Employers vs Employees

Trust is the main issue that begins to erode when an employee and employer experience misunderstandings or perceive unfair treatment. Certainly, an employee must be accountable to their employer. However, there is an implied dependence where the captive employee trusts their employer to treat them with consideration and fairness. The employer in turn trusts that the employee is hard working and honest. Problems occur when the boss treats the worker like a machine separate from his or her feelings, frailties and family demands or the worker takes advantage of the boss.

Ultimately, it is in the employer's best interest to treat their employer respectfully and with consideration for their health and family needs. The employer and employee relationship can have an atmosphere of mutual respect and loyalty, when both parties consider and respect each other's needs and priorities. It is human nature for an employer to want too much from their employees and for the employee to resist sacrificing their home lives to help an employer gain financially. Clearly, the employer must earn and deserve loyalty because they provide their employees a better-than-fair deal. In exchange, most employees will then give far more than their paycheck's represents.

If communication becomes strained, or an employee threatens to quit, the employer would be wise to seek professional counseling to help both sides see the disagreement as a challenge to solve not as the last straw. Not really marriage counseling, but definitely relationship counseling! Learning to communicate your needs and priorities without anger or shame is essential in any communication situation. Many are not able to do this especially when their livelihood is on the line.:

©2010, Molly Barrow

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Dr. Molly Barrow holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology and is the author of the new book, Matchlines: A revolutionary New Way of looking at relationships and making the right choices in love. She is an authority on relationship and psychological topics, a member of the American Psychological Association and a licensed mental health counselor. Dr. Molly has appeared as an expert on NBC, PBS, KTLA, and in O Magazine, Psychology Today, Newsday,,, Women's Health and Women's World. Please visit: or Take the new relationship compatibility test, Match Lines Systems for Successful Relationships for Singles, Couples and Business at Molly has a radio program, Your Relationship Answers at

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