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Alberti, Robert & Michael Emmons,
Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and equality in your
life and relationships. Donna lacks the nerve to hang up on
obnoxious telemarketers. Mitch has trouble expressing warm, caring
feelings. Shy Pam languishes at the bottom of the "pecking order"
at work while pushy Dale bullies others to get his way. Is
learning to manipulate others and answer to personal
powerlessness? There's a better way, according to the authors who
are distinguished experts in the field of assertiveness training.
They advocate respectful self-expression as a tool for promoting
equality in human relationships. This newly released edition
reinforces its status as the "bible" of assertiveness training.
Assertiveness is, first and foremost, a matter of personal choice.
If you know how to act assertively, you are free to choose whether
or not you will. This book offers a proven step-by-step method for
achieving successful self-determination in everyday life. Impact
Publishers, www.impactpublishers.com
2001 ISBN 1-886230-28-5 Buy
this book!
Alden-Tirrill, Anna and Jonathan van
Helsing, Cyber Love's Illusions: Exposing the Romance
Scams of Internet Dating: An Insider's Guide: How to
avoid being a scam victim and find true love in the scam-free
zone. Are you or someone you love a victim of a romance
scam? Nigerian scam artists bilk American, Canadian,
Australian and European victims out of an estimated $15 billion a
year. Think it can't happen to you - that they can't catch you in
their web of deceit? Don't be so sure. These slick romance
scammers use intricate confidence games to manipulate many
intelligent men and women into sending them their hard-earned
money. This book exposes the negarious underworld of Nigerian
Romance Scamming. You'll get an inside look from an interview with
an actual scammer and reports from our own Nigerian "Deep Throat"
informant, revealing how these scammers operate. The information
they provide will hellp you to guard your heart and protect your
bank account. Not all Internet dating sites are a safe haven for
these clever scammers. This book will show you which dating sites
are proactive in dealing with scammers, and which ones leave their
members vulnerable to scam attacks. Discover the sites the authors
place in the Scam-Free Zone! White Cottage Publishing,
www.whitecottagepublishing.com,
2006, ISBN 1-885831-09-9 
Alvrez, Alicia, Bedtime: 365 nightly readings for passion
& romance. From Pablo Neruda contemplating the curves of a
woman's body and Emily Dickinson's poetics of love, to Diane
Ackerman ruminating on the eroticism of a kiss, this book will
transport you to a more passionate state of mind. With selections
from the greatest romantic poets - Shelley, Sappho, Rilke - and
experts on sensuality - Barbara De Angelis, Daphne Rose Kingma,
Margot Anand - this book is to charm, arouse, even amuse, as it
stimulates your imagination and erotic impulses. Have more fun in
bed. A delicious collection of romantic readings and amorous
suggestions to induldge your heart, mind, body and soul. Conari
Press, 1995 ISBN 1-57324-184-9 Buy
this book!
Anapol, Deborah, Polyamory The New Love
Without Limits: Secrets of sustainable intimate
relationshps. What is polyamory? Can marriage and
unconditional love co-exist? How do you cope with
jealousy? Is polyamory immoral? Can you really
love two or more people at a time? What about sexually
transmitted diseases? What's wrong with serial
monogamy? Does polyamory harm children? Find the answers to
all these question and more. IntiNet Resource Center,
415.507.1738, 1997, pad@well.com,
ISBN 1-880789-08-6 Buy
this book!
Anapol, Deborah, The Seven Natural Laws of
Love. As we search for love in our lives, most of us often
feel as though we're on a journey without a compass - or even
worse, with a faulty map. We are programmed from our earliest
childhood experiences with scores of assumptions about love. We're
taught male and female roles, and ways of seeing ourselves, that
may lead to separation, fear, and mistrust. These many fallacies
and misconceptions lead us to associate love with disappointment
and pain. In this book the author gives us a warm, simple and
universal guide to the principles that are common to all loving
relationships. Drawing from the stories of the thousands of
individuals and couples she has counseled in her workshops and
private practice, from her own personal struggles and victories,
and from sacred texts, she distills love down to its basic
essentials. Based on real-world observations, she identifies the
seven laws that flow naturally from the true nature of love, and
shows how we can apply these to our lives. Her warmth, humor,
utter honesty, and lucid writing style cut through the
misunderstandings that get in the way of intimacy, and give us an
accurate map to the source of love inside ourselves. www.sevenlawsoflove.com,
2005. Elite Books, www.elitebooks.biz
ISBN 0-9710888-7-X 
Arp, David, Claudia S. Arp, Scott M. Stanley,
Howard J. Markman, Susan L. Blumberg, Fighting for Your Empty
Nest Marriage: Reinventing your relationship when the kids
leave home. Once upon a time, people grew up, got married, had
kids, retired - and died. Today, people grow up, get married, have
kids, maybe retire, then spend another 30 years together - if they
know how. But lots of couples look at each other after their kids
leave home and think, "I don't even know this
person!" They are now forced to spend time with each other,
and they have to make that crucial transition from parent back
into spouse. They have completely different dreams and
expectations. They may even be living separate lives, like two
single people sharing a house. They often end up in divorce court
after decades together. A team of five authors explores how
couples fall into this grim situation and how they can either
prevent it or repair it. They explore the hidden issues and
conflicts, the communication woes and other problems that surface
after kids grow up and no longer require so much attention. Their
book helps men and women recover their roles as husband and wife
when they no longer have to be primarily Mom and Dad. And they
remind us that marriage can be fun. By becoming stronger as
partners, couples will enjoy each other more, their own lives
more, and they will find greater happiness and fulfillment in the
upcoming years. Jossey-Bass, www.joseybass.com
2000 ISBN 0-7879-5222-2 Buy
this book!
Baber, Asa, Naked at Gender Gap: A men's view of the war
between the sexes. Welcome to the world of America's most
controversial men's movement writer. Brash and unflinching, he has
been one of the earliest and most outspoken voices on the subject
of manhood. For more than a decade, he has been pouring out his
heart and mind on the inequities in the ground rules of the battle
of the sexes. He has been one of the pioneers of the men's
movement. He is a preeminent spokesman on behalf of the rights of
divorced fathers. In this book, he discusses all the issues that
try men's souls with a toughness and a sensitivity that are sure
to provoke spirited argument. Virtually no part of his personal
history - he suffered the loss of custody of his two sons who
later returned to him on their own - his psyche, or his anatomy
goes unexposed. This book, along with Iron John and Fire
in the Belly, is one of the most important books to engage in
the new dialogue about the lives of men in contemporary America.
Carol, 1992 ISBN 1-55972-114-6 Buy
This Book!
Baber, Brendan & Eric Spitznagel,
A Guy's Guide to Dating: Everything you need to know
about love, sex, relationships, and other things too terrible to
contemplate. With the sexual revolution of the 60s, the
women's movement of the 70s and 80s and the politically correct
90s, men have every right to be thoroughly confused. Let's face
it. Dating in this decade is tough - and as far as men are
concerned, it's tougher on them. The sidesplitting book takes men
through the pitfalls of modern romance and is destined to give
guys a clear path to finding love. The authors take readers by the
hand and lead them through the murky waters of the modern dating
pool and then escort them down the path to contemporary
relationship nirvana. Doubleday www.bdd.com
1998 Buy
This Book!
Baer, Greg, Real Love: The truth about finding
unconditional love and fulfilling relationships. Why do most
of us search our entire lives for loving and happy relationships
but rarely find them? What is that "secret
something" that all relationships need in order to
thrive? The author found the answer to these questions while
working with hundreds of individuals and couples, and now he
shares with us an enlightening and practical blueprint for
creating successful relationships as we walk the path to finding
and keeping what he calls 'Real Love." With Real Love as your
guide, you can begin to heal the wounds of the past and create
rewarding and fulfilling relationships in every area of your life.
Go to www.GregBaer.com
for a description of additional books, journal entries, and a list
of planned seminars and media appearances. Gotham Books, www.penguinputnam.com
,
2003, ISBN 1-592-40000-0 Buy
This Book!
Baker, Carolyn, Reclaiming the Dark
Feminine: The Price of Desire. FINALLY. A book that dares to
look at this issue from a woman's perspective. She takes a unique
look and approach to the questions of gender reconciliation and
relationships. It's controversial and sometimes disturbing. She
challenges political feminism and the renewed fascination with the
goddess, saying they are inadequate to restoring wholeness to the
feminine psyche. Mythopoetically, she weaves together the symbolic
and the literal, developing solid ground on which men and women
can join in their quest for union with both the feminine and
masculine energies within themselves and with each other, fully
intact. New Falcon, 1739 E Broadway Rd STE 1-277, Tempe, AZ 85282
1996 ISBN 1-56184-088-2 Buy
This Book!
Barron, James Douglas, She Wants a
Ring - and I Don't Wanna Change a Thing: How a man can
overcome his fears of commitment and marriage. The author
offers humorous, practical advice for the guy who has trouble
making a commitment. Telling his own story of dating and
engagement, he tackles the problems that plague millions of
men: "Is She The One?" "No Other Woman for the Rest of
My Life?" "Will We Love Each Other When We're Shriveled Up
Old Raisins?" He gives quick, invaluable tips on how to get
over the hurdles of proposal, engagement, planning the wedding,
and getting to the altar. Quill www.harpercollins.com
2001 ISBN 0-688-17950-9 Buy
this book!
Barrow, Dr. Molly, Matchlines: A
revolutionary new way of looking at relationships and making the
right choices in love. Can you guess who is going to have an
affair and become the cheating spouse/partner? Will it be the
desperate, starved for love, Longerlines, who has been rejected
and dumped over and over? No. The Longerline's self-esteem is
at its lowest possible point, forcing him/her to emotionally
withdraw and question his/her own value and sexual attractiveness.
Longerlines stay home, eat more, and become depressed. It is the
Shorterlines who are at the greatest risk of being unfaithful to
their partners. While being prodded for more and more, and
repeatedly reminded that they do not have enough to offer,
Shorterlines are very likely to seek out new, re-energizing
relationships, filled with refreshing feedback. A Longerline can
unwittingly push a Shoterline into the eager arms of a new lover -
someone who has much lower expectations of them and makes them
feel like a winner instead of a chronic failure. Learn how to
avoid this all-too-common situation and many others in this book.
www.DrMollyBarrow.com.
2006, ISBN 1-59507-158-X 
Becker, Carol, Becoming
Colleagues: Women and men serving together in faith. Few
mixed gender work teams in faith-based organizations are as
successful as they could be - and the reasons for success or
faliure are always evident. Women often grapple with people whose
practices and theological understandings do not welcome their
leadership, and both men and women fall into counterproductive
power struggles and traps of miscommunication. In these
circumstances, even highly effective teams until now have found it
hard to explain the magic formula behind their success. In the
first book to address this issue, the author gives specific
guidance for implementing change in the religious workplace, based
on her extensive study of twenth-three different teams of men and
women from congregations, denominations, and faith-based nonprofit
organizations. She uses stories from successful teams to outline
nine criteria required for effective mixed-gender working
relations and tells how to use these criteria to create and
sustain an effective team. In practice, successful teams integrate
elements of all nine criteria in order to build successful mixed
gender work experiences. The stories from the teams in this book
bring these criteria to life and demonstrate a common theme that
is intangible: the great joy that men and women of faith
experience when they are working together effectively.
Jossey-Bass, www.josseybass.com
ISBN 0-7879-4709-1 Buy
This Book!
Behrendt, Greg and Liz Tuccillo, He's
Just Not that Into You: The no-excuses truth to understanding
guys. For ages women have come together over coffee,
cocktails, or late-night phone chats to analyze the puzzling
behavior of men. He's afraid to get hurt again. Maybe he
doesn't want to ruin the friendship. Maybe he's intimidated by me.
He just got out of a relationship. The authors are here to say
that - despite good intentions - you're wasting your time. Men are
not complicated, although they'd like you to think they are. And
there are no mixed messages. The truth may be He's just not
that into you. Unfortunately guys are too terrified to ever
directly tell a woman, "You're not the one." But their
actions absolutely show how they feel. This book - based on a
popular episode of Sex and the City - educates otherwise smart
women on how to tell when a guy just doesn't like them enough, so
they can stop wasting time making excuses for a dead-end
relationship. Reexaming familiar scenarios and classic mindsets
that keep us in unsatisfying relationships, the author's wise and
wry understanding of the sexes spares women hours of waiting by
the phone obsessing over the details with sympathetic girl
friends, and hoping his mixed messages really mean "I'm in love
with you and want to be with you." This book is provocative,
hilarious, and abuve all, intoxicatingly liberating. It deserves a
place on every woman's night table. It knows you're a beautiful,
smart, funny woman who deserves better. The next time you feel the
need to start "figuring him out," consider the glorious thought
that maybe He's just no that into you. And then set
yourself loose to go find the one who is. Both authors were
involved with Sex and the City. Simon Spotlight
Entertainment, www.simonsays.com
,
2004, ISBN 0-689-87474-X 
Bem, Sandra Lipsitzm An Unconventional
Family. In 1965, when psychologists Sandra and Daryl Bem met
and married, they were determined to function as truly egalitarian
partners and to raise their children in accordance with
gender-liberated, anti-homophobic, and sex-positive feminist
ideals. During the next ten years, they exuberantly shared the
details of their daily lives in both public lectures and the mass
media in order to provide at least one concrete example of an
alternative to the traditional heterosexual family. In the 1990s,
Sandra Bem also published an award-winning book, The Lenses of
Gender, which spelled out the feminist theory behind their
feminist practices. This book, an autobiographical account of the
Bems' nearly thirty-year marriage, is both a persoanl history of
the Bems' past and a social history of a key period in feminism's
past. It is also a look into feminism's future, because the Bems'
children, Emily and Jeremy, now in their early twenties, speak in
the book as well. The author analyzes what aspects of family
background and psychological makeup led them to bond so
immediately and to become gender pioneers. She describes the
egalitarianism and feminist child-rearing that they invented for
their private needs and tells how these family agendas were
transformed into public feminist discourse. Finally, she
reassesses their early feminist union now that the marriage has
come to an end and the children are young adults, evaluating (with
the help of lengthy interviews with Emily and Jeremy and a brief
epilogue by Daryl) what the Bems' experiences - both positive and
negative - have to say about the viability and necessity of
nontraditional gender arrangements in society today. (Ed. I would
sure like to read more than a "brief epilogue" of Daryl's
experience through his own words. I hope that book is in the
works. It might be at least as enlightening as this one.) Yale
University Press, 1998
Berkowitz, Bob, What Men Won't Tell You but Women Need to
Know. There are thousands of unanswered questions about men
that women have been forced to puzzle out for themselves, and more
often than not, they have come up with the wrong answers. But
don't blame yourself - you've been getting the silent treatment.
