the punchline -- you're the joke
Bye-bye humor. You used to crack jokes and make everyone laugh. But with her around, you know that she will either get up in the middle of whatever you say, or start to walk away. But you aren't this lucky, you know that she will simply sit there and mope, raining on your parade.
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Top 10 Signs It's Over, By Shawn
Croft
10. She got a new phone number
"(out of service dial tone) You have reached 555-O-V-E-R, the girl you are trying to reach is making it painfully clear that things are finished, so please stop calling before she releases the hounds on you."
If she suddenly changes her number and never forwards you the new one, then maybe, just maybe, she has moved on and prefers leaving you where you are. And if she forwards you to her voice mail after answering the call, then you should take the sign and run.
9. She's chemically imbalanced
She used to rave about the chemistry that you two shared. But now, you are out of sync and out of touch. It's like you are having different conversations with one another. Restaurants are devoid of chitchat, and dates are spent in movie theaters so you don't have to speak to one another (unless it's to pass the popcorn).
8. She now plays for the other team
It's not your fault... of course not. Regardless, she now plays in the other team's lineup and has become your competition and you didn't even see it coming. All of a sudden, she is checking out the women more than the men. To make matters worse, you could have lived out your fantasy before she left, had you picked up on it earlier.
7. She moved... without telling you
You show up at her place only to realize that she no longer resides there. Apparently, she moved and "forgot" to let you know where she was going. Like the phone number example above, this is probably one of the most blatant signs that you too should move on. Do not stalk her and do not pursue her, set your sights on new fish. If you lived with her and she moved out without telling you, well...
6. Dawn of a new era
Whether it's because she no longer finds those annoying habits of yours cute, doesn't care when you screw up, doesn't care about what you like, or gives the flowers you bought to her mother, you know that things have changed. And to top it all off, she religiously begins going to the gym all of a sudden.
5. Your pictures disappear from her room
In the final days, you notice that your shrine has been losing some luster; the picture frames in her room are gathering dust. With time, you realize that the frames are gone and the pictures have been put to rest. You are nothing but a distant memory in her shoebox.
4. She prefers hanging out with others
Although you used to hang out, eat together and live as one, she now opts to hang out with someone else. You have moved from priority numero uno to a has-been. It may hurt, but it's time to realize that your services are no longer required.
3. She told you so
If the girl explicitly tells you that she no longer wants you, do not try to decipher it any other way. It doesn't mean she's tired, hormonal or unsure. If it walks like a duck, talks like a duck and tastes like a duck...
2. She "forgot" your birthday
Whether or not you have forgotten her birthday in the past, this year she forgot yours. Two things are possible: either you messed up so bad in her eyes that she could not bring herself to saying "happy birthday," or she is sending the loudest message that she is now dancing to another tune, which sounds more like "I Will Survive".
1. She has a new guy
You notice that she frequently talks about other men; she calls you "Tom" when your name is "Joseph"; she starts referring to your best friend "Mike" as "Big Mike". Bottom line: you know something is up. The jig is over, she has found herself a new man and his name doesn't rhyme with yours. Just consider yourself lucky that you did not walk in and witness the new dashing duo going at it (and you know what I mean by "it").
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Top 10 Signs Your First Date Was A
Success, By Shawn Croft
10. Never-ending evening
You decide to walk her all the way home even though she lives across town. Once there, she suddenly does not need to be home. You then decide that you want to have a cup of coffee (even though you both hate caffeine). You chitchat over cake (that you do not touch) until the wee hours of the morning only to circle around town until sunrise. Too bad you've got to be at work in 1 hour.
9. When can I see you again?
She already decides on the next place she wants to go to with you and wants to plan the next date before the first one is over. A second date booking during the first one is usually a sure sign that she had too much fun for her own good.
8. Hook, line and sinker
She's already memorized your phone number, your family members' names and your favorite everything. In fact, when you meet her roommate as you walk her to her door, you overhear your date saying, "You're going to be seeing a lot of him, so remember his name." This is not so bad; just consider yourself lucky that you don't wake up and find a wedding ring on your finger.
7. Schmoopy...
You finish each other's sentences. When you toast, she utters, "To the first of many dates." To top it all off, this does not make you nauseous... (give it some time, it will). Once you get home, you decide to put your little black book to rest (temporarily, of course).
6. Don't worry, be happy
She laughs during most of the date because you're hilarious; your sense of humor and charm (not to mention rugged good looks -- yeah right) have won her over. Ask any woman what they look for in a guy, and a sense of humor usually comes out on top.
5. Let's get physical
She lets her hair down, runs her fingers through yours, hugs you before you part ways, and even slips you the tongue.
4. She invites you over to her place
If that kiss wasn't enough, she resists letting your hand go and devilishly invites you into her apartment for a drink. Being the gentleman that you are, you want to refuse, but how could you be rude and decline?
