Women on Men

Menstuff® presents here positive things that women have written about men. It all started when a "read" Veronique Vial and Pam Houston's book of photography called Men Before 10am. I was so moved by "listening" to a group of women talk in a positive, deeply touching way about men that I requested permission to reprint some of those messages here. I would recommend that every man get a copy of this book. It helps me during those times I don't feel so good about myself. It may do different things for you, but whatever the reaction, I've got to believe it will be a great one. (This will include other positive writings when I find them.)

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Why We Still Love Men

Excerpts from Men Before 10am"(a book of photography by Veronique Vial and equally great images in the form of words by Pam Houston. Beyond Words Publishing, Buy This Book!

A group of Pam's women friends gathered for a long-weekend at her place in the Rocky's. "Before too long the conversation turned toward what we still love about men. 'I love men when they cook,' Janet said. 'They seem so strong in the kitchen - and free. I guess it's because their mothers didn't teach them and so they just figure anything goes.' 'I love to watch my man get absorbed in a project,' Kelly said. 'I love when he sits in the middle of the living-room floor, all his maps and books around him. He's so happy the, so very much himself.' 'I love the way men remember to do things,' Jane said, 'like check the fire extinguishers and clean the chimney once a year.' "I love to watch a man fix things,' I said. 'Love to watch him drive nails or saw boards.' 'I know what you mean,' Julia said. 'I have no use for a man that doesn't know how to use tools.' 'I think you can tell a good man,' Anne said, 'by the way he treats your dog.' 'I love a man who can speak to a horse,' I said. 'I've known a few in my lifetime. It's like a miracle watching them do their dance.' 'They say that once a man can speak to a horse,' Julia said, 'he can't ever make love to a woman.' 'I'm afraid I'd have to argue that one,' I said. "I might even have to argue the reverse.' I looked around at the faces of these six good women. We'd all loved out share of the wrong men, and we'd loved some of the right ones badly. But there wasn't a bitter face in that whole circle. There wasn't a voice that didn't have as much hope as it had skepticism, not one that didn't have more love in it that it had fear. 'I love the look my man gets when he's accomplishing something,' Janet said, 'when he stops for a moment his endless loop of self-criticism.' 'I love when I know that I've made him happy,' Anne said. 'I know that it's an incorrect thought these days, but I think that's one of the things I'm put on earth for.' 'There's nothing,' I said, 'like making a sad man smile.' 'I love the way some men I know can be a kid with my kids,' Julia said. 'Moms are genetically engineered not to be able to do that anymore.' 'I love how the right man can turn me into a kid,' Leigh said. 'I mean in a good way. It gives me confidence, makes me feel like I'm in good hands.' 'I like how they bring out my masculine side,' I said, 'how I get all macho around them.' 'That's funny,' Leigh said, 'I was just going to say I liked the way they brought out my feminine side.' 'Oh, that too,' I said, 'definitely.' 'They are warm in the morning,' Janet said. 'And they life heavy things,' Julia said. 'And just when you're convinced they don't have a clue,' Kelly said, 'they'll come home with season tickets to the symphony.' 'Or the poetry anthology you've been combing the used bookstores for, for a decade,' Jane said. "Or a locket,' I said, made of Mexican silver in the shape of a heart.' 'I love men when they fall in love,' Anne said, 'how they get so silly and tragic about it. When a woman falls in love she runs out and tells her friends, her co-workers, even total strangers. A man falls in love and he mopes around the house like he's wrecked his mother's car.' 'Men love women more utterly than we love them,' I said. 'They love us so blindly, so fiercely, a little ungracefuly...it's almost like they go temporarily insane.' 'They get so helpless,' Leigh said. 'I love that part,' Janet said. 'What I love even more than that,' I said, "is when they realize it's not so bad after all.' 'When they stop spending all their energy protecting themselves,' Kelly said, 'and get on with the business of being in love.' 'When they get there,' Julia said, 'they are much better at love than women, more patient...more tolerant, softer in a way that we'll never be.' 'When they get there,' I said, 'they are better than anything else on earth.' And that's just about how it was that day on the ranch when there wasn't a man within a hundred square miles of us...to hear what they had to say."

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 I don't know why women want any of the things men have when one of the things that women have is men. - Coco Chanel

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