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10 Smart Relationship Tips For 2010
We hope you haven't made the same mistake we have.
In fact, this isn't like us at all.it's already
the middle of January and we're just now getting
around to thinking about and working on our
relationship, life and business goals for 2010...
It's not an excuse but it's a fact...
We've been so busy working on a brand new
relationship program for you that will available
soon that we've totally blown past the last few
weeks.
Up until now we haven't put much thought into
thinking about or setting any new goals for 2010.
When we realized this a day or two ago...
We asked ourselves a really important question:
What are some things ANYONE (including us) could
start doing right now that would have an immediate
positive impact on their love life and
relationships in 2010?
So, we came up with 10 tips you're going to
love...
1. Spend more time really connecting with other
people. Facebook and twitter are great tools for
connecting-- but to us, it's the personal
interaction of in-person or telephone communication
that we think really connects us.
Let's face it.
When you're facebooking and twittering (or doing
any of the many other forms of social networking)
in most cases you're doing other things too.
You're multi-tasking.
Nothing wrong with multi-tasking but if you
really want to build strong lasting connections,
it's always best to do it one-on-one and to make
sure you're totally "present" when you're with
another person.
In fact, when you're jealous of your partner in
social situations (and he or she really isn't doing
anything to warrant your jealousy)--you aren't
connecting and being present with the people you're
with.
Your body might be standing there and you might
be talking but your attention and mind are on who
your partner is talking to and what he or she is
doing.
You're multi-tasking when it comes to being with
others--and that's a recipe for disaster for your
intimate relationship as well as your other
relationships.
2. Spend more time in the bedroom. In our book
and audio program, "Red Hot Love Relationships",
we give you 77 ways to turn up the heat in your
relationship both in and out of the bedroom if you
want more intimacy and a deeper connection with
your partner or lover.
It's seems like such a simple suggestion but if
you want more love, connection, passion and
intimacy.......spend more time in the bedroom.
No TV. No Kids. Just Laugh. Love. Talk. and
Connect.
Whatever that means to you.
3. Spend more time loving yourself.
How often do you spend time beating yourself up?
If you're like most people, much more than you
realize.
One important question we like to ask around
this topic is--"What is the most loving act you
could do for yourself right now?"
Not what you could do for someone else or your
community but YOU.
Give yourself the gift of loving you.
Start by just acknowledging one thing you like,
love or appreciate about yourself and then you
might want to turn it into a full blown love affair
with you.
4. Forgive Yourself. That's right... forgive
yourself for whatever you are holding onto that
you resent yourself for.
You'll be much freer, lighter and much more fun
to be with if you do this.
Most of us are carrying years of resentments
from things we wish we would have handled
differently, relationships that would have been
different, times you wish you had been more loving
or kind or even things like financial deals gone
bad or punishing yourself for getting fired or laid
off from a job you really wanted or needed.
It's time to forgive yourself.
5. Spend more time alone in solitude or
meditating. Even if it's 5 minutes a day, spend
time alone with just your thoughts and allow your
mind some space to slow down and stop racing.
A couple of months ago, we started a new
meditation practice that we do for about 10-15
minutes right before going to bed that makes a big
difference in both of us--both in our night's sleep
and what we're like the next day when we do our new
practice.
Something as simple as taking a five minute walk
alone every day can work miracles in your life.
You might even simply take a 2 minute deep
breathing break.
The key is to find some time every day to be
alone.
6. Say something nice, positive or uplifting to
your partner, spouse or lover at least once a day.
This is such a simple thing.
Everyone loves wants to feel loved, appreciated
and understood.
Telling them something small like "I really
loved seeing your smile last night at dinner" or
"I'm so proud of you for the way you've been doing
__________" or "I'm glad you're my partner, husband
/ wife, friend" can really make your relationship
sing.
Try it. One positive thing a day. Who knows,
you may want to do more than one a day after you
see what it does for you and your relationship.
7. Stop Talking On Eggshells. Life's too short
to hold back from opening your heart and mind to
the people closest to you.
If there is any part of you that worries about
what someone else's reaction might be or what
they'll say think or how they'll react when you
share what's real for you--then we suggest you
download a copy of our "Stop Talking On Eggshells"
program right now
One word of caution here about giving yourself
permission to "Stop Talking On Eggshells"-- when
you do this, don't think this gives you permission
to go overboard and treat the other person any way
you'd like just because you make a new decision to
not hold back any more.
8.Learn To "Question Your Thoughts..." This is
something we've learned to do over the past few
years that has changed EVERY aspect of our lives
for the better.
What we find is that our minds work overtime.
If you're like most people, you're constantly
thinking and believing thoughts that take you away
from what it is you want.
What we're suggesting you do is to "question"
your thoughts that you think that take you away
from what you want to see "Are they true?"
Most of the time they aren't true--no matter how
much we want to believe them.
9. Commit, really commit to being In whatever
relationships you're In... One of the biggest
contributors to pain and disconnection in
relationships and marriages is people who are in
the relationship but not really in them.
We've had many people who were trying to decide
whether to stay in or leave a relationship buy our
"Should You Stay or Should You Go?" program at
http://www.StayorGo.com and then tell us later
that they had no idea how much they had already
"left" the relationship until they really took a
look at their thoughts and behavior.
If you are in a relationship--really commit to
it, stay in it and do everything you can to make it
the best you could ever possibly imagine.
At some point, you may decide that this
relationship isn't right for you anymore. But, if
you're in it--commit, really commit to it.
10. Spend less time in your mind and more time
in your heart. This means, spend less time making
up stories about how things won't work out, how
awful a situation is.
Spend more time finding the "loving" and living
from that place of love, kindness and possibility
rather than fear.
Our best to you,
©2010, Susie
& Otto Collins
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Susie
and Otto Collins are spiritual and life partners
who are committed to helping others create
outstanding relationships of all kinds. They
regularly write, speak and conduct workshops and
seminars on love, relationships and personal and
spiritual growth to audiences all across the USA.
They are the creators of the "Relationship Toolkit"
which has helped people in over a dozen countries
improve their relationships. It includes a video
called Spiritual
Partnerships plus two
booklets Love
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Secrets and
101
Relationship Quotes Worth a Million
Dollars! You can also
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by visiting their web site at www.collinspartners.com
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