Know Lack of Interest

Question: I’m from New York. I’ve been in Minnesota awhile. The women here don’t seem to make much eye contact and they appear closed. Any comments on Midwestern young ladies? Ever been here?

Answer: I get this a lot from all areas of the country, North Carolina, Iowa, Florida, whatever.

Women are the same everywhere, period. You don’t say where you are when this lack of eye contact and closed body language happens, so I can’t really tell you what’s what.

If they make only brief or no eye contact at a party or social gathering, they are NOT interested in you.

NOTE: Watch the large breasted blonde demonstrate this simple negative body language on THE X SHOW video at

Since you’re “a fish outta water” (not in NY) you’re probably radiating a lack of confidence. When you’re new to an area, you must increase your circle of friends as explained in HTDYW. Next, you have to put yourself in settings where SHE is not trying to meet men, again as explained in HTDYW.

That part of the country is unknown to me. I know Chicago, which is the same as LA only friendlier.

If you’re in a club or bar, re-read How to Date Young Women and get the hell out bars and stay out!

©2010 R. Don Steele

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Don Steele has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and engineering companies as well as many political campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976. Beyond writing, other passions include a deep, abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii, consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date Young Women:  For men over 35 - Revised, How to Date Young Women:  For men over 35, Volume II, and most recently, Body Language Secrets. Check out steelballsAUDIO.COM and or E-Mail.

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