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Hey 19! Hot the Song!
Question: This is my version of what he is
asking. I am attracted to a 19 year old, what do I
do?
Answer: Short version: Same thing you do
with any woman who is interested in you. Long
version below his long explanation.
This is another Two Part Column. Next week it
continues.
Here is what he sent me: I’m presently
taking ballroom dance, and I’ve been flirting
with a 19 year old. I think everything, including
her body language is positive except she is
attractive to most of the men there, and is being
hit on constantly by just about everyone else. I
have been friendly but distant as you’ve
discussed in your books.
I have to admit to being a bit chicken to ask
her for coffee or anything else. She lives at home
with her parents while going to college and I think
she would find it difficult being seen with me by
others in the dance studio who are older
(especially the women).
I’m also a bit intimidated that if the
other women in the dance studio see me show
interest in her it would probably mark me as a
playboy.
Also I haven’t dated anyone living with
their parents since I was 19. Her terror of being
overpowered by me has to rank up there with my
embarrassment with being seen with her. Any
specific advice?
Long Answer: Since the youngest you’ve
dated is 34, you’re not ready. The leap from
34 to 19 is quantum. Do NOT attempt it. Move down
the age ladder gradually. This may ruin you forever
should you screw it up.
The difference between what she considers
harmless flirting and giving you positive signals
is what you have to be able to deter-mine. If you
are in the dance class to meet women over 33, you
are in the wrong place! Get your ass into yoga!
The woman to man ration is often 20:1 never
lower than 4:1.
©2010 R. Don
Steele
Other Relationship Issues,
Books
Don Steele
has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and
cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii,
consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez
live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog
Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The
Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and
Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date
Young Women: For men over 35 -
Revised,
How
to Date Young Women: For men over 35,
Volume II, and most
recently, Body
Language
Secrets.
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