Let's Meet There

A woman can never be too safe, especially when she is meeting an attractive stranger for a first date. The smart choice--meeting in a public place--is not always the decision women make, but should.

The next time you offer your home address to a new man, consider the following reasons not to:

Safety: A new man is really someone you know nothing about. Until you get to know him, public meetings offer a cushion of safety that being alone in your house with him does not.

Alcohol: People vary in their view of drinking and driving. it's not a good idea to put your life in the hands of a man who might drink one too many before he drives you home. When you drive yourself, you are in charge of how much alcohol is consumed before you get in the car at the end of the date.

How Long the Date Lasts: Nothing is worse than a date that drags on too long. Meeting your date puts you in control of your arrival and, especially, your departure times.

You Don't Have to Clean: Why clean when you don't have to? If you invite a date to your house, you're more likely to feel the need to clean up before he arrives. On the other hand, if you meet him elsewhere, there is no need to spend unnecessary time cleaning.

Sex: As it is, the pressure of sex comes too soon for most people. The temptation to progress to intimacy becomes more likely if a man drives you home. An innocent walk to the door can easily turn into premature sex.

  • All hoties are not alike--protect yourself by keeping your home address private. That way, if he turns out to be a creep, you won't have to fret over who is knocking on your door each time your bell rings.

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Nancy Fagan is the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She has been featured in most major newspaper in the United States and worldwide as well as regularly mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health, Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle, Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of others. To read more, visit This column is reprinted with permission from E-Mail Send questions to E-Mail

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