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Ambrose,
Stephen E., Comrades: Brothers, fathers, heroes, sons,
pals. This is a celebration of male friendship, taken both
from the pages of history and from this acclaimed historian's own
life. He begins his examination with a glance inward - he starts
this book with his brothers, his first and forever friends, and
the shared experiences that join them for a lifetime, overcoming
distance and understandings. He writes of Dwight D. Eisenhower,
who had a golden gift for friendship and who shared a perfect
trust with his younger brother Milton in spite of their apparently
unequal stations. With great feeling, the author brings to life
the relationships of the young soldiers of Easy Company who fought
and died together from Normandy to Germany, and he describes with
admiration three who fought in different armies on different sides
in that war and became friends later. He recounts the friendships
of Lewis and Clark and of Crazy Horse and He Dog, and he tells the
story of the Custer brothers who died together at the Little Big
Horn. This book concludes with the author's moving recollection of
his friendship with his father. "He was my first and always most
important friend. I didn't learn that until the end, when he
taught me to the most important thing, that the love of
father-son-father-son is a continuum, just as love and friendship
are expansive. Touchstone, www.simonsays.com
1999, ISBN 0-7432-0074-8 Buy
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Baker, Jean, Family Secrets, Gay
Sons: A mother's story. Written from the viewpoint
of a parent/psychologist, this book offers insights into the
developmental needs of gay and lesbian children in a way no other
book has done. School counselors, psychologists, marriage and
family counselors, teachers, school administrators, and the
parents and siblings of gays and lesbians will all learn new
levels of acceptance from reading this honest, helpful, and
encouraging book. Harrington Park Press, 1998
ISBN 1-56023-915-8 Buy
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Brown, Pam, To a Very Special Dad, Exley, 1993
Brown, Ron, My Father has Left Me and I'm
About to Go Off! A guide to raising a young
son. Black males are under assault from many sources. Not that
this news is new. Whether listening to the evening news or
remembering the lost sons of family and friends, the impact of the
loss of so many of our young men to jail or the grave is
devastating to the African American community. With the
emasculating effect on men and the disproportionate burden placed
on women in the Black community, it is easy to see the problem,
but where are the solutions? This book addresses the loss of black
fathers in our communities. It speaks of anger, despair and
isolation that is part of the lives of many black youths who live
in female run households. And it tells the story of how one young
boy transcended those feelings to find hope, redemption and new
directions, finding his own soul and letting it soar.
Four-G Publishers 1999 ISBN 1885066597 Buy
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Chandler, Kurt, Shaving
Lessons: A memoir of father and son.With a mixture
of admiration, amusement, and alarm, the author watches his son
Ben navigate his freshman year of high school. It is a
transitional time for both - father at midlife and son on his way
to becoming a man - which they manage by turns awkward and
graceful. A road trip to Graceland, a rock concert, dirt bike
accidents, baseball tryouts, chauffeuring Ben and friends on a
date, and the fine art of sharing are among the rites of passage
that raise new tensions and bring them closer together. In all
these adventures, the author recalls his own formative years and
relationship with his father. This is a truly honest and moving
memoir that captures perfectly what it means to be a father - and
a son. Chronicle Books, www.chroniclebooks.com
2000, ISBN 0-8118-2360-1 Buy
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Chethik, Neil, Fatherloss: How sons
of all ages come to terms with the deaths of their dads.
Sigmund Freud called it "the most poignant loss" of his life.