Now that's all over. Former Today show men's correspondent,
the author has broken the seal and delivered the ultimate
"insider's guide" to men: their habits, desires, inspirations,
hopes and nightmares. Only a man with his investigative background
could uncover the secrets men keep, from the mundane reasons for
watching football to philosophic views on jobs, family, and most
of all, women. This book is the straight stuff, a funny, gritty,
no-holds-barred compendium. Learn ten reasons why men are jerks,
tips for first dates and weekend trips, and the real rules for
flirting. Discover how men really feel when they lose their jobs,
or their hair. Most important, there is insight into things that
men just don't like to talk about, including the awful "C" word
(commitment). The news isn't always good, and sometimes the truth
is simpler than you think. The author has gotten the whole story
and gives advice that is both practical and honest. This is a
source book, a guide to learning how to live with the man of your
choice. Or conversely, finding a man you can live with. William
Morrow, Hardbound, 1990 ISBN 0-688-08779-5 Buy
This Book! or Avon Books, 1991, ISBN: 0380713640
Buy
This Book!
Bertine, Eleanor, Close Relationships: Family,
friendship, marriage, Inner City, 1992
Bilgere, Dmitri, Beyond the Blame Game:
Creating compassion and ending the sex war in your life. Learn
how to get beyond the blaming that keeps men and women apart.
Understand and heal the shame men and women feel. See men's hidden
powerlessness and women's hidden power. Stop accidentally creating
the behaviors you hate the most in members of the opposite sex,
and encourage those you do. Develop your sexual compassion, sexual
style and sexual self-esteem. Stop blaming others for the problems
in your life without blaming yourself for them, either. And much
much more. MPC Press http://pobox.com/~LifePower
1997
ISBN 0-9613177-3-6 Buy
This Book!
Blake, Tom, Finding Love After 50: How
to begin, where to go, what to do. "Why is dating after 50 so
difficult?" asked Matt Lauer during the author's most recent
appearance on the Today show. Inside this book, you'll find the
answer to Matt's question and hundreds more that will make dating
after 50 easier. This book is the only dating book written by a
man exclusively for the 29 million singles age 50 and older that
shows them how to find love. You'll overcome loneliness, make
yourself desirable, discover places to go to meet eligible singles
and optimize your chances of meeting a compatible mate. There's
someone out there for you, this book will lead you to them. To ask
a question or receive Tom's free weekly column on middle-age
dating and relationships by e-mail, click on www.findingloveafter50.com
.
Morris Publishing, 2003, ISBN 0-9727966-0-6 Buy
This Book!
Blake, Tom, How 50 Couples Found Love after
50. Every Friday, the author sends his dating newsletter by
eMail to hundreds of subscribers throughout the United States,
Canada and other foreign countries. Topics include all the issues
that affect singles age 50-80. In this his third book, the purpose
was two fold. One, to inform by showing singles how others found
lover after 50. And, two, to provide hope to singles that finding
love later in life is possible and they should never give up. Some
of our couples found love in their 70s and 80s. It's never too
late. In the end of the book, there is a lessons learned
section, compiled from the lessons learned from each story. People
who follow the tips in that section will dramatically improve
their chances of finding love. Tooter's Publishing, www.50couples.com,
2009 ISBN 978-0-9727966-4-4 
Borus, Justin, The Girls & Sports
Dating and Relationship Playbook: Opening lines, pinky probes
and L-bombs. This book treats readers to an honest and
humorous look at the issues most important to single people,
including dating, sports, relationships, the bar scene, working
out, parties, vacations and much more. This smorgasbord of dating
and relationship advice features charts, graphs, pithy
observations, not-so-obvious truisms, and sports-influenced
strategies. The book covers the whole cycle of a relationship,
from "Getting the Night Started" and "Scouting the Prospects" to
"First Dates" and "Going All the Way" to "The Serious
Relationship" and "Getting out of the Game" (i.e. getting
married). Fans of the strip and new readers alike will love this
irreverent guide to all that is girls...and sports. Santa Monia
Press, 2007 www.santamonicapress.com,
ISBN 1-59580-015-8 
Broder, Michael, Can Your Relationship Be
Saved? How to know whether to stay or go. This book is for you
if...You're in a troubled relationship and are trying to decide
whether to stay or leave. You're looking back at a relationship
that ended and wondering what went wrong. You're trying to
understand why a friend's or relative's relationship ended,
regardless of how healthy it appeared. You're finding that things
that may have attracted you to your partner before may be the very
things that now turn you off. You're wondering if you can benefit
from professional help, and how to find it. www.rebuilding.org
Impact Publishing, www.impactpublishers.com
, 2002, ISBN 1-886230-41-2 Buy
This Book!
Brooks, Gary, Centerfold Syndrome: How men can
overcome objectification & achieve intimacy with women.
It's no secret that millions of men read magazines like
Playboy and Penthouse and lust after bikini-clad
models. After all, guys will be guys, and what's the
harm? Plenty! claims the author of this ground-breaking
book that shows how many so-called normal male attitudes toward
sex are actually harmful and destructive. He identifies the five
principal symptoms of this pervasive disorder: voyeurism (I
can't stop watching gorgeous women), objectification (obsessive
fetishism over body parts that interferes with the ability to have
relationships with an actual person; the need for validation
(women have great power to make or break my sense of masculinity),
trophyism (Beautiful women are collectibles that show the world
who a man is) and the fear of intimacy (I'm desperately lonely but
deeply fearful of getting too close.) Here is the first candid
analysis of how boys are conditioned to pursue airbrushed photo
fantasies, and how they're brought up to depend upon and yet fear
the perceived power women hold over them as gatekeepers to a
previous commodity - their objectified bodies! And even more
importantly how this syndrome prevents true emotional intimacy
between men and women. But he also offers a way to overcome this
destructive malady. Using actual case histories and transcripts
from groups he has led over many years, he documents how a variety
of men from different backgrounds have struggled to escape the
depersonalization, the isolation and the sense of frustration and
powerlessness in this syndrome. Both men and women will appreciate
the candor in this book. He offers specifis guildelines and
practical plans of action for all of us in our various roles - as
friends, lovers, partners, husbands, wives, parents, responsbile
citizens - in an era of changing gender relations. Jossey-Bass,
1995 ISBN 0-7879-0104-0 Buy
this book!
Campbell, Carolyn, Love Lost and
Found: True stories of long-lost loves - reunited at
last. Whether a loved one has left intentionally, or has
disappeared without a trace, millions of Americans suffer through
heartache wondering whether their loved one is out there. Many of
these questions go unanswered, but as for the thousands of people
who turn to BigHugs.com, their questions are answred and the
majority of them leave happy and satisfied. BigHugs.com is an
organization that is considered one of the most successful in its
field. They are responsible for all the daytime TV reunion shows
and have appearances nearly every week on several #1 talk shows.
Touching true stories from the files of BigHugs.com bring us the
heartwarming emotions of real people who have been tragically
separated from their soul mates, and their individual quests to be
reunited with their one true love. 800.BIG-HUGS or BigHugs.com
Berkley Books, 2000 ISBN 0-425-17627-4 Buy
this book!
Campbell, Steve, Third and
Long: Men's playbook for solving marital/relationship
problems and building a winning team. It could happen to any
man...As women's need for authentic, equitable relationships has
emerged in recent decades, the challenge to men has never been
greater: get better at relationships - fast - or risk losing your
partner. Today's stronger, more confident women are walking away
from unsatisfying marriages in rising numbers. The good news is
that the situation can be improved very quickly - and men don't
have to stop being men to do it. This book tells them how. After
his own marriage failed and he began noticing other marriages in
trouble, the author realized that men needed a to-the-point guide
to getting better at relationships. Written by a man who's learned
the hard way (and edited by his former wife!), this book leverages
the idea of game preparation and teamwork to convey to men how to
be more authentic and loving in their romantic relationsips. It
helps men diagnose the areas in which their relationships might be
in trouble, and provides concrete ideas to begin fixing those
problems right away. Perhaps most importantly, it shows men how to
understand and address the need for deeper love and connection
over the long-term. Concise yet loaded with valuable tips and
plays that can be put into immediately, it is the essential men's
playbook for building a winning relationship team. www.thirdandlong.ca
or E-Mail 2005
ISBN 1420818104
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Canary, Daniel & Tara Emmers-Sommer, Sex and Gender
Differences in Personal Relationships, Guilford
,
1997
Clark, J. Michael, Doing the Work of
Love: Men & commitment in same-sex
couples. This is a groundbreaking book that crestes an
important bridge between academic work on men and sexulaity and
popular unreflective work on gay male relationships. Exploring
intimate, coupled relationships among men, especially among gay
men, the author celebrates embodied, sensual, sexual goodness of
men's sexual relationships, while adamantly rejecting an "anything
goes" approach to gay male sexuality or to sexuality in general.
The author proposes an ethics of sexual accountability in-relation
as a middle ground between those who espouse anonymous
multi-partnered sex as the crux of gay identity and those whose
current sex panic resounds with sex-negativity. www.mensstudies.com
Men's Studies Press, 1999 Cloth ISBN 0-9671794-1-6 Buy
This Book; Paperback ISBN 0-9671794-0-8 Buy
This Book
Cohen, Alan, Happily Ever After: Can
you be friends after lovers? The author illuminates the keys
to enjoying a better relationship with your former partner and
opening the door to richer love. This groundbreaking book is a
wealth of wisdom, offering practical tools for moving from pain,
fear and separateness to mutual empowerment, greater aliveness and
peace of mind and heart. In these pages, you will meet more than
two dozen couples who have found creative ways to love themselves
and their former mates, and who have gone on to more satisfying
relationships with their former spouses, and eventually, their new
partners. These dynamic concepts and techniques will empower you
to find healing, mutual support and win-win solutions to the
issues that have challenged you in past relationships, end
self-defeating patterns and pave the way to a new and better
relationship with your next partner, and learn to love, honor and
cherish yourself so deeply that you have no doubt that you are
worthy of the relationship your heart truly desires. Hay House,
www.hayhouse.com .
ISBN 1-56170-629-9 Buy
this book!
Collins, Susie and Otto, Love and
Relationship Success Secrets. In this book, you'll discover
the Love and Relationship Success Secrets that most people search
for their entire lives! This book is a compilation of
dozens of articles containing powerful and practical tips, ideas
and suggestions on how to create outstanding relationships of all
kinds. While the authors talk about intimate relationships, the
principles discussed apply to all relationships - family, friends,
and people at work. If you want to improve your relationships, buy
this book now! www.collinspartners.com
and passion@bright.net
Collins, Susie and Otto, 101 Relationship
Quotes Worth a Million Dollars! This booklet contains
100 relationship quotes worth a million dollars - not in the
material sense-but in what they have been worth to us. These
quotations came from the pages of our own lives and from the
thoughts of some of our favorite authors who have greatly
influenced us. Many of these quotations formed the foundation of
our own relationship, as well as a new model we teach called
Spiritual Partnership. We hope the words in this booklet impact
you as greatly as they have us. www.collinspartners.com
and passion@bright.net
Culbreth, Judsen, Boomers' Guide to
Online Dating. Maybe you've heard wonderful success stories
about online dating but are a little intimidated to try it. Or
perhaps you think there are no terrificmen your age.
(Note: This book is written by a women basically for women
but has some very good information for men to consider.) That's
how the author felt until she gave online dating a try. She
discovered that older single men significantly outnumber women on
online dating sites, and, more important, they're eager to make a
match with someone who shares their interests (and generation).
Whether you're new to online dating, or need a refresher course to
boost your dating confidence, the author, who married her
cyber-sweetheat at age 52, guides you through the practical
aspects of this new venture including: The differences among
the various Internet date sites, How to craft an online personal
ad, E-mail etiquette, and When to meet in person. She also gently
offers you personal wisdom, from uncovering your mental roadblocks
to dating and revamping your image, to brushing up on the world of
men and how to approach the ever-important topic of intimacy.
Filled with real life success stories, checklists, worksheets, and
fun facts to get you motivated and courting the smart way, this
book is the reassuring resource you need - your handbook to
finding the perfect person. Rodale, rodalestore.com,
2005, ISBN 1-59486-225-7 
Dacey, John and Lynne Weygint,
The Joyful Family: Meaningful
activities and heartfelt celebrations for connecting with the ones
you love. Create loving bonds that last a lifetime. Is
your family as closely connected as you would like it to
be? Do you yearn to find new ways to celebrate both everyday
togetherness and special occasions? In this inspiring book,
the authors present more than seventy activities to help you
create new traditions for every event your family experiences and
shares. Whether you are honoring the birth of your child,
celebrating his or her high school graduation, or dealing with a
difficult family situation, you will want to turn to this book as
a powerful resource for increasing the strength, closeness, and
love in your most important relationships. Conari Press, 2002.
ISBN 1-57324-572-0 Buy
This Book!
Daniell, Rosemary, Sleeping with
Solders: In seach of the macho man. This book is
the author's story of her search for the macho man, the
exploration of her deep attraction to men who live dangerously,
who are frankly and naturally masculine. The author, an outspoken
feminist, writer, and poet, identifies with the risks these men
take in the name of freedom and sensation and like many other
independent women, she is drawn to them despite their tendency to
drink too much, live to fast, and sometimes display a brutal brand
of male chauvinism. To discover why this should be, she set off on
a cross-country journey that took her from a job as one of four
women on an offshore oil rig (where she quickly found herself in
the middle of an x-rated fantasy), to a convention, sponsored by
the bloody and hypermilitaristic Soldier of Fortune
magazine, that offered some surprising glimpses into the masculine
psyche. Making detours throughout the South and delving into her
past, with its rich cast of characters, she next travels out West
to the wilds of Wyoming, where men are men and women sometimes
have little use for them. And, finally, she returns home to write
honestly and movingly about her continuing relationship - loving
but often tormented - with a handsome ex-paratrooper. On one
level, a female adventure story, the book is her own personal
odyssey into the world of the macho man; on a deeper level, a
subjective and imperative exploration of her most primal feelings
toward the other sex. In both cases, a journey necessary for her
to reconcile the male/female parts of herself. Filled with her
experiences and insights and those of the men and women she meets
on the road, this book is a funny, raunchy, revealing examination
of women's love-hate for macho men. Holt, Rinehart
& Winston, 1985 ISBN 0-03-062431-2
Deida, David, It's a Guy
Thing: An owner's manual for women, David Deida.
