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Information Resources

We're looking for resources, information and contacts on the following subjects:
1. A father raising a disabled or mentally challenged child. (It works. On 12/13/98 we got a whole slew of information. See Requests about a program the BBC is putting together. Also see a national organization that helps fathers raising disabled children.
2. Paternity processes, DNA testing, support and resource information. Please send information to: E-Mail
3. Early childhood educator wants information and resources about men in the profession. I am interested in finding resources and organizations that deal with the lack of men in the primary grades. and E-Mail
4. We are looking for any information, organizations, books for "deaf", "hearing impaired", adults, parents, and parents of hearing impaired children.

Call for Submissions for books titled Men Speak Out: ProFeminist Views on Gender, Sex and Power by Shira Tarrant by 9/16/06

How can we better understand and imagine new possibilities for men and feminism? Are you a guy who hates sexism? Do you call yourself a feminist? Have you spent hours over coffee (or beer) thinking about issues of gender, power,race, class, and sexuality? Are you involved with social justice activism? If so, then you have stories to tell and I'd like to hear what you have to say. To receive a more detailed description of this project please send an email to: Do to be published by Routledge in November, 2007.

Submission for New Book about How Families Focus on Finding a Child's Passion - Michael Gurian

If you have a moment, would you share your family stories with our Gurian Institute research team? We are developing an anecdotal study on how families are focusing on SPECIFIC and PRACTICAL steps that identify a child's passions--his/her inborn personality and interests--and bring the family and community to focus on those in home and at school. Please share any ways you've diminished distractions, overscheduling, materialism, and "busy work" in your children's lives in order to upgrade family time and time spent with mentors who can help your child with passions and interests. Please click here to email us your story. If we refer to your story in print in a future publication, we will of course change the names to protect confidentiality. Thank you, Michael Gurian. or E-Mail.

Submission for new book Breaking Up Is Hard To Do Sherri Steiner by 9/2/03

No, this is not an ad for a new cell phone company. Help the authors help others through laughter and empathy. Send them, anonymously, (you can change the name to protect the guilty) breakup or pre/post divorce letters to be printed in a book in progress. Give them your initials, your age and your city. No spam or responses unless requested by you. Mail your letters to Sherri Steiner, PO Box 17, Oradell, NJ 07649 or False alarms and reconciliations are welcome..

Answer a Survey about Pissing for a New Book

I am in the research phase of a writing project that will result in a book tentatively named Urinalia: A Social Look at Men and Pissing. I will be examining this little discussed topic from the view points of history, psychology, social customs, rites and rituals, architecture, biology. To further my research I have created an online survey to gauge men's attitudes and behaviors towards urine, pissing and public men's rooms. I am looking to reach a broad demographic of all men regardless of age, status, political beliefs, religious affiliation, lifestyles and such. Please visit See an article titled The Joy of Pissing.

Calling all Husbands

Neil Chethik, author of the book, FatherLoss, is beginning research on a new book about men's view of marriage. He is looking for married men to answer a brief e-mail survey; he may want to interview by phone or in person after that. The new book, called HusbandSpeak, will be published by Simon & Schuster in 2005. If you're interested in helping out (and you're a currently married man), contact Neil directly at

Funding Available in Florida for Fatherhood Programs

1. Early Learning Opportunities Act Discretionary Grants
Food Safety and Security Research--Rapid Methods Development
3. Tribal courts and Courts of Indian Offenses
4. Toy Industry Foundation
5. MetLife Foundation
6. The Home Depot Foundation

1. Early Learning Opportunities Act Discretionary Grants Closing date: August 6, 2003

Amount: The Bureau estimates that up to 50 grants will be awarded in FY 2003. Individual awards will be between $250,000 and $1,000,000 depending on the size of the population to be served as well as geographic area to be served and the reasonableness of the budget in relationship to the services to be provided. While this will vary depending on the scope of the applications submitted, awards are expected to average $700,000. Applicants that request Federal funds in excess of $1,000,000 will be considered ``non-responsive'' and will be returned to the applicant without further review.

Eligible: An eligible applicant for an FY 2003 ELOA grant must be a Local Council designated, in writing, by a local government entity(ies) (or Indian Tribe, Regional Corporation, or Native Hawaiian entity) as a ``Local Council'' to serve one or more localities for the purpose of applying for an ELOA discretionary grant. Agency: DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES, Administration for Children and Families

Summary: The purposes of the Early Learning Opportunities Act (ELOA) are--To increase the availability of voluntary programs, services, and activities that support early childhood development, increase parent effectiveness, and promote the learning readiness of young children so that they enter school ready to learn; To support parents, child care providers, and caregivers who want to incorporate early learning activities into the daily lives of young children; To remove barriers to the provision of an accessible system of early childhood learning programs in communities throughout the United States; To increase the availability and affordability of professional development activities and compensation for caregivers and child care providers; and To facilitate the development of community-based systems of collaborative service delivery models characterized by resource sharing, linkages between appropriate supports, and local planning for services.

Listed in: Federal Register Vol. 68, No. 122 Wednesday, June 25, 2003 Page 37830-37846

For detailed information go to:

2. Food Safety and Security Research--Rapid Methods Development - Closing date: August 11, 2003

Amount: Approximately $3 million will be available in FY 2003. FDA anticipates making awards of $100,000 to $600,000 (direct plus indirect costs) per

award. The research efforts supported by these agreements may be up to 3 years in duration, however the total budget amount will not exceed a one-time amount of $600,000 (direct plus indirect costs) per award. The project and budget periods of these awards will be the same.

Eligible: These cooperative agreements are available to any foreign or domestic, public or private nonprofit entity (including State and local units of

government) and any foreign or domestic, for-profit entity. For-profit entities must commit to excluding fees or profit in their request for support to receive awards.

Agency: DEPARTMENT OF HEALTH AND HUMAN SERVICES -- Food and Drug Administration

Summary: These funds will be used to support collaborative research efforts between CFSAN and scientists, and to complement and accelerate ongoing research in four project areas in order to reduce the incidence of foodborne illness and to ensure the integrity of the nation's food supply (including food additives and dietary supplements) and cosmetics.