Actor Sean Connery termed it "a shattering blow." Writer
Norman Mailer likened it to "having a hole in your tooth. It's a
pain that can never be filled." The experience of losing a father
- no matter when or how it occurs - tests the strength and
resilience of a son. In the worst of circumstances, the loss can
propel a son toward despondency; in the best, it can inspire in
him a new appreciation for his life and loves, and move him with
urgency to make the most of his remaining years. Based on a
landmark national survey of more than 300 men, and in-depth
interviews with 70 others, this book is a rich and nuanced
exploration of one of the most common and least studied events in
men's lives. The book offers a fresh view of the male grieving
process and practical advice to help guide sons through the loss
of their fathers, no matter what stage of life the son is in when
the death occurs. The author original research is fascinating and
often surprising. His study finds, for example, that a man's
relationship with his spouse or partner is twice as likely to get
better than worse after the death of his father. The book also
offers portraits of John F. Kennedy, Jr., Michael Jordan, Ernest
Hemingway, and other well-known men, focusing on how they came to
terms with the deaths of their fathers. And in the closing
chapter, the author, the father of a seven-year-old son, shares
what he learned about being a father during his three years of
research. Compelling and compassionate, this is an extraordinary
resource for anyone facing the death of a father, or still
adjusting to such a loss that occurred years or even decades ago.
www.kentuckyconnect.com/health/stories/men/0109father_loss.htm
Hyperion, www.HyperionBooks.com
2001 ISBN 0-7868-6532-6 Buy
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Collins, Alfred, Fatherson: A self psychology of the
archetypal masculine. Using a varied palette of examples from
the literature of both Western and non-Western cultures, the
author illustrates the Fatherson archetype from angles both
personal and professional. He writes, "In the modern
postindustrial West, discord and neglect seem increasingly to
dominate the father-son relationship, to the point that for many
men the father-son bond has been disrupted, or was never
adequately formed in the first place. As the status and role of
the Father has been diminished, sons have run wild and free in his
absence. The weakened father is not limited to the mass
media: he can be found in therapists' offices (even many of
the therapists), or more often, licking his wounds in bars and in
the audiences of athletic events. Weak fathers often compensate
with brutality, but whether they are outwardly weak or brutal,
sons suffer." Chiron, 1994 ISBN 0-933029-75-6 Buy
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Elium, Don
& Jeane, Raising a Son: Parents and the making of
a healthy man. Boys need to know three
things: Who's the boss? What are the
rules? And, are you going to enforce
them? Sons need firm, kind leadership. One of the few
parenting books that husbands steal from their wives, this is the
straightforward, easy-to-read family bookshelf standard. The
authors continue to chart new territory with this new, updated,
expanded and revised edition. Look of discussions
on: boys and ADD, teaching boys to nurture themselves
and others at home, creating balance between work and home (what
many fathers need to learn), a resource section for parents of gay
sons and other sexual identity issues, new, updated parenting
resources, an index for quick reference and more. Celestial Arts,
Revised and updated. 1996 ISBN 0-89087-811-0 Buy
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Evetts-Secker, Josephine, The Barefoot
Book of Father and Son Tales. This richly illustrated book
presents father and son tales from all over the world, exploring
many aspects of this unique family relationship. Kings, merchants
and peasants from Polynesia to Chile all have a powerful influence
over the development of their sons, often setting them specific
tasks in order that they may acquire the wisdom and courage they
need to become independent. Sometimes these fathers are loving and
gentle, sometimes foolish and overambitious. The behavior of the
young heroes themselves also varies considerably: some have to
strive hard to endure their challenge, while others are fortunate
enough to find themselves in the right place at the right time.
Reaching across geographical boundaries, the bond between fathers
and sons is important to all kinds of families. Parents and
children alike will relish the wisdom and drama of this exciting
collection. Barefoot Books 1999
Exley, The Best of Father Quotations, Exley, 1995
Garbarino, James, Lost
Boys: Why our sons turn violent and how we can save
them. After more than a decade of increase in the urban war
zones of large cities, violence by young boys and adolescents is
on the rise in our suburbs, small towns, and rural communities.
