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Break the Pattern of Abusive Men
Women who get involved with abusive men are
typically those who had abusive childhood home
environments. This kind of upbringing tends to
normalize abusive behavior in all relationships.
What this means is that women from this kind of a
background are not as keen to the subtleties of
abuse the way “healthy” women are.
On a positive note, there is a silver lining
here—all behavior can be relearned, including
the ability to recognize early signs of abuse as
unacceptable behaviors in a relationship. Once this
is learned, a woman will be able to break free from
unhealthy relationships with men who are no good
for her.
Below is a list of common abusive behaviors to
watch for from abusive men or abusive women:
- Criticism about your good qualities;
- Past abusive relationships;
- Criminal activities;
- Drinking or drug problems, past or
present;
- Mood swings;
- Discourages your successes;
- Jealousy;
- Abusive family members or spouses of
siblings;
- Attempts to control your whereabouts;
- Disrespect toward your publicly or
privately;
- Violations of others rights;
- Irresponsibility;
- Attempts to keep you isolated;
- Persistent lying;
- History of truancy, delinquency and running
away;
- Highly reactive;
- Streaks of meanness toward others for no
reason;
- For women, threatened by relationships with
men, past, present or imagined.
- For men, threatened by relationships with
women, past, present or imagined.
In order to recognize early abusive signs, a
woman must stop rationalizing “abusive”
behaviors as “normal.” If she sees ONE
abusive behavior, regardless of how small, she
needs to remind herself that it IS abuse. Period!
With this new skill, she will soon be dating men
who treat her with dignity and respect—the way
all women deserve to be treated.
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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Nancy Fagan is
the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's
Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find
Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and
television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS
News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She
has been featured in most major newspaper in the
United States and worldwide as well as regularly
mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as
Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health,
Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle,
Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of
others. To read more, visit www.ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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