Whether you celebrate Bodhi Day on December 8 or Las Posadas
on the 16th, Hanukkah or Winter Solstice on the 22nd,
Christmas on the 25th, Kwanzaa on the 26th, the New Year on
January 1st, or not celebrating any of them, the holidays
can easily become the holi-daze.
What comes up for you around the holidays: Shopping,
crowds, financial outlet, forthcoming bills, being single,
parents/kids/loved ones not around, loneliness, no one to
love, or concerned with hurt & tension at family
What makes you mad: lack of others concern for others,
traffic and crowds? Point your finger. How do you judge
others? What gets to you, not necessarily about them but
about those around you?
Now, turn that finger on yourself - what's at the end of
it?) It's not what others are doing - it's how you process
it. You get treated the way you teach people to treat you -
victim-I'm going to do it all instead of let it pass, others
expectations of you........The little kid inside of you is
counting down the days with excitement, what did you do to
change your attitude? The following is a list of holiday
- Awareness - keep in mind that the holiday season may
cause you to feel symptoms of stress
(highways/lines/rush) - having some awareness will help
- Remember that the holiday season will soon be over
and the passage of time itself will help you get back to
your usual self.
- Do not overlook your own needs during the holiday
season even though you are sensitive to the needs of
others. Take care of yourself!
- Consider the types of gifts you purchase and remember
the old adage, it is the thought that counts, not only
the gift. Maybe make something by hand.
- Look at the holidays in a new light. Spend less time
on preparation and more on love and unity with friends
and family. Create new traditions.
- Avoid the lines at stores by shopping now.
- Do not put expectations on those around you to please
you as you want to be pleased. Peace of mind will come
when you enjoy others as they are and do not place your
expectations on them.
- Observe your own thoughts and feelings and remember
that any shift from your normal self may be caused by the
- Manage your time by making lists with
- Exercise at least three times a week. Keep physically
- Maintain a healthy diet. Cut back on other meals when
you are going to a big holiday dinner.
- Alcohol is a depressant and contributes to stress. It
is also part of our societal conditioning. Use it in
moderation, if at all. Do not drive if you drink. Plan
ahead for a ride home or take a cab.
- Contact family and friends and include them in your
plans, if you can. Use the phone to contact far away
people. Check on the best times to call for the lowest
rates and not get them out of bed, either.
- To avoid loneliness, plan to be with friends or other
people that may become friends.
- Volunteer in your community to help those less
fortunate than you during the holiday season. Get a group
together to sing at a local children's hospital or some
other group activity. This will allow you to be involved
with people and avoid feeling lonely.
- Use your usual stress management techniques. Deep
relaxation exercises several times during the day.
- Expose yourself to humor and laugh.
Do all this and you can remove the question mark from the
headline and replace it with an explanation mark. -
Meal Full Of Cancer
also Stress and
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We find comfort among those who agree with us - growth
among those who don't. Frank A. Clark
©2012, A Different Perspective