Listed in: Federal Register, Vol. 68, No. 122, Wednesday, June 25, 2003, Page 37847-37850

For detailed information go to:

3. Tribal courts and Courts of Indian Offenses. - Closing date: July 25, 2003

Eligible: Qualified applicant is a tribal government submitting an application for funding for a tribal court meeting the following threshold requirements: (1) The tribal government has enacted the codes necessary for the tribal justice system to carry out its responsibility under 25 CFR 115. (2) The tribal court has adopted and made accessible court rules setting forth the procedures to adjudicate these cases. (3) Tribal court personnel have been trained to process these cases and the court is staffed to fulfill the tribal legislative mandate. (4) The tribal justice system is one that serves as the judicial component of a tribal government which is federally recognized by the United States Government.

Agency: DEPARTMENT OF THE INTERIOR -- Bureau of Indian Affairs

Summary: The Bureau of Indian Affairs (BIA) is announcing that $5.5 million is available for funding to tribal courts (including CFR courts) that assume responsibility of adjudicating matters under 25 CFR part 115, for outsourcing with tribal entities or organizations to provide technical assistance to prospective tribal court grantees, and for development of a tribal court infrastructure, where necessary. Under part 115, tribal courts are responsible for appointing guardians, determining competency, awarding child support from Individual Indian Money (IIM) accounts, determining paternity, sanctioning adoptions, marriages, and divorces, making presumptions of death, and adjudicating claims involving trust assets. Funds will be awarded under the discretionary authority of section 103 of Public Law 93-638.

Listed in: Federal Register, Vol. 68, No. 122, Wednesday, June 25, 2003, Page 37857-37861

For detailed information go to:

4. Toy Industry Foundation - Grant Application Submissions: May - August 31, 2003

Amount: Average grants range up to $25,000 per program element.

Eligible Applicants: The Toy Industry Foundation (TIFT) contributes to non-profit organizations in North America, with a strong emphasis in U.S. based program including those designated by the Internal Revenue Service as 501(c)(3) tax exempt organizations. Organizations applying must show that their programs effectively address the critical needs of our community through the use of the highest quality services, innovative programs and well-qualified staff. Each organization must also be responsive to the changing needs of the constituents served.

Agency/Department: Terri Bartlett, Executive Director, Toy Industry Foundation, 1115 Broadway, Suite 400, New York, New York 10010, Tel: 212.675.1141, ext. 203, Fax: 212.633.1429 E-mail:

SUMMARY: The organization will rely on two program models to achieve the Foundation's mission, including those funded by grants, and existing and/or future programs implemented by the TIF. The programs supported will be designed to achieve some or all of the outcomes defined below: Enhance the healthy development of children living in homeless situations in North America, through play and recreation activities; Develop and implement plans to promote the healthy benefits of play, through community outreach and collaboration, specifically programs that benefit children who are homeless, and Incorporating the program objectives above, the TIF will funded projects that serve as models for other organizations and lend themselves to measurable evaluation, with results that may be disseminated to wide audiences.

For detailed information go to:

5. MetLife Foundation

Requests are accepted and reviewed throughout the year

Agency/Department: MetLife Foundation, One Madison Avenue, New York, NY 10010-3690

SUMMARY: MetLife Foundation was established in 1976 by MetLife for the purpose of supporting educational, health and civic and cultural organizations. Their goals are to strengthen communities, promote good health and improve education. The Foundation continues a tradition of corporate contributions and community involvement begun by MetLife at the turn of the century.

For detailed information go to:,1674,P284,00.html

6. The Home Depot Foundation

Agency/Department: The Home Depot Foundation, 2455 Paces Ferry Road, Atlanta, GA 30339, Phone: 770-384-3889, Fax: 770-384-3907, Toll-Free Phone: 1-866-593-7019, Toll-Free Fax: 1-866-593-7027 E-mail:

SUMMARY: The Home Depot Foundation invests in nonprofit organizations and programs throughout the United States and Canada. Through their investments, they work to:

Create or rehabilitate affordable housing

Assist at-risk youth

Protect the environment

Prepare for and respond to disasters Initiatives:

- Affordable Housing

- At-Risk Youth

- Environment

- Disaster Preparedness and Response

For detailed information go to:

Information provided by: Anne Carpenter, Administrative Assistant, Florida's Commission on Responsible Fatherhood, 111 North Gadsden Street, Suite 200, Tallahassee, Florida 32301, Phone: (850) 488-4952 x135, Fax: (850) 921-9070, Email:, Web:

DISCLOSURE: Florida has a very broad public records law. Most written communications to or from state officials regarding state business are public records available to the public and media upon request. Your e-mail communications may therefore be subject to public disclosure.


Extreme Mid-Life Crisis Wanted -7/2/03


I notice that you offer help for people looking for advice. I am in definite need of help if you feel you could:

I am working on a television idea for a UK based independent production company. The programme I am developing revolves around the phenomenon that

is the male mid-life crisis.

In particular, I am looking for big, bold stories of some of the things that men who hit the mid-life crisis get up to. The more unbelievable, the better - the man that has spent his life savings on a sports car, only to crash it, the man who left his wife for a girl his daughter's age, etc, etc. Some of the real life stories that most of these stereotypes are based on.

I suppose that I am looking to hear from men that have been through the MLC, made some really bad decisions but who have embraced the experience, learnt from it and are not afraid to speak of it.

I hope you may be able to pass on my details to anyone that you feel suitable. I look forward to hearing from you.

Thanks in advance,

Dan Moule, Denham Productions, Plymouth, UK

Grandpas - Request For Your Stories - Deadline 9/15/03)

Since publishing my last two books in 1989 and 1993 (Man in Transition & Who Was That Masked Man Anyway? respectively) I have been in a different kind of personal transition, that of becoming and being a grandfather. I am currently writing/editing a book of short stories about the relationships of grandfathers and their grandchildren. I need a few more wonderful, poignant, touching stories and invite any man to submit your story for possible inclusion. Subject matter can be of any nature but a grandfather or grandfathering must be the focal point. Given the nature of the book there can be no payment for your story but you will receive full acknowledgment for your contribution, right of refusal after editing and a free copy of the book when published. Please submit to the address below not later than September 15, 2003. Submittal format must be on CD or floppy disk and please put your name and address on the disk. Stories can be of any nature but must demonstrate some recognizable element of caring, learning, responsibility, support, mentioning, lovingness or resolution. Touchingly emotional and funny bone punctures are especially welcome as are multi cultural perspectives. Please do not contact me with questions about content. These are your stories. Stories should not exceed 2,500 words. Story poems are also acceptable. Many thanks for your support and potential contributions, Ken Byers, Ph.D., CPCC, 609 Shields St., San Francisco, CA 94132.

