Secrets of
Blissful Relationships

The Gift of Freedom

I attended a small, private college back in the late 80s. One of the years a policy of prohibition was introduced. No alcohol was going to be allowed on campus. The reason behind the decision was that a number of students were having problems with alcohol. They couldn't resist the temptation to drink it in excessive amounts. The policy was not meant to punish students from enjoying a beer or a glass of wine here and there. It was meant to be a measure of love to those students who had little self-control around liquor. Many students, however, simply saw it as one of their "freedoms" being taken away. They cared little that expressing their "freedom" was actually a "curse" to others.

In a truly loving and blissful relationship, we are willing to sacrifice some of our own freedoms for the benefit of our spouse. Here are a few freedoms you might need to freely give up.

  • Eating tempting desserts or foods in front of someone who is trying to lose weight
  • Smoking near someone who is trying to kick the habit
  • Drinking alcohol in the presence of someone who shouldn't imbibe.
  • Inviting over friends or relatives who give your mate a lot of stress
  • Subscribing to cable if your sweetheart is likely to become a couch potato
  • Enjoying prolonged hugging, kissing and other physical affection if it will cause sexual frustration with your boyfriend/girlfriend
  • Engaging topics of conversation that make your spouse irate
  • Spending lots of time with members of the opposite sex if your partner is prone to severe jealousy

In a blissful relationship, you love your mate more than you love yourself. So giving up freedoms don't really seem like a sacrifices -- they feel more like gifts.

Something to think about...

©2009, Michael Webb

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Michael Webb is a world renowned relationship and romance expert having appeared on over 400 radio and television shows. He and his wife have been blissfully married for over 10 years. He is the best-selling author of The RoMANtic's Guide: Hundreds of creative tips for a lifetime of love.. Sign up for his FREE relationship tips newsletter by sending a blank e-mail to: E-Mail or visit or E-Mail

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