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Fire In The Hole!
When giving a woman cunnilingus, too many men don't
do enough to give her that fire she wants. They
either caress her thighs a few times and that's it,
or they lay their hands off to the side, and lap
her in a very boring manner. Yes, giving a woman
cunnilingus can be boring for her if you don’t
do it right. Gee, imagine that.
Since men have first discovered what more they
can do with their tongue, women have been loving
oral sex. Next to the vibrator, this is a feeling
they love. This is an old survey, but it
doesn’t matter, because it will hold true for
years. Women love this as much as you love a good
blow job. The main thing to keep in mind is to go
at it with excitement; put your whole face into her
vagina, like a kid does when he puts his whole face
into a watermelon. Women love it!! More on this
later.
From the very beginning of making love to her,
suck on several strong mints. The purpose for this
is to not only give you fresh breath, but to give
her a tantalizing feeling when you go down on her.
The mint will pass through the skin tissue of her
vulva to her nerves. Keep in mind though that this
doesn’t work on all women. Nevertheless, try
it anyway. Make sure your mouth has that strong
mint inside, so suck on one more strong mint while
you are down by her legs, just before you move to
her vulva.
Most of her sensitive nerves in the vulva are in
the clit and in the outer edges of her inner
lips…especially the part that surrounds her
clit. Contrary to popular belief among so many men,
there is very little feeling when further inside
her. This means that many times she may want just
the head of your penis inside her, rubbing in and
out. The shape of our head is perfect for this, but
men put it in deeper, where there is less feeling
for her. Just inside her vulva also become the
tightest part during intercourse because it swells
with blood. Slow shallow fucking is something
nearly all men don’t do.
For nearly all women (NOT ALL), the sensitivity
on her clit and the lips that surround it is the
same as underneath and the tip of our dick. The
sensitivity of the outer lips of her vulva is the
same as the bottom of our penises, near the
stomach, would feel. The point past the outer edges
of her inner lips, as little as one inch deeper
inside her, are no more sensitive than our scrotum
would feel, which is pretty low. That gives you a
pretty good indicator on how sensitive each part of
her vulva is.
So, for all you guys with short penises, you
still wish for it to be longer??? When you hear so
much about how some women want a man with a big
penis, it’s because their fascination with it
is exactly the same as men have with big-breasted
women. That’s all! Some women may say they
want a big man because it feels great all the way
in, but these are the disillusioned ones. It is
very hard for them to feel it to the point of
“feeling great” because there aren’t
enough nerves there…PERIOD!
Picking back up from the previous page, you next
move from her inner thighs to her vulva, and then
gently open her lips and start licking the inside
lips, at the outer edges. Then, all of a sudden,
just like the kid putting his whole face in a
watermelon, you do the same with her vagina. Hands
down, ALL women love it when you do this! Rub your
whole face in her vagina with enthusiasm. Showing
your enthusiasm like this adds to her pleasure. It
makes a big difference! Make sure you are
absolutely clean-shaven! Stubble will ruin the
whole mood for her! Your face should be literally
as smooth as a baby’s butt!
After a little bit of this, start licking her
lips with the broad part of your tongue. She wants
your whole tongue on that area. Also, don’t
flick her clit. Most (not all) women don’t
like it. They get no arousal from it. Men see this
“flicking” on porno tapes, thinking this
is some great technique to use on her. For most
women, it’s not! Suck on her lips, drawing as
much of her lips into your mouth as you can. Women
love it when you put your mouth over her vulva and
suck on it, inserting your tongue in and out of her
at the same time.
Use what’s known as a “Hummer” on
her. This is when you have your mouth over her
vulva and / or her clit and then you hum. The
vibrations from your wet and hot mouth is an erotic
feeling for her. Do this while at the same time you
have your face completely in her vagina, moving it
all around. Another thing you can do is to give her
a raspberry. You know how you put your lips against
a woman’s neck and give her a raspberry?
… You know, like a parent does to their
baby’s stomach? Well, give her a raspberry on
her lips. Give her many, many raspberries, until
she comes! Learn to extend the vibrations from your
lips to last at least 30 seconds on her vagina
lips. With practice you can do it this long.
Next, give her clit a couple of kisses, and then
start licking it like it’s an ice cream cone,
with your tongue flat, not pointed, and with not so
much pressure. She will tell you how much pressure
to give her. Run your fingertips gently along the
inside of her thighs and stomach while you gently
use your tongue on her. Use both of your hands to
give her your total attention.
A woman E-Mailed me this little tip. She says it
feels great: While you are going down on a woman,
VERY lightly (and only a few times), tap your
fingers against her clit to really get the
sensation heightened in that area...wait a few
seconds and then resume tongue action.
