Hail to you Champs Last week, when I announced the end of the Finding Love After 50 newsletter, I had no idea how many of you Champs had enjoyed it and found value in it. The responses were at least 10 times greater than from any previous newsletter. I haven't even been able to read them all yet, but I will.There has not been one negative comment. You surprised me and warmed my heart. The main value you found in the newsletter was hope; that word kept coming up time and time again. Many said the newsletter inspired them to take action in attempting to meet a mate. A surprising number found success. Lillian was one of them; she shared her story. I am including it today because it contains valuable lessons for older singles. Lillian wrote: "I met a dear man on Match.com. To our mutual surprise we lived about 6 miles away from each other. We're both in our 70's and wanted to take our relationship any where we wanted. "It was 'hot and heavy' for several weeks then we realized that we cared deeply for each other and that a good relationship can't be built solely on sex. We had to consider our ages, family situations (he has 5 and I have 4 grown kids), and we were only just beginning to really know one another. "One year from the day we met we were married at our local Lutheran church (June 5th). Family attended and some even were part of our wedding ceremony. Our relationship has had a couple of bumpy places but we talked them out and are willing to face any future 'bumps' together. Besides reviewing our finances, tax liabilities, etc, prior to our marriage, the bottom line is we love each other and are both very grateful that we found someone this dear to spend the last part of our life with. "I have read that some (older) couples split after a year or two realizing that they made a terrible mistake. I have given this much thought but I can't live my life projecting doom and failure for myself. Because, in my experience, that's when it becomes my reality. TODAY we are doing fine and we have good hopes for TOMORROW. "Thanks for sharing your thoughts on Match.com with us Champs. It was out of curiosity you stirred that I pursued that link and the rest is history." Lessons from Lillian's story:
Thanks Champs for your overwhelming responses. I think we've found a new direction. © 2010, Tom Blake
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