Whether you're celebrating Eid al-Adha (12/8/08, 11/27/09,
10/25/12), Bodhi Day 12/8-16/12), Hanukkah (12/8-16/12), Las Posadas
(12/16-24/12), Winter Solstice (12/21/12), Christmas (12/25/12),
Kwanzaa (12/26/12-1/1/13), the New Year (1/1) or not celebrating any
of them, the holidays can easily become the holidaze.
What comes up for you around the holidays: Shopping, crowds,
financial outlet, forthcoming bills, being single, parents/kids/loved
ones not around, loneliness, no one to love, or concerned with hurt
& tension at family reunions..
What makes you mad: lack of others concern for others, traffic and
crowds? Point your finger. How do you judge others? What gets to you,
not necessarily about them but about those around you?
Now, turn that finger on yourself - what's at the end of it?) It's
not what others are doing - it's how you process it. You get treated
the way you teach people to treat you - victim-I'm going to do it all
instead of let it pass, others expectations of you........The little
kid inside of you is counting down the days with excitement, what did
you do to change your attitude? The following is a list of holiday
- Awareness - keep in mind that the holiday season may cause you
to feel symptoms of stress (highways/lines/rush) - having some
awareness will help reduce it.
- Remember that the holiday season will soon be over and the
passage of time itself will help you get back to your usual
- Do not overlook your own needs during the holiday season even
though you are sensitive to the needs of others. Take care of
- Consider the types of gifts you purchase and remember the old
adage, it is the thought that counts, not only the gift. Maybe
make something by hand.
- Look at the holidays in a new light. Spend less time on
preparation and more on love and unity with friends and family.
Create new traditions.
- Avoid the lines at stores by shopping now.
- Do not put expectations on those around you to please you as
you want to be pleased. Peace of mind will come when you enjoy
others as they are and do not place your expectations on
- Observe your own thoughts and feelings and remember that any
shift from your normal self may be caused by the holiday
- Manage your time by making lists with priorities.
- Exercise at least three times a week. Keep physically
- Maintain a healthy diet. Cut back on other meals when you are
going to a big holiday dinner.
- Alcohol is a depressant and contributes to stress. It is also
part of our societal conditioning. Use it in moderation, if at
all. Do not drive if you drink. Plan ahead for a ride home or take
- Contact family and friends and include them in your plans, if
you can. Use the phone to contact far away people. Check on the
best times to call for the lowest rates and not get them out of
- To avoid loneliness, plan to be with friends or other people
that may become friends.
- Volunteer in your community to help those less fortunate than
you during the holiday season. Get a group together to sing at a
local children's hospital or some other group activity. This will
allow you to be involved with people and avoid feeling
- Use your usual stress management techniques. Deep relaxation
exercises several times during the day.
- Expose yourself to humor and laugh.
Do all this and you can remove the question mark from the headline
and replace it with an explanation mark. - Gordon
Survival Guide and
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Now the New Year reviving old Desires, The thoughtful Soul to
Solitude retires. - Omar Khayyam
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