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Creating the Greatest Love Story Ever
It’s easy to be fascinated by other
people’s love affairs and desire to have what
they have, especially if the relationship is
intense, happy, and seemingly problem-free. These
great love stories epitomize an ideal that everyone
would love to attain.
However, keep in mind that you are seeing only
the public image of the relationship. You
don’t see the work that goes on behind closed
doors. All relationships take effort to be
successful, especially great love stories.
Would you like to make your relationship the
greatest love story ever? Of course you would;
everyone would. If you would, just keep reading
along and learn how to do it. Before you know it,
you will be transforming your good relationship
into a great one. Learn from Happy
Couples.
The best way to learn about how to have the
greatest love story ever is to listen to how other
happy couples do it. All you have to do is ask or
read about happy couples, and you will learnthe
tricks. For instance, in the book The 30 Secrets of
Happily Married Couples, author Paul Coleman tells
how happy couples stay happy. His findings are
based on many research studieson marital happiness.
Basically, his 30 secrets can be summarized into
three main goals that all couples should
have:
- Practice good communication. Communication
skills include considering the part you play in
the problem, trying not to be defensive, and
seeing the issue from your partner’s
perspective.
- Have realistic expectations for a long
relationship. Realize that change involves ups
and downs and appreciate the effect that major
changes, such as having children, will have on
your relationship.
- Make time for each other. Make regular
dates, have fun together, and take every
opportunity to be affectionate.
These three goals sound like such a simple
recipe for living happily ever after, but they
require something that many people forget: daily
commitment.
Daily Commitment Is a Privilege
How many times have you heard someone say any of
the following: “I have to remember to get her
a card,” “I must buy him a present,”
“I should take her out for dinner,” or
“I need to call him”? Couples commonly
say these phrases. Having the greatest love story
ever is not built on things you “have to
do.” Rather,it’s based on feeling
privileged to be able to do them. This difference
in perception isthe difference between a happy
couple and a super-happy couple.
Building the greatest love story ever is work
that is never complete. Love is a living, breathing
thing that requires daily attention to keep it
alive. Just remember, if you put in the minimum
work, it will be reflected in the degree of
happiness and satisfaction you feel in your
relationship. If you put in 100 percent, you will
have a relationship that gives you 100 percent
fulfillment. This is the kind of relationship
others admire and strive for. Taking part in the
greatest love story ever requires a ifetime of
privileged work—and what an honorthat is to
take on!
© 2007 ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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Nancy Fagan is
the best-selling author of 'The Complete Idiot's
Guide to Romance' and 'Desirable Men: How to Find
Them' has appeared on several hundred radio and
television shows including Ricki Lake, Men are from
Mars/Women are from Venus, ABC News, NBC News, CBS
News, The Berman & Berman Show, FOX News. She
has been featured in most major newspaper in the
United States and worldwide as well as regularly
mentioned in the nation's top magazines such as
Ladies' Home Journal ('Can this Marriage be
Saved?'), Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men's Health,
Bride's, Seventeen, Women's Day, Family Circle,
Women's Own, BBW, Complete Women and dozens of
others. To read more, visit www.ExpertDatingAdvice.com
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