Dating in Different Cultures
I was wondering through your research if you
found a significant difference in people from
different cultures when it comes to relationships?
As in their values and the way they see how
relationships should be. I'm particularly
interested in people who have been in North America
for a long time and grew up with the culture that
their parents/grandparents came here with and any
other relevant info would be appreciated.
Thanks for your time and expertise!
Actually, what I've found is that people all
over the world in different cultures actually have
the SAME values, wants, desires, needs - and go
about getting them in very similar ways.
When I wrote my first book, "Being a Man in a
Woman's World" I wasn't sure how it would translate
in different parts of the world. What I discovered
was that the principles apply regardless of where
the reader lives or is from. We have readers in 72
different countries, and constantly get feedback
from them about just how well the principles
Honestly, I was rather surprised when I
I will say however that while the foundations
are the same and even the way people are wired are
the same, we often use cultural bias as a way to
reach our goals and this can differ. One of the
best examples Ive come across is in the
letters I receive from India. I suspect this is due
to the impact of Bollywood however.
If you watch movies that come from the Indian
entertainment industry, they are very flowery and
symbolic. Likewise, many of the letters Im
getting from men and women in this culture take an
equally flowery and symbolic approach to love and
relationships. This is especially challenging since
these people want an equally symbolic way to handle
This, by the way is another important part of
the puzzle. Our media have a lot to do with many of
our biases; sometimes far more than we want to