Kids, Rudeness, and Teaching Moments
Heres your water bottle,
The eight-year-old snatched the bottle hard out
of his mothers hand, and said, Give me
that! A chorus of nervous laughter followed
from the parents nearby, including the boys
mother. James sauntered off, without acknowledging
his mothers offering, or the presence of the
other parents in the group.
We were attending a youth basketball game, and
the hallway outside the gym was filled with parents
and revved up kids. This kind of interaction
between children and their parents is not unusual
today. We all see examples of kids acting more
aggressively around their parents. And
unfortunately, we all see examples of their parents
doing little to change it.
In a society with kids who are plugged
in to TV, computers, and video games for
record numbers of hours each day, its easy to
blame our kids behavior on the media garbage
that enters their lives. And as stressed out as
parents are today, its also easy to turn the
other way when our kids act in rude and
But if you do turn the other way from a
teaching moment like the one
James mother had, youll create a whole
lot more trouble for yourself down the road.
We are our childs main teacher in life. We
are surrounded by sarcasm, rudeness, and aggressive
behavior. And we have the choice about whether our
children become part of this kind of culture, or
they adhere to a kinder, gentler, more respectful
one. All we need to do is to commit to what we
believe in as mentors for our children, and to
follow through with right action.
In the case of James mother, she could
track down James, and as soon as they were alone,
she could tell him that its appropriate to
say thank you when she gives him
something. She could tell him its also
appropriate to greet other adults that are in her
group, and to make eye contact with them.
This can all be done in a calm and kind manner.
It can be done many times each day, depending on
the behavior of your child. And while it may be
difficult and aggravating at times to follow up
consistently, the results will never fail to show
up in your child.
We must remember that the development of a child
is always connected to the development of a parent.
When we show discipline and patience with our
children, theyll show it to us. When we let
go of our responsibilities, our laziness shows
itself in our children just as clearly.
Parents live in challenging times, but world
peace still begins at home.
Your teaching moments are waiting, along with
© 2008 Mark
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