They say... Who are they?

The following statements are taken for granted but we haven't been able to find where they came from, other than a quote from someone's article. We have been unable to locate the actual research resource. Can you help? Also, let us know at E-Mail if there is a "They say..." that you'd like added to this list.

Call for Papers - For Conferences, Books, Periodicals & TV Shows

Sex and Gender Matter: From boys to men, from science to practice, 2nd World Congress on Men's Health. Abstracts must be prepared in English and should not exceed 250 words; please use standard abbreviations and do not use abbreviations in the title. The text of the abstract must be organized as following and should briefly state: Objective of the study, Design and Method, Results and Conclusions Please mail the following data and your abstract to: Mrs Kitty Lawrence, Apostelgasse 39/28, A 1030 Vienna, Austria / Europe. Deadline: August 15th, 2002 Closed

Upon receipt, abstracts will be submitted to the Scientific Committee for review.

American Men's Studies Association 11th Annual National Conference. Globalization and the Critical Study of Men and Masculinities. Keynote Speakers: Susan Bordo author of The Male Body: A new look at men in public and in private, and R. W. Connell, author of The Men and the Boys. The program committee will consider proposals on any well-developed topic grounded in one or more of the many disciplines represented in the critical study of men and masculinities. This year we are particularly interested in and will give priority to, papers or presentations that engage men and masculinities in the context of globalization although presentations in all other areas are equally valued. The committee also seeks proposals for applied workshops in such areas as teaching and human services by those working with boys and men, as well as artistic performances, and media presentations that impact men's lives and the study of men and masculinities. Proposals should be 250-500 words in length and include presenter's name, title, and institutional affiliation (if applicable), address, phone number, and/or email address. Printed submissions may be mailed to: Mark Justad, 2307 Warfield Ln, Nashville, TN 37215. Go to for more about AMSA. Deadline for proposals is November 1, 2002. The program committee will respond to each submission within two weeks of submission. Proposals should be 250 words or less. Submission via email are strongly preferred and should be sent to Mark Justad at Vanderbilt University Divinity School, Nashville, TN. W&M. AMSA Membership Office, 382 West Coyote Lane SE, Albuquerque, NM 87123, or or 505.323.2386. (4/11-13/03)

26th Conference. MANifesting Global Justice: Creating Inclusive Communities Closed

Men & Masculinity: 26th Conference sponsored by the National Organization for Men Against Sexism, University of Denver, Denver, CO. The call for workshop presenters and MSA call for paper is on the website with submissions due by 6/15/01. or or 303.666.7043 (7/20-22/01)

International Journal of Men's Health to be Launched Closed

Deadline for nominations is April 16, 2001.

The Men's Studies Press invites scholars to submit empirical and theoretical articles for its new men's health journal, the International Journal of Men's Health, which will be launched in the winter of 2002. The International Journal of Men's Health (ISSN: 1532-6306) will publish peer-reviewed papers addressing all aspects of men's health. Topics will cover: various diseases and health problems that are male-specific or for which men have higher rates of morbidity or mortality than women; the biological, psychological, behavioral, and sociocultural processes influencing men's health; prevention and treatment approaches to men's illnesses; sexual, reproductive, and family planning concerns; men's bodies and body image; health concerns of special populations of men and boys; clinical and counseling intervention strategies; marketing to and engaging men in health care; and gender differences in health concerns. Multidisciplinary, multicultural, empirical, theoretical, applied, and historical contributions, as well as critical reviews are encouraged. Original interdisciplinary research and studies that analyze innovative intervention strategies will be given high priority. The International Journal of Men's Health is intended for teachers, students, and professionals involved in the behavioral and social sciences, health sciences, medicine, and public health and whose interest in or whose research examines men's health issues in the broadest sense. Thus, epidemiologists, health educators, medical anthropologists, nurses and physicians, psychologists and psychiatrists, public health workers, social workers, and sociologists will find the International Journal of Men's Health a valuable resource for advancing their knowledge about men's health concerns and gender-specific health care. Along with regular articles (approximately 6,000 to 8,000 words), the International Journal of Men's Health will routinely publish brief reports (approximately 2,500 words) and book reviews (approximately 750 words). Submission details: Send four (4) copies of paper (APA guidelines for article preparation preferred) to: International Journal of Men's Health, P.O. Box 32, Harriman, TN 37748. Inquires can be sent to:

Editorial Staff

The International Journal of Men's Health will require the following staff to direct the editorial process: an editor-in-chief (or coeditors), a book review editor, and an advisory board. Here are the qualifications and descriptions for each position.

Editor-in-Chief (or Coeditors-in-Chief): Qualification: An acknowledged and widely respected scholar(s) in the men's health field. Description: The editor-in-chief (or coeditors) will read all submissions, either send appropriate manuscripts out for review or communicate to the manuscript's author its inappropriateness for IJMH, maintain a detailed and up-to-date manuscript reviewers' file, assign and send manuscripts out to readers/reviewers, monitor the review process by setting deadlines and communicating with reviewers, communicate reviewers' evaluative feedback to authors, and work with authors whose manuscripts have been accepted for publication (especially those requiring changes before turning the manuscript over to production). Work closely with the production staff and publisher to ensure a continuous flow of articles moving through the review process and into the production phase. The editor-in-chief's tenure will be for a minimum of three years, but no longer than six years.