"Why does he do that?" is the great American woman's battle cry.
Now there is help for any woman who has ever
wondered: Why do men gawk when an attractice woman
walks by? Why are many men turned off by an aggressive
woman? And why do most men prefer reading the newspaper
to having an intimate discussion? This book helps
explain the fundamental differences between women and men and
offers insight as to why men act the way they do. By revealing how
to complement men's differences, the book empowers women to
improve relationships with all of the men in their lives including
friends, fathers, boyfriends and bosses. Health Communication,
www.hci-online.com
1997 Buy
This Book!
Diamond, Jed, Looking for Love in All the
Wrong Places: Overcoming romantic & sexual
addictions. Love addiction - millions of Americans have it,
yet no one will talk about it. Now comes the startling new
book that tells not only what it is, but how it can be overcome.
One in twelvee Americans is a love addict. It affects millions of
ordinary people. It splinters families. I ruins lives.
Interweaving personal stories from many clients, the author
explores why people continue to re-create relationships that don't
work - and tells how to break the patterns that turn the search
for romantic and sexual fulfillment into an addiction. He tells
how people get "hooked on looking for love," and their desperate
needs for security and control in order to protect themselves from
yet another broken heart. He gives specific practical advice
combined with a twelve-step recovery program to help love addicts
get free of the self-destructive nature of their attachments - and
finally find the healthy love they all deserve. Including a
revealing self-test to help readers determine their own level of
romantic addiction, this is that rare work: a book that just may
change people's lives.jed@menalive.com
Putnam, 1988 ISBN 0-399-13372-0 Buy
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Diamond, Jed, Mr. Mean: Saving Your
Relationship from the Irritable Male Syndrome. Studies show
that 50% of first marriages, 67% of second marriages, and 74% of
third marriages end in divorce. As a marriage and family counselor
who specializes in helping men and the women who love them,
I’ve found that the hidden destroyer of good relationships is
a phenomenon called “The Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).”
This book was written for the millions of women and men who want
to understand how they can rescue their relationship, help their
spouse, and save themselves.
Mr. Mean explains:
Why so many mid-life men turn mean.
What Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS) is and why it’s
dangerous.
When a woman should leave and when she should stay.
How to get through to a man who refuses to talk.
What to do when he says, “I love you, but I’m not in
love with you.
Why low testosterone can cause a man to change from Dr. Jekyll to
Mr. Hyde.
How IMS affects the family and how to help the children.
Mr. Mean answers the questions that are most important to you now:
What to do if you believe your spouse is cheating?
How to tell if he’s depressed, but acts angry?
How to know if he’s going through “male menopause
passage?
What is Irritable Male Syndrome and why is it so dangerous?
What are the most important symptoms of IMS?
When should his testosterone levels be tested?
How do we deal with the effects of IMS on the children?
Vox Novus, 2010. ISBN 978-0-9842600-1-0 - Column
Donner, Robin, How Women Choose Men, Why Nice Guys Finish
Last, Incendiary, 1990
Driscoll, Richard and Nancy Ann,
Opposites as Equals: Standard differences between men and
women and how to resolve them. We can not longer afford to so
misunderstand our opposites. See why men are more intrigued by
casual sex and tend to be opportunists, but try to conceal it;
while women are more easily offended and are more insistent in
arguments, but insist that it is not so. See why men are more
highly stressed in personal confrontations and withdraw to avoid
unpleasantries, which women interpret as indifference. And much,
much more. This book finds ways to bridge our differences based on
traditional principles of equal concern and shared advantages for
men and women. theOppositeSex.info
Westside Psychology, 2009, ISBN: 978-0-9634126-6-9 
Ellenberg, Daniel & Judith Bell,
Lovers for Life: Creating lasting passion, trust and true
partnership. Everyone Wants a Lover for Life. How do you
create a relationship so emotionally satisfying, sexually
ecstatic, and spiritually fulfilling that you wouldn't dream of
being with anyone else? Lovers for Life brings together profound
ideas and discoveries from various cultures and disciplines to
create a powerful blueprint for a successful, long-term
relationship. It is a straightforward and accessible users guide
to successful coupling -- and jubilant eroticism. Judith and
Daniel, professional relationship counselors and a happily married
couple, inspire, support, and challenge you to try new and
powerful ways of relating. They understand and address the
inevitable challenges you may face in your relationship:
communication barriers, emotional defensiveness, sexual shame, and
attractions to other people. They give you practical tools to make
your relationship truly flourish. In these pages you will find
dozens of masterful tips and exercises designed to bring out the
best in you and your partner. If you are single, this book
prepares you for a great relationship. You will find yourself
inspired by candid stories of couples who have gone through the
fires of conflict and not only emerged unscathed, but have created
the kind of relationships most people consider impossible. So take
the lid off your relationship potential and take on the challenge
of becoming lovers for life. Aslan Publishing, www.ashlandpublishing.com,1995
ISBN 0944031617
Ellis, Albert & Ted Crawford,
Making Intimate Connections: 7 guidelines for great
relationships and better communication. Frank and Frances
constantly "shoulded" on themselves and each other. Frank thought
Frances should do things his way. Frances thought Frank
should behave better towards her. Both believed reality
should conform to their desires. Their irrational wants
became unrealistic, absolutistic demands. As in so many marriages
where communication breaks down, the couple found themselves
creating and escalating a vicious cycle of put-downs, anger and
pity. There are one-up, one-down and peer partnerships. The goal
in creating better intimate relationships is to move toward a
'peer' or 'equal' partnership. The author has long focused his
owrk on the self-talk people use to disturb themselves. And
therefore you can also deconstruct and reduce them. This is an
irrational belief system based on unrealistic, illogical,
self-defeating demands, commands, shoulds, oughts, and musts such
as: I must always do well. Others must always treat me
kindly and fairly. Conditions must always provide me what I want,
the way I want it. Once you contruct dire necessities out of your
strong preferences, you are in trouble. Using the guidelines,
couples can learn to: Avoid blaming. Express appreciation
frequently. Avoid steady criticism. Give your partner the right to
be wrong. Reconsider your wants as goals that you may achieve
after. Packed with dozens of real-life couple vignettes, an
easy-to-follow review format and a "key" for understanding and
applying each Guideline, this book offers an objective perspective
that lets couples test practical suggestion and adjust them to
their own needs. Impact Publishers, www.impactpublishers.com
2000 ISBN 1-886230-33-1 Buy
this book!
Engel, Irv, The Real Deal: A guide to
achieving successful and real relationships. This book is for
everyone who wants to find long-term love and success in their
lives. You will learn: The basic principles of creating
long-term loving relationships. How to use powerful techniques to
further your career. How to use communication to recreate failed
relationships. How to creatively use anger to get what you
want out of life. How to bring romance into your life. Take an
adventure toward intimate contact with another human being. This
adventure may well be the most heroic, for it will engage you at
depths of your being that no other human endeavor can match. The
joys you can experience along the way can be exquisite,
representing the best that life can offer. The risks and
subsequent possibility of failure with their attendant pain are
also there. Either way, it is a journey that offers the chance of
truly feeling the full range of human emotions and unlocking your
full potential for creative happiness. Authorhouse, www.authorhouse.com
,
2005, ISBN 1-4208-3845-8
(See his column.)
Farrell, Warren, Women Can't Hear What Men
Don't Say: Destroying myths, creating love. This book
shows how to break through the invisible barriers that keep men
from expressing their deepest feelings and keep intimacy from its
fullest development. The author demonstrates how gender-based
anger at home and at work, omnipresent media images, and the
overall culture combine with men's own fear of expressing feelings
to misrepresent the inner and outer reality of men's lives. The
result is stereotyping, misinformation, widespread alienation of
the sexes from each other in both long-term relationships and
first-time encounters, unnecessary divorces, and both sexes' being
deprived of the intimacy they crave. Looking at the world from
both men's and women's perspectives, the author provides a
remarkable and easy-to-follow communication program that shows
couples how to move beyond the current tripwire assumptions that
lead to so much gender-based conflict and allows them to
understand and love each other more fully than ever. He has
discovered not what works in theory, but what works in life. His
methods are the culmination of years of real-life experiences with
thousands of men and women in workshops, groups, and seminars. And
you'll find that these methods that create love at home can also
create success and respect in the workplace. wfarrell@home.com
or www.warrenfarrell.com
.
Tarcher/Putnam, 1999 www.penguinputnam.com
ISBN 0-87477-988-X Buy
this book! See Warren's
Column.
Fein,
Ellen & Sherrie Schneider, The Rules: Time-tested
secrets for capturing the heart of Mr. Right. A simple
set of dos and don'ts, this book will lead you to where you want
to be: in a healthy, committed relationship. Unlike today's
haphazard dating customs, this book rcognizes certain facts of
life. That men know what they want. That a man is either attracted
to you - or not! That men want a challenge, not an instant or
easy victory. When you follow these commonsense guidelines, you
treat yourself with respect and dignity - and demand that men do
likewise. Although they sound old-fashioned, they encourage you to
lead a full, satisfying, buy life - outside of romance. Although
they seem tough, they will teach you how to accept occasional
defeat and move on. And although they require discipline, they
will bring out the best in you and in the men you date. The
goal? Marriage, in the shortest time possible, to a man
you love, who loves you even more than you love him. Whether
you're eighteen or eighty, a beauty queen or a women with ordinary
looks, this book will work for you. (Editor: The Rules
tells women not to tell their therapist they are reading it,
The Code says never to admit to a
woman there is a "code". Are either one healthy? And
let's add in Breaking the Rules by Larua Banks to that question.)
Warner Books, 1996 ISBN 0-446-60274-4 Don't
Buy This Book But If You Must!
Felder, Leonad, Wake Up or Break Up: 8
crucial steps to strengthening your relationship. We know,
deep down, that love relationships need our attention, and yet
there are a thousand day-to-day distractions that keep us from
focusing on ourselves and our partners - until that moment of
clarity when we finally feel the pain of a possible split. It
might begin as a gradual loss of day-to-day closeness, a pang of
being underappreciated, or a more significant waning of sexual
satisfaction. In this book, the author introduces us to eight
relatively small but hugely effective steps that have produced
giant leaps forward in the sexual and emotional lives of thousands
of couples. He provides practical insight into how to strike the
necessay balance between being too flexible and not flexible
enough with your partner. He explains why it's so important to
successfully make the daily transition from work mode to being
fully present, even if it requires a brief buffer zone of silence
before calmly reconnecting. In what could be called a "magic
bullet" chapter, he reveals that helping out around the house can
be the quickest and easiest way to revive lapsed passion. And he
offers thoughtful and proven advice on how to constructively
address the sensitive subject of differeing sex drives. With a
final chapter devoted to the sublime joy of long-term togetherness
and how to achieve it, this book provides both the motivation and
the means for making your relationship stronger than ever before.
Rodale Press, www.rodalestore.com
2005 ISBN: 1-59486-072-6
(Click here
to see his article.)
Fischbarg, Gabe, The Guide to Picking Up
Girls. An irreverent, definite guide to approaching,
attracting, and talking to the opposite sex - and getting her
phone number every time! You're at a party. You see a
sexy, beautiful woman standing by herself in the corner. How do
you approach her? What do you say? How do you get her
attention - and keep it? Packed with useful
information, practical advice, and provern techniques for
successfully picking up women any time, anywhere, this essential
handbook tells men everything they need to know to score with the
opposite sex. Whether it's a crowded bar or a noisy party, a club
or a wedding, a supermarket or a coffee shop...from breaking the
ice with surefire opening lines to finding out whether she has a
boyfriend. This book gives men the rules to make it with today's
women. Lively and engaging, it's the authoritative resource for
meeting that major babe. A Plume Book, www.penguinputnam.com
,
2002, ISBN 0-452-28357-4 Buy
this book!
Fisher, Bruce, Rebuilding When Your
Relationship Ends. It is said that it takes about a year, on
average, to get past the really painful, negative stages of
adjustment after a breakup. The author says it is important to
realize that the pain that follows a failed romance is real and
should not be ignored. "Pain is natures way of telling us that
something in us needs to be healed, so let's get on with the
healing." The route to healing requires dealing with denial,
loneliness and feelings of guilt and rejection. There is grief and
anger to overcome. One must learn to let go of the failed
relationship, develop a healthy self-concept, cope with the
inevitable lost friendships and the need for new ones, and
identify leftover traits that contributed to the collapse of the
last relationship. Rebuilding requires a reexamination of what
love is and the realization that only those who love themselves
are able to give and receive love. Trust must be reestablished,
sexuality needs to be seen honestly and in perspective, and
responsibility must be accepted. BooksWithImpact@compuserve.com
Impact, 1996 (See revised edition below.)
Fisher, Bruce, & Robert Alberti,
Rebuilding: When your relationship ends. It is said that it
takes about a year, on average, to get past the really painful,
negative stages of adjustment after a breakup. The author says it
is important to realize that the pain that follows a failed
romance is real and should not be ignored. "Pain is natures way of
telling us that something in us needs to be healed, so let's get
on with the healing." The route to healing requires dealing with
denial, loneliness and feelings of guilt and rejection. There is
grief and anger to overcome. One must learn to let go of the
failed relationship, develop a healthy self-concept, cope with the
inevitable lost friendships and the need for new ones, and
identify leftover traits that contributed to the collapse of the
last relationship. Rebuilding requires a reexamination of what
love is and the realization that only those who love themselves
are able to give and receive love. Trust must be reestablished,
sexuality needs to be seen honestly and in perspective, and
responsibility must be accepted. www.impactpublishers.com
Impact, 2000 Paperback. ISBN 1-886230-17-X Buy
this book!
