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Spicing Up The Missionary Position
Getting a woman to come to a strong and satisfying
orgasm while in the missionary position is
something many, MANY men are on an ongoing search
to find out how to do. And since the average woman
would like to be face to face with her lover when
she comes, she too would like to know how to
achieve this.
Many couples who have been together for a while
think of the missionary position as boring, and,
not that stimulating for the woman. Of all the
positions, the missionary is the least popular, and
the most unimaginative. But, it doesn’t have
to be. And, on top of that (excuse the pun), from
that position, it's virtually impossible for most
women to come to orgasm because their clitoris
isn't being stimulated. Nearly all of a woman's
most sensitive nerves are on their clit, while the
less sensitive ones are on their inner lips, near
the opening. A woman can of course still come from
the stimulation of her inner lips, but it
wouldn’t be as strong as she would like it to
be.
The following is for the very few women out
there who can still have a satisfying orgasm with
your penis inside her, where her clit isn’t
being stimulated. Both can come to orgasm, while he
is inside her. Most women would prefer to come to a
strong orgasm while her lover is on top because she
is face to face with him. She is able to hold her
arms around him, while he does the same to her.
There are 5 ways to spice up the boring
missionary position. Let’s start off with the
first one.
ONE: Start off by gently taking the tip
of your penis and rubbing her clit and the
surrounding lips. (Use one of your hands to
separate her lips, while you use the other to rub
your penis on her clit.) Go in circular motions and
ask her if she can feel it. Do it slowly and
gently, then fast and rough. You can also rub your
penis across her nipples. This is an arousing sight
for some women.
Next, whisper in her ear: "Are you ready?" (One
woman commented that her boyfriend would always ask
first if he can go inside. This was very special
for her, since most men don’t do this. So, ask
first. Can I go inside? It is something that is
very nice, AND DIFFERENT, for her.) If she is
ready, begin to slide just the head of your penis
in her. Now pull it back out, and then put it back
in, just at the tip. Do this for about a minute or
two.
Now go in about a half-inch deeper, and do the
same thing as before. Take it out slowly and put it
back in her. … In and out, in and out. Do this
for another minute. The reasoning for this is to
tease her to the point of having that strong
desire.
Now put it in her all the way, kissing, gently
biting and hugging her at the same time. Kissing
and sucking her ears are one of the most important
things to do to her. Suck on her ear lobes. Lick
her whole ear. Imitate the sound of a snore and
slightly make that sound in her ear, at the same
time slightly letting your warm breath touch
it.
Another thing that works wonders is humming in
her ear. Let the vibrations from your mouth touch
her ear as you are humming. Rubbing your cheek up
against hers and rubbing your nose in her ear are
other things that make a big difference.
And, always remember to tell her how good she
feels. Also, tell her she smells absolutely
fantastic. Whisper things like that in her ear.
It’s little, insignificant things like that
that matter the most.
When you are in her all the way, whisper in her
ear if she wants you to stay where you are at, or
to keep penetrating. Some women like for you to
stay inside her, motionless, while she squeezes her
vagina muscles around your penis, while there are
others who want you to keep penetrating. When she
has that orgasm, it will be like a fantastic
explosion in her. She will have that feeling of
total satisfaction. This is the whole
purpose…to create this wonderful feeling for
her. A feeling that she should feel every time you
make love to her.
Many men just thrust in and out, in and out, in
and out at a continuous pace. Liven it up by going
slow for a about a minute or two, and then fast and
hard. You should also stop thrusting. Kiss and
caress her cheeks while you are motionless inside
her. Then start back up again. Break up the
monotony.
TWO: Another technique you can use to
give the missionary position an extra zip is to
have her raise her right leg until her knee is even
with your left shoulder. (Hold it up for her, while
kissing and licking it.) She should leave her left
leg flat on the bed. Then direct your thrusts
towards her inner thigh of her raised leg. By her
doing this, it stretches her vagina a little bit,
allowing for tighter penetration and more pressure
on her clit. Keep in mind that this technique
isn’t full proof with all women. Nevertheless,
experiment with it. At least she knows you like to
experiment in bed, which many women find appealing
in men.
THREE: When our head is upside down, we
feel a rush as blood pours in and oxygen is
depleted. For some women, combining this with
physical pleasure could heighten her orgasm. This
does have an affect with some women. Try this with
the next woman you are with (She will love all of
this experimenting!): Have her lie on her back
across the bed, with her head and shoulders
dangling over the edge. Make sure she keeps as much
of her lower back on the mattress as possible. And,
of course, stop if she becomes too
light-headed.
This angle you have her at shouldn’t be
reserved just for the missionary position. You
should also go down on her and / or use her
vibrator on her. Experiment with her when she is at
this angle.
FOUR: If you don't know about this little
toy already, the perfect toy for this position is a
small vibrator that is held to her clit by a thong
strap that goes around her hip. She will get both
the sensation from that and from your penis inside
of her! They come small enough to where they won't
get in your way while you are thrusting inside of
her. Be sure to ask the salesperson that it is
indeed small enough so it won't be in the way. Here
are a few good vibrators: Click
FIVE: And lastly, you can still hit her
clit while at the same time you are showing her
that you have some imagination for the missionary
position. Get high up on her so your hips are above
hers, and then enter her at a downward angle, very,
very slowly, making sure you rub down her clit when
penetrating her.
And don’t forget the pillow under her butt.
Jacking up her hips adds even more spice to this
position. With all this information at your
fingertips, you are now able to show her that this
position can be one of the most popular. You both
can now have fun at the same time, where she can
also come to orgasm. These techniques are also
perfect for the less-endowed men!
See Perry's other weekly columns
on Dating
or Relationships.
Perry
Rose is a syndicated freelance writer for singles
on sex, dating and relationships. He is also the
author of, All About Men: Another Damn Book For
Women About Men. & Women and Sex And
Dating, For The Single Man published by
Intimacy Books. From first getting dates from
complete strangers, to finding that right person to
be with, Intimacy Books has interviewed single men
and women on what they like and want from one
another. The findings were published in Women,
Sex and Dating, for the Single Man. Their site
is bettersexbetterdating.com
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