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June
The Thirty Year Old Sexual Peak
I recently had the unpleasant experience of turning
thirty much to my chagrin. However, I will forever
allege that this was not my fault. Time was moving
much too swiftly and although I tried my best to
stay in the sexy and swinging twenties, I lost my
grip and fell flat on my face in my thirties. I am
led to believe that I will not be allowed to
return. The horror. The horror.
Aside from my momentary lapses of self pity,
there are some great benefits to being a woman in
her thirties. As you probably guessed from the
title of this article, I am now in my sexual prime.
It seems like a cruel joke. Guys can't think about
anything but the tent pole in their pants while in
their teens and early twenties. But by the time
women get to the same stage, the men are calling in
reinforcements of Viagra. I am sure you have all
heard about this before. Women hit their sexual
prime at thirty......or do they? I almost half
expected to become some raging ball of hormones as
if I was pushed on by a button when I turned
thirty. I was looking forward to it. To my dismay,
no such transformation has occurred.
Shedding light on this curiosity of mine was Dr.
Sandor Gardos, a doctor in sexual education.
According to Dr. Gardos, the notion that women hit
their sexual peak at 30 is very misleading. You
will find many websites and articles on the very
subject talking about how women get their groove on
and peak at 30, or 35 while others say 40. But if
you are talking about a hormone flux, this is
simply not true. Men and women develop the same
hormones at the same time: puberty. The only reason
why women seem so much more interested at a later
age is because we were taught NOT to be interested
in sex when we were kids. If you experimented with
sex like the boys did, you would be labeled the
town Jezebel. Only when women mature are they able
to feel more comfortable talking about and
practicing sex. They finally open up and begin to
feel normal about desiring sex.
Then it becomes a whole new world for women. The
reason why people argue about the age of the sexual
peak in women is because it varies for each women.
It might take some women, for example, longer to
learn how to orgasm. But when each woman finally
feels comfortable with her body and the virtues of
sex, it just might be like hitting puberty for her,
especially if she had always lived a reserved or
conservative life. This can be a great time in a
woman's life; a true sexual awakening. And if you
measure a sexual peak by interest level, then you
can say that she has hit her prime. On the other
hand, there are some women who go wild and crazy in
their twenties and never give a thought to those
societal messages, i.e. “Good Girls
Don't”. All things considered, these girls may
not experience this sudden surge of sexual prowess
at the 35 year mark. They have already experienced
it all. Ahem. But not me, of course. I am an
angel.
If there are any young guys out there who are
tempted to seduce an older woman just because she
may be in her sexual prime and easily lured by an
open invitation, you may want to think again.
However, it may interest all men and women to know
that according to a recent publication in the
Oxford Journals, women do experience a subtle phase
of heat on a monthly schedule. Mid-month on her
cycle to be exact. During this time, women are
shown to be more attracted to androstenone (a
pheromone like sweat substance), are more attracted
to symmetrical and masculine faces and more
attracted to the subject of sex. Even as basic as
this is, its still fun to talk about. In the same
journal, I also uncovered a freaky fun fact. The
word for heat, Estrus, comes from a Greek word
'oistrus' which means Gadfly. Literally, it means
'in a frenzied state' because when the gadflies
would buzz around cattle, they would drive the
cattle into a frenzied state which resembled the
same state they go into when they wanted to mate.
So when scientists refer to estrus in a female,
remember that this concept originated from
cows.
©2009, The Advice
Diva
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as you were a year ago. - Bernard Berenson
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