3. You have one new message
When you get back to your place, you find a message on your answering machine from your date, saying how much she enjoyed herself and how badly she is looking forward to the next sensuous evening.
2. Envious friends
You run into some of her friends a couple of days later and while they are happy for their friend, they all smile at you and wish you were theirs. A sign that you enjoyed yourself too: you actually don't want any of her friends and only think about your date.
1. The Ultimate
I personally would say that you cook breakfast for her. The Player might add that you run out of condoms and notice wrappers all around you when you awake. Mr. Mafioso would interject that you wake up with her serving you breakfast in bed (and she didn't even sleep over). Any way you slice it, if she wakes up in your arms, chances are that you will be begging for seconds...
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Top 10 Date Movies, By Shawn
Croft
In typical AskMen style, I have decided to break these up and bring you the best of each category in installments. Without further ado, I present to you the first one, which consists of cheesy movies that are great for couples. Various writers will be bringing you the best classics, as well as the best movies to get her in the mood for some "snuggling" -- obviously saving the best for last.
10. Ghost
This film may have overkilled the whole "ditto" appeal, but it was a nice, sweet, mushy-as-hell movie. Perhaps Whoopi Goldberg at her best, Demi Moore at her most innocent, and Patrick Swayze in an emotional and compassionate role (at least one where he doesn't dance). The many satirical takes on this movie are deserved (pottery class anyone?), but so were the tears that flowed. This movie will make you and your loved one(s) get close and embrace one another as you realize how precious life is.
9. Sleepless in Seattle
Meg Ryan, Tom Hanks... moviegoers have learned that this is pretty much the formula for a great date flick. Whether it was Tom Hanks' emotional role, Meg Ryan's naiveté, or the maybe it was the Seattle backdrop, whatever it is, Sleepless in Seattle will probably make everyone's "top date movies" list. Rent it as soon as you can.
8. Reality Bites
While the movie does not help in killing the "Generation X" stereotypes, it is a catchy and interesting take on post-college life, and about how different people's paths can easily cross. Ethan Hawke is likeable and Winona Ryder is downright adorable. Chain smokers unite in this movie. Another Ethan Hawke movie, Before Sunrise, could have also made the cut. While less popular, Sunrise describes the one-night journey of a couple in Vienna.
7. Cocktail
Tom Cruise has played so many roles in so many movies, that picking only one is a challenge. Ultimately, there is something about him ripping up a check that girls find sexy and guys find cool. The fact that you get to see a movie about late-night partying and big-league bartending does not hurt. Oh yeah, a sexy female lead always does the trick too.
6. Titanic
It may be long, drawn-out and very cheesy, but it definitely provides one of the best action scenes, as a huge mock up of the ill-fated boat goes down. I have seen this with three different girls, which suggests how successful this movie was at the box office (what, you think I change girlfriends as often as I change socks?). Leonardo DiCaprio plays the hero, while we come to really like Kate Winslet. This movie is also long enough to increase your chances of getting "closer" throughout the movie.
5. Swingers
This is more of a lad movie than a date movie, but it's just so damn good that you cannot resist renting it. It would also be a great date movie because it provides a glimpse into men, so women may not find us so crazy after all. This movie was on at a party once, so I was watching bits and pieces (the rest of the time, I had my eyes on other things...), but I was so curious to see the whole thing that I rented it at 4am, when I got home.
4. Say Anything
A classic date movie, somewhat cheesy thanks to the geek meets girl storyline, but funny nonetheless thanks to John Cusack. Somewhat utopian? Perhaps, but with a great romantic climax, Say Anything is a great classic and a good benchmark for what a great date movie should be about. It will also inspire you and your date to make "In Your Eyes" by Peter Gabriel your song.
3. Pretty Woman
What do you get when you cast Julia Roberts as a naïve but daring prostitute, Richard Gere as a successful but shrewd businessman, and Jason Alexander as the evil business associate in a rather unrealistic movie about a businessman who meets his trophy gal on Hollywood Blvd. and tries to convert her into a good girl while the business associate tries to... you know what, this is not what's important. What's important is that in a strange way, the female viewer wishes to be Julia and the guy wishes he were Richard -- don't deny it.
2. Four Weddings and a Funeral
Now, there is something about this movie, starring Andie MacDowell and Hugh Grant, that will make every couple love this classic. We might, to this day, ask what the hell Mr. Grant was thinking when he picked up some skanky prostitute (on the topic of Pretty Woman) when he had British bombshell Liz Hurley at home, but there is nothing we can reproach about his performance in this movie.
1. There's Something About Mary
This is perhaps the only movie in the list where the guy will not want to stop watching. Cameron Diaz is probably the ultimate girlfriend, Ben Stiller is hilarious as ever, Chris Elliott is scary, and Matt Dillon is downright creepy. One of the best guy movies to come out, and a perfect date movie because it broaches various topics that are bound to come up (or stick up) down the road.
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