The author believes that boys everywhere really are angrier and
more violent than ever before. In light of the recent school-based
shootings, it's now clear that no matter where we live or how hard
we try as parents, chances are our children are going to school
with troubled boys (and girls, ed.) capable of getting guns and
pulling triggers. This books shows why young men and boys have
become increasingly vulnerable to violent crime and how lack of
adult supervision and support poses a real and growing threat to
our children's basic safety. For these vulnerable boys, violence
can become normal, the "right thing to do". Fortunately, parents
can spot troubled boys and take steps to protect their families
from violence if they know what signs to look for - lack of
connection, masking emotions, withdrawal, silence, rage, trouble
with friends, hypervigilance, cruelty toward other children and
even animals - all warning signs that every parent and peer can
recognize and report. By outlining the steps parents, teachers,
and public officials can take to keep all children safer, the
author holds out hope and solutions for turning our kids away from
violence, before it's too late. This may be the most important and
original book ever written about boys. The Free Press www.SimonSays.com
1999 ISBN 0-684-85908-4 Buy
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Glennon, Will, 200 Ways to Raise a Boy's
Emotional Intelligence: An indispensable guide for parents,
teachers and other concerned caregivers. In the same informed
and caring approach he brought to his parenting classic
Fathering and as editor of the best-selling Random Acts
of Kindness series, the author offers practical, well-reasoned
suggestions for raising emotionally aware and healthy boys. A
nationally recognized parenting expert and spokesperson for
fathers, he presents straightforward and well-researched ways both
to nurture young men and, in turn, to teach them how to be
nurturing. As we enter the twenty-first century, it is alarming
how few real solutions are available to teach boys how to
effectively connect with and manage their feelings and to use them
constructively and not destructively. He provides these much
needed solutions and addresses them to everyone in a young man's
life - from parents and teachers to friends and classmates - who
has the ability to impact his inner life. This key that can unlock
a boy's heart and mind. Conari Press, www.conari.com
or conair@conari.com or
800.685.9595. 2000 ISBN 1-57324-020-6 Buy
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Gordon, Barry, Your Father, Your Self: how
sons and daughters can understand and heal their relationships
with their fathers. The role of the father is central to the
emotional life of children and often is key to the quality of
their adulthood. Too often, poor relationships with fathers leave
sons and daughters unfulfilled and plagued by anger, misunderstood
grief, insecurity and even serious anxiety and depression. Here
the author covers two aspects of relationships with a father:
restoring the son's or daughter's psychological well-being by
healing the emotional wounds that result from failure to connect
with one's father and attempting to change and heal the current
relationship between them. The book demonstrates the emotional
rewards of working hard to heal relationships with one's father,
including a new self-perspective and improved relationships not
only with fathers, but with other family members, friends,
children and coworkers. It is a poignant and moving reminder of
the powerful role a father plays in our lives and of the emotional
imperatives that lead us to seek a deeper union with him. Carol
Publishing, 1996
Goulding, Jim, From the Pits to the
Pits. The true story of a man who enters the Chicago Board of
Trade as a 17-year-old runner and becomes a million dollar broker,
all the while believing that his success will win the one thing he
seeks so desperately - his father's love. RJ Communications,
www.booksjustbooks.com,
2002, ISBN 0-9717606-0-8 Buy
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Gurian, Michael, Prince & the
King: Healing the Father-Son Wound, A guided
journey of initiation, Tarcher, 1993
Gurian, Michael and Kathy Stevens, The
Minds of Boys: Saving our sons from falling behind in school
and life. There's a crisis in our society that's been
developing for years. This crisis has captured the attention of
everyone from the parent at the playground to the teacher in your
neighborhood classroom. Too many of our boys and young men are
falling behind in school and life. Boys receive the majority of
the Ds and Fs given all students, and they create 90 percent of
classroom discipline problems. Eighty percent of all high school
dropouts are boys, millions of American boys are on Ritalin and
other drugs, three out of four learning-disabled students are
boys, and colleges are struggling to retain male students. This
startling trend is not only bad for boys but also for parents,
communities, and for humanity's future in general. In this
fascinating and pratical book, the authors show parents and
teachers how to help our boys overcome their current classroom
obstacles and failures. They offer clear-cut step-by-step guidance
to help boys fulfill themselves, use their intelligence, work with
their unique natural gifts, expand every bit of their potential,
and ultimately succeed in life. Jossey-Bass, www.josseybass.com,
2005, ISBN 0-7879-7761-6 
Gurian, Michael, The Purpose of
Boys: Helping our sons find meaning, significance, and
direction in their lives.
