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Why Permissiveness Doesn't Work
In his book Making Children Mind Without Losing
Yours, Dr. Kevin Leman writes: “The permissive
parent essentially says, ‘Oh, do your own
thing. Whatever you want is OK.’ My years of
counseling parents and children have shown me that
in a permissive environment, kids rebel. They rebel
because they feel anger and hatred toward their
parents for a lack of guidelines and limit setting.
In one study involving elementary grades, the
children were allowed to eat anything they wanted
in the cafeteria over a period of thirty days. The
study showed that although children predictably
would ‘pig out on sweets’ and other junk
food first, after a few weeks they tended to go
back to a quite balanced diet.” A tangible
lesson that children do indeed want rules and
boundaries. Permissiveness is wimpyness, and your
kids will end up hating you for it.
Be firm with your boundaries and guidelines, but
be gentle as well — it’s the formula for
happy, well-adjusted kids. Do it now — they
deserve it, and so do you!
© 2008 Mark
Brandenburg
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Mark has
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been a counselor, business consultant, sports
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He has worked with individuals, teams, and
businesses to improve their performance for over 20
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