If your tongue is getting tired, you can either
give it a rest for a couple of minutes by using
your nose to rub her clit and its surrounding lips,
or keep your tongue stationary and move your head
around. The one thing you have to keep in mind is
to not let her know that you are getting tired. She
shouldn’t feel that you feel that you have to
stay down there until she comes. Let her know that
you love licking her. Don’t sigh or ask if she
is coming. NEVER ASK HER! Most women can’t
come because of pressure, and it doesn’t take
much for her to feel this. She should just lay
back, relax and enjoy what you are doing to her. No
pressure.
In addition to using your tongue, you should
also use your lubricated fingertip to vigorously
rub up and down her lips. Also, gently stretch and
jiggle them. The stretching can be very stimulating
for her. Don’t be afraid to grab a pinch of
both of her lips and stretch it slightly, but, do
it slow. Stretch it out, up and down and side to
side. Do this while licking her. If she
doesn’t come within, say, ten minutes, go back
to another part of her body. Maybe go back to
kissing her, to alleviate any slight pressure she
maybe feeling. Maybe you can just lie there for a
few minutes, letting her know that it’s okay,
and that the both of you can try again. Hold her in
your arms and just talk for a while. Sometimes you
have to do things like these. She may want you to.
It’s normal with women. It’s no
one’s fault.
ALL women agree on this: The key to giving her
good cunnilingus is to stay on her clit once you
are there. All the foreplay and all the kissing are
now over. She now wants you to stay directly on her
clit. DON’T MOVE ANYWHERE ELSE UNTIL SHE
COMES! It’s just like when you want her to
stay on your penis while she’s giving you a
blow job. So, licking her clit should be the very
last thing you do for her, even after stretching
and rubbing her lips. Also, her starting to moan
and saying “YES!” is not an indication
for you to go faster. Many, many men make this
mistake. Stay right at the same speed and position
until she comes! This is very important!
Also…USE HAND LOTION IF YOUR HANDS ARE ROUGH,
AND TRIM THOSE FINGERNAILS! This was an issue with
many women. It’s very soft and sensitive
inside their vagina, so the last thing you want to
do is scratch her. Trim your nails all the way
down, and then file them smooth.
I’m going to sound like I am contradicting
myself with this next paragraph, but a couple of
women have told me about this, so, what the hell,
here it is: Before you start licking her, tell her
to let you know when she is about to come. Then
when she tells you, stop licking, and then hold
your tongue against her clit, motionless, and wait
until her urge to come goes away. Then start
licking her all over again. When she says she is
about to come again, do the same process. Wait till
her urge goes away, and then start in on her again.
Do this only twice, because of the fact too many
women can lose that mood. Her third urge to come to
orgasm should lead to a fantastic feeling for her.
If done right, that is. It’s like you would do
with the vibrator, but with this you will be
holding your tongue motionless against her clit.
Heed warning, this may not work with most
women.
Part of giving her cunnilingus is of course
using your hands. Here is a little-known technique
that women like from their lover: Place your hand
over her whole vulva, with your fingers pointing
down and the heel of your hand over her clit. Apply
a medium pressure downward, with circular
movements. This increases her arousal. You can also
use your middle finger, making sure it’s
lubricated, from the hand you are using to
penetrate her at the same time. You could do this
just before going down on her.
You’ve read on how her clit is one of the
most sensitive parts of her body, but do you think
it’s a magic hot button for you whenever you
want her to come to orgasm? … Well, just like
all the other men who are thinking the same thing,
you would be wrong. It isn’t a full-proof way,
because sometimes she just can’t come when you
are stimulating it. She could be hot and horny, but
for some odd reason there are going to be times
when it isn’t going to happen. This is normal,
and it’s no one’s fault. It happens. You
have to give it a rest for about a half an hour, or
maybe less time, and then go back to it. “Over
stimulation” is a term many women are familiar
with.
Here are a few additional things she wants you
to do at the same time you are giving her
cunnilingus:
- "Don't just keep your face in one position,
and JUST lick me. Bury your face DEEP inside me,
and move your face around...."
- "Suck my inner lips and clit, lick them,
gently nibble on them, move your face around my
vagina. Do it all!"
- "Lightly run your fingertips on the back of
my leg, directly behind my kneecap. I love it
there!"
- "While you are licking me, rub and gently
scratch my thighs all over the place, especially
the inner thighs, next to my pu**y."
- "Ask me where my hot spots are below my
hips, and work those areas also."
- "For the first few minutes, go up and down
between my vagina and toes, sucking, licking and
kissing every square inch of area in between.
Then stay on my clit until I come."
Well, ok then!
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Perry
Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles
on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the
author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For
Women About Men. & Women and Sex And
Dating, For The Single Man published by
Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from
complete strangers, to finding that right person to
be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men
and women on what they like and want from one
another. The findings were published in Women,
Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site
is bettersexbetterdating.com
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