Gurian, Michael, The
Wonder of Boys: What parents, mentors and educators can
do to shape boys into exceptional men. Parenting boys has
always held special challenges. Today, the decline of traditional
families, shifting values, the lure of gangs, the loss of positive
male role models, and the widespread depiction of irresponsible
sexuality can all lure boys away from the direction in which we
hope they will grow. In this insightful and practical book, the
author describes what boys need to become strong, responsible,
sensitive men. It offers a concrete plan that begins at home, but
extends deep into the community. The author has the courage to
advocate for moral and spiritual values, for teaching boys about
sex and love, and finally for a new male model of "husbandry," not
just of family, but also of the community and the earth.
Tarcher/Putnam, www.putnam.com
1996 ISBN 0-87477-8341-X Buy
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Halpern, Justin Sh*t My
Dad Says. After being dumped by his longtime girlfriend, the
author found himself living at home with his
seventy-three-year-old dad who is like Socrates, but angrier, and
with worse hair." He has never minced words and when the author
moved back home, he began to record all of the ridiculous things
his dad said to him. More than a million people how follow his
philosophical musings on Twitter, and in this book, his son weaves
a brilliantly funny, touching coming-of-age memoir around the
beset of his quotes. An all-American story that unfolds on the
Little League field, in Dennny's, during excruciating family road
trips, and, most frequently, in the authors kitchen over bowls of
Grape-Nuts. This book is a chaotic, hilarious, true portrait of a
father-son relationship from a major new comic voice. www.ShitMyDadSays.com
or www.Twitter.com.ShitMyDadSays.
HarperCollins, 2010 ISBN 978-0-06-199270-4 
Harbowski, Freeman A., Kenneth Maton
& Geoffrey Grief, Beating the Odds: Raising
academically successful African American males. Today, young
Black men are more likely to be killed or sent to prison than to
graduate from college. Yet, despite all the obstacles, some are
achieving at the highest academic and professional levels. This
book tells their remarkable stories and shows us what African
American families have done to raise academically successful sons,
sons who are among the top two percent of African American males
in terms of SAT scores and grades. The result of extensive
and innovative research, this book goes beyond analysis - and
beyond the relentlessly negative media images - to show us
precisely how young Black men can succeed despite the roadblocks
of racism, the temptations of crime and drugs, and a popular
culture that values being "cool" over being educated. Oxford
University Press, 1998 ISBN 0-19-5102193 Buy
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Hochschild, Adam, Half the Way Home: A memoir of father
& son, Penguin, 1987
Hoyland, John, Fathers & Sons, Serpent's Trail,
1992
Jampolsky, Gerald & Lee, Listen to Me: A book for women and
men about father-son relationships,. In this courageous and
collaborative tribute to the father-son relationship, they explore
their own history and relationship in a series of personal letters
to each other. In three parts, their letters reveal the story of
conflict, inner struggle, doubt, fear and love that are a part of
every man's life. Sharing in their self-doubt, anger, frustration
and genuine affection for each other, they take us to a place of
compassion and understanding. Insightful reflections and helpful
guidelines at the end of each chapter give readers the stepping
stores which mark the path to better and happier relationships.
Through these intimate dialogues, they help readers achieve
peaceful resolutions or deeper wisdom about father-son
relationships. Celestial Arts, 1996 ISBN 0-89087-810-2
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Keyes, Ralph, Sons on Fathers: A book of men's
writing, Harper Collins, 1992
Kindlon, Dan & Michael Thompson,
Raising Cain: Protecting the emotional life of
boys. Two the the nation's leading psychologists share what
they have learned in more than thirty-five years of combined
expeirnece working with boys and their families. They reveal a
nationa of boys who are hurting - sad, afraid, angry and silent.
