Don Steele   Being a Bartender - Part II Red's Reply: Thanks for the input on the bar girls. I thought the "coke-tail" waitresses were just working their way through school. STEELE SEZ: Many waitresses ARE working their way through college. Few of them are in bars or clubs. I met Joanna when she was working at Bob's Big Boy three blocks from my house. She was going to college, majoring in math. If you have a day or two a week you can work there, I say go for it. With all of the female customers and female employees, just follow the step-by-step instructions How to Date Young Women. Above all, be friendly but aloof and always maintain The Right Attitude. Bars and club workers socialize together on their days off and after closing time. They stay up until 7 or 8 in the morning drinking and doing speedy drugs at one of the co-workers homes. It didn't kill me to hang in those circles for about six months while I was figuring out being divorced. I won't kill you. Remember, the young women who work there think they are "inside" the "cool" universe and believe they are really on to something. 99% of them are going nowhere.  RED'S RE-REPLY: Would a nice hotel or restaurant be better? O it's all the same mentality?   STEELE SEZ: A cocktail waitress is usually not a college girl wherever she's cocktailing. If she's not into how "cool" and "hip" she is, she's waiting for a handsome, 35 year old millionaire driving a Red Porsche who will find her and take her away from all this. She thinks, just like most recently divorced and inexperienced men that bars are places to meet potential lifetime partners. In reality, bars and clubs are gathering spots for losers and people who cannot meet, talk with and date people from work, church, social clubs, service clubs, school, activist organizations. You may have a shot at ONE of the waitresses, but that situation is worse than an office in that the catty competitiveness is doubly rampant among the women. If you screw up and make a move on a Rapo Player you're dead meat with all the others. Re-read Volume Two of How to Date Young Women for details on not making this FATAL mistake anyplace! ©2006 R. Don Steele Other Relationship Issues, Books   Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and steelballsRadio.com or E-Mail. Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement Menstuff® Directory Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay ©1996-2023, Gordon Clay