Can I guarantee love? She wrote, "I have been widowed three years this time, the first husband died 30 years ago. I had a 7 month relationship with a man that lived closely and without any explanation he left and took up with another woman right away. I still hurt from that but want to move on. "I have tried the internet but only get responses from men in their 40s and 50s, or 80 and over. What do I do from here? I would like a companion as most of my friends still have husbands." I responded to Mary: The timing of your question is perfect. The New Year is always a great time to start afresh. But before I suggest what you should do to find love, let me answer the first part of your question: do I think you can still find love. Absolutely! You've found love before, you can find it again. But Mary, regarding part two of your question, I cannot promise you will find love if you subscribe to the newsletter. If I could, I'd be a rich man. Singles would subscribe by the thousands. Why can't the newsletter work that magic? Because so much depends on your willingness and ability to make the effort yourself. The newsletter, the books I've written, John Gray's books, and Internet matching services, for example, are sources of information and tools to help you improve your chances of meeting a man. But the true responsibility lies on your shoulders, even at age 75. Don't expect any of these tools to go poof, like a genie, and deliver a man to your doorstep. Finding love for a woman or a man at age 75 takes work. You must be willing to make an effort. You must get out of the house and meet new people. This newsletter can't do that for you, it can only encourage you to do so. And Mary, you aren't the only older single who is entering 2010 who wants companionship. And what I'm suggesting to you applies to them as well. You and they must pursue enjoyable outside activities. Doing so will improve your chances of meeting a mate and will make you a more interesting person, which will make you more desirable. And, even if you don't meet a mate, the knowledge gained and the interaction with new people will enrich your life, which is a very worthwhile result of getting it in gear in 2010. You might want to find out how other single women in their 60s, 70s, and 80s found their mates. My new book, "How 50 Couples Found Love After 50" (link to Tom's book) features the modern-day stories of 58 women and how they found their later-in-life mates. Most of them never expected it to happen, but they didn't give up hope and they didn't stop trying. If you rely only on the Internet to meet men, and you aren't having any success, perhaps Internet dating is not right for you. The newsletter will provide you with information, ideas, tips, stories and inspiration about how other older singles found love. It is a very useful tool, and for the price it's a bargain, but, will it magically make a man appear? No. Will it be helpful to you? Only if you want it to be. Should you care to subscribe, or know of a friend who might want to, here is the link: Newsletter information Mary, I wish you the best in 2010. © 2010, Tom Blake
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