Statistics point to an alarming number of young boys at high risk
for suicide, alcohol and drug abuse, violence and loneliness. The
crucial question: What do boys need that they're not
getting? They illuminate the forces that threaten our boys,
teaching them to believe that "cool" equals macho strength and
stoicism. Cutting through outdated theories of "mother blame",
"boy biology" and "testosterone", they shed light on the
destructive emotional training our boys receive - the emotional
miseducation of boys. They paint a portrait of boys systematically
steered away from their eomotional lives by adults and the peer
("culture of cruelty") boys, who receive little encouragement to
develop qualities such as compassion, sensitivity, and warmth. The
good news is that this doesn't have to happen. They identify the
social and emotional challenges that boys encounter in school and
show how parents can help boys cultivate emotional awareness and
empathy - giving them the vital connections and support they need
to navigate the social pressures of youth (and eliminate the No
Fear culture - ed.) Ballantine Books www.randomhouse.com/BB/
1999 ISBN 034542457-3 Buy
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Kivel, Paul, Boys Will Be Boys: Raising
our sons for courage, caring and community. Young people today
face a world of ever-increasing complexity, alienation and
violence. But our schools and other institutions seem largely
unable to provide them with the skills and understnaing they need
to survive, to thrive, and to make a difference. The cycle of
violence and injustice that entraps them will not stop until boys
are raised to become powerful and loving participants in the
struggle to end it. Drawing on his decades of experience as a
socal activist and his anti-violence work with men and teens, the
author helps parents and educators grapple with the complex forces
in our sons' lives, including racism, homophobia, pornography,
drugs, class, consumerism, sex and violence. He then provides
practical tools to empower boys to take the courageous step out of
the "act like a man" box to become allies to themselves, each
other, and all those who are vulnerabvle to violence and injustice
in our society. The end result gives the reader a powerful (if not
scewed-ed) vision of raising our sons to be the critically
thinking, socially-invested men we need for a multicultural and
democratic society. This is essential reading for all parents and
educators determined to provide a positive future for boys
everywhere. New Society Publishers, 1999 ISBN 0-86571-395-2
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Kivel, Paul, Boys Will Be Men: Raising
our sons for courage, caring and community. Young people today
face a world of ever-increasing complexity, alienation, and
violence. But our schools and other institutions seem largely
unable to provide them with the skills and understanding they need
to survive, to thrive, and to make a difference. The cycle of
violence and injustice that entraps them will not stop until boys
are raised to become powerful and loving participants in the
struggle to end it. Drawing on his decades of experience as a
social activist and his anti-violence work with men and teens, the
author helps parents and educators grapple with the complex forces
in our sons' lives, including racism, homophobia, pornography,
drugs, class, consumerism, sex , and violence. He then provides
practical tools to empower boys to take the courageous step out of
the "act like a man" box to become allies to themselves, each
other, and all those who are vulnerable to violence and injustice
in our society. The end result gives the reader a powerful vision
of raising our sons to be the critically thinking,
socially-invested men we need for a multicultural and democratic
society. It is essential reading for all parents and educators
determined to provide a positive future for boys everywhere. New
Society Publishers, www.newsociety.com,
1999, ISBN 0-86571-395-2 
Klein, Art, Dad & Son: A Memoir about
Reclaiming Fatherhood and Manhood. The story begins with
devastation - Art was incapacitated for five years with a rare
mysopethic disorder. At his sons birth, he was scarcely ambulatory
and all but blind and deaf from his illness. He had lost his
business contacts, his belief that he could be a father, his
purpose in living. When he gathered the will to search for a way
to independently transport himself and his family, he began to
find life again. It reveals much about a man's innate desire to
reclaim a purposeful fatherhood and manhood. It ends with hope - a
near-miraculous recovery based on his newfound sense of fatherhood
and manhood. In sharp contrast to the male-trashing myths so
prevalent in our culture, he chronicles and importance to one man,
