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Another Seduction Question Answered
Dear Ron and David,
I want to be able to score with any woman, 100%
of the time. I know you might think that's silly,
but it seems to me that if it's too easy to get a
woman, it doesn't really count. Like last week I
met a woman while I was traveling, and I used your
techniques, and it was like it was too easy; she
was so into me right away that, even though she was
pretty, it didn't seem like it meant much to score
with her. What can I do to get the 'harder'
women?
- Hard up for hard women
Dear Hard,
This is an amazingly common trend we notice
among the men who work with us: If things go
easily, the seduction (or flirting conversation, or
priming date, or whatever) didn't really "count,"
so they don't feel good about it. They seem to
think that only if a seduction is 'hard' is it
worth feeling good about. It seems like you have
this problem. Let's take a look at it.
First, you need to realize that some women are
just not "open for business" and no matter how
wonderful you are, they will not be interested in
you. You can take a tiny spark of interest or
sexual vibe with a woman and fan it into a flame of
passion by making the right moves, but if there's
absolutely no spark to start with, there's really
not much you can do.
In time you can learn to trust your gut about
whether or not there is a sexual vibe. While you
can kill the sexual vibe by being a bonehead, if
there isn't one from the start, there usually is a
reason that has to do with her. Here are some
examples:
- The beautiful woman Ron went out with recently
who exuded no sexual vibe whatsoever. Near the end
of the date, she confided in him that she had been
heavily abused as a child, and had always hated
sex.
- The attractive woman David recently met at a
personal growth workshop who emitted no sexual vibe
at all. David was puzzled, as he was doing all the
"right" things--until saw her sit down next to a
butch dyke, and hold hands with her.
- The hot woman you meet who doesn't respond no
matter what you do, who you later discover is
married or who has a serious (or jealous)
boyfriend.
The point is that a woman who is unattainable is
unattainable for a reason, and you are not likely
to change that. If you are living your life
thinking that only scoring with an unattainable
woman "counts," you are going to have a difficult
life.
Also, if you only let yourself feel good if a
seduction was difficult in some way, you are
violating seduction fundamental number 4,
"Celebrate Your Victories." (To find out more about
this fundamental, go to www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/learn/07/body.shtml
 .)
Our consistent experience is that violating the
fundamentals of seduction is a bad idea.
You can learn to succeed with increasingly
difficult women, if you wan to, but you never will
if you can't let yourself feel good about the
"easy" ones. You need to spend some time looking at
these so-called "easy" seductions or interactions
with women and ask yourself two questions:
First ask, "What did I do that made this
interaction work?" Did you do the flirting moves
(to learn about or review the flirting moves, go to
www.howtosucceedwithwomen.com/specialsection/flirting.shtml
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Did you show your romantic interest right away? Did
you find yourself doing situational flirting,
asking "what's the story behind that?", asking
romantic questions, or doing deepening
conversations? Acknowledge yourself for that. As so
many of us men know, it is possible to take a woman
with whom you have great innate chemistry, and turn
her into "just a friend" by not taking the
opportunity right away and doing the right things.
You did the right things, so acknowledge
yourself.
Second, ask yourself, "What bonehead things
didn't I do to ruin it?" So many of us men
have also experienced how easily a fart joke,
physical humor or lighting up a cigar can
permanently ruin an otherwise effortless seduction.
Look at your "effortless" interactions and notice
the places you could have screwed it up, but
didn't. Acknowledge yourself. And let yourself feel
good.
Even if the seduction wasn't difficult.
© 2008, Mastery
Technologies, Inc.
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