Overweight Women

Question: How can I make my girlfriend lose weight, about 10-12 pounds. She is very beautiful but these extra pounds make her look really bad.

Answer: Getting her to lose weight is a damned near impossible task! Lead by example and hope for the best.

The only thing that worked during 14 years in private practice as a psychotherapist and doing marriage counseling that worked was for the man to become intensely interested in losing weight and building his body.

Before, after and while he does this he never mentions her weight or build. He just focuses on getting in shape. The subtle, subconscious message is “I’m going to be more attractive to women when this is completed. Women will be coming after me.”

The woman sometimes loses weight just to keep his attention. “Sometimes” is the operative word.

WARNING: The Gate of Change is latched from the inside and can only be opened by the person on the inside! Nagging and threatening are harmful at a minimum.

©2007 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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