Fox, Jennifer, Resolutions for the
Millennium. The year 2000 and beyond promises to be an
inspiring and reflective time, an opportunity to slow down and
evaluate where we are in life, and what we would like to
accomplish in the future. This book gathers together a range of
contemplative and creative goals, allowing us to consider the
possibilities. In this thoughtfully uplifting and lighthearted
volume are appealing ideas ranging from the spiritual to the
fanciful, from the childlike to the challenging. This book is
certain to refresh and revive those inner aspirations we all have
to lead richer, fuller lives. Andrews McMeel Publishing, www.andrewsmcmeel.com
1998 ISBN 0-8362-6985-3 Buy
This Book!
Gerstman, Bradley, Christopher Pizzo
& Rich Seldes. What Men Want: Three
professional single men reveal to women what it takes to make a
man yours. Men are easy to read once you learn their language.
Now you'll never have to wonder again with this honest, funny,
straight-talking guide from three professional men that reveals
not only what but how men think about women, dating, relationships
and commitment. Three single, eligible, experienved men break the
code of silence to tell you what really attracts men, how to avoid
gettng hurt, and how to know if he loves you...or if je's just
marking time. Here you'll find out how to tell the difference and
discover: whether he sees you as a "good for now" girl
or as a woman with "wife potential". The real meaning behind the
live "I'm not ready for commitment." How to deal with
your not-so-romantic boyfriend and cultivate his romantic
potential. When a man is using you for sex. How to really please a
man in bed. Why men cheat on women they love. www.harpercollins.com
Harper Paperbacks 1999 ISBN 0-06-109827-2 Buy
This Book
Glasser, William, Choice
Theory: A new psychology of personal freedom. Here
readers are offered a new and far more effective way to get along
with the people in our lives. Barring severe poverty or
untreatable illness, unsatisfying or disconnecting relationships
are the source of almost all crime, addiction and metal illness,
as well as marital, family and school failure. For progress in
human relationships, he explains that we must give up the
punishing, relationship-destroying external control psychology
that is by far the dominant one in the world. In one of this
century's most significant books on psychology, the author offers
choice theory, a noncontrolling psychology that gives us the
freedom to sustain the relationships that lead to healthy,
productive lives. HarperPerennial www.harpercollins.com
1999 ISBN 0-06-093014-4 Buy
This Book!
Glebe, I., Points: Women Have Them, Men Need
Them, The Relationship Survival Guide for People Who Don't Like
Relationship Survival Guides. For years couples have been at
war. Who left the seat up? Who dented the car? And
all this time, unbeknownst to men, women have been keeping score.
Until now. Intrepid research and lazy relationship partner reveals
the secret formula that has kept relationships off-balance for
years. Sometimes taking out the trash gets a guy "points" and
sometimes it doesn't. (Is it actually trash night? Did he
leave it on the curb or on top of her car while he shot some
hoops?) The accural of these nebulous points has determined
everything from whether a guy gets to watch the game in peace, or
attend a bachelor party. In Vegas. If bestselling titles like
He's Just Not That Into You helped you narrow the field,
The Rules brought you together, and
Why Do Men Have Nipples explained all those weird quirks
and smells, Points will make you and your partner (this one
or the next one) winners for life! Running Press, www.runningpress.com,
2008, ISBN 978-0-7624-3052-9 
Godek, Gregory, 1001 Ways to be Romantic.
Are you getting enough love, passion, fun, romance? Here
are hundreds and hundreds of ideas and resources for transforming
your relationship into a vibrant, exciting love affair. Flirt
shamelessly with your partner, IN PUBLIC... Write
I LOVE YOU with soap on the bathroom mirror...
STEAL a kiss, GIVE it back... Plus much, much more,
including gifts and gestures, setting the atmosphere, surprising
your partner and the author's personal notes on the best of the
best when it comes to romance. www.1001waystoberomantic.com,
Sourcebooks Casablanca, 2000, ISBN 1-57-71-481-9 
Godek, Gregory, Romantic
Mischief: The playful side of love. Get ready to
engage your playful side and act on a whim! From
outrageous gifts and spontaneous gestures to Valentine surprises
and everyday romance, this little book is filled with ideas and
resources guaranteed to inspire you and delight your partner.
Casablanca Press, www.godek.com/1001.html
1997 ISBN 1-57071-151-8 Buy
This Book!
Godek, Gregory J.P., 10,000 Ways to Say I
Love You. And say "I Love You" again, and again, and
again. This little book of love is the biggest collectoin of
loving ideas ever gathered in one place. Express your true
affection with secret love notes, perpetual bouquets, secluded
picnics, outrageous gifts...and 9,996 more ways to say
"I love you." Casablancea Press, 1991.
ISBN 1-57071-434-7 Buy
This Book!
Goldberg,
Herb, Men's Secrets: What every woman needs to know.
While this is a newsstand publication, it really falls in the
realm of a book. So, here it is. In an Answer type format, the
author addresses topics such as "What he won't say - but wants you
to know". "Why he won't open up." "Your man's top 12
blind spots." "How to handle his midlife
crisis." "Yes! You can change him." and
"How to get a commitment." Along with many other
topics. Globe Digests 1998
Goodman, Michael, Men-opause: The book for men. How to
support and survive your partner's menopause, improve sexual
intimacy and end up with a stronger relationship. Menopause
may be a problem for your sweetie and if it's a problem for her,
it's a problem for you! The author has been listening to
women for 35 years and he outlines the issues, explains the
physiology, acknowledges the crazies, identifies many things she
can do that help, shows you how you can help and advises when it
is best for you to get out of the way! Life does not stop at
50!! This book will help guide your mate and you through
these temporarily troubled waters towards upcoming decades of
health and enjoyment. Robert D Reed Publishers, www.rdrpublishers.com,
2007, ISBN 978-1-931741-85-9 
Grace, Jim & Lisa Goldblatt Grace,
The Art of Spooning: A complete guide to the
joy of snuggling and other simple pleasures. What exactly is
spooning? It's a kind of a horizontal hug, two bodies
curling up so they both fit perfectly into each other's nooks and
comby places-like two spoons in a drawer. Never spooned
before? Well, fear not. These experts will guide you
through the Standard Spoon for beginners and carefully lead you to
more complex and adventuresome spoons including the Chair Spoon
and the Artful Spoon (not for beginners), as well as Seasonal
Spoons for those holiday get togethers. Running Press, 1998
ISBN 0-7624-0270-9 Buy
This Book!
Gray, John, Mars & Venus in the Bedroom,
A guide to lasting romance and passion. Just out in paperback,
Gray assets that it is through sex that a man's heart opens,
allowing him to experience both his loving feeling and his hunger
for love as well. Ironically, it is sex that allows a man to feel
his need for love, while it is receiving love that helps a woman
to feel her hunger for sex. Certainly, a man can feel loved in
other ways, but the most powerful way a woman's love can touch his
soul and open his heart is through great sex. While other useful
books address the mechanics of sex, this addresses the mechanics
of making sure you have sex. Through new approaches to
communicating, the reader learns how to initiate sex in ways that
assure that both their sexual needs and the needs of their partner
are satisfied. HarperPerennial1995, 1997 Buy
This Book!
Gray, John, Mars & Venus in the
Bedroom: Relationship skills for lasting love,
HarperCollins, 1996
Gray, John, Mars & Venus Together
Forever: Relationship skills for lasting love,
HarperPerennial, 1996
Gurian, Michael, The Invisible
Presence: How a man's relationship with his mother affects
all his relationships with women. Whether he’s conscious
of it or not, a man’s mother is the model for just about
every relationship with a woman he has for the rest of his life.
Sometimes it’s obvious (just ask his wife or girlfriend),
sometimes it’s more subtle, but when you see it, it becomes
crystal clear. For fifteen years, this book has helped men
understand their mothers’ pervasive influence over the way
they relate to women—both the positive and negative aspects
of it. But more than that, it has helped thousands of men break
free of old relationship patterns. Gurian gives men a wealth of
practical exercises and meditations they can use to recognize
their mothers’ influence in relationships, and to establish a
healthy and rewarding new basis for relationships that will
benefit themselves and the women in their lives as well. This new
edition of the book formerly titled Mothers, Sons, and Lovers
includes a new preface and study questions by the author.www.MichaelGurian.com,
Shambhala, www.shambhala.com,
ISBN 978-1-599030-807-3 
Harvey, Steve, Act like a Lady, Think Like
a Man: What men really think about love, relationships,
intimacy and commitment. The host of a nationally syndicated
show says he can't count the number of impressive women he's met
over the years, whether it's through the "Strawberry Letters"
segment of his program or while on tour for his comedy shows.
These are women who can run a small business, keep a household
with three kids in tiptop shape, and chair a church group all at
the same time. Yet when it comes to relationships, they can't
figure out what makes men tick. Why? According to the author, it's
because they're asking other women for advice when no one but
another man can tell them how to find and keep a man. This book
lets women inside the mindset of a man and sheds light on concepts
and questions. Sometimes funny, sometimes direct, but always
truthful, this book is a book women must read if they want to
understand how men think when it comes to relationships. www.steveharvey.com,
Amistag, www.amistadbooks.com,
2009, ISBN 978-0-06-172897-6 
Hollander, Dory, 101 Lies Men Tell
Women and why women believe them. How many have you heard?
Think you've heard them all? #3: "You're the only one."
#100: "Honestly honey, it's just for the guys - none of the wives
go to the conference." #11: "I'm ready to
make a commitment." #59: "You're wonderful; you deserve someone
better than me" #1: "I'll call you." #49: "You're the only one who
understands me." #38: "I'm going to leave my wife." #83: "No one's
ever turned me on like you do." That will give you some idea of
how hurt the author is. Unfortunately, she doesn't seem to have a
clue why men have to lie in these circumstances. Because, if they
don't, the consequences are usually worse. Thank-goodness she
abmits that women lie too. Unfortunately, she didn't put that as a
subtitle on the cover. HarperPerennial, 1997 ISBN 0-06-092812-3
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Ivy, Eric, Dating the Matrix: A 28-day comprehensive
manual to approaching, initiating, and creating romantic
relationships with women you desire. You can be successful
with women. You can create a full life that you will be proud of.
And you can begin now! This book has helped thousands of men
create fulfilling relationships with women. How? By providing
a step-by-step blueprint in a clear, concise and easy-to-follow
actionable format. It covers every stage of the process from
relationship goals, ideal mate profiles, the initial approach,
creating dialogue, creating rapport, expressing romantic interest,
getting her number, asking her out, how to execute the
first/second date, the first kiss, sex, and creating a romantic
relationship. www.thedatingmatrix.com,
Evercore Publishing, 2007, ISBN 978-0-9799038-0-9
Joannides, Paul, A Guide to
Getting It On. This guide isn't like other books on sex. It
doesn't have pictures of male or female private parts that look
like they were taken from a cadaver and it doesn't hide behind a
wall of fancy sex terms or read as though it were written by Mr.
Rogers. This guide encourages you to explore dimensions of
sexuality that people in our country usually aren't told about -
from the emotional part of getting naked together to why a guy who
takes his penis too seriously might have trouble pleasing his
sweetheart. It covers subjects like hand jobs and heart throbs,
kisses above and below the waist, vibrators, friendship and even
sex on the interstate. But most important of all is the Goofy Foot
Philosophy which says that it doesn't matter what you've got in
your pants if there's nothing in your brain to connect to it.
Goofy Foot Press 1999 ISBN 1-885535-00-7 Buy
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Justice, L. A., How to Read a Man or a
Woman Like a Book. Actions speak louder than words. The lips
may be making a promise, but is the body saying "no
way"? Learn how to interpret body language and discover what
people REALLY mean. American Media Mini Mags, minimags@globefl.com
(Available at grocery check-out stands.) 2002
Justice, L.A., Why Men Leave! and
How Savvy Women Make 'em Stay! Yes, some men do leave. But if
nearly half of all marriages fail, the other half get it right.
What's going on? The author asked dozens of experts on
love and marriage. Their answers will surprise you. They may also
change your life! Globe Digest Series (Available at grocery
check-out stands.) 1999
Kaganoff, Penny & Susan Spano Men on
Divorce: The other side of the story. Following the widely
admired Women on Divorce: A bedside compassion, this
collection explores from a man's viewpoint when marriages go wrong
and what it takes for a marriage to endure. Divorce is difficult,
painful, often lonely, yet it is nonetheless, a pivotal experience
shared by millions. These original essays probe the subject from a
variety of angles - political, ethical, religious, ethnic. They
bring a personal dimension to a discussion that men have probably
too rarely joined. From the ritual of Japanese divorce to the
cultural logic of infidelity, from a moment's glance of an ex-wife
in a parking lot to a last night of sex after the divorce has been
finalized, this book offers a window into the inner lives of men
and their experiences of domestic strife. Harvest Book 1997 Hard
back version Buy
This Book!
Kaganoff, Penny & Susan Spano Men on Divorce: The other
side of the story. Following the widely admired Women on
Divorce: A bedside compassion, this collection explores from a
man's viewpoint when marriages go wrong and what it takes for a
marriage to endure. Divorce is difficult, painful, often lonely,
yet it is nonetheless, a pivotal experience shared by millions.
These original essays probe the subject from a variety of angles -
political, ethical, religious, ethnic. They bring a personal
dimension to a discussion that men have probably too rarely
joined. From the ritual of Japanese divorce to the cultural logic
of infidelity, from a moment's glance of an ex-wife in a parking
lot to a last night of sex after the divorce has been finalized,
this book offers a window into the inner lives of men and their
experiences of domestic strife. Harvest Book 1998 Paperback
version. Buy
This Book!
Kammer, Jack, Good Will Toward Men: Women talk
candidly about the balance of power between the sexes. "This
book is a truly heartwarming experience for anyone who believes in
equality. It is a series of interviews wth women who are talking
openly about their perceptions of the balance of power between men
and women in society. The insight, sense of fair play, compassion,
and just common decency shown by the interviewees gives me hope
that the tide is turning in the war against pop-feminist
idological nonsense. Many of the women interviewed are in the
"helping professions", some of the others are attorneys or
writers. The common thread in every case is that they came to the
conclusion that, while feminism in its more positive forms has
indeed liberated women to realize more of their potential, much of
it has degenerated into an attack on men and an attempt to use
claims of victimization as a political weapon. Some of these women
acknowledge the tremendous sexual leverage that many women have
over men, and how this causes men to compensate by trying in one
way or another to even things up. This is a great book. It is a
must-read for any women who really wants to love men and know she
isn't alone, and for any man who needs to see that not every women
in the world is Andrea Dworkin." - Wilbur Wormwood. St. Martin's
Press, 1994 ISBN 0-312-10471-5 Buy
This Book!
