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The 8 Dating Myths

Let's face it, dating sucks. It sucks to be rejected by hot and busty babes, and it sucks to be alone. It sucks to be so nervous around a woman that you babble incoherently and it is even worse to act like a stud and have her slap you in front of your buddies. To make matters worse, masturbation can get awfully unsatisfying after a while, even with the best porn flick or sex toy. So what is the solution? Get out date, deal with the inevitable rejections, have fun, and learn about the machinery in your own head that leads to trouble and failure with women.

When it comes to dating, most men are intimidated by myths, misconceptions, and their denial of their power as men. But understanding the myths and the solutions will leave you free to flirt and date women, and more importantly to create the sex life you have always wanted. We¹ve listed a few dating myths below that will begin to shed light on your most common dating troubles. So wake up, smell the coffee, pay attention, and you just may learn something. Because even if you act like a know-it-all we know the truth: You don¹t. You have bought into some of these myths and they have caused you trouble somewhere down the road.

Myth #1 You have to be a rock star, millionaire, or athlete to get hot dates. Guys love to believe that they don't have what it takes to get laid. And most men use their lack of success as an excuse for not dating and pursuing the women they really want. These men blame the system, society, social issues, and economic realities for their lack of sex-not the man in the mirror. But while being in a position of power or being a rock star will obviously get you a large pool of women to draw from, you too can get hot sex if you heed our advice.

Here is the good news and the bad news. The good news: There are hot and sexy women available to you tonight. Most women are looking for a man like you-a normal guy with normal desires and a normal job. The bad news: They want you have to work to get them. And it won't happen by you staying home and complaining about it. Dating means flirting with women and initiating conversations with women.

But you do have what it takes to get women once you understand what the game is. Once again it comes down to pursuing women. Just doing it. Here is the secret: Many models complain that they cannot get a date. Many claim that men are too scared to approach them because of their beauty. Be in the small cadre of studs that flirts with the women they are attracted to and you¹ll be miles ahead of the pack. 

Myth #2 Just be nice and sensitive enough and you'll get a woman. This is another horrible myth promoted by what we like to call "SNAGS" (Sensitive New Age Guys). The belief that being nice will get you laid is one of the worst ideas promoted over the past 20 years. Women want to be seduced and romanced. Do you really think they are looking for "nice" guys?

Most men think they if they like a woman, and she says that you are "sweet," "interesting," or "a wonderful friend," that you are moving the relationship towards romance and sex. This is dead wrong. Women will either put you into the category of "friend" or "lover," but not both. When you are "nice" only a woman will likely put you into the category of friend, but not lover. If you don¹t believe this, just look around at all the jerks who have sex with hot women. Women certainly are not having sex with these guys because they are intellectually stimulating. No, these women are hot and heavy because these men are exciting, romantic, fun, and even a bit dangerous.

The solution? Don't give up being interesting and nice (that too would be a fatal error), just bring out other parts of your personality. Bring out the romantic and let that guide you into sweeping a woman off her feet. Put yourself in her position and figure out what would turn her on and excite her. If you find yourself spending time discussing "fascinating" topics, but not romantic ones, change the subject back to her beauty. Memorize poetry and whisper passages into her ear.

Myth # 3 Be a woman's therapist and you'll get sex. Along the same lines as being a nice guy, we¹ve seen this myth played out time and time again by desperate fools trying to score. The ploy usually works this way: A horny guy is a friend with a woman he wants to date. He thinks that if she opens up to him emotionally then it will likely lead to sex. He thinks that if he can solve her emotional problems she will want to date him. But, to his surprise, things pan out differently. Suddenly she starts to discuss every problem in her life with him. The guy thinks this is good and listens more and more and more to her complaints. In fact, he thinks that the more he listens to her, the better the chances are of her going to bed with him. She starts crying on his shoulder more frequently and he starts taking her out for ice cream, expensive dinners, and even loan her money when she becomes too depressed to work. Now it turns ugly. She begins telling him about her problems with other men. Our novice therapist stays in the role of advice-giver. Eventually she stars dating the jerks and coming to him for advice.

Never is a therapist to a woman. The most important thing in dealing with a woman is to make your romantic interests known right away so she thinks of you as a potential lover, not a friend. When you are become a confidant to a woman she begins to associate you with her negative emotions and negative experiences, putting you further out of the running for being her lover. If you are in this position with any woman right now, stop being the therapist today. You are wasting your time and avoiding being out in the world pursuing other women. Get out now while you still have a chance.