Book Review Editor: Qualification: A person with a broad understanding of men's health issues. Description: The book review editor will be responsible for contacting book publishers in order to request copies of current books in the men's health area. Further, the book review editor will decide whether unsolicited books are suitable for review. The review editor will also catalogue books received from book publishers, be responsible for assessing a book's suitability for review in IJMH, maintain a detailed and current book reviewers' file, assign books to specific book reviewers, keep track of books in the review process, motivate book reviewers to submit their reviews in a timely fashion, and finally, turn over accepted book reviews (mss.) to production. The book review editor will act as liaison between book publishers, book reviewers, and the IJMH's production staff.

Advisory Board: Acknowledged and respected scholars in the men's health field. The advisory board will work with the editor-in-chief to ensure the quality and scholarship of the articles published in the International Journal of Men's Health. Individual advisory board members may be asked from time-to-time to read/review submissions in areas of their specific competence. The advisory board will be expected to provide counsel and advice to both the editor-in-chief and the publisher on ways to maintain and continuously improve the journal's quality and scholarly level. The advisory board will also have direct input in the nominating process for the editor-in-chief's successor at the end of his/her/their tenure.

If you would like to nominate yourself for an editorial position with the International Journal of Men's Health, please email your choice of position, a copy of your vita, and a summary statement (maximum 250 words) describing your qualifications. Send this information to Dr. James Doyle, Men's Studies Press, P.O. Box 32, Harriman, TN 37748 or to

Guidelines and Dates for Submission of Abstracts/Presentation Proposals for Men and Boys Health Conference (National-Australia) (By 5/1/01) Closed

The Conference Committee invites interested participants to submit abstracts or presentation proposals. We are seeking a variety of presentation types. As well as formal academic papers, we want to actively encourage creative presentations of innovative programs, projects and workshops. A presentation should run for 15 - 20 minutes. Relevance to the conference theme and topics will be a major criterion for selection.

More than one abstract may be submitted. Authors are requested to provide a copy of their abstract/presentation proposal in Word format either as an email attachment or on an IBM formatted disk, labelled clearly.

Format for Abstracts

One A4 page maximum per abstract/presentation proposal. Margins: Left 2.5cm, Right 2.5cm, Top 2.5cm, Bottom 2.5cm. Font: Times New Roman 12pt. Spacing: Single. One line between paragraphs. No indentation. At top: Author(s) name(s) in bold, name of presenting author to be underlined, (organisation) in brackets, working title of presentation in italics and (conference topic) in brackets if appropriate. At bottom: Presenting author(s) name, title, position, postal address and telephone and fax numbers and email. Disks should be sent to the Conference Secretariat. Note: Disks will not be returned unless specified by author. Please address any requests for further information and send submissions to: Alison Campbell, Conference Secretariat UWS , PO Box 415, Richmond, NSW 2753 Australia Phone (02) 4570 1455 or 4570 1713 Fax (02) 4578 4100 or 4570 1522 Email: or See Conference Details

Requesting Your Input for a new book titled Secrets of Married Men

I'm Scott Haltzman, MD. I have recently initiated a web site about Married Men called "Secrets of Married Men." This is a non-commercial site, run by me, a psychiatrist. I am hoping to learn, and have others learn, about strateties married men use to maintain and advance their marriages. This site both seeks men's thoughts and opinions and also will provide me data with which I plan to write a book of the same title.If you have something you would like to share and possibly end up in a book, visit for more information.

Paternal Instinct, Call for Papers. Topics for presentstions and articles (the Journal will start publication in December, 2000) include - but are not limited to: father/child bonding at all ages with both genders, paternal grief syndrome at loss of children in divorce, multi-ethnic expressions of fathering, burogamy: when the state takes over as head of the family, social legislation affecting paternal roles (CSSA, TANF, custody and/or shared parenting standards, etc.) Send 500 word outline, APA guidelines to: Edward Stephens, On Step Institute for Mental Health Research, 169 E 74th St, Garden Suite, New York, NY 10021. Conference scheduled for 11/10-12/00 in New York City. Closed

Requests for assistance/information

Modeling Men’s Reluctance to Seek Mental Health Care

If you are a man 18 or older and would like to support this study with your participatoin, go to to start. We are trying to recruit a community sample of men over the internet. The results of this research have the potential to be helpful to men in need of psychological services who are reluctant to use them. The survey may also benefit men who take it by bringing issues of help seeking to the forefront, where they might not otherwise consider their own views toward seeking help. We would tremendously appreciate your participation with this project. Chris Mellinger

Looking for parents of LGBT or heterosexual individuals, who are residents of California

I am a doctoral candidate at Alliant International University, San Diego. For my dissertation, I am examining gender perceptions among people with various sexual orientations/gender identities. The research study was developed in consultation with my dissertation committee, LGBT individuals, and was approved by the institutional review board (IRB) at Alliant International University. I am looking for parents (of LGBT or heterosexual individuals), who are residents of California to complete an anonymous online questionnaire, available at: I hope that this study will contribute to further understanding of the understudied and underserved population. I also believe the knowledge gained from this study will help therapists in addressing issues related to sexual orientation and gender identities. I would appreciate your participation or help circulating this information. Thank you, Jennifer Mato, M.A., LMFT / Marital and Family Therapy Doctoral Candidate / Alliant International University (San Diego) / eMail / Dissertation chair: Narumi Taniguchi, Ph.D.

New Dads: Help with an on-line questionairre.

Attention Postpartum Moms and New Dads
The UNLV Maternal Health Lab is conducting two surveys on postpartum mental health. We need 500 postpartum women and their partners, who have had children within the last year and who are 18 years and older to complete a 30-minute anonymous survey. Please go to and click either the Postpartum Moms or Postpartum Dads links. Thank-you for your assistance.

Looking for men between 18-59 who have been physically assaulted at least once in the last 12 months by a current or former intimate female partner.

The Men's Experiences with Partner Aggression Project is a research study at Clark University and is funded by the National Institute of Mental Health. Denise A. Hines, Ph.D., Clark University Department of Psychology, is the lead researcher on this project. She is conducting this project in conjunction with Emily M. Douglas, Ph.D., Bridgewater State College Department of Social Work, the Survey Center at the University of Southern Maine, and the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women. Our goal is to better understand the experiences of men who are in relationships with women who use violence. Extensive research has shown that men are at risk for sustaining partner violence in their relationships, yet few studies have investigated their experiences, and there are few resources available to such men. This is an under-recognized problem in the United States, and by conducting this research project, we hope to provide much needed information on these men, their relationships and their needs.

