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November
A Well Seasoned Courtship
A woman recently wrote to me asking for advice for
her relationship. Her fiance proposed to her on
their third date. She was thrilled at first but now
the excitement has dwindled and she wanted some
ideas for reigniting that spark.
My first bit of advice to her was to break off
the engagement but continue to date the guy. They
jumped in too fast and made a decision based too
much on emotions. While it is possible they could
end up having a blissful marriage, the odds are
against them. Perhaps you often hear of people who
"fell in love at first site," married shortly
thereafter and are still going strong. Sadly, for
every one of those love at first site, blissfully
married couples there are hundreds of others whose
marriage ended in a bitter divorce.
Like the seasons, people change throughout the
year. Woman and men have a noticeable reaction to
the climate outdoors and the changes in the
seasons. It was probably this very reason many
marriage counselors recommend this dating ritual: A
relationship should be well-seasoned before there
is a commitment to marriage. After witnessing
hundreds of courtships, engagements, marriages and
divorces, I firmly believe that a couple should at
the least date in the Winter, Spring, Summer and
Autumn before tying the knot.
It is a well documented statistic that couples
who have dated for a year or longer before marriage
have a significantly lower rate of divorce than
those who married after a short dating period. A
year of dating gives time for many emotions to
surface and many character traits to be discovered.
You may adore someone in the Spring, but despise
them in the Winter. Asking someone for their hand
in marriage on the third date isn't romantic. It's
gambling.
Something to think about...
©2010, Michael Webb
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Romance is a love affair in other than domestic
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Michael Webb is
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having appeared on over 400 radio and television
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for over 10 years. He is the best-selling author of
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