Kasl, Charlotte, If the Buddha
Married: Creating enduring relationships on a spiritual
path. Filled with the same highly practical, spiritually sound
guidance that so clearly touched a chord with readers of If the
Buddha Dated, this new book is a fresh and inspiring guide for
anyone who wants to strengthen, deepen, or revitalize a
relationship. The author empowers us to create fulfilling and
vibrant relationships through a commitment to awareness, truth and
compassion. She shows how a "beginner's mind" can help us see our
partners and ourselves afresh each day as we learn to nurture our
commitment to each other. Marriage is truly a journey - combining
key teachings of Buddhism with elements of psychology and other
spiritual traditions. This book becomes a wise and trusted guide
through the joys and thickets of relationships that last and grow.
Penguin Compass, www.penguinputnam.com
2001 ISBN 0-14-019622-6 Buy
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Katz, Elliott, Being the Strong Man a Woman
Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man. This book presents
the timeless wisdom men learned from their fathers - before the
era of the "absent father." Listen to men today. Does this sound
familiar: No matter how hard he tries to be nice and please
her, she's not happy. He works hard to earn a living, yet he's not
appreciated. He's in a relationship, and feels he has lost control
of his life. This book shares age-old wisdom on how a man can gain
respect, be appreciated and become a hero to the woman in his
lilfe. It explains why many relationships today aren't working and
what a man can do to make things better. Drawing upon timeless
principles that work, it challenges popular ideas and explains why
today's new age guy is frustrated and bewildered. If you're a
woman who wants your man to be stronger, get him this book. Award
Press www.awardpress.com
2005 ISBN 0-9736951-0-2 
Kauth, Bill with Zoe Alowan, We Need Each
Other: Building gift community. Co-create core communities,
safety nets and social inventions to design new cultural
systems. This is part of an emerging “gift culture”
worldview. It seems many people have matured beyond the
“me-first” attitude, feel truly fulfilled and long to
simply give their gift. For 15 years, the author has been
“living the gift” offering training retreats around the
world and always delivering his service first, then inviting a
gift contribution at the end. He trusts his work as a valuable
contribution to people’s lives and invites reciprocity, based
on the value received, ability to pay and interest in supporting
his work in the world. Silver Light Publications, 2011.
ISBN: 978-0-9744890-9-4 
Kingma, Daphne Rose, The 9 Types of
Lovers: Why we love the people we do & how they drive us
crazy. Take the guesswork out of finding, and keeping, the
perfect mate. Your eyes meet across a crowded room, chemistry,
fireworks, and suddenly, you've fallen madly in love. But then the
same qualities that drew you together are starting to annoy you
and even drive you apart. What happened to true
love? According to the author, there's more to a
successful relationship than sparks and high hopes. You have to
understand your own personality type and also recognize what type
your partner is or what types would be best for you. Are you a
"Fantasizer? Is he a "Cool Cucumber"? By exploring the nine
personality types, what they are, how they interact, and why
you're with the person you're with, you will discover the truth
about romance and learn to love even better. Conari Press, 1999
ISBN 1-57324-160-1 Buy
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Kingma, Daphne Rose, 101 Ways to Have True
Love in Your Life. The author has spent more than twenty-five
years as a psychotherapist helping thousands of people understand
and improve their relationships. She's written extensively about
love and relationships. In these pages, her eloquent wisdom and
compassionate insights offer guidance and sustenance on the path
to true love. In matters of love it's important to be in at the
beginning - loving ourselves. Practice trusting in love, and
believe that there's a person for you. Her sage words lay the
groundwork for finding love and helping love find us, and once
found, she offers a treasure trove of help for couples to reach
the deepests places of intimacy. Conari Press, www.redwheelweiser.com,
2005 ISBN 1-57324-256-X 
Kipnis, Aaron & Elizabeth Herron,
What Women & Men Really Want: Creating deeper
understanding & love in our relationships. When Kipnis,
author of Knights Without Armor, and Heron, a veteran
leader of women's empowerment groups, took a group of men and
women into the wilderness to live together for several days and
explore their gender differences, what happened on the trip reads
like a fast-paced novel. Amidst a variety of adventures, neat and
well-organized sociological insights collapsed, giving way to
unexpected, gut-level realities. Nataraj 1995 ISBN: 1882591240
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This Book! http://amzn.to/tGexMi
Kipnis, Aaron & Elizabeth Heron, Gender War, Gender
Peace: The quest for love & justice between women
& men. This book tells the story of a group journey
into the wilderness led by a woman and a man on a quest to build
bridges over the gender gap. The man, a leading voice from the
men's movement and the woman, a trailblazer for a new feminism,
guide women and men toward mutual respect, understanding, and
compassion in this account of a ground-breaking summit meeting of
the sexes. Through a series of adventures and encounters, the
participants learn how to communicate the potent depths of anger,
fear, grief, love and appreciation between women and men. They
also discover a way to create a map for future peace between the
sexes, a future in which women and men can recognize and respect
both their genuine differences and shared challenges. Weaving
together dialogues from late night discussions around the campfire
with judicious, well-researched references to scholarly texts, the
authors present a detailed and surprisingly optimistic portrait of
the potential for communication and personal growth between women
and men, growth that celebrates diversity rather than condemning
it. Provocative, powerful, and of great importance, this book
begins a new era of understanding and partnership between the
sexes. William Morrow, 1994 ISBN 0-688-11924-7 Buy
This Book!
Konell, Alan, Partnership
Tools: Transforming the way we live together. In the
past, people didn't need to know much to make their relationships
work. Families and society dictated the kind of relationships we
should have and what roles we should play in them. Unless we took
religious vows, society expected us to get married and raise
children. Men worked and provided for their famillies. women
reared children and cared for the home. No one needed to know how
to make a relationship work or how to rescue a failing
relationship, because no one was leaving. Relationships have
changed, and the rules have changed. We are now free to stay in
relationships or leave them; free to play whatever roles we
choose. Some men stay home with their children and some women work
outside the home. And we have a greater desire for emotional
intimacy, increasing the pressure on our relationships to be more
than they've been. This freedom and greater need for intimacy begs
new skills. This book provides a new set of tools for transforming
our relatinoships. The author describes a practical set of
distinctions that compel readers to create the kind of dynamic and
fulfilling relationships they've always wanted. This gives them
new ways to think about their relationships, leading to better
communication and increased compassion for others. In addition,
because these distinction are universal, they work with all kinds
of relationships - including marriage, friendships, relationships
with parents, children, siblings, relatives, and even professional
relationships. Hippo Press, www.hippo-press.com
,
2001, ISBN 0-9702992-0-6 Buy
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Kort, Joe, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can do to
Find Real Love. Do you always end up with Mr. Wrong? Are
you constantly dissatisfied with your intimate
relationships? Has the passion between you and your partner
fizzled after just a few months? In his ground breaking new
work, best-selling author and gay-affirmative therapist revelas
his own Top Ten list on how you can make the best possible choices
in finding and keeping a partner. Among them: Discover how
what you hate can help you love; Learn how to disarm - not
strong-arm - your partner in communication; Know your sexual
shadow: and Become the man you were meant to be. By showing how to
look closely at the deepest sources of your wants and needs, this
book will help you achieve the kind of lasting close relationships
you deserve. www.joekort.com
Alyson Books, www.alyson.com,
2006, ISBN 1-55583-898-7
See Joe's most recent Column
here at Menstuff.
LaHaye, Tim, Understanding the Male Temperament: What women
want to know about men but don't know how to ask, Fleming
Revell, 1996
Lederer, Wolfgang, The Fear of Women: An inquiry into the
enigma of woman and why men through the ages have both loved and
dreaded her. In an important pioneering study, the author has
given us new insights into the relationship between the sexes.
Drawing on a wide spectrum of sources - archaeology, ethnology,
religion, mythology, art, literature, linguistics, as well as
psychiatry and psychoanalysis, the author attempts to show not
what women really are but what men through the ages have feared
them to be - a fear that even Freud did not choose to penetrate
and that has remained almost totally unacknowledged by
psychotherapy. The author's findings have importance not only for
clinicians but for all men who are gripped by the unreasonable
fears described in his study and for all women who are working for
liberation from male prejudice and domination. What both sexes
should try to achieve, writes the author, is not equality or
freedom alone but perfection of man's and woman's uniqueness.
Harvester Book, 1968 ISBN 0-15-630419-8
Lee, John, The Anger Solution, The proven
method for achieveing calm and developing healthy, long-lasting
relationships. We all have been angry or have been around
those who are angry, and most of us have thought that the world
would be better off without this intense emotion. But here's the
truth: anger is not your enemy. In fact, it can be your ally, one
that can save your relationship, your job, and your peace of mind.
This book explains the difference between healthy and harmful
anger and offers vital information such as how to make anger work
for you. This life-changing program will work for virtually every
issue, conflict, decision and interaction, whether personal or
professional. Practical and easy-to-use, this book is the go-to
resource for anger management. www.jlcsonline.com.
Lifelong Books, www.dacapopress.com,
2009, ISBN 978-0-7382-1260-9 
Lee, John, The Flying Boy
Book III, Stepping Into the Mystery: For sons, lovers,
mothers and wives. Why do relationships fail? What
could improve the likelihood of their success? What in
our relationships sets us up for disappointment and for
disappointing others? These are the principle themes of
the Flying Boy trilogy. The author examines his relation to
his mother and to his current lover, so like his mother, yet so
different. In a work of deep spiritual reflection and tenderness
he discovers why a relationship of 50-50 responsibility doesn't
work and what does, why one must learn their own "rhythm of
closeness", the "five mothers" we all have and how to deal with
them, and how to be really present to those we love and to life
itself. In this book, the flying boy comes to earth. And the
message he brings home is one important to every person born of
woman who aspires to achieve a fuller selfhood. Honey Creek
Publishing honeycreek@aol.com
1997 Buy
This Book!
Legato, Marianne J., Why Men Never Remember
and Women Never Forget. How can men and women see the same
things so differently that it sometimes seems they belong to
different species? The author and founder of the Partnership
for Gender-Sepcific Medicine at Columbia University, explains that
it's because we are different, and vastly so. Every system of the
human body, from the skin that covers us to the hearts that beat
within our chests to the digestive system, is physiologically and
functionally different - especially our brains. Scientists are
learning more every day about how these distinctions translate
into differences in the way men and women approach problems and
experience the world around us. The good news is that there's a
way to bridge the physiological gap, and it starts with
understanding those differences and learning to think a little
more like the other sex. With the leading expert in
gender-specific medicine as your guide, you'll understand the
person on the other side of the bed, desk or boardroom like never
before. Rodale, rodalestore.com,
2005, ISBN 1-59486-527-2 
Levin, Michael, A Man's Guide to Being a Woman's Best
Friend Buy
This Book! and 
A Woman's Guide to Being a Man's Best Friend,
Buy
This Book!. There's not much to say besides get both books.
Each is filled with reminders of the "little things" that put the
icing on the cake of relationship, "little things" that are so
easy to do that we forget to do them. "Little things" that, if you
did one a day, regardless of what the other person thought, you'd
feel better. This is a dramatic shift for this publisher who has
brought out some pretty divisive books about men in the past. This
doesn't forgive all, but it's a good start. Andrews
& McMeel, 1996
Levine, Wayne, Hold on to Your
N.U.T.s.: The relationship manual for men. Being a man is
not about maintaining control of the TV remote after dinner. Being
a man is a full-time job though, especially when you're married or
in a relationship. This book can help build a life that fulfills
both you and your partner by showing you how to confirm the ideas
and causes you support - your "Non-negotiable, Unalterable Terms
(N.U.T.s)." Your N.U.T..s become the framework for how you conduct
your relationships, whether you're committed to spending more
one-on-one time with your kids or not hiding out at the office to
avoid problems with your wife. By laying down guidelines of what's
right and wrong, what you like and dislike, you will learn to
silence the little boy inside and become a strong, self-assured
man who is focused on creating the best life possible for you and
your family. BetterMen Press, www.BetterMen.org,
2007 ISBN 978-0-9790544-0-2 
Lieberman, Carole & Lisa Collier,
Bad Boys: Why we love them, how to live with them,
and when to leave them. The authors ask women: Is
your lover a Wanton Wolf, a Brooding Beast, an Adventurous Aladdin
or a Commitment Phobe? Men who are "mad, bad, and
dangerous to know" have been casting their spell over women
throughout history. But can these roguish fcharmers who know how
to arouse your desire ever fulfill your need for love and
happiness? The authors show you how to recognize the
many types of irresistible troub lemakers so clever at capturing
your heart. They also help you explore childhood events that drew
you to the wild and wicked man you love and determine if it's
possible to change his and your negative behavior patterns. With
wise advice and imaginative tips that really work, this insightful
book will show you what to expect from a relationship, leaving you
stronger and more capable of choosing the right man with whom to
share your life." Good backround research as a man to
understand this desire in many women and why they don't seem to be
available to men beneficial to them. Penguin www.penguinputnam.com
1998
Linquist, Luann, Secret Lovers: Affairs happen...how to
cope, Lexington Books, 1989
Lloyd, Joan Elizabeth, Totally
Private: Answers to the questions lovers long to ask. Got
a question on sex? The author has the answer! "Can
I get STD from oral sex?" "Is cybersex considered
cheating?" "How can my partner and I put the sizzle back into
our love life?" These questions - and countless others from
her readers - have inundated the mailbox of the author, one of
America's most trusted sex experts. Now she answers her most
frequently asked and provacative queries...from lovers of all
ages, passions, and persuasions. Have you ever wondered: How quick
is a quickie? Are threesomes possible in a loving
relationship? Does size matter? How can I approach my
partner about my bondage or fetish fantasies? Do women
ejaculate? Am I normal if I enjoy sex toys and kinky
games? The answers to these and other questions you've
always had about sex are all here. Share what you like with
your lover or your friends. Or keep it...Totally Private.