If you are a man between the ages of 18 and 59 and you have been physically assaulted at least one time in the last 12 months by a current or former intimate female partner you may be eligible to participate in this study. If you are interested in participating, please call the DAHMW at 888.743.5754 or E-Mail for information about the study and directions for participating. For more information about DAHMW visit their website:


Jan Brown, Founder and Executive Director
Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women
888.7HELPLINE (888.743.5754)
Bus: 207.683.5758

The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women is competing in America's Giving Challenge sponsored by the Case Foundation and Parade Magazine. The top 100 nonprofits with the greatest number of contributors (not the greatest amount of money contributed) is awarded $1,000.00 by the Case Foundation. Please help us reach our goal of being one of the 100 nonprofits with the greatest number of unique donations! The challenge ends January 31, 2008 at 3pm EST so please hurry! We would also appreciate you passing this message on to others who might be interested in helping us win! Click on the url to our Charity Badge below and donate! Thanks for your support!

The “Married (or Dating) with Children” Study:

If you are currently: in a romantic relationship, a parent or step-parent with at least 1 child living in your house at least 3 days a week, and you are at least 18 years old:

1.Is voluntary and anonymous
2.Can be completed online. Click here, if interested.
3.Is SHORT (takes 15-20 minutes)
4.Will offer you extensive feedback on your personality and your relationship.
- 3 empirically validated dimension of relationship functioning
- 5 empirically validated dimensions of family functioning
- 3 empirically validated dimensions of individual functioning

Faculty Research Advisor for Heather Mazursky E-Mail

Ronald D. Rogge, Ph.D. E-Mail
Department of Clinical and Social Sciences in Psychology
University of Rochester

Request for contributions for a new book by Wayne Misner on how to deal with life after a traumatic event

I'm looking for true life stories on how (the contributor) has dealt with healing after a traumatic event. The event can be from death, divorce, broken relationships, etc. The object of the new book I'm writing is how people have been able to go on with their lives by healing, coping, functioning, and becoming productive again. Of course all names and locations, etc. will be changed to protect the identity of those who contribute their stories. or Email

Retired? Thinking about retiring? Know someone who has retirement concerns?

Dr. Ken Byers, author of the ground breaking 1990 book "Man In Transition"and the 1993 "Who Was That Masked Man Anyway?" is seeking stories, anecdotes and personal experiences from men's lives on the subject of retirement. It can be personal or from the experience of fathers, grandfathers, wives, children, etc. He is looking for the many ways that men deal, or do not deal, with this critical stage of life. Interested? Check the Website at: or E-mail.

Men's Survey: What is your PTSD and feeling quotient?

We've often wondered if infant circumcision (suspected to have lasting psychological effects) could be measured in adults using standard PTSD and Alexithymia (inability to express feelings into words) tests. If so, then this might indicate a source for unexplained behavior in men (often attribu ted to testosterone). Please take this survey!

Romantic Couple with Kids? For new ABC TV Series

ABC Television is looking for families to participate in an exciting series that celebrates the modern American family. They are looking for Couples that focus on actively keeping the romance in their relationship alive and feel strongly that their relationship is always a work in progress. Families must consist of 2 parents and have at least one child (AGES 6 AND UP) living at home with parents. If interested, contact the show's casting producer Lisa Pitt by phone 212.404.1470 or e- mail

When the Tear Won't Fall

In December 2005, Fathers Incorporated will also publish a book of letters entitled "When the Tear Won't Fall." The book will compile letters from fathers of all walks of life to speak on the intimate struggles of fatherhood. Deadline for letter submissions is June 27th. Forms can be obtained by visiting our website at

Father's Organization to Publish Book Highlighting Responsible Fatherhood (posted 1/17/05)

Fathers, Incorporated will publish and promote a book of letters entitled "When the Tear Won't Fall." The book will compile letters from fathers of all walks of life to speak on the intimate struggles of fatherhood.

Throughout the country, organizations are focusing on the issue of absentee fathers and all its attendant disturbing effects and statistics. Fathers, Inc. recognizes the need to reaffirm an understanding of the benefit of fathers to the family. Though to do so our main focus will be on the development of fathers, we recognize that there is also a need for maternal involvement and development specifically as those things intersect around parental responsibility.

Fathers, Inc. is a not-for-profit agency dedicated to strengthening the community and family infrastructure by encouraging and enabling the positive involvement of fathers in the lives of their children. We will do this by increasing awareness of father's rights and responsibilities, the programmatic impact through community collaborations, providing support services, training, and assistance to fathers in need of sustenance and direction.

“When the Tear Won’t Fall” will be unique in the sense that many books written on the subject of fatherhood tend to be in the categories of self-help, humor, poetry and how-to. The book will highlight the stories of fathers who have overcome obstacles, and how their life's choices impacted them as fathers. In some instances, the stories will detail how they failed and what it means/meant to them and their children.

The book will also:

The book project seeks to profile the changing image of fatherhood in our society. It will reinforce and reestablish for many that fathers are a critical part of the productive and positive functioning of the family. Because of the changing configuration of family and the increase in absentee fathers, at a most critical time in this society, these letters will explore what it means to be a father, and offer some insight on how to be a good father.

Guidelines, requirements and deadlines for letters can be obtained by visiting our website at or emailing Letters can also be submitted via our website. The book is due out by Christmas 2005.

LA Area Men wanted to Make-over Show on TLC (Posted 1/12/05)

We are looking for MEN in the Los Angeles area (including Orange County) who are ready to roll back the clock on our new state-of-the-art makeover show for TLC! No surgery, but all of the latest top-of-the-line techniques to make you look (AND MAYBE EVEN FEEL) Ten Years Younger in only ten days. Visit or call Rachel Stevens, Casting Coordinator, Ten Years Younger, 818.260.0363 for eligibility requirements and how to apply. Participants must reside in the Los Angeles area, be a U.S. Citizen and at least 21years of age.

