Don Steele   Being a Bartender - Part I Red, 42, "I was thinking of bar tending at a local pool hall-bar-restaurant. The waitresses are all 8.5's and up! Per your advice in How to Date Young Women, I eat there in the off hours so they not rushing around. As you predicted and explained, they are checking ME out! I figure that if I worked there one day a week and ignored them I might have an in. Some of them seem like the Rapo players you discuss and explain in you chapter Meet Her. What do you think?" STEELE SEZ: Bar-club workers are almost all losers! Most are into Randy Redporsche as well as speed-meth-cocaine. They think that because they work in a "cool" "hip" nightclub, they, themselves are "totally adult" "cool" "happening" "hip" "together" people.  However, as a bartender, you might have a shot at some of the girls who like to go to nightclubs on a semi-regular basis. You can also easily date most of the dick-of-the-week women I explained and described in How to Date Young Women. I strongly suggest that you don't however. They are worse losers than the men who hang out in bars.  A semi-regular means that she's a normal young woman, not a bar fly. She goes to a bar or club every other weekend or every third weekend. Of course, you'll have to remember her across that amount of time. I find it quite easy to remember the ones who are interested in me, so I don't think you'll have any trouble doing the same. Some young women see The Bartender as a "cool" guy, somewhat like the lifeguard at the beach. Don't ask me why, 'cause I don't get it. I just know that when I was a bartender it was the same as when I was a lifeguard! Who cares? Use what you've got.  ©2007 R. Don Steele Other Relationship Issues, Books   Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and steelballsRadio.com or E-Mail. Contact Us | Disclaimer | Privacy Statement Menstuff® Directory Menstuff® is a registered trademark of Gordon Clay ©1996-2023, Gordon Clay