Time Warner, www.twbookmark.com
2001, ISBN 0-446-67718-3 Buy
this book!
Louis, Ron & David Copeland, How to Succeed with
Women. This is your road map to a woman's heart: 11
foolproof icebreakers for any situation. 10 secret places to meet
women. 8 keys to successful flirting, 7 can't miss tips for asking
a woman out on a first date, 6 keys to keeping a long-term
relationship happy, exciting and hot. 5 sensual experiences that
turn women on every time, and 3 keys to improving your sex life
dramatically. Parker Publishing www.phdirect.com
1998
ISBN 0-7352-0030-0 Buy
This Book!
Lowe, Paul, In Each
Moment: A new way to live. There is more joy
and peace possible for everyone. The author has discovered this
for himself. He has devoted his life to becoming more conscious,
vitually alive and fulfilled. His journey has brought him great
wisdom, clarity and an ordinary spirituality that infuses everyday
living, which he shares in meetings with people all over the
world. This book is a brilliant distillation of his key ideas,
which are both simple and radical and which can change your life.
Discover how you can replace the stress of anger, jealousy,
insecurity and fear with delight, maturity, an expanded
intelligence and deep fulfillment. Looking Glass Press, 1998
ISBN 0-9684109-0-1 Buy
this book!
Martin, Steven & Catherine, Talk to Me:
How to create positive, loving communication. This book
provides proven techniques and skills that will allow you to
establish positive, loving communication in your relationships.
You will discover how to get your partner to talk to you. End the
silence. How to take positive actions that bring more
understanding, kindness, honesty, respect and love into your life.
How to avoid fighting and keep your love alive. Talk about
difficult subjects, even under stress. How to succeed. Positive
Publishing positive-way@mail.com
1997 Buy
This Book!
Misner, Wayne L., Men Don't Listen.
Climb inside of his head. Decode the secrets he holds within. Use
these proven methods to finally get him to show his deep emotions.
Perhaps then you can have the relationship you've always dreamed
of. Finally, help for the male and female interested in improving
or saving their relationship. If you're filing for divorce,
separated, looking for a mate, alone and trying to understand what
went wrong, all is carefully covered. This trustworth advice will
end your tension and anxiety by improving your mental and physical
well-being. The author is very good with word pictures and uses
them frequently throughout the book. Another technique is using
little vignettes based on true stories to illustrate a point and
extensive lists to get the readers ideas flowing. Within each
chapter are jokes and popular quotations from a wide variety of
sources to add a little punch. Some are humorous and others
profound. Writer's Showcase, www.iuniverse.com
,
2001. www.healthcarecio.com
or members.aol.com/gizm0624/myhomepage/index.html
or mendontlisten@aol.com
ISBN 0-595-08955-0 Buy
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Moore, Thomas, Soul Mates: Honoring the
mysteries of love & relationship, This companion volume to
Care of the Soul
offers more of the author's inspiring wisdom and empathy as it
expands on his ideas about life, love, and the mysteries of human
relationships. He explored the importance of nurturing the soul
and struck a chord nationwide. Building on that book's wisdom,
Soul Mates explores how relationships of all kinds enhance
our lives and fulfill the needs of our souls. He emphasizes the
difficulties that inevitably accompany many relationships and
focuses on the need to work through these differences in order to
experience the deep reward that comes with intimacy and unconfined
love. Harper Perennial, 1994 ISBN 0060925752 Buy
This Book!
Morgenstein, Gary, How to Find a
Women...or Not: A 24 hour guide to dating, love and
sex. Tired of ordering Thai food and watching a Netflix on
Saturday nights? Don't despair. Finding true love isn't
impossible as long as you view the entire world as one big singles
bar. Walking you dog, practicing yoga, riding mass transit, buying
a book, even visiting a friend in the hospital can lead to the
woman of your dreams. Critically-acclaimed novelist/playwright
provides the romantic roadmap! Using his own battle-scarred
experiences as a divorced man along with many years "spinning as a
public relations specialist, the author takes men (and women eager
to go inside the mind of a guy) on a step-by-step comic and erotic
guide to love and sex. From making eye contact, dazzling opening
lines, online etiquette, younger and older women and how to
conduct yourself on a date to what goes into a successful
relationship (in and out of the bedroom), this book is a riotous,
poignant and indispensable blueprint for passion and commitment.
Times Square Press, 2010, ISBN 9781450506922 
Neder, Dennis, Being a Man in a Woman's
World: Start having the relationships you deserve. Finally,
men's relationships written by a man! Based on the
successful seminar by the same name. It's time we men stood up and
took our place in society. Use tested, effective business
techniques, marketing, planning and goal setting to design you
relationships - don't just have them thrust upon you! Discover how
to spot, handle and beat "The test." How to find and meet the
women you've only dreamed about - and get phone numbers every
time! How to handle the 20 most common problems men have in their
relationships. How to design and build your relationships - don't
just leave them up to chance! and How to keep control of the
relationship - and keep her wanting more! Remington Publications,
www.remingtonpublications.com
,
2000 ISBN 0-9701713-0-7 Buy
This Book!
Neder, Dennis, Being a Man in a Woman's
World II: Have the greatest relationships you want!
Success with women is easy! Ready for your PhD in dating,
relationships and love? This is the complete guide to
everything you've ever wanted to know about meeting the women of
your dreams, getting phone numbers, dates, one-night-stands,
building relationships, communications, and handling relationship
problems. Start having the love-life you deserve. Discover how
easy it is to meet any woman anywhere, any time. Create one-,
two-, and more-night stands. Use the "seduction tree" to be the
man women can't resist. Turn a cranky girlfriend into a happy one
in a single move! Read her mind (seriously!) and so much
more! Remington Publications, www.remingtonpublications.com
,
2004 ISBN 0-9701713-1-5 Buy
This Book!
Pasquale, Robert di, Men Like Trees,
Walking, Seven stories. This is a collection of short stories
that explores the relationships men have with each other, whether
that be fathers and sons, friends, lovers, abusers and victims, or
brothers. The stories reflect different historical eras, past and
present, and are intricately woven to reflect the emotional
outcome of all interactions. Creative Arts Book Company, 1999,
ISBN 0-88739-149-4 Hard cover Buy
This Book; 0-88739-167-2 Paper Buy
This Book!
Penn, Nate & Lawrence LaRose, The Code: Time-testing
Secrets for Getting What You Want from Women - Without Marrying
Them! Well, you knew it was only going to be a matter of time
until someone wrote a rebuttal to the atrocious The
Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr.
Right by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Scheider, published by Warner
in 1995 and Breaking the Rules:
Last-ditch tactics for landing the man of your dreams, Laura
Banks & Janette Barber published by Career Press in 1997. And,
while claiming that The Code is 90% satire, it is no better
for it. The Rules tells women not to tell their therapist
they are reading it, The Code says never to admit to a
woman there is a "code". Humor that's truly hard to find.
Fireside, 1996 ISBN 0-684-84225-4 Don't
Buy This Book but If You Must!
Phillips, Holly
Faith, What does she want from me anyway? Honest answers to the
questions men ask about women. "Whatever happened to the woman
I married?" "Why all the power struggles, silence and anger?" "She
nags, I withdraw." "Our life together is misery." "Why?" The
author hears urgent please like these from men across America who
are active in the two-million member, male-only Promise Keepers
movement. They confide in her like an old friend. She speaks to
them on behalf of their wives, and her nonjudgmental insights help
change their lives. In two parts, the first reviews past failings.
The second half is where readers learn to correct bad habits. Men
and women have to do more than simply see, accept and tolerate
each other as alien creatures from different planets, whether Mars
or Venus; we're going to have to come together and embrace each
other as two pieces of the same human puzzle. HarperCollins
www.harpercollins.com
1997 ISBN 0-310-21457-2 Buy
This Book! Buy
This Tape!
Polikoff, Nancy, Beyond (Straight and
Gay) Marriage: Valuing all families under the law.
This book reframes the family-rights debate by arguing that
marriage shouldn't bestow special legal privileges upon couples
because people, both heterosexual and LGBT, live in a variety of
relationships - including unmarried couples of any sexual
orientation, single-parent households, extended biological family
units, and myriad other familial configurations. The author shows
that the law can value all families, and why it must. Beacan Press
www.beaconpress.com 2008,
ISBN 978-0-8070-4433-9 
Price, David M., Finding A Lover for
Life: A gay man's guide to finding a lasting
relationship. This book will save you a great deal of time and
frustration in developing dating skills. Its thoughtful,
skills-based approach to dating will help you plan, organize, and
focus your efforts toward success and long-term satisfactoin. It
is a tool you need to plan and implement strategies that will help
you: Eliminate problems by learning to identify compatible and
noncompatible partners. Attract the kind of lover you need. and
Create a healthy, lasting relationship. Harrington Park Press,
2002, ISBN 1-56023-357-5 Buy
This Book!
Price, Jammie, Navigating
Differences: Friendships between gay and straight men.
This book is a one-of-a-kind cross-sexual study that shows you how
today's gay and straight men build, maintain and foster true
friendships. In this activist participatory study, you'll get a
day-in-the-life look at 44 pairs of cross-sexual men's friendships
and see what helps them negotiate the terrain of their emotional,
sexual, psychological and social differences in today's climate of
homophobia and heterosexism. Harrington Park Press, 1999
ISBN 1-56023-952-2 Buy
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Pridgett, Oscar, Real
Men: Understanding the power of pleasing women. Do you
possess these aspects of a Real Man? The Real Man
Formula: The phrase
R E A L M E N is an acronym
for: Respect, emotions, appreciation/affectoin, listening,
manners, earnings and neatness. The formulation for real men came
about because of these aspects of a man listed above. I tried to
make this formula as simple to remember as possible. Yes, it may
be simple, but it is a very important piece in a successful
relationship. Throughout my experienes, I have established that
these qualities were top issues and very important to all women.
It doesn't matter what the woman's background, economic level,
race, or religion, they all desired a man that possessed these
qualities. Study this formula, put it into action, and your women
will worship you. www.therealmen.com,
Outskirts Press, outskirtspress.com,
2005, ISBN 1-59800-103-5 
Quirk, Kevin, Not Now, Honey, I'm Watching
the Game: What to do when sports come between you and your
mate. Every weekend, millions of men tune in to sports while
tuning out the women in their lives. The author, a reformed sports
junkie, takes a close-up look at this escalating sports conflict -
and how to resolve it. Using real-life examples from his widely
publicized national survey, he reveals why men find sports so
irresistible, and how women can get through to them and make their
feelings heard. Through inspirational ideas and pragmatic
exercises you will learn to open lines of communication shut for
months of sports Sundays. With warmth and humor, this book levels
part of the playing field in our living rooms and bedrooms.
Hopefully, the sequel will address how to bring women back to
reality after spending their mornings and afternoons in the
fantasy world of soaps and talk shows. (Actually, women spend
considerably more television viewing time watching talk shows,
soap operas, and game shows than men spend watching sports - we're
just not home to notice.) Fireside Books www.simonsays.com
1997 Buy
This Book!
Reynolds, Greg, Why She Cheated, and It's
Your Fault. Your wife is going to cheat, unless you do
something to stop it. Women have changed and they want
A LOT more out of their marriages than our mothers
wanted. Men sit around banging their heads trying to figure out
what it will take to make their wives happy, and the answers are
right in front of them. Right now is your chance to learn what it
will take to keep her happy and faithful. This book was written
for men, and it has the answers, finally, that we have been
waiting for. Stop being naive. At least 50% of women admit to
cheating on their husbands. Are you really secure enough to think
you are going to dodge that bullet? PublishAmerica, www.PublishAmerica.com,
2008, ISBN 1-60672-979-9 
Rich, Ronda, What Southern Women Know (That
Every Woman Should): Timeless secrets to get everything you
want in love, life and work. The Southern Belle Primer
meets The Rules in this book. The result is an engaging
volume that explains the allure of Southern women, how they can
adapt to the business world as well as any Texas oilman and temper
their toughness with a generous amount of grace and charm. Here
the author explains how Southern women can survive in a man's
world while wrapped in a veil of flowery femininity and gracious,
thoughtful manners. While many women think that the best way to
compete in a man's world is to hide any traces of femininity, or
to imitate a man as closely as possible, Southern women not only
treasure their womanlinesss and celebrate it, they use it
persuasively in social and business situations. Generations of
Southern women have known how to get everything they wanted
without being pushy or rude. This book shows readers how to
combine the best of both worlds - traditional femininity and
enduring charm with worldly shrewdness and cunning ability - to
get the man they want, the job they want, and the life they want.
www.whatsouthernwomenknow.com
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Perigee Books, www.penguinputnam.com
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2000 ISBN 0-399-52627-7 Buy
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Robinson, Jonathan, Communication
Miracles for Couples: Easy and effective tools to create more
love and less conflict. Many relationship books introduce a
lot of new jargon or a ton of serious techniques too complicated
to use in the heat of the moment. Here the author offers proven,
simple, and powerfully effective methods that work. In just a few
minutes you'll learn how to: feel totally loved, never argue
again, get your partner to really hear you, repair broken trust,
and create lasting harmony and keep love alive,. Whether you are
looking to enhance a good relationship or are deeply mired in
confliect, these techniques can produce Miracles. Conari Press,
www.redwheelweiser.com,
2008, ISBN 978-1-57324-417-6 
Robinson, Jonathan, Shortcuts to
Bliss: The 50 best ways to improve relationshps, connect with
spirit & make your dreams come true. If you're like most
people, you want to find effective ways to improve your life - but
you don't have much time to study self-help books. That's why the
author wrote this book. Here you'll discover the simplest and most
powerful methods to benefit your life. You'll learn practical,
easy ways to solve problems, manifest your dreams, and deepen
intimacy with those you love. Each "shortcut" takes only five
minutes to read, and yet all of these techniques can lead to a
lifetime of more joy, peace and fulfillment. Conari, 1998
ISBN 1-57324-137-7 Buy
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Roth, Dick, "No, It's Not Hot In
Here": A husband's guide to understanding
menopause. At long last, men have a book to help them
understand what their menopausal wives are
experiencing! Here, in straightforward and
easy-to-follow language, you will learn what women most want and
need during this mysterious (and potentially trying) life
passage. Completely and concisely - and with a minimum of
scientific and academic jargon - this book presents the facts
about menopause. In examining this major transition, the author
explores both the physical and the psychological aspects, offering
anecdotes and explanations along with the latest evidence. As he
makes his case, he now and then bares his own soul - but always
with lively and down-to-earth humor. This book ends with a "word
to the wives." But, it is, in fact, a complete enough
treatment of menopause to serve as an excellent resource for any
woman who wants to read an unbiased book - one that presents the
facts and choices without trying to sway her one way or another.
