Ten Things That Will Help Make Your Relationship With A Woman Work, Starting Right Now!

The University of California did a study throughout the late nineties on 160 couples on what qualities they possessed that made for years of happy marriage. Psychologist, Robert Levison headed up this study.

MANY long-married couples have said theses very same things you are about to read are the reasons why they have been happily married for so long.

Whether you are looking for a wife or a live-in, memorize these ten things!

1.) Topping the list: Open affection for one another (I Love you). Making each other laugh and feel good. Humor in a relationship was very important.

2.) Being a team on things.

3.) Shared values, or showing an interest in their partner’s values.

4.) Lasting physical attraction. That is, not gaining weight or changing his / her appearance. These couples don’t believe in the typical saying: “Well, I’m still the same in the inside.” when that person gains weight, because that person isn’t the same.

5.) Trust and respect.

6.) Both partners thinking sex plays an important part in a relationship.

7.) They praise each other.

8.) They listen to each other.

9.) They are supportive of each other.

10.) They treat each other the same way they did when they were first dating. This is the best piece of advice. Many times it’s usually the man who relaxes over that. He stops communicating like he once did, he stops taking her out to dinner (like a date), he stops buying her little things, and he stops telling her how he feels about her.

Were you like this with all your past relationships? If you weren’t and if you didn’t get as much sex as you would have wanted, this was probably the reason. She wants things from you, and you want things from her. THIS IS HOW A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP WORKS.

Just like marriage, living with that wrong person can be a disaster if you find that you had made a mistake in asking her to move in with you too soon...before knowing for sure if she is the right one for you. Just knowing she is there when he gets off work can depress a lot of guys. They feel trapped, and then they have to go through the mess of having to move out.

Date her at least six months before thinking about moving in with her, while all the time paying attention to those little red flags that may pop up. The more red flags that pop up, the longer you have to date her before moving further.

If you are looking for a serious relationship, I strongly urge you to read, and study the following books:

ARE YOU THE ONE FOR ME? by Barbara DeAngelis, Ph.D. You may not care to much for the author, but her book is one the best out there because she has listened to a lot of men who have made simple blunders in relationships. You will hear and learn from them, through her book.

PRE-MARRIAGE QUESTIONS; GETTING TO KNOW YOUR LIFE’S MATE, by Bob Biehl is a book that also may be of help. Just asking yourself the right kind of compatibility questions about you and your potential spouse, and answering yourself honestly, can make a big difference. This book helps you in asking the right kind of questions.

THE SEVEN PRINCIPLES FOR MAKING MARRIAGE WORK, by John Gottman, Ph.D. Here is another book that helps you ask those right questions. Too many couples who fall in love don’t feel that they have to ask questions to know for sure. They are so much in love and get along great wherever they go that they are blinded from the fact that they may not REALLY be right for one another…FOR LIFE. Love can take you just so far. All of us make wrong decisions when in love.

Study these books, and others like them, and don’t take them for granted. Too many men have, thinking only women read such books, and now look at their situation….ALWAYS BROKE! Buy these books and also treat them just like study guides.

See Perry's other weekly columns on Dating or Sex.

Perry Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For Women About Men. & Women and Sex And Dating, For The Single Man published by Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from complete strangers, to finding that right person to be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men and women on what they like and want from one another. The findings were published in Women, Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site is

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