Do You Keep Your Promises to Your Kids?
I was bringing my kids home from a long day of play
one Fall night not long ago. It was a difficult
ride home, and they were tired, hungry, and whiny.
I wanted to get them home as fast as I could.
As we neared our house, my son exclaimed,
You said youd take us for ice
cream! I cringed when I heard this, because I
remembered that Id promised that Id
take them for ice cream. I began to give excuses
concerning why we needed to go home.
They would have none of it.
I turned the car around, and we went to get ice
We got home past their bed time, and they were
tired. But there was something that felt good about
this ice cream trip. I kept my word to my kids. And
my word is something that I always want them to be
able to count on.
Your kids will have an incredible memory for the
promises you make to them. In fact, you can assume
that any promise youve ever made to your kids
has been remembered.
Its important to know why this is so. When
kids are younger, they have very powerful emotions
that dominate their lives. Can you remember how
excited you were as a young child when you went to
a ball game for the first time or went on a
Kids live in their emotions, and when they hear
something promised to them, they get very excited.
They can picture the promise happening and keep it
with them in a way thats much more powerful
than were able to. For this reason, they
wont forget what you promise them. Ever! So
dont even think about making a promise that
you might not be able to keep.
It doesnt take too much for kids to begin
to lose trust in you. A few broken promises can
have a big impact on a child. Very simply, one of
your jobs as a father (parent) is to keep your
promises. Treat them as sacred, and do whats
necessary to keep them.
Some day your kids may grow up and have their
Wouldnt it be nice to see that
theyve learned the importance of keeping
their promises with them?
© 2008 Mark
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To this day I can remember my father's
voice, singing over me in the stillness of the
night. - Carl G. Jung
a Masters degree in counseling psychology and has
been a counselor, business consultant, sports
counselor, and a certified life and business coach.
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