And, this ultimate home improvement guide will appeal to husbands,
friends and families of the nearly 40 million menopausal women
with whom they will be living in the next decade. Ant Hill Press
1999 ISBN: 0-9655067-3-8 Buy
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Ruiz, Don Miguel, The Mastery of Love: A
pactical guide to the art of relationship. Here the author
illuminates the fear-based beliefs and assumptions that undermine
love and lead to suffering and drama in our relationships. Using
insightful stories to bring his message to life, he shows us how
to heal our emotional wounds, recover the freedom and joy that are
our birthright, and restore the spirit of playfullness that is
vital to loving relationships. Included is Why "domestication" and
the "image of perfection" lead to self-rejection; The war of
control that slowly destroys most relationships; Why we hunt for
love in others, and how to capture the love inside us; How to
finally accept and forgive ourselves and others. Amber
& Allen Publishing, www.amberallen.com
, 1999. ISBN 1-878424-42-4 Buy
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Sanna, Lucy and Kathy Miller, How to Romanc
the Woman You Love - The Way She Wants You To! Do you flirt
with your partner, court her, write her playful love
letters? Do you know what surprises will delight her,
what gifts she will cherish? Could you use some tips for
creating a romantic getaway? Perhaps a few new
techniques for keeping the world at bay while you romance the
speical woman of your life? Inside this book are powerl
strategies for creating romance every day. Based on substantial
research, this book reveals the most intimate desires of women
from across the country, helping you gain a new understanding of
romance. You can easily develop a deeper, more fulfilling
relationship with your own partner - in imaginative and often
fantastically fun ways. Romance can be real again. Prima
Publishing www.primapublishing.com
1995 ISBN 0-7615-0870-8 Buy
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Schlessinger, Laura, How Could You Do That? The abdication of
character, courage & conscience, HarperPerennial,
1996
Schlessinger, Laura, Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their
Lives, Cliff Street, 1997
Schnarch, David, Passionate Marriage: Keeping love and intimacy
alive in committed relationships. The greatest sexual pleasure
and emotional fulfillment in a person's lifetime is possible in
the middle and later years when they have developed a mature sense
of self and found genuine intimacy with another person. That's the
exciting message of this daring and pioneering work that
challenges couples to work together on the sexual and emotional
blocks that hold them back from total satisfaction with each
other. In a respectful, erotic, uplifting and spiritual guide
dedicated to making love and intimacy a reality for every couple.
It is a book to read and reread for inspiration and enlightenment.
Henry Holt www.passionatemarriage.com
or an excerpt from the book at www.fsbassociates.com/books2/passionatemarriage.htm
1998 Buy
This Book!
Segell, Michael, Standup
Guy: Masculinity that works. Three decades after
American women changed their strategy in the battle of the sexes,
how do men really feel? About themselves? About
feminism? Is it still possible for men to be
heroes? Aggressive pursuers of status and dominance - their
traditional goals? In this candid dispatch from the
front lines of the gender war, journalist and author delivers some
provocative answers. As a columnist for Esquire and an
editor at Cosmopolitan, he began to ducument a serious
disconnect between American men and women, a seemingly
unbridgeable divide between what men and women say in public about
sexual roles and their very real private thoughts and desires.
Women today expect that they will be fulfilled both professionally
and personally. But often, the author found, men are secretly too
angry and resentful to woo, or stay married to, women they view as
competitors. The result for men: a passive-aggressive approach to
women, a historic aversion to intimacy (the euphemistic "lack of
commitment"), and a rapidly declining marriage rate. Even,
astronishingly, a new mode of payback: sexual withholding. So, the
author embarked upon a search for the kind of man who can end this
sexual stalemate - a man who doesn't retreat from successful
women. Over time, a portrait resolved: both a lover and a fighter,
he's tough and competitive yet loving and compassionate, stoic yet
emotionally sophisticated, skilled in the bedroom and the
boardroom. In short, a standup guy. Deep in an all-male universe -
at men's retreats and in locker rooms - he limns the evolution of
a new masculinity, a model that reaffirms traditional male
virtures, the durability of manly friendship, the immutability of
the ancient laws of sexual attraction, the delights of marriage
and children, and the importance of the bond, however challenging
and strained, between fathers and sons. Along the way, he turns
his focus upon himself, offering moving accounts of the events and
relations that have shaped his own vision of what it means to be a
man. Finally, through keen analysis of sexual manners and
rhetoric, he offers a blueprint, for both sexes, for a detente in
the thirty-year gender war. Intelligent, direct, and deeply felt,
drawing upon comprehensive research and personal history, this
book will enlighten and inform men and women alike. Villard Books
www.atrandom.com
1999 ISBN 0-375-50227-0 Buy
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Sheppard, Roy, How to Be the One. For
men and women who take relationships seriously. Which of these
qualities are the most important to you? Do you want someone
who is kind, considerate, committed, honest, reliable, loving,
compassionate, happy, interesting, optimistic, GSOH, intelligent
and physically attractive? How many of these same qualities
do you possess? Why would anyone choose to stop their own search
once they've met you? Especially in today's online world
where almost everyone is now only a click away from being the "ex"
in "n-ex-t". In this book, you will learn how to improve your
Emotional Fitness by strengthening your Emotional Core: the four
qualities that provide you with the emotional stability, depth,
and strength to make you as irresistible to a partner as they are
to you. Adopt and absorb life-changing wisdom, insights and
practical ideas to improve your current relationship or prepare
yourself for The One you have yet to meet. www.RoySpeaks.com,
2010 Centre www.BeTheOneBook.com,
ISBN 978-1901534139 
Sheppard, Roy & Mary Cleary,
That Bitch: Protect yourself against women with malicious
intent. Discover the underhand bully-girl tactics, ploys and
strategies that difficult and vindictive women use to deceive,
demean and destroy the men, women and children they live and work
with. And why they do it. Read this book before she gets you, your
best friend, or your son. www.ThatBitchBook.com,
www.Amen.ie, Centre, 2007,
ISBN 1-90153401903
Pick the title you like best. Click here.
Sheppard, Roy & Mary Cleary,
Venus: The dark side. Helpful to men, Fascinating to
women.. Discover the underhand bully-girl tactics, ploys and
strategies that difficult and vindictive women use to deceive,
demean and destroy the men, women and children they live and work
with. And why they do it. Read this book before she gets you, your
best friend, or your son. www.VenusTheDarkSide.com,
www.Amen.ie, Centre, 2008,
ISBN 190153412X
Pick the title you like best. Click here.
Sherven, Judith & James Sniechowski,
Be Loved for Who You Really Are: How the differences
between men and women can be turned into the source of the very
best romance you'll ever know. No matter how much two people
may think they have in common when they first enter a
relationship, they soon discover all the ways they are different
from each other. Then they both struggle to get the other to fit
some expectation of how things "should" be. They treat their
differences as something to be fixed. This book uses stories of
clients and friends as well as examples from their own
relationship to demonstrate that, contrary to common belief,
differences are not the problem. Based on fourteen years together
as relationship trainers working with close to 100,000 singles and
couples, they have developed a truly new and original way for you
to approach your relationship. Understanding the four passages
before you face them, you will know why you no longer need to hide
who you are or manipulate who your mate is. This book is a map for
your success throughout that journey. Renaissance Books, 2001,
ISBN 1-58063-206-8 Buy
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Shoshanna, Breand, Why Men
Leave: Men talk about why they decided to end the
relationship - and what might have changed their minds. After
a relationship ends - whether it's a twenty-year marriage or a
promising romance that proves to be disappointingly fleeting -
women ask this question, again and again. They ask themselves,
their girlfriends, their therapists. In this revealing, intimate
book, she asks the men themselves - and provides some startling
and enlightening answers. Drawing on hundreds of interviews, she
presents men's own words and perspectives to explore the varied
reasons that relationships fall apart - and to provide insight
into what can, and cannot, be fixed. This unique book offers new
takes on the issues that divide so many couples - and new hope for
greater understanding in the future. The fear of commitment. The
ghosts of past relationships. The midlife crisis. Competition with
in-laws. Waiting for the perfect lover. The fantasy woman. Women
who can't be satisfied. The repetition compulsion. The other
woman. Seeking the Garden of Eden. The need for adventure and
growth. The need to control. Daring to love again. Perigee Book
1999 ISBN 0-399-52506-8 Buy
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Sniechowski, James,
and Judity Sherven, The New Intimacy: Discovering the
magic at the heart of your differences. When a relationship is
new, everything is brilliant and exciting. Then, as the glitter of
first attraction dims and the reality of differences between the
partners emerges, people who truly love each other too often give
up and say, "We have nothing in common," or "This can't work, it's
too hard." Rather than learn how to keep their love
alive and thriving, they use the difficulties caused by their
differences to sabotage the relationship. In truth, however, it is
the differences between people that bring them closer together.
When two people make a conscious decision to navigate the rough
waters of their differences, only then can they achieve a deep,
spiritually nourishing intimacy - richer than anything they ever
imagined possible. Drawing on case studies, contemporary culture,
and their own lives, the authors share with clarity, vision and
candor how to turn conflict and disappointment into rich
opportunities for learning, mutual growth and the bond of deepest
intimacy. Health Communications jimjude@ix.netcom.com
1997 Buy
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column.
Sniechowski, James and Judity Sherven,
Opening to Love 365 Days a Year. In this collection of
insightful essays and transformative affirmations, the authors,
renowned relationship experts, help you experience the daily
adventure of true, passionate, lasting love. You will learn how to
foster the genuine, spiritually nourishing intimacy that comes
from celebrating the differences between you and your partner. It
is your invitation to become: more available to give and receive
love, more determined to leave old wounds behind, and more
confident that you can resolve whatever needs attention so your
life and your love can flourish. By addressing some of the most
significant aspects of dating and marriage - such as conflict,
romance, trust, commitment, self-respect, curiosity, celebration,
frustration, and sexuality, just to name a few - this fascinating
book will show you how to open your life to the transformational
power of real-life love. Whether you are currently looking for a
partner, already in a committed relationship or hoping to repair a
neglected relaionship but don't know how, this amazing book will
give you instant insights that you can practice all through the
year. Health Communications, www.wisdomradio.com
or www.hci-online.com
,
2000 ISBN 1-55874-745-1 Buy
this book! See their weekly
column.
Staheli, Lana, Affair-Proof Your
Marriage: Understanding, preventing and surviving an
affair. Since 60% of marriages are affected by affairs, you
need to know the facts: Women under thirty are as
likely as men to have an affair. Love affairs are different from
sex affairs. Men and women have love affairs for the same reasons
but sex affairs for different reasons. Most affairs last between
two and three years, but the consequences can last a lifetime.
Fewer than 10% of affairs divorce their spouse then marry their
lover. Over 75% of those who do divorce and marry their lover
divorce again. Nearly 80% of those who divorce during an affair
are sorry later. Most marriages survive affairs. If you want to
stay married, you can. Prevention works. You and - and should -
affair-proff your marriage now. Cliff Street Books.
www.harpercollins.com
1997 Buy
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Stange, Mary Zeiss, Woman the Hunter.
This book juxtaposes unsettlingly beautiful accounts of the
author's own experiences hunting deer, antelope and elk with an
exploration of how women and men relate to nature and violence.
Observing that the image of a woman "armed and dangerous" is
profoundly threatening to our college psyche, the author
demonstrates how this threat has created false assumptions about
women and about hunting that permeate contemporary thinking.
Beacon www.beacon.org
1997 Hardback. Buy
This Book! See paperback version below.
Stange, Mary Zeiss, Woman the Hunter.
This book juxtaposes unsettlingly beautiful accounts of the
author's own experiences hunting deer, antelope and elk with an
exploration of how women and men relate to nature and violence.
Observing that the image of a woman "armed and dangerous" is
profoundly threatening to our college psyche, the author
demonstrates how this threat has created false assumptions about
women and about hunting that permeate contemporary thinking.
Paperback. Beacon www.beacon.org
1998 ISBN 0-8070-4639-6 Buy
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Steele, David, Conscious
Dating: Finding the love of your life in today's world.
This book will show you how to make better relationship choices so
you can find the happiness you deserve. Not just another dating
book, it will teach you skills you need to be happy and find love!
Finally! Real-world, practical, effective, comprehensive,
do-able advice and information for singles. It is destined to
change the way you view dating, relationships, and most
importantly, yourself. Who are you? What do you
want? How can you get what you really want in your life and
relationships? The author shows you how to take a proactive role,
perhaps for the first time in your life, so that you can find the
love of your life and the life that you love. www.RelationshipCoachingNetwork.org,
RCN Press, www.RCNpress.com,
2006, ISBN 0-9755005-5-4
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recommended for everyone
BEFORE they get married:
ISBN 0-9755005-6-2 
Steele, R. Don, Body Language
Secrets: A guide during courtship and dating. This book
will help you find, meet, talk with, and date the right kind of
person. The author tells you honestly and bluntly how you can make
the right impression and have a big impact at every social
gathering. 50 photos, pluys his sound methods and practical advice
let you know what to look for as well as what to watch out for!
Steel Balls Press, www.steelballs.com
,
2002, ISBN 0-9620671-6-4 Buy
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Steele, Don, How to Date Young
Women: For men over 35, Revised, This book offers
realistic methods and sound advice from a 46 year old man who has
dated young women for the psat ten years. He tells you bluntly sho
she is, where she is, then how to meet, talk awith and date her.
The principles are based entirely on understanding a young woman
and her real motivation to date a man your age. Learn why she
wants and needs to be your lover, then how to let it happen, not
make it happen. Steele Balls Press, www.steelballs.com
2003 ISBN 0962967156
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Steele, Don, How to Date Young
Women: For men over 35, Volume II, Advanced Skills.