and to all men, of the fatherly and brotherly love men must give
to themselves, their children and their world. What you will come
to realize is that - needed legal-system changes aside- men will
never fully embrace fatherhood until it becomes accepted that
fathering, whether biological or attitudinal, is the essence of
being a man. This book will definitely help. Tortoise Books,
516.725.9465, 1996
Lee, John, At My Father's Wedding: Reclaiming our
true masculinity, Bantam, 1991
Lee, John, The Wounded Lover: A book for women
raising sons and men coming to terms with their fathers,
(formerly At My Fathers Wedding), Ally Press, 1995
Madaras, Lynda, What's Happening to My Body Book for
Boys: A growing up guide for parnents and sons. How
can you help your son through the awkward, often painful,
transition to young manhood? For many adolescents and adults,
the author has become the authoritative source of honest,
sensitive, comprehensive information about the emotional and
physical experience of puberty. Written in a comfortable,
non-judgemental tone suitable for nine to fifteen year olds, and
laced throughout with anecdotes and real-life experiences, the
book covers the body's changing size and shape, the growth spurt,
reproductive organs, perspiration, pimples, voice changes, beards,
puberty in girls and more. There is also crucial information on
AIDS, STDs and birth control appropriate for this age. Another
addition is a new chapter with advice on how to handle urges,
guilt and the yearning for privacy. Newmarket Press, 1988
ISBN 0-937858-99-4
Madaras, Lynda, What's Happening to My Body Book for
Girls: A growing up guide for parents and daughters. How
can you help a young girl handle her transition to
womanhood? "Once they hit puberty, they get an
attitude. There's just no talking to them." Many parents have this
experience. They feel they're losing their daughterr, just when
their daughters need them most. How can parents - and teachers,
too - help each other through this awkward, often painful
period? For many adolescents and adults, the author has
become the authoritative source for honest, sensitive,
comprehensive information about the emotional and physical
experience of puberty. Written in a comfortable, non-judgemental
tone suitble for nine to fifteen year olds, and laced throughout
with anecdotes and real-life experiences, the book covers the
body's changing size and shape, breasts, the reproductive organs,
the menstrual cycle, public hair, puberty in boys, and more. There
is also crucial information on AIDS, STDs and birth control
appropriate for this age. Another addition is a new chapter with
advice on how to handle urges, guilt and the yearning for privacy.
Newmarket Press, 1988 ISBN 0-937858-98-6
Manguel, Alberto, Fathers
& Sons: An anthology. Men are both fathers and
sons. This fundamental relationship is the subject of these twenty
moving, loving and insightful short stories. Renowned anthologist,
the author has selected a diverse group of the world's best modern
writers to explore this powerful connection. Evocative and
memorable, this book will pull you into a literary world both
familir and dark, witty and revealing. Chronicle Books, www.chroniclebooks.com
1998 ISBN 0-8118-1630-3 Buy
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Nerburn, Kent, Letters to My Son: Reflections on
Becoming a Man, New World Library, 1993
Newberger, Eli H., The Men They Will
Become: The nature and nurture of male character. How do
boys develop character? And what can parents, teachers and
society do to help nurture admirable qualities in young
men? The author, one of this country's most
distinguished pediatricians and experts in child development,
brings decades of experience and insight to these vital questions.
In riveting stories, both heartwarming and heartrending, he delves
to the deepest roots of male character, showing how boys face the
harsh challenges that forge or break character: cheating,
bullying, dealing with drugs, alcohol, and competition. The scope
of his insight is broad and full of respect for the tenacity and
devotion that sustain strong families. Perseus Publishing,
www.perseuspublishing.com,
2000, ISBN 0-7382-0363-7 Buy
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Olivier, Richard, Melting the Stone: A
journey around My Father. Many men find it hard to move away
from their fathers. The author’s experience was exaggerated
by being the son of Laurence Olivier, one of those rare men
generally regarded as "the best in the world" as what he did. The
author’s easy way out would have been to reject him, which at
times he tried to do. The harder task, which he eventually
acknowledged to be the right one, was to accept his famous father
as a human being, who lived his life as well as he could.