Myth #4 There are a limited number of available women. This is the type of myth promoted by whiners. They search for lame reasons why they can¹t meet women when in fact, there is no evidence anywhere to back up their claim. Does the high percentage of divorce and affairs justify this myth? No. Does the high number of singles (82 million in the United States) prove that this is indeed a fact? No. Does the large number of personals ads reflect this to be true? No. That is why it is called a myth and simply unfounded. Enough said.

Myth #5 You¹re not attractive enough to get women. In their quieter moments, many men believe that there is something fundamentally wrong with them. They truly think some part of them is indelibly flawed and women will reject them for it. To this we say: YOU ARE WRONG! After studying this topic in an exhaustive fashion, we have noticed that neither the size of a man's belly or even the size of his IQ has any bearing on his ability to get women. We've seen fat men with models, short men with sexy 21 year olds, and guys so ugly that they looked like they were beaten with a bag of quarters, cuddling with hot and sexy babes. We recently spotted an obese 45-year old guy flirting with every hot woman in a crowded bar. They stared into his eyes, fascinated and turned on by his confidence and wit. He made no apologies for his size or ugliness and several women went for it.

You can be a nerd with a pen protector and get tons of sex if you have the necessary confidence. No matter what you look like women will want you if you demonstrate confidence.

Myth #6 Getting women is too time consuming or difficult. Guys complain to me all the time that getting women as complex as learning brain surgery. But it need not be. There are simple skills you can learn and actions you can take today that will have you meeting women like never before.

For instance, the easiest places to meet women are in bookstores, coffee shops, health clubs, and in restaurants. The trick is to go to these places at the same time on a regular basis and then make friends with the regulars. Another trick is to list out organizations or groups you are part of in which there are women participants and then go to at least two evening meeting per week. If you want to stay home then you must play with personals ads the Internet.

Remember, learning any new skill takes time. But once you understand how and where to meet women, it will take less and less. After that it is all maintenance. We've had students who worked two full time jobs at once and still have time to date women.

Myth 7. Women know what they want, and they will tell you. Have you ever noticed that women will talk about the kind of man that they want, and end up with someone completely different? It happens all of the time. What women say they want and what they actually respond to are often totally different. Women can¹t tell you what they want in a man, they can only tell you what they think they want in a man. There is a big difference.

The bottom line is that women love men who are generative and creative. If they have to tell you how to get them, what to be like, and how to behave every step of the way, they aren't going to be turned on by you. They also aren't attracted to supplicants, begging for the easy keys to melt their heart. It¹s your independent nature that gets them going, not your dependency on being told how to act.

Besides, some of the traits that women complain about most in men have in them the seeds of what women find most attractive about men. In the film The Full Monty, for example, a bunch of out-of-work male steelworkers decide that they will make money by putting on a strip show for all the local women. Th plan has trouble written all over it-none of these guys are particularly great-looking. But it speaks to a trait that women find both aggravating and attractive: Men are troublemakers.

We take on silly projects, push them to their limits, and even sometimes make them work. This quality is part of the creativity that women desire so much in men. So if you count on women to tell you what they want and how to behave in order to get them, you short circuit this wild nature that women love so much. Don¹t fall into that trap.

Myth #8 Dating is supposed to be fair. This one myth gets men in more trouble than almost any of the others. If you are a man who whines about how dating isn't fair, you must stop that right now. We hear it all the time: "Why can't a woman ask me out for once?" "If women really believed in equality, they'd kiss me first!" "I'm tired of doing all the pursuit with women. It's their turn now." Blah, blah. blah. If it makes you feel better, you are right: It is unfair that you have to do all the pursuing, and that you have to take all the emotional risks by making all the "first moves."

We've even known men who¹ve confronted women about their not pursuing men. One man made it a habit of confronting women who didn't do "their fair share" of the pursuing. He'd tell them in no uncertain terms that, if they wanted to date him, they'd have to do at least half of the initiating, the pursuit, and the emotional risk-taking. "It's the age of equality," Cameron would explain to them. "You get equal rights, so now take equal responsibilities!" As you can probably guess, Cameron didn't have many second dates.

The solution? Get over it. If you don't have the sex life you want, it's your responsibility to get it. It is not women's responsibility to take care of you and to make sure you have what you want in relationships. Expecting them to do so is just immature.

Use these myths to propel your own seductive desires into full gear. These techniques have been time tested and have produced wonderful results from men worldwide. So stay aware of the myths and you¹ll be able to create the abundant sex life you¹re always wanted.

© 2008, Mastery Technologies, Inc.

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