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August
'Challenging The Monkey' – Part 2
Three and a half hours later I emerged from behind
the pile of library books, having found out that
one contained a list of remedies that would
apparently be useful. Over 1000 remedies (flower
essences) to be precise. To a novice dowser this
was something of a nightmare! Eventually I narrowed
it down to two remedies. One to be taken the next
day, the second “Rescue Remedy”, to be
taken two days later. I couldn’t exactly work
out the meaning of the first remedy at the time,
but the second seemed to be for shock.
A day after taking the first remedy the pain
escalated. Two days after taking it, the pain and
the lump disappeared. I was in shock. I could have
done with an IV drip for Rescue Remedy. The
hoarseness gradually improved and cleared up within
a few weeks. I returned to my landscaping
questioning whether I was meant to be doing
something with this experience.
People started coming to me for advice on their
well-being. I wasn’t advertising – this
was just through friends and family who had known
about my throat. Within 6 months Winnie and I had
helped over 90 people and I had started writing my
first book “The Truth about
Illness,Unhappiness & Stress?” I sat down
at the computer with no idea what I was about to
write and yet the words just flowed out. Winnie
would read each section and ask jokingly
“who’s writing this?” She decided
she would take on the task of editing my stream of
consciousness.
We soon decided to throw caution to the wind. I
chucked in the landscaping, we sold up our house
and threw ourselves into, well, just being together
as a family. We would help anyone who came to us
(but we would never advertise). Oh, and just to
challenge the monkey beyond all reason, we were
also guided not to charge anyone for one-to-one
work.
That was, for me, the hardest one to get my head
round.
I mean, there we were living in the expensive
South East, with two young children and with only
about £15,000 in the world to live on (about
12 months living expenses). What our respective
families and close friends thought of us we could
not imagine. But in a way it didn’t matter
– we knew we had to go for it. Every time I
read anything about “creating your own
reality” I felt like I knew it already to be
my truth. And yet we couldn’t really find
anyone outside of communities such as Findhorn
actually doing it.
And that’s how we began. People, mainly
women, started to see me regularly. I was plunged
very quickly into the world of serious illness by
various wonderful ‘teachers’; cancer
sufferers who came to me to looking for guidance.
In a very short space of time I found myself
sharing ideas and stories which seemed to help
inspire these women to achieve greater peace and
happiness.
What had started as a little bit of healing and
remedy work soon turned totally into a process of
listening and guiding through my intuition. From
cancer I found myself working with relationship,
financial, emotional and all manner of health
issues. And soon the partners and friends of these
women started to come. And as my work with men
increased, so I found myself hearing the same story
time and again from men torn apart by the demands
of the work-place and family.
I soon found myself writing about men. I wrote
about time, success, meditation, sex, work,
addiction, the news and even death. I wanted to get
any men who would listen and who were not entirely
happy with life into challenging their own
inherited belief systems. I wanted to share stories
that would help them to realise that they were not
alone in their struggle. After a couple of years I
found myself with a manuscript. Now what?
Old record company monkey wanted me to get it
‘out there’ immediately. My inner wise
old man rejected this proposal out of hand.
“Wait. Trust. Be patient. Help will
come”.
Well I was getting fed up with waiting. Trouble
was I also knew that this guidance was worth
trusting. We had been operating for 4 years by this
time without charging and although donations had
been minimal, somehow the money had come in to
support us without ever leaving us wanting.
So I waited. One day a member of my men’s
group told me about a workshop in London to be
given by an Australian called Steve Biddulph. He
was a successful author and leader in the worldwide
men’s movement. Although I had never gone to a
workshop in my life or read any of his books, I
felt drawn to attending. And so I booked a
place…
The workshop was crammed with about 70 men and
women. At the morning interval Steve came over to
our group and asked where we were from. When we
answered “Forest Row” he told us he was
coming over to England with his family for a year
in the near future to write a book with his wife
and he was going to be living in…… Forest
Row.
But it got better than that. During the
afternoon break I asked Steve where exactly he was
going to be moving to. The answer? Next door but
one to my house. One of the leaders in the
worldwide men’s movement was moving halfway
across the world to land on my doorstep. There are
times when you know you are right in the
zone…
©2008, Barry Durdant-Hollamby
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Barry
Durdant-Hollamby is the founder of The
Art of
Change
 ,
a UK based organisation specialising in helping
individuals and corporations to effect sustainable,
holistic, positive change. He works intuitively on
a 1-1 or group basis and also conducts many talks
and seminars - all without notes or preparation!
Barry is also the author of three books the latest
of which is The
Male Agenda - a book
which seeks to inspire men to create greater life
balance and happiness. He is the father of two
daughters and lives in the South East of England.
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