Subj: Research Participants Needed. Date: 8/7/2002 I am requesting participants who meet the following requirements: (A) Heterosexual male, (B) At least 18 years of age and (C) Either married, engaged, or living together for at least 6 months. Participants will be asked to take a questionnaire on relationship issues. Participants will first be sent to a consent page, where they will read a brief description about the study and that participation is anonymous and confidential. There is no way that I can trace answers to identifying information. If they choose to quit at any time, they simply close the page and answers are automatically deleted. Any questions or concerns can be directed to Christina Ward at or my thesis chair, Raymond Bergner at My research passed the research review board at Illinois State University. To participate, they simply click on the "I consent..." button at All of this is explained in the first page. Closed

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Subj: Social Hormones. Date: 7/28/2002 : Peter Gray is searching for a few good men to participate in cutting-edge research on male social relationships and hormones. This research forms part of my Ph.D. in anthropology at Harvard. Seeking participants living in the U.S. aged 28-40 and who meet several other criteria. Research entails collecting saliva on four days for hormone analyses as well as filling out a questionnaire. Earn $50 while helping advance our knowledge of the hormonal correlates of male marriage, parenting and work. E-mail me by August 31, 2002 at: Closed

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Subj: Calling for Men Abused as Children Date: 7/8/2002 3:25:04 PM Pacific Daylight Time. I am a PhD student doing research on the healing process when recovering from childhood sexual abuse. Most of the literature in existence focuses on female survivors and I would really like to be able to include the perspective and experience of MALE SURVIVORS. I wondered if you might be able to help me find ADULT MALES WHO WERE SEXUALLY ABUSED IN CHILDHOOD WHO WOULD BE WILLING TO COMPLETE A BRIEF, ANONYMOUS QUESTIONNAIRE ABOUT THEIR HEALING/RECOVERY PROCESS (about 15-30 minutes). People can contact me directly at If you like, I can send the complete study description and information (including contact information at the University of Alberta to verify authenticity of research). Please complete by August 31, 2002.) Mary Pudmoreff Closed

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Subj: Reproduction of Semem 2/10/01 4:41:18 AM Pacific Standard Time. As I get older the reproduction process of semen is much slower. Is there a recognized legal product on the market that will assist with this reproduction? I am 64 and of course it is not the same as a young man in his early years but what do men do in later life to help with this process? (Vince Howard)

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Subj: Sympathetic Male Pregnancy or Couvade Syndrome. In a message dated 11/21/00 8:32:48 AM Pacific Standard Time: We're making a TV program about sympathetic male pregnancy. Know anyone who experienced it? know anyone experiencing it now? It was called the couvade syndrome but is not an illness. animal behaviorists say it's normal.

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Subj: Harassment on the job (11/10/00) I am a white-male state employee. I work for the State of Michigan. The majority of employee's are female, black and white. I have seen a definite pattern of discrimination against white men in promotions and job assignments. I have approached the E.E.O. in our agency, (black female) about a sexual harassment problem from female Supv. and was told it would cause me more problems than it it worth, I would probably suffer some repercussions and didn't want to pursue it because they were friends. I have seen at least 8-10 instances of black woman being promoted over white men. These womanall belong to a group called I.A.P.E.S. They are a group of professional white-collar workers whose main intent is to increase the power of the Black& white woman in the workplace. I work for the State of Michigan Unemployment Agency and need a Civil rights lawyer to handle a case of reverse- discrimination. I don't feel comfortable with a Mich. attorney, because I have seen the Gov.Engler fire another state employee who had the balls to go public with some problems in the Dept. of Corrections. I need some help from someone who is discreet and not afraid of City Hall. I can be reached at Thanks. Frank Spano

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Subj: Counseling for 6 Year Old Son (11/1/00) My friend's son is the father to a 6 year old. He shares joint custody with ex-girlfriend - who has currently turned son against father. When father goes to pick up son, exgirlfriend tells him son doesn't want to see him. This has been going on for 4 months. Son hides in his room. Mother constantly calls my friend, who is lost, because woman wants ex-boyfriend for lover - but it won't happen. Where can my friend tell her son to find counseling for his child? Funds are low - hearts are warm - but boy's mother is dreaming.

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Subt: Sexual Boredom Scale is the data collection aspect of a doctoral thesis and they need as many subjects as possible. 4/14/00 11:15:38a PDT. Check it out: at Paul Meyerson, Ph. D. Candidate in Clinical Psychology, Fordham University, NY

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Subj: Are there any resource centers in Singapore? 3/23/00 9:30:11 PM Pacific Standard Time. I would like to know if any resource centers are in Singapore where men can go for counseling and help?

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Subj: Request Semen composition 3/4/00 8:28:45 AM Pacific Standard Time. I am hoping to gain some information on a problem I am having. it appears that my semen is burning my partner. she is experiencing servere discomfort for several days if we have intercourse more than once a week. this problem has persisted for some time (several years ) I have been tested for stds and have a clean bill of health. this problem is starting to have serious implications for our relationship. any assistance that you can render would be more appreciated by us. Yours sincerely, Simon (Murdoch1)

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Subj: RequestE-Mail list of Men in the Greater Bay Area. 2/5/00 5:13:57 PM Pacific Standard Time. I'm a therapist specializing in masculine psychology, men's groups, wilderness experiences & one day intensives for men. In trying to reach more men & keep the cost as low as possible I am looking for an "e-mail mailing list" for men in the greater bay area. I could use this to get the word out, instead of the costly & time consuming postal service. Any leads out there? Robert Teister MFT

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Subj: Men Finding Young Girls Attractive 1/18/00 5:25:13 PM Pacific Standard Time. Hello, my name is Tricia. I am in need of information from men regarding what they REALLY think is normal sexual interest for men, particularly in relation to the age at which it is considered normal to find young girls sexually attractive. (for our family values discussion)

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Subj: Big & Tall Products: 1/14/00 8:58:04 AM Pacific Standard Time. I am big and tall. Are there any sites for men who need bigger furniture, more auto leg room, etc?

