Do Your Homo-Work! An Assessment of Personal
Homophobia
Homophobia, an unrealistic fear of gays/lesbians,
affects all of us in this culture straight
and gay alike. Its characterized by a
generalized negative attitude towards homosexuals,
if not outright feelings of hatred. Gays and
lesbians experience internalized homophobia as a
result of growing up in a culture that
allows/encourages discrimination against
homosexuals. Internalized homophobia can cause or
contribute to lowered self-esteem, intense shame,
chemical dependency, and a generalized alienation
from ones true self.
Whether you are gay or straight, spend a little
time with the questionnaire below. There are no
correct answersjust what is true
for you. Let me know what your experience of this
exercise was likeIll be posting some of
your responses.
This survey was developed by A.E. Moses & R.
D. Hawkins, Jr.
- Do you stop yourself from doing or saying
certain things because someone might think
youre gay? If yes, what kinds of
things?
- Do you ever intentionally do or say things
so that people will think you are NOT gay? Like
what
- Do you believe gays/lesbians can influence
others to become homosexual? Do you think
someone could influence you to change your
sexual and affectational preference?
- If you are a parent (straight or gay), how
would you (or do you) feel about having a gay
child?
- How do you think you would feel if you
discovered that one of your parents, parent
figures, or siblings were gay or lesbian?
- Are there any jobs, positions or professions
that you think lesbians/gays should be barred
from holding or entering? If yes, which ones and
why?
- If someone you care about were to say to
you, I think Im gay, would you
suggest that person see a therapist?
- Have you ever been to a gay/lesbian bar,
social club, party or march? If not, why?
- Would you wear a button that says, How
dare you assume Im
Heterosexual?
- Can you think of three positive aspects of
being gay? Three negative things?
- Have you ever laughed at a queer
joke?
©2010 by Joe Kort
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Psychotherapist
Joe Kort, MA, MSW, has been in practice since 1985.
He specializes in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy as
well as IMAGO Relationship Therapy, which is a
specific program involving communication exercises
designed for couples to enhance their relationship
and for singles to learn relationship skills. He
also specializes in sexual addiction, childhood
sexual, physical and emotional abuse, depression
and anxiety. He offers workshops for couples and
singles. He runs a gay men's group therapy and a
men's sexuality group therapy for straight, bi and
gay men who are struggling with specific sexual
issues. His therapy services are for gays and
lesbians as well as heterosexuals. His articles and
columns have appeared in The Detroit Free
Press, Between the Lines Newspaper for
Gays and Lesbians, The Detroit News, The
Oakland Press, The Royal Oak Mirror, and
other publications. Besides providing therapy for
individuals and couples, he conducts a number of
groups and workshops for gay men. Now an adjunct
professor teaching Gay and Lesbian Studies at Wayne
State University's School of Social Work, he is
doing more writing and workshops on a national
level. He is the author of 10
Smart Things Gay Men can do to Improve Their
Lives and
10
Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real
Love.
www.joekort.com
or E-Mail
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Gaydar
(gay'.dahr, n.): (1) The
ability that lets gays and lesbians identify one
other. (2) This column--where non-gay readers can
improve their gaydar, learning more about gay men's
psychology and social lives. Also, (3) a regular
feature where gay readers can discover the many
questions and hassles their straight
counterparts--and themselves--must face!

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