Hey 19! Hot the Song!

Question: This is my version of what he is asking. I am attracted to a 19 year old, what do I do?

Answer: Short version: Same thing you do with any woman who is interested in you. Long version below his long explanation.

This is another Two Part Column. Next week it continues.

Here is what he sent me: I’m presently taking ballroom dance, and I’ve been flirting with a 19 year old. I think everything, including her body language is positive except she is attractive to most of the men there, and is being hit on constantly by just about everyone else. I have been friendly but distant as you’ve discussed in your books.

I have to admit to being a bit chicken to ask her for coffee or anything else. She lives at home with her parents while going to college and I think she would find it difficult being seen with me by others in the dance studio who are older (especially the women).

I’m also a bit intimidated that if the other women in the dance studio see me show interest in her it would probably mark me as a playboy.

Also I haven’t dated anyone living with their parents since I was 19. Her terror of being overpowered by me has to rank up there with my embarrassment with being seen with her. Any specific advice?

Long Answer: Since the youngest you’ve dated is 34, you’re not ready. The leap from 34 to 19 is quantum. Do NOT attempt it. Move down the age ladder gradually. This may ruin you forever should you screw it up.

The difference between what she considers harmless flirting and giving you positive signals is what you have to be able to deter-mine. If you are in the dance class to meet women over 33, you are in the wrong place! Get your ass into yoga!

The woman to man ration is often 20:1 never lower than 4:1.

©2010 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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