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Subj: Harassment on the Job. 1/11/00
My significant other is experiencing reverse descrimination and harrassment on his job by a black supervisor. His health has been affected and he is very afraid this man is setting him up for dismissal. We live in the Washington DC area, he works for NIH in Bethesda, Md. As a feminist, descrimination directed towards anyone is abhorrent to me. We need help in finding a good attorney specializing in this type of situation. We are of modest means and cannot afford a lot of money, he is an electrician. Please help us.

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Subj: TO ALL MEN: Send Your Favorite Recipes for a Future Book by 2/16/00 -
Culinary Courtesan by Margie Lapanja is Cookin' up a Book for the Guys and those who know them and cook for them. Food Men Love: A Lively Anthology of Men's Favorite Foods will be published Valentine's Day 2001 by Conari Press! This is a tribute to men and the tastes that tantalize them: an entire cookbook dedicated to men's favorite foods. This lively anthology of regal recipes, luscious lore, historical tidbits, great quotes, and proven love potions~~with favorites of Leonardo da Vinci to Leonardo deCaprio and every man in between will explore the glories of favorite foods and drink and the satisfaction they give to a man's psyche and stomach! I propose two simple questions:
1. What foods and/or beverages do you love? (Think in terms of what you'd want if you were to request you "last meal.")
2. Do you have a favorite dish or recipe you like to prepare?
Take a minute to tell me about the food you love and and/or share a favorite recipe: please write, e-mail, or fax me with your responses. Be sure to review all recipes for content accuracy and include your name and a contact number if you wish to receive credit in the book. (Any additional info like your age, occupation, and hometown would also be fun to know!)

Anyone who contributes will automatically be entered into a drawing to win a gourmet dinner-for-two at a favorite restaurant in your area and an Gift Basket with books, goodies, and more. A portion of proceeds from sales of Food Men Love will also be donated to select charities.So, let's play!...share your food fantasy...and/or a favorite recipe! Margie Lapanja, P.O. Box 806, Crystal Bay, NV 89402 or visit for inspiration and information. Fax: ifnormation to 775.832.5507

FYI:  Margie Lapanja is the author of Goddess in the Kitchen and The Goddess' Guide to Love and pens the newspaper column "Aphrodite's Afterthoughts: A Lighter Look at Love."

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Subj: Chicken Soup for the Chicken's Soul
Have you ever noticed Jack Canfield's "Chicken Soup of the Soul" series - Stories to Open the Heart and Rekindle the Spirits"? They've got one for about everyone and everything. There are ones for women (2), plus celebrating women, woman's songs, mother's soul, mother's heart, couples, parents, singles, singles/divorced/widowed, friends, everyday heroes, those over 50, birthday girls, kids, teenagers (3), teenage relationships, college, for survivors, for cancer survivors, cancer patients and their loved ones, for loving and learning, for unsinkable souls, to renew your faith, uplift your spirit, for Christians, Christian Families, country soul, work, creativity in the workplace, golfers, even recipes and cat & dog lovers and other critters. There's activity planers for mothers, pet lover's, and work. And another series of "A Little Spoonful of Chicken Soup for the Soul" for women, teenagers and friends. They come in cloth and paper, abridged, regular and large print, English and Spanish, books, calendars, journals, or appointment books, 2nd Helping, 3rd Serving, 4th Course, 5th Portion, 6th Bowl, Another Sip, Best of, and on and on and on. In these 182 different versions, however, there isn't one for men, fathers, boys, celebrating men, etc. And from the looks of the ones that have already been announced for publication in 2000, there aren't any on the drawing board. I find this very revealing about this and some other "spiritual" or "new age" work. Even though men are often the authors, they prefer not to talk about themselves or their kind. Is the reason that they don't think men can use it, need it, or benefit from it? No, I believe it's greed - most books are written by women, most books are purchased by women, most "men's books" aren't runaway best sellers, so they will sell more copies about "Chicken Soup for critters" than for men, fathers or boys. Maybe someday, when they've totally run out of innocuous titles like "The 6th Bowl of Chicken Soup for the Soul", then, maybe, they'll consider putting together something for men.  I wondered if that thinking had gotten that far with the "Chicken Soup" people, so I called them at 954.360.0909. "Maybe in a year or two we'll put one out for fathers." Maybe they're just plain chicken? If you're an optimist, send a story for possible publication to Men/Fathers, PO Box 30880, Santa Barbara, CA 93130. If you're a pessimist, write the publisher at Health Communications, 3201 SW 15th St, Deerfield Beach, FL 33443 to point out to their oversight.

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Subj: Research assistance - Time Involved in Workplace Conflict 12/11/99 2:33:08 PM PST. Dana Mediation Institute seeks respondents to a very brief survey to study organizational conflict and its management. Details at It's a 30-second microsurvey concerning "Time involved in workplace conflict". Results will be posted in a few weeks, or when a sufficient number of responses has been received to yield useful statistical analysis. Many thanks, Dan Dana, Dana Mediation Institute, Inc. (Research)

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Subj: Men's bodies and men's health 12/4/99 8:52:08 PM Pacific Standard Time. Hullo from sunny Sydney Australia! I write about men's issues in Australia. My most recent book was FATHERS, SONS AND LOVERS - about what it means to be a man today. Its setting is Australia but friends tell me it could be anywhere. My next book is about men's bodies - how we feel about our bodies - how we feel when desired and when in love. I am interviewing a range of men in Bondi and other places in Australia. I have a small research group examining
- boys' problems in learning - how to assist boys to achieve - how to help men live healthier lives - how to help men be better dads. I am interested in hearing from people working in similar areas. I write both for university audiences and for the public. You'll find some of my stuff on my website. Peter West, Research Group on Men and Families, Mens Health Information and Research Centre, University of Western Sydney, Second Ave., Kingswood NSW 2750, Australia. Check out our web page or (Peter West)

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Subj: Procrastination Factor in Estate Planning - Help for an Article. 12/1/99 7:29:59 AM Pacific Standard Time. I am developing an article for one of my clients. I am looking for people I can interview on the subject of (1) the psychology of denial regarding our own deaths and (2) personal stories from loved ones, mostly widows, on how their husband's denial of his own mortality prevented him from doing estate planning and, therefore, caused his heirs financial and emotional loss. If you can direct me toward any resoucres, I would appreciate it. I can be reached at the e-mail above or by calling 608.437.6379 (Wisconsin). Thank you, John R. Ingrisano

