Ten Things That Will Help Make Your
Relationship With A Woman Work, Starting Right
The University of California did a study throughout
the late nineties on 160 couples on what qualities
they possessed that made for years of happy
marriage. Psychologist, Robert Levison headed up
MANY long-married couples have said theses very
same things you are about to read are the reasons
why they have been happily married for so long.
Whether you are looking for a wife or a live-in,
memorize these ten things!
1.) Topping the list: Open affection for one
another (I Love you). Making each other laugh and
feel good. Humor in a relationship was very
2.) Being a team on things.
3.) Shared values, or showing an interest in
their partners values.
4.) Lasting physical attraction. That is, not
gaining weight or changing his / her appearance.
These couples dont believe in the typical
saying: Well, Im still the same in the
inside. when that person gains weight,
because that person isnt the same.
5.) Trust and respect.
6.) Both partners thinking sex plays an
important part in a relationship.
7.) They praise each other.
8.) They listen to each other.
9.) They are supportive of each other.
10.) They treat each other the same way they did
when they were first dating. This is the best piece
of advice. Many times its usually the man who
relaxes over that. He stops communicating like he
once did, he stops taking her out to dinner (like a
date), he stops buying her little things, and he
stops telling her how he feels about her.
Were you like this with all your past
relationships? If you werent and if you
didnt get as much sex as you would have
wanted, this was probably the reason. She wants
things from you, and you want things from her. THIS
IS HOW A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP WORKS.
Just like marriage, living with that wrong
person can be a disaster if you find that you had
made a mistake in asking her to move in with you
too soon...before knowing for sure if she is the
right one for you. Just knowing she is there when
he gets off work can depress a lot of guys. They
feel trapped, and then they have to go through the
mess of having to move out.
Date her at least six months before thinking
about moving in with her, while all the time paying
attention to those little red flags that may pop
up. The more red flags that pop up, the longer you
have to date her before moving further.
If you are looking for a serious relationship, I
strongly urge you to read, and study the following
ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME? by Barbara DeAngelis,
Ph.D. You may not care to much for the author, but
her book is one the best out there because she has
listened to a lot of men who have made simple
blunders in relationships. You will hear and learn
from them, through her book.
PRE-MARRIAGE QUESTIONS; GETTING TO KNOW YOUR
LIFES MATE, by Bob Biehl is a book that also
may be of help. Just asking yourself the right kind
of compatibility questions about you and your
potential spouse, and answering yourself honestly,
can make a big difference. This book helps you in
asking the right kind of questions.
THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK,
by John Gottman, Ph.D. Here is another book that
helps you ask those right questions. Too many
couples who fall in love dont feel that they
have to ask questions to know for sure. They are so
much in love and get along great wherever they go
that they are blinded from the fact that they may
not REALLY be right for one another
Love can take you just so far. All of us make wrong
decisions when in love.
Study these books, and others like them, and
dont take them for granted. Too many men
have, thinking only women read such books, and now
look at their situation
.ALWAYS BROKE! Buy
these books and also treat them just like study
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Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles
on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the
author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For
Women About Men. & Women and Sex And
Dating, For The Single Man published by
Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from
complete strangers, to finding that right person to
be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men
and women on what they like and want from one
another. The findings were published in Women,
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