After 12 more years of learning the hard way, the author returns.
Tighten your jock! Read his brutally honest answers to
questions and what-if scenarios from more than 6000 readers and
you're in for an exhilarating experience. Realistic methods and
sound advice from a guy who has been at this since he was 32. Now
58, and married, yes, married, the author forcefully expands his
kickass, no-nonsense approach. For Married Men over 35. Volume
II - Advanced Skills is strictly designed for buyers of
How to Date Young Women for Men
over 35. If you have not read that book, you shoiuld see
it first! Steele Balls Press, www.steelballs.com
2001 ISBN 0-9620671-7-3 Buy
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Storr, Anthony, Solitude: A return to the self.
In an era when psychologists seem to measure mental well-being
almost exclusively by the success of our relationships with
others, the author offers a welcome dissenting view: that true
health and happiness is ultimately based upon the ability to live
in peace with oneself. His intriguing and well-documented look at
solitude and the positive behavior it can foster is a refreshing
reappraisal of what being alone can mean. In fact, he shows that
for the artist, writer, composer or philosopher, the spark of
creativity burns most brightly in a mind working in solitude - a
state which may be essential to the creative act and the artist's
mental and emotional fulfillment. Exploring the creative mind, the
author looks closely at whether the artist's and thinker's choice
of isolation from society is a sign of health or neurosis.
Acknowleding that early loss of a parent or separation from peers
may encourage aspects of personality and activities that can find
fulfillment in a solitary life, the author shows that such
pursuits are not necessarily pathological or compensatory, and can
be more valid than seekng happiness, self-worth and fulfillment
from an intimate relationship. Also, his examination of the
healing value of solitute during periods of mourning and stress,
the surprisingly creative solitude of sleep, and the strong
relationship between solitude, creativity and the religious
experience offers new insight into the essential role of the
solitary state in the life of the thinking, imaginative
individual. In an age when it is "unfashionable" to choose to be
alone, this insightful, provocative book is a thoughtful reminder
that joy and pleasure are to be found, not only in time spent with
others, but in that which is lived in the rich company of one's
own thoughts. The Free Press, 1988, ISBN 0-02-931620-0
Stuller, Jay, How to Love a PMSing Woman: When
timing is everything. Puzzled by her sudden and baffling
behavior? Are there ways to soothe her stress and avoid
conflict? Why is this a perfect time for the best
sex? Are the PMS doldrums really "all in the head?" PMS
remains a hot point in relations between the sexes. Men and women
rarely discuss the subject of fully understand its causes and
ramifications. This frank guide for men (and the women they love)
finally demystifies the PMS puzzle, with answers to the unspoken
questions - and proven strategies (from exercise and diet change
to soft words and romance) that can ease symptoms and help (even
save!) relationships. Bridgeline Books, 1996
Taylor, Patricia Huntington, The Enchantment of Opposites: How
to create great relationships. Are you ready to have an
outrageous relationship? Discover how to take a good relationship
and make it great! If you're striking out in the game of love,
learn a better way to play. If you're in-between relationships,
design the relationship of your dreams. Why is this book said to
be so controversial? It claims that relationship is a game, with
rules and strategies that can be mastered. Many rules about dating
and relationships are obsolete. Relationships, marriage and
families are options, not necessities. We must all compete with
single people whether we are un-single or not. Find out why the
author believes that enchantment is essential to keep a
relationship exciting. Traveling Artists Press www.enchantment-ave.com
or travels@enchantment-ave.com
1997 ISBN 1-889519-17-0 Buy
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Thorton, James, Chore Wars, How
Households Can Share & Keep the Peace. A practical yet
humorous guide to domestic bliss for couples, families and
housemates. No matter what your domestic situation, this will help
break the cycle of entrenched household roles, stop fighting over
housework and bring harmony to your home life, and turn
"nightmare" roommates into "heavenly" housemates. It also offers
hundreds of practical tips for tackling the work in a timesaving
fashion. Conari Press 1997 Buy
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Tiger, Lionel, The Decline of Males.
The author offers a unique biological perspective on major
questions of the age that have thwarted sociological, economic and
political explanatoin. Why are one-third of the babies
in the industrialized world born to single mothers? Why
has there been an increase in both legal and illegal abortions -
even though contraception is vastly improved and widely
available? Why are so many men reluctant to support
their families? Why do so many women want to - and have
to - work? Most experts see the cause in social
forces: the rise of feminism, changes in the makeup of the
workforce, or political programs such as workfare. But, according
to the author, the master issue is reproduction, a biological
process. He argues that the most basic cause of these changes is
the spread of effective contraception. Controlled by women, it
gives them the sole power to decide whether or not to bear
children, independent of men's desires and even of their
knowledge. Since the advent of the birth control pill nearly forty
years ago, human society has been under going a dramatic but
little-understood revolution in the fundamrental relationship
between the sexes. The unforeseen and unintended consequences of
efficient contraception are now a major focus of the "gender
wars". Removed from the responsibility to use birth control and
without a way to know for certain that a sexual partner is even
using birth control, men have been marginalized in the process of
reproductoin. They have begun to feel obsolete and out of control.
The result is an unprecedented withdrawal of men from faimly
systems, leading to increased pressures on the government to take
their place - an arrangement the author calls "bureaugamy". The
book provides valuable lessons for parents to teach their sons -
and their daughters - as we enter the twenty-first century. Golden
Books 1999
Vissell, Joyce and Barry, Meant to
Be: Miraculous true stories to inspire a lifetime of
love. The authors have been together since 1964 in what they
term a relationship what was "meant to be." Over the years of
giving workshops, they came to realize most people simplly do not
think of their relationships in terms of the miraculous, or they
assume miracles happen to other people. But, their strong belief
that the miraculous is a part of many relationships, they started
coaxing out the pearls. And, what they uncovered is a complete
buried treasure, a book full of amazingly precious gems that will
bring joy to your heart, tears to your eyes, and inspiration to
your relationships. It is hoped that these stories awaken in you a
higher trust in the miraculous in human relationships. And that
they inspire you to ask for help in your relationships, past,
present and future. You don't need to sit back and wait for a
miracle. You have every right to ask for one. Not only ask, but
open yourself to receive the loving guidance you are seeking.
Conari Press www.conari.com
or conari@conari.com 2000
ISBN 1-57324-161-X Buy
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Wagenvoord, James Women: A book for men. Women
are only as mysterious as our mistaken images of them. Awareness
of how a woman feels - the subtle physical and emotinoal changes
unique to her, the complex goals and drives that make women
stronger and freer than ever before - is essential knowledge for
all men, be they friends or lovers. With women carving new roles
in business, sports and society, this book fills the need for
objective and subjective information, and gives frank, explicit
answers to the questions men often don't know how to ask. Avon,
1979. ISBN 0-380-42994-2-695
Webb, Michael, The RoMANtic's
Guide: Hundreds of creative tips for a lifetime of love.
Determined to make his wife the happiest woman on earth, the
author "romanced" her so well her friends became jealous and asked
the couple to pass on their tips for happiness. And so, in 1996,
The RoMANtic newsletter was born. With a circulation of
15,000 - as well as a syndicated column reaching more than six
million readers, and the popular www.TheRomantic.com
website - The RoMANtic has taken the world by storm. And now
here's the book that his fans have been waitng for. It contains
hundreds of creative tips for the romantically impaired. There are
unique ideas on gift giving, creative dating, having fun with
food, and all the little things you can do each day to increase
the romantic potential of even the most stoic of lovers. The
author, who Woman's World magazine has called "the world's
most romantic husband," is not only great at being romantic, but
he is truly sincere. His book will encourage and inspire anyone
involved in a loving relatinoship with its optimism, loving
wisdom, and commonn sense. Hyperion, www.hyperionbooks.com
2000 ISBN 0-7868-8434-7 Buy
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Weingarten, Gene & Gina Barreca,
I'm with Stupid: One man, one woman. 10,000 years of
misunderstanding between the sexes cleared right up. Is God
male or female? Why do women, but not men, flush public
toilets with their feet? Why are men, but not women, obsessed
with parallel parking? Why do women, but not men, leave
eleven-minute messages on answering machines? Why do men feel
guilty about nothing, and women feel guilty about
everything? Was Marilyn Monroe...fat? These philosophical
quandaries, and more, are finally debated in this book, an
uproariously funny dialogue between Gene Weingarten, the gleefully
misogynistic Washington Post humor columnist, and Gina
Barreca, the gleefully feminist University of Connecticut
professor. The first significant book about men and women actually
written by a man and a woman. It is privy to the dark secrets of
both sexes. It's not a lecture, but an extended argument, a
combustion of viewpoints that winds up unearthing startling
truths. In the words of Gene and Gina: "Our Mars and Venus
breach their orbits and collide in a screaming fireball from
Hell." This is the book that finally establishes, conclusively,
that women are funnier than men. And vice versa. Simon
& Schuster, www.simonsays.com
,
2004, ISBN 0-7432-4420-6 
Werking, Kathy, We're Just Good Friends:
Women and men in nonromantic relationships. Friendships play a
large and important role in our everyday lives, and the number of
studies examining them has increased considerably in the past
decade. The overwhelming majority of this research, however,
focuses exclusively on same-sex friendships, reflecting their
prevalence in North American culture. Yet, friendships between men
and women exist, and their study offers important insight into
such issues as gender-role expectations, relationship norms and
goals, and sexuality. As the first single resource to fully devote
itself to the study of cross-sex friendships, this provides a long
overdue look at the challenges and rewards of these relationships,
exploring their unique character, cultural beliefs about them and
the influences of various social networks on them. It's about
time! Guilford Press www.guilford.com
1997
Buy
This Book!
Wilkinson, Tanya, Medea's
Folly: Women, relationships and the search for
intimacy. Why are relatoinships so important for
women? What does real intimacy feel
like? The author unravels the mysteries of commitment,
intimacy, meaning and love in this illuminating journey through
myth and fairy tale. She takes us beyond rules and beliefs about
relationships that ultimately lead to disappointment, and explores
the troubling dark side of women's talent for establishing
intimate connectoins. Her interpretation of the myth of Medea and
three well-known fairy tales redefines what intimacy really means
to women. She uses her insight to wisely guide us to a new
understanding of how relationships work. Page Mill Press circulus@aol.com
1998
Wiser, Rob & Christopher Curtis
M.A.C.K. Tactics: The science of seduction meets the art
of hostage negotiation. Inside every man is a Mack waiting to
emerge. Now, the author's arm you with the skills you need to
embrace your inner Mack - Method, Action, Confidence, and
Knowledge - and interact with women on a whole new level.
Cowritten by a former hostage negotiator, this book shows you in
detail how the principles of hostage negotiation can be applied to
the dating game. Hip and humorous, and covering everything from
fashion to passion, this book is a complete crash course in
self-improvement and self-discovery. www.macktactics.com
,
Roadside Amusements/Penguin Group, www.penguin.com
,
2005 ISBN 1-59609-167-3 
Wolf, Sharyn, How to Stay Lovers for Life:
Discover a marriage counselor’s tricks of the trade.
Anybody can be a sweetheart on the honeymoon. But what do you do
after the honeymoon has ended? Whether you’ve been together
for ten months or ten years, this stop-by-step guide to diagnosing
and treating your relationship problems provides hundreds of
simple strategies for getting your relationship back on track.
You’ll discover the secrets for making sex great, proven ways
to begin improving your relationship even if your partner
isn’t willing to change, how to have fewer fights - and more
fun, the first four things to do if you think your relationship is
in trouble, why love is having to say you’re sorry, when and
where to seek emergency help, getting the most out of your sex
life and much. Plume Book, www.penguinputnam.com
1997 Hardcover Buy
This Book! See paperback below.
Wolf, Sharyn, How to Stay Lovers for Life: Discover a marriage
counselor’s tricks of the trade. Anybody can be a
sweetheart on the honeymoon. But what do you do after the
honeymoon has ended? Whether you’ve been together for ten
months or ten years, this stop-by-step guide to diagnosing and
treating your relationship problems provides hundreds of simple
strategies for getting your relationship back on track.
You’ll discover the secrets for making sex great, proven ways
to begin improving your relationship even if your partner
isn’t willing to change, how to have fewer fights - and more
fun, the first four things to do if you think your relationship is
in trouble, why love is having to say you’re sorry, when and
where to seek emergency help, getting the most out of your sex
life and much. Plume Book, www.penguinputnam.com
1998 Paperback Buy
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Yost, Merle James, When Love Lasts
Forever: Male couples celebrate commitment.
Hopefully, the stories in this book will show another generation
that coupling is possible. As a therapist, the author has seen
many men come into his office and tell him that they do not
believe that gay men are capable of getting into relationships and
staying in them. They have bought the public perception that gay
men are only interested in sex. This belief about men in general
and gay men in particular has done untold harm to their
self-perception as men and to their ability to form relationships.
This book refutes this myth by showing that men have coupled for a
very long time and continue to do so. Pilgrim Press, 1999 ISBN
0-8298-1332-2 Buy
This Book
Young, Cathy, Ceasefire! Why
women and men must join forces to achieve true equality. Are
men and women really from other planets? The author
argues that our current obsession with personal problems between
the sexes has had disasterous consequences for women's progress -
and for men's as well. Young believes "the myth of gender
difference" has allowed feminists to continue to see women as
victims, at the same time buttressing conservatives' claim that
the weakening of traditional roles has wreaked havoc on our
society. It's time to re-examine our allegiances in the gender
wars. Drawing on scholarly research, media reports and real-life
cases, this book demolishes both feminist and antifeminist
fictions. The author challenges men and women to transcend old and
new myths, to look beyond the polarities of either denying or
exaggerating sex differenecs, and to value individual uniqueness
and flexibility. To achieve true equaity, we must pay attention to
sexism against men as well as against women (without turning men
into a new victim class) and ask women as well as men to rethink
their stereotypical views of the other gender. This book surveys a
wide range of issues - from career/family conflicts to female
violence, from sexual dynamics on the job to the problems of
divorced fathers - to offer a surprising vision of true social
equliaty. The Free Press, www.simonsays.com
1999Harsh words bruise the heart of a lover. - Gordon Clay
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