It’s a search for mature masculinity, encompassing emotion as
well as thought and deed. And, at times these overlap, for the
father is the son’s first image of manhood. It is a personal
story, but the events in it describe common experiences of
thousands of men around the world. It was not written to give yet
another insight into a great actor’s life. It was written
from the perspective of a son trying to come to terms with his
past in order to live more fully in the present and look more
clearly into the future. Spring Publications, 1996
Osherson, Samuel, Finding Our Fathers: The
unfinished business of manhood, Free Press, 1986
Peck, Scott, All-American Boy: A memoir,
Scribner, 1995
Pellegrini, Robert J. and Thodore
R Sarbin, editors, Between Fathers and Sons: Critical
incident narratives in the development of men's lives. Share
an intimate glimpse into the emotional lives of fathers and their
sons. Some of the stories you will find in this book, a father's
disappointed silence is transformed as it resonates through four
generations. A Korean immigrant faces the differences between his
ideals of fatherhood and his son's American view. A father-son
fishing trip ends with the biggest fish ever or no fish at all.
Detrayed by his stepfather, a boy seeks guidance from stories of
his dead father. A Baptist preacher helps his son make an
agonizing choice. A grown man's memory of a childhood event gives
him new insight into his father's identity and their relationshp.
Haworth Clinical Practice Press, 2002, ISBN 0-7890-1512-9
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Phillips, Angela, Trouble with Boys: A wise
& sympathetic guide to the risky business of raising
sons, Basic, 1994
Pollack, William, Real
Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. Of
particular interest, the author's discussion of how we expect boys
to separate from their parents before they are developmentally
ready to do so, and his look at the "hidden epidemic" of
depression and suicide
(point 11) among adolescent boys. Random House www.randomhouse.com
1998 Hardcover Buy
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Pollack, William, Real
Boys: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood. The
paperback version of the 1998 original hardbound, based on the
author's groundbreaking research at Harvard Medical School for
more than two decades, this book explores this generation's
"silent crisis": why so many boys are sad, lonely, and
confused although they may appear tough, cheerful and confident.
He challenges conventional expectations about manhood and
masculinity that encourage parents to treat boys as little men,
raising them through a toughening process that drives their true
emotions underground. Only when we understand what boys are really
experiencing can parents and teachers help them develop more
self-confidence and the emotional savvy they need to deal with
issues such as depression and violence, drugs and alcohol,
sexuality and love, and suicide
(point 11) among adolescent boys. Paperback. Henry Holt
& Co., www.henryholt.com
1999 ISBN 0-8050-6183-5 Buy
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Putnam, Peter, The Song of
Father-Son: Men in search of the blessing. "I see
scared boys everywhere," writes the author. From his Detroit
streets all the way to the White House in the East, and Hollywood
in the West, here is a nation of sons who never received The
Blessing from their fathers: of fathers who never found the way to
tell their sons they had all they needed to be strong, loving men.
