Alternatives to Violence

Menstuff® has gathered alternatives to violence programs for men perpetrators and victims and for women perpetrators - believed to be the largest listing in the U.S. Use caution in visiting many of the Domestic Violence resources. Some national, regional and local resources that use names like Family Violence Services, or Coalition Against Domestic Violence or Coalition to End Domestic Violence or Commission on Family Violence are misleading titles since some don't provide services for male victims and their children and women perpetrators. Whether politically motivated or behind in understanding domestic violence or desiring to keep the statistics skewed to falsely show that women are the only victims of domestic violence, these often publicly funded organizations do not serve the broader community by their politically motivated view of domestic violence.

Where you see an bold 86, that is for male survivors, and a bold 89 is a program for a female perpetrator (of the 34 programs listed as 89, only 7 are based outside California.). Related Issue: Women Who Sexually Abuse Children

According to the U. S. Department of Justice and the Centers for Disease Prevention & Control, 1998: over one-third of all domestic perpetrators who enter the justice system are women. (835M women and 1,500M men). It is our ongoing commitment to list services that include prevention programs (37 of which also include support for female perpetrators), and victim assistance programs for women and men as well as the issues of Domestic Violence, including the Rights of Battered Men and Violence - General and TV Violence and media and governmental Contacts.

This is a growing list of services. If you know of a city, county or state directory or commission on Domestic Violence or programs that are not included here, please let us know. We've listed languages and services that we've been informed are provided (see legend). This is not all inclusive, thought we hope that it becomes that.

Local Men's Alternatives to Violence Programs
State Domestic Violence Resources
National Domestic Violence Resources
Resource centers for professionals and agencies
Canada & International Resources
Books on abuse, sexual harassment, violence-general, domestic violence and womens' violence
The Duluth Model
Additional Domestic Violence Resources Directory

 

Introducing the DesertLight Group

Are you divorced and separated from your kids? Are you a man being abused by his wife (or significant other)? Are you a man who feels like nobody cares? Or are you a man with a good life; a solid marriage and children or grandchildren who wonders about the institutions of marriage and family disappearing before your eyes?

The DesertLight Group cares. Right now we are a small collection of people with no access to legal or medical/psychological help. All we want to do is give you the opportunity to tell your story and know that someone hears. That’s because we do care.

Men still hold up half the sky, and fill the majority of the protective positions such as military and law enforcement. Men do the ditch digging, the crop harvesting, the building of wondrous structures. Men are still our only fathers. Men are the people most women simply can’t live without.

Please tell us your story. We can’t offer solutions, but we can listen. Our hope is that if enough men tell their stories, we can make some changes in the way men are treated by our governments and major corporations.

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Local Men's Alternatives to Violence Programs

LEGEND:

Clients handled:
Perpetrators: Male-85, Gay-87, Female-89, Lesbian-91;
Victims: Male-86, Gay-88, Female-90, Lesbian-92, Children-93, Teens-94, Elders-95, Gay/lesbian sensitive-99

Language:
Armenian-50, Asian Pacific Islander-51, Assirian-52, Cantonese-53, Chinese-54, Czech-55, English-56, Farsi-57, French-58, German-59, Hebrew-60, Ibo-61, Italian-62, Japanese-63, Korean-64, Lebanese-65, Mandarin-66, Pacific Rim-67, Polish-68, Portuguese-69, Punjabi-49, Russian-70, Slovak-71, Spanish-72, Tagalog-73, Thai-74, Vietnamese-75, Yiddish-76.

Special Services:
ASL translator-77, deaf-78, disabled-79, low income-indigent-80, mildly retarded-81, visual impared-82, wheelchair access-83, referrals-97, educational-98. Crisis Line

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CALIFORNIA

NOTE: There are many good services in the Los Angeles, CA area. However, a law suit was brought against the city to reduce the requirements to be approved, and in the process, we understand that some operations may be questionable. Check the reputation with former clients and with other Men's Alternatives To Violence programs. Would they recommend the one you're interested in? Also, call to determine if the group you want to attend provides the services you need. Also, check local phone books, other men's services and shelters for other organizations.

Also, the northern California chapter of SAFE has a roster of Bay Area therapists and counselors who work with both male and female victims, as well as well individuals who want to gain anger-management skills. For more information, contact John Hamel, LCSW at 415.472.3275.

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State Coalitions on Domestic Violence

It is often claimed that if you are a male victim of domestic violence and you can't find any resources, that you could call a woman's shelter. As stated in Michigan, many of the shelter's service male victims and female perpetrators or have resources for them. In some states, however, the definition of domestic violence is only male perpetrator to female victim. So, if you are a male victim, proceed with caution and consider making your call from a pay phone. On the federal level, while the U.S. Department of Justice does have a Violence Against Women Office, there is no such Violence Against Men office, and many of the resources and information provided are directed to women as victims and men as perpetrators. (Be sure to read our section on Domestic Violence if you are a male victim.)


National Organizations on Domestic Violence

Resource centers for professionals and agencies.

INTERNATIONAL

AUSTRALIA

CANADA

ENGLAND

IRELAND

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