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Not This Time,
Grampa
As grandparents begin to think about fall and
upcoming holidays, they fantasize about family
gatherings that resemble their favorite holiday
cards. The problem occurs when family members have
different cards in mind then they do. Some
grandparents hold tight obligatory appearances over
their children's heads. But, maybe, the children
want to spend a quiet day with their own children
instead of traipsing to Grandma and Grandpa's house
in bad weather and traffic.
How can grandparents make
lemonade out of that Lemon? Perhaps, take the
opportunity to book a cruise to a warm and exotic
getaway where Grandma and Grandpa can remember what
it is like to be - just You and Me. That does not
mean you cannot shop and plan a great day for the
grandchildren, just learn to be flexible on the
date. The next time the grand kids are available,
is a good day to celebrate missed holidays. The
children will love it and so will you...what ever
day that happens to be.
If you make a big deal out
of their absence or force people to spend holidays
with you, the day could be ruined for everyone. If
you are alone on a holiday, give yourself great
presents that you really want. Find a few lonely
stragglers and cook a Holiday Friends dinner.
As your children age, they
will return less and less. Sad but true. So get
yourself back out there and get a life! You might
still get that welcomed phone call, "Hey, Dad, we
can come home after all!" If not, have plenty to do
and work hard to make new friends and share good
times together - even if they are not the picture
perfect times of your fantasies.
©2009, Molly
Barrow
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Dr. Molly
Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is
the author of the new book, Matchlines:
A revolutionary New Way of looking at relationships
and making the right choices in
love. She is an
authority on relationship and psychological topics,
a member of the American Psychological Association
and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly
has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in
O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday, MSN.com,
Match.com, Women's Health and Women's World. Please
visit: www.askdrmolly.com
or Take the new relationship compatibility test,
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