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March
Weaving a Relationship
Several months ago I asked some friends who
recently had a baby if they had decided what kind
of parenting style they were going to use They gave
me a quizzical look and I clarified. I mentioned
that there are many different methods or rearing
children - ranging from strict disciplinarian to
hands off. I wanted to know if they read about or
discussed the various methods they would use to
raise their baby?
Like many parents, they hadn't given it too much
thought. Basically, they were going to raise their
child how they remember being raised. Some parents
who feel they had a poor upbringing try to raise
their children the exact opposite way they were
raised. In reality, our friends had no real plan
for raising their child.
I see this same approach in relationships and it
can be very unhealthy. Just because you turned out
"ok" doesn't mean that you were reared wonderfully.
And just because your parents never divorced
doesn't mean you should mimic their
relationship.
If you want to be a great basket weaver how
would you go about it? By instinct? By watching
those who make ordinary or even awful baskets? If
you want to be a top-notch basket weaver you would
spend a lot of time watching experts in the field,
noting their technique. You would read books on the
subject and take some courses. When it came to
weaving your basket, you would probably have some
ideas and concepts about what you wanted it to look
like before you even started.
A relationship is a lot more complex than making
baskets. If you want to have a top-notch
relationship then you can't simply let nature take
its course. You must have a plan. First, you make
the decision that you are going to have a blissful
relationship and hopefully you can get your mate to
agree to the same. You will want to observe couples
who have blissful relationships and maybe ask them
a lot of questions. You should read books on the
subject and perhaps take some courses from
experts.
Raising well-behaved, respectful children takes
a lot of time, thought and effort. Creating a
beautiful basket takes skill, dedication and good
teaching. A blissful relationship takes all the
above and then some.
©2010, Michael Webb
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