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Proof of Love
Q: My boyfriend and I have been together for
five years. We have been living together for 11
months. I am really more in love with him everyday,
but being the insecure female I am, I would like to
know how I can test if he loves me as much as he
says he does? Could you help me with a few tips,
signs, and so on?
A: Your growing love sounds more like
increasing vulnerability and fear of losing him. As
far as how much he loves you—his actions
overwhelmingly demonstrate it—he’s been
with you for five years and deepened his commitment
to you by living together with you.
If you start to demand proof of his love, you
will drive him right out of your life. When that
happens, it will have nothing to do with his lack
of love for you, but how little YOU love
yourself.
The fact that you need to test his love has
nothing to do with him, but with you. This is a BIG
sign of insecurity within yourself, about yourself,
how little you value yourself, and your lack of
feelings of self-worth. Until you can love
yourself, you will never be able to believe that
someone loves you—regardless of what they do
or say.
Start a plan of self-discovery and development.
As you grow as a person, so will your self-esteem
and self worth, followed by your belief that others
love you as much as you need to be loved.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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