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Subj: Orca Book Publishers looking for Children's and young adult books. or

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Subj: Early childhood groupgs for men 11/8/99 5:08:07 AM Pacific Standard Time. This is the ninth year that I have taught Kindergarten in our school. To date I have never met another male K teacher and really I have not met a male early childhood teacher at all. I have been told that here is one around Akron, Ohio, but my attempt to contact him did not work. Our system is so limiting. It would be great to meet other men that are involved in early-childhood and if you ever locate an organization that is focused in that direction, please make me aware of it. It might be fun to organize such a group, if we weren't 600 miles apart. Please let me know if you locate any interest people. Please allow me to say "Thank you " again. Richard D. Miller, PO Box 8, Hollansburg, Ohio 45332 1-937-997-4064 tvprrmiller@MDECA.ORG (Richard Miller)

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Petitions - copy, sign and pass on to your mailing list

Hate crimes petition

Please forward this petition to friends who believe in what it stands for. The petition will then be forwarded to the President of the United States; the Vice President of the United States; and our United States Senators and House Members.

A resolution follows:

WHEREAS: We affirm and promote the inherent worth and dignity of every person; and WHEREAS: We commend the efforts of those individuals who dedicate their lives to causes of social justice and human rights; and WHEREAS: We support actions that protect the individual's rights of life, liberty and pursuit of happiness. THEREFORE BE IT RESOLVED, That we hereby urge the passage of The Hate Crimes Prevention Act (HCPA), H.R.3081 and S.1529

The Hate Crimes Prevention Act (HCPA), H.R.3081 and S.1529, would amend current federal law (which permits federal prosecution of a hate crime only if the crime was motivated by bias based on religion, national origin, or color) to include real or perceived sexual orientation, gender, and disability so the FBI would be able to investigate and prosecute violent hate crimes against gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. Under this bill, hate crimes that cause death or bodily injury because of prejudice can be investigated federally, regardless of whether the victim was exercising a federally protected right.

The only way that our representatives can be aware of the base of support for this change to the current law is by making our voices heard.

Petition Management:

1. This petition is being passed around the Internet. Please add your name to it so that we can have tougher laws against all hate crimes. Please keep the petition rolling. Do not reply to me. Please sign and forward to others to sign. This is being forwarded to several people at once to add their names. It will not matter if many people receive the same list as the names are being managed.

2. If you print out this petition for signing please email the listing of names with locations to the email address: (an e-mail address created to receive this petition) Include a note to indicate you have a hand-signed petition and include the number of names listed.

3. If you happen to be the 100th, 150th, 200th, 250th, etc. signer of this petition, please forward a copy to the email address:

4. If you sign, please pass it on to others. If not, please do not kill it: send it on to the email address:


Note: It is preferable that you Select the entirety of this letter and then COPY it into a new outgoing message, add your name to the bottom of the list, then send it on. Or if option is available, do a SEND AGAIN

Sign Here:

1) Leslie Palmer, Jacksonville, FL
2) Stephen Silverman, South Burlington, VT
3) Wayne Arnason
4) Theo Diamond, Charlottesville, VA
5) Sasha Kopf, Northampton, MA / Princeton, NJ
6) Geoffrey B. Metz, Tufts Univ., Medford, MA
7) Emily Sporl, Tufts University, Medford, MA
8) Tai Collins, Oberlin College, Oberlin, OH
9) Danielle Lazarin, Oberlin College, Oberlin, OH
10) Priscilla Morales, Yale University, New Haven, CT
11) Lydia Pace, Yale University, New Haven, CT
12) Julia Goren, Williams College, Williamstown, MA
13)Jamie Waxman, Columbia University
14)Rebecca Zimmerman, Columbia University, NY
15)Jori Frakie, Columbia University, NY
16)Aaron Wilson, Cornell University
17)Sean Pilger, Cornell University
18) Rebecca SAck, Cooper Union
19) Ben Cook, SUNY College of Environmental Science & Forestry
20) Evan Cestari, Syracuse University
21) Lagusta Yearwood, University of Rochester
22) Jacob Pyne, University of Rochester
23) Anya Lakner, University of Rochester
24) Cory W. Clines, University of Rochester
25) Tony J. Ivie, Etna, Wyoming
26) Wayne Noffsinger, Etna, Wyoming
27) Merrick Wolfe, Studio City, California
28) Terri Ginsberg, Florida Atlantic University
29) Kirsten Thompson, New York, NY
30) Alexandra Keller, Rutgers University, New Brunswick, NJ
31) Chris Straayer, New York University, New York, NY
32) Daniel Banks, NYU, New York, NY
33) Tony Kushner, New York City, NY
34) David Roman, Los Angeles, CA
35) George Haggerty, Riverside, CA
36) Fred Arens, Los Angeles, CA
37) Mickie Robbins, Los Angeles, CA
38) Ken Howard, Los Angeles, CA
39) Michael Shernoff, NYC, NY
40) Michael Lassell, NYC, NY
41) Robert Drake, Philadelphia, PA
42) John Scognamiglio, NYC, NY
43) Wendy Staub, Katonah, NY
44) Christian Nova, New York, NY
45) Anne Runolfsson, Pound Ridge, NY
46) Ray Cochran, New York, NY
47) Jake Madrid, Los Angeles, CA
48) Scott Eckhoff, Los Angeles, CA
49) Melissa Crogle, Denver, CO
50) Michelle Cantwell, Englewood, CO
51) Amanda Nelson, Vanderbilt Univ. Medical School, Nashville, TN
52) Aline Hansen-Higa, Arvada, CO
53) Loretta Hansen-Higa, Bennett, Co
54) Victoria Polin, The Awareness Center, Chicago, IL
55) Gordon Clay, San Anselmo, CA

"Make a Difference Day" Projects/Events/Volunteer Requests

October 28 is "Make a Difference Day". If you are looking for projects, events, or volunteers, here is the place to put your information. Send us an email to Also, let us know what you are doing and we will list those things also.

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