According to the author, many men's additions - to drugs, work,
sex, food - are attempts by Unblessed sons to fill their
father-hole. Drawing on his own personal experience as the
Unblessed son of a powerful father, his extensive reading of men's
literture, his New Warrior Weekend and four years of work in the
Mankind Project, Putnam throws a rope into the father-hole and
offers a hand-up toward The Blessing. These one hundred-plus
potent pieces show that beyond the pain, sadness, and anger...the
song of father-son is, finally, a love song. E-Mail
Iuniverse Inc. www.iunverse.com,
2006, ISBN 0-595-67555-7 
Richissin, Todd & Jim Graham,
Fathers & Sons: A celebration. In this
celebration of the unique relationship between fathers and sons,
you'll meet men from all walks of life, men who have grown and
learned from their experiences. Like news reporters Mike and Chris
Wallace, who celebrate the growing strength of their relationship
after the tragic loss of a family member. Or actor Richard Thomas,
who examines the frontiers of his extended family. Or football
legend Boomer Esiason, who reflects on the lessons he has learned
from his son. Through their voices and many others, you'll
discover the joy and heartache of an extraordinary family
connection. Running Press, www.runningpress.com
2000, ISBN 0-7624-0977-0 Buy
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Sandborn, Calvin, Becoming the Kind
Father: A Son's Journey Harsh fathers make harsh sons - but
change is possible. Our macho society gives men a bad bargain -
stunted emotions, short, unhealthy lives, ruined relationships,
damaged children and simmering anger. No wonder men are looking
for the change this book offers. It traces the author's journey
from repression and anger to relationship and redemption. Men will
read this book with a lump in their throats, and women will
discover it with hope in their hearts. Men have played out the
storylines of their lives in confusion for far too long.l Finally
forty years after the feminist revolution, this important new book
shows men how to free themselvse from patriarchy's surly bonds 0
and live fuller, more authentic lives. The author employs
masterful storytelling and well-researched psychological findings
to help men identiy and share feelings, form trusting male
friendships, treat themselves as a kind father would, break the
anger habit, and forgive the world and themselves. New Society,
www.newsociety.com 2007
ISBN 978-0-86571-582-0 
Seybold, David, Fathers & Sons: An
anthology, Grove Weidenfeld, 1992
Thorndike, John, Another Way
Home: A single father's story. Families are changing
with a slight increase in ones headed by men raising their
children alone. This book is the author's story, a rare view of
the world of a single father, vividly evoked by a writer of great
gifts. He was a twenty-four-year-old Peace Corps volunteer in El
Salvador in 1967 when he met Clarisa, a vibrant and lovely
Salvadoran girl, just ninetenn. They fell in love, married, and n
1970 their son, Janier, was born. For the first year, Clarisa was
devoted to her baby and rarely left his side. But slowly she began
a terrifying drift into schizophrenia, behaving in ways that
endangered her son's life. Fearing for his safety, the author made
the wrenching decision to bring Janir back to the US and raise him
alone. This book is the poignant account of their life together:
their tender moments, their pitched battles, their heartbreaking
reunions with Clarisa. Early on, he discovered how all-consuming
it is to raise a child. Yet the rewards were enormous, and seldom
has a child been so alive on the page. Whining, giggling, wildly
exhilarated or inconsolably sad, this is a real kid in an eloquent
and unforgettable book. Crown Publishers, 1996
ISBN 0-517-70542-7 Buy
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Vogt, Gregory Max, Like Son, Like Father: Healing
the Father-Son Wound in Men's Lives, Plenum Press, 1991
Weinstock, Nicholas, The Secret Love of Sons: How we
men feel about our mothers, and why we never tell, Riverhead
Books, www.putnam.com
1997
Wideman, John Edgar, Fatheralong: The Meditation on
Fathers and Sons, Race and Society, Pantheon, 1994
Williams, Gregalan, Boys to
Men: Maps for the Journey. In today's crazy world,
it's sometimes hard to find the time, and the words, to talk
honestly with our children about what they're thinking - much less
to remember what we thought when we were their age. This is a
moving and honest account of how one man made it to manhood. In
its reminiscences you will find yourself, and your son. These
stories will spark memories of stories of your own, stories you
can use to open a dialogue with your growing son. His critical
message cuts across race and class to guide a son and strengthen
the courage of his parents. An important resource in the struggle
to save our sons, this will help prepare the men of tomorrow for
the road they must travel today. Main Street Books www.bdd.com
1998 Buy
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Yablonsky, Lewis, Fathers & Sons: The most
challenging of all family relationships, Gardner, 1990Under the "Lenny icon top left is a photo by Alfred Gescheidt called Chip off the Block.
By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he's wrong. - Charles Wadworth
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