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Who Are You?
Question: Given your lengthy association
with Nathaniel Branden, are you an Objectivist in
the Ayn Rand sense?
Answer: I am a neo-objectivist. Notice
the lower case “o.” Most of us who use
that label on ourselves are giving this shorthand
answer: Objectivist Ethics and Economics are
inarguable. However we strongly differ with Rand
about the value, even honor, of not expressing and
not owning one’s emotions.
Embracing Randian views of emotions was the
reason I was unable to be a joyful happy hu-Man
being. Branden’s therapy is NOTHING like
Rand’s philosophy! He is a HUMANIST who
understands the fundamental relationship of
integrating all aspects of our NATURE, emotional
and intellectual. I was living in my head! Love and
life take place OUTSIDE of one’s head! Branden
taught me how to integrate my emotional self with
my intellectual self. He saved my life! I am
eternally grateful.
In my workshops, teach and preach that
relationships with women are not INTELLECTUAL
UNDERTAKINGS! Love is physical and emotional. Men
of Steel Balls understand that the goal is a
caring, sharing, romantic relationship, “To a
Grand time, as long as it shall last!” One
cannot think his way thru love!
To expand a bit. Rand was totally, completely
and absolutely wrong about human nature. We are not
a logical, thinking machine on two legs. We are
animals, who at the very last moment of evolution
developed a neocortex. The extreme majority of our
being is that of an emotional, feeling creature who
just happens to be able to think in the
abstract.
When the house is on fire, that is the time for
suppressing one’s emotions. The rest of the
time, we are best as emotional creatures.
Fritz Perls advised, “Lose your mind and
come to your senses.” Love relationships are
about emotions and senses. Jobs, careers, designs
and finance are about rational thought. The essence
of being happy is to be a feeling creature when
that is appropriate and to be a thinking creature
when that is appropriate. As Aristotle advocated,
“Everything in moderation, except
moderation.”
Joanna urges men to get a facial and a full body
massage before going on any date that is of major
importance, such as your first romantic dinner date
with the woman of your dreams. Why? So you lose all
that tension in your neck and face and that allows
HER to see the love in your heart on your formerly
hard face. Women can see everything! So one must
remove the mask of tension and let one’s LIFE
show, one’s aliveness show, one’s love to
come shining through. In other words get real. That
is what women LOVE.
©2008 R. Don
Steele
Other Relationship Issues,
Books
Don Steele
has worked for more than 20 aerospace, defense and
engineering companies as well as many political
campaigns both in LA and in Hawaii. He became a
Marriage, Family and Child Counselor in 1976.
Beyond writing, other passions include a deep,
abiding hatred for hypocrites, bureaucrats, poverty
pimps and nearly all politicians; a lifelong
devotion to anthropology, philosophy; astronomy and
cosmology plus a long-term love affair with Hawaii,
consummated in 1996. He and Joanna Bardot Lopez
live in Whittier CA, with their number one dog
Wolfie, number two dog, Tootsie, Peaches The
Rabbit, Puppy Cat, Princess Cat, Snookums Cat and
Bebe Cat. Don is the author of Date
Young Women: For men over 35 -
Revised,
How
to Date Young Women: For men over 35,
Volume II, and most
recently, Body
Language
Secrets.
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