Sexuality - Gay/Bi/Trans


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Menstuff® has compiled information on the issue of Gay/Bi/Trans gender. Females have an XX chromosomal makeup, and males an XY. Most people born with androgen insensitivity syndrome live as women despite their XY chromosomes. Klinefelter's syndrome has 47 chromosones (XXY). In fact, the bodies of one in every 100 births differ from the standard male or female body. (See breakdown.) That's 67 million people.

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Homosexuality


Homosexuality Online-Book: Engaged Tenderness - The Gay & Lesbian Handbook Same sex partnerships have always been and will always be. This is normal. The sociological research has however for the first time in many years described same-sex partnerships (SSPS) in detail from lesbian and gay couples. The previous social report "Engaged Tenderness" concerns itself with being a book-of-facts on the social dimensions of feeling, love and same-sex couples in areas of family, politics, love and work-life, media and extended societal reports: i.e. gay-lesbian family politics, state marriage and church commitments in addition to marketing and commercials for lesbian and gay couples respectively. It is a handbook for all desiring further study of same-sex couples. First in such a book's area of concentration would be a collective review of currently asked questions from the mentioned arenas, and clarification of perspectives such as how same- sex couples can set aside self-judgment and self-determinedly relate their life, love and future with their parents, families, and friends. From the contents:

Taken from: Frank Andreas, Engaged Tenderness - The Gay /Lesbian Handbook on Living Together as a Same-Sex Couple; A reference reader for public research into the social dimensions of feelings, love, identity, partnership, family, church, marriage, and homosexuality. (C) Internet-Version Karlsruhe 1997.

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Father hunger


According to some masculinity theorists, we are in the midst of a crisis. For centuries and across cultures, mature masculine psychology was achieved through the intimate relationship between the mature and immature masculine, the tribal elder and the young initiate, the father and the son. The processes that used to usher boys into adulthood have eroded, leaving recent generations of men increasingly wounded, underdeveloped and uninitiated -- starving for the vital connection with mature masculine energy. This yearning is father hunger.

Father hunger is particularly relevant for gay men. After all, the first important relationship that serves as a template for future love and intimacy with men is between a boy and his father. Many gay men experience a particularly painful distance from their fathers -- resulting in men who have some of their most basic father needs unmet. Gay men are also more likely not to have masculine role models or to participate in the cultural processes that help them mature into adult masculinity. It's easy, without the intervention of the mature masculine, for a young gay man to become a "lost boy." He finds it nearly impossible to fulfill his promise in the world, and his true gifts often lie dormant. It is not until the internal immature masculine unites with the mature masculine that a man's potential can be realized.

Father hunger is the yearning for mature masculine energy, the intimacy of the father-son bond and the need to be initiated and blessed by the ritual elder. With some stretch of the imagination, one can explore how father hunger seems to appear in some of the fantasies, imagery, role-play and sexuality of gay men.

Daddy-boy dynamics

Probably the most obvious expression of father hunger is in Daddy-boy sexuality and relationships. In a conscious manner, some gay men seek out older men, dominant men, or men who can serve as mentors. Daddy-boy sexuality involves different aspects of this psychology, including being the "good boy" for Daddy in order to get his praise and blessing, and to "make Daddy proud." Other men seek the dominance and submission found in Daddy-boy dynamics, seeking to be initiated and guided into deeper parts of their masculine psyche. Some seek the mature masculine nurturance, intimacy and mentorship that can occur between generations of men. Even in relationships and sexuality that are not labeled as "Daddy-boy," many gay men can identify with aspects of this dynamic.

Incest fantasies

Some men fantasize about an erotic father-son relationship. The imagery of a father being sexual with his son is a potent manifestation of father hunger being expressed. There are fantasies and sex play that involve roles such as the uncle and his nephew, the older babysitter and the youngster, the big brother and his little brother, etc. All these themes eroticize the familial relationship, expressing the deep need for intimacy between the mature and immature masculine.

The mentor

Father hunger includes the desire for mentorship and learning. Many sexual fantasies include the roles of the mentor being eroticized. We see the classic scenarios of the coach spending extra time with one of his players, the doctor taking advantage of his young patient, the teacher giving private instruction to his male student, or the priest sexualizing the altar boy. Sex play in this area can involve the eroticization of sexual initiation -- being "taught" or "introduced" to sexuality.

Initiation hunger

In primitive cultures, boys were ushered into adulthood by the ritual elder and the adult male tribe. This often involved ritualized initiation rites of pain, humiliation and suffering in the service of expanding the boy's ego and developing his inner strength. This was typically conducted in sacred masculine space. After enduring his challenge, the boy was then embraced, blessed and accepted into the world of men.

Many sexual dynamics of BDSM -- including flogging, servitude, spanking, and sexualized pain and torture -- can be understood as the need to be initiated by the mature masculine in action. There are striking parallels between initiation rites of the past and BDSM practices of today. Both make use of masculine space that is controlled by the ritual elder or the dominant. Both involve some ordeal of pain or struggle, and both are followed by masculine bonding and blessing. There is an initiation hunger at play in some of these dynamics. Initiation hunger may also express itself in other sexual scenarios such as fantasizing a gang bang.

Power and authority

Hyper-masculinity is a sexual ideal for many gay men and it permeates many themes in gay sexual psychology. Some of the most powerful fantasy objects for gay men include police officers, army sergeants, firemen, the boss, the "Sir," etc. These are all examples of the powerful masculine male who embodies the father's authority and his ability to maintain order, set limits and even mete out punishment.

Of course, there are many other reasons why a guy might like cops, want to lick boots or want to date older men ... but father hunger is a powerful need that manifests today in our culture and consciousness.

Dr. Omar Minwalla is a clinical sexologist, licensed psychologist and clinical director of the Sexual Recovery Institute. He specializes in sex addiction, sexual offending, transgender issues, sexual orientation, BDSM and paraphilic sexuality. In addition to his work at the institute, he has a private practice and conducts sexual health seminars for men who have sex with men.

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Source: Dr. Omar Minwalla, www.gay.com/health/sexuality/article.html?sernum=1493&navpath=/channels/health/sexuality/

Not just Gay, Bi or Straight

Not XX and not XY

one in 1,666 births

Klinefelter (XXY)

one in 1,000 births

Androgen insensitivity syndrome

one in 13,000 births

Partial androgen insensitivity syndrome

one in 130,000 births

Classical congenital adrenal hyperplasia

one in 13,000 births

Late onset adrenal hyperplasia

one in 66 individuals

Vaginal agenesis

one in 6,000 births

Ovotestes

one in 83,000 births

Idiopathic (no discernable medical cause)

one in 110,000 births

Iatrogenic (caused by medical treatment, for instance progestin administered to pregnant mother)

no estimate

5 alpha reductase deficiency

no estimate

Mixed gonadal dysgenesis

no estimate

Complete gonadal dysgenesis

one in 150,000 births

Hypospadias (urethral opening in perineum or along penile shaft)

one in 2,000 births

Hypospadias (urethral opening between corona and tip of glans penis)

one in 770 births

Total number of people whose bodies differ from standard male or female

one in 100 births

Total number of people receiving surgery to “normalize” genital appearance

one or two in 1,000 births

Source: www.isna.org/faq/frequency

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