Introduce Yourself Part I
This is from a 48 year old who is becoming
successful with young women.
Question 1: Counter Clerk at Starbucks
very friendly. Is it better to introduce yourself
right off the bat, no matter what?
Answer 1: No! Never immediately! Wait
until you have chatted for at least a few minutes.
It is not necessary to wait until you two are
conversing like old friends. Simply extend your
hand and say, "By the way, I'm Fred Gallaway, I
work at Astronatics across the street in the
Kaufman building." Look into her eyes and do
everything explained in On Shaking Hands in How to
Date Young Women
Question 2: Will she say or do some thing
that tells me when the time is right?
Answer 2: Ordinarily she unintentionally
leaves longer than normal pauses. Those moments are
your openings. But when you are 30 to 50 and she's
20-22 her focus is not on the transaction. She's
very excited and aroused to be talking with a Man,
a real Man, not another boy. Thus, she doesn't
realize that Men introduce themselves by shaking
hands. This is one instance in which you must MAKE
it happen, but make it as natural and normal as
possible. In other words, be relaxed about it.
CAUTION: She may stumble a bit and feel awkward
for a few seconds. However about 90 percent of them
recover quickly and tell you their names. But with
the other 10 percent, you have to be ready with
another routine because she's so excited and at the
same time so busy controlling herself that she
doesn't remember to tell you her name.
After you release her hand, if she hasn't told
you her name, shift your eyes away briefly, then
back directly into her eyes with an expectant look
on your face that says, And you are? If
that doesn't prompt her, you can say gently, "And
you are?" Be gentle and polite. Do not embarrass
her more than necessary because this awkward lapse
on her part does make her feel foolish.
See the chapter Talk With Her for a refresher on
how crucial it is to keep that fact in mind during
INTRODUCTIONS ARE SO IMPORANT WE SPEND 4 HOURS
TOTAL ON THEM AT The Right Attitude Workshop.
So this Introductions topic is continued next
©2007 R. Don
Other Relationship Issues,
has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and
cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii,
consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez
live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog
Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The
Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and
Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date
Young Women: For men over 35 -
to Date Young Women